Who re u saving at this critical time?

They should save me.

Reason being that as long as the baby is not yet born, he or she is not yet a legal subject.

Secondly, me and my spouse can still have more children and we would at one point even forget that we once lost a child.

Thirdly, I want to raise my children my own way, I wouldn't want any family members interfering.

And I wouldn't have to leave my baby to suffer in the hands of a step mother.

benqo01:
Who re u saving at this critical time?

this is not a straight forward answer.... of course, you should mostly save the mother but if the doctor (aka the expert in this matter) says mama has very little chance of making it (compared to the baby) then i will choose the baby, rather than having both pass.

Samantha124:
Thirdly, I want to raise my children my own way, I wouldn't want any family members interfering.
And I wouldn't have to leave my baby to suffer in the hands of a step mother.

the above points are so funny, especially when talking about a life and death situation. remember, better a step mother than NO mother at all, same with family members interfering.

when it comes to the matter of life and death, I would save the woman... we can give birth to another child although it will be very painful...

Nah... I'd save myself.

The baby is not yet a legal subject, but I am.

MrBrownJay1:


this is not a straight forward answer.... of course, you should mostly save the mother but if the doctor (aka the expert in this matter) says mama has very little chance of making it (compared to the baby) then i will choose the baby, rather than having both pass.



the above points are so funny, especially when talking about a life and death situation. remember, better a step mother than NO mother at all, same with family members interfering.

Stupid question. It's a terrible situation to be in , hope you never be in one.

Samantha124:
Nah... I'd save myself.
The baby is not yet a legal subject, but I am.

true but if you believe that even if/when the doctor says that there is no chance of saving you, you still want to be saved (aka lose both you and the baby) then i would say:"thats a bit selfish of you". remember, the person making that decision (aka whether to save you or the baby) will be your partner, and chances are, he will listen to the doctor's advice... at least thats what any smart person would do.

remember, as much as it would be unfortunate, anyone can get a new legal subject (aka wife/husband)

My partner would have no say in what I decide to do with my body.

Either they save me, or we die together, I know it would be selfish of me but I wouldn't want my baby to be raised by another woman.

I know one couple who also went through the same situation.. The husband wanted the doctors to save his wife instead, he tried everything in his power to convince his wife to let go of the baby and live.. called the family members to come and help him beg his wife, but the wife still decided to keep the baby and lose her life.

There was nothing the husband could do because the doctors told him that it was the wife's decision to make and not his since it's her body.

MrBrownJay1:


true but if you believe that even if/when the doctor says that there is no chance of saving you, you still want to be saved (aka lose both you and the baby) then i would say:"thats a bit selfish of you". remember, the person making that decision (aka whether to save you or the baby) will be your partner, and chances are, he will listen to the doctor's advice... at least thats what any smart person would do.

remember, as much as it would be unfortunate, anyone can get a new legal subject (aka wife/husband)

Samantha124:
My partner would have no say in what I decide to do with my body.
Either they save me, or we die together, I know it would be selfish of me but I wouldn't want my baby to be raised by another woman.

i understand how many will be VERY SELFISH on this issue (especially women), its a natural survival thing... but i am pretty sure that, if you are at the hospital in labour, too sick and possibly full of meds (aka not in your right mind to make any rational decision) and the doctor understands that a decision will have to be taken, THEY CERTAINLY DONT ASK THE MOTHER IN CRITICAL LABOUR, and instead would ask her husband present at the time. they certainly wouldnt call your family, nor your friends either.

and as a man, if both your wife and baby have equal chance to make it then i would choose to save wife each and every time, but if wifey's life is critical and very little chance to save her, i would choose to save the baby each and every time...and stand by that decision.

Immediately the doctors notice the problem, they would tell the mother and then give her some time to go discuss with the father of the baby and once they've discussed about it, they wife would then have to make a decision.

Once she made her decision, she's made to sign a contract that would bind the agreement between her and the hospital... No matter what happens, the husband would have no say.

And such problems are usually discovered during early stages of pregnancy, unless the doctors are incompetent or the hospital lacks necessary resources.. So I believe that the wife would still be fit to make a decision for herself by the time the problem is discovered.

MrBrownJay1:


i understand how many will be VERY SELFISH on this issue (especially women), its a natural survival thing... but i am pretty sure that, if you are at the hospital in labour, too sick and possibly full of meds (aka not in your right mind to make any rational decision) and the doctor understands that a decision will have to be taken, THEY CERTAINLY DONT ASK THE MOTHER IN CRITICAL LABOUR, and instead would ask her husband present at the time. they certainly wouldnt call your family, nor your friends either.

and as a man, if both your wife and baby have equal chance to make it then i would choose to save wife each and every time, but if wifey's life is critical and very little chance to save her, i would choose to save the baby each and every time...and stand by that decision.