Most marriages seem to be contracted for social conformity and procreational
needs rather than for complimentary partnership.
It's said that people should be (best) friends with their spouses to
sustain their union when the initial romantic spark(sexual appeal)
inevitably burns out.
Yet the difference between the sexes seem to be in the way of true friendship
which is based on mutual interests and goals.
Most females are very narrow minded and shallow about male pastimes with
a lot of them without proper hobbies.
Generally speaking,can men and women really be friends? with the obvious
divergence in their dispositions.
Knowledge is superior to ignorance.

*Yawns* op what exactly are u saying?

Answer to your question is LOVE. True Love begins where romance ends.

^^^

If true love begins when romance ends

I don't want it.

Romance should always be part and parcel with true love  it might not be as strong in later years BUT IT SHOULD ALWAYS BE THERE.  When we stop holding hands or stop desiring the presence of the other - I no longer want to be party to the relationship.

If our Fond and warm feelings that we have are BURIED in the heart and ARE NOT actively shown to each other; but ARE FREELY given to other family members and close friends - but we no longer show and share that with each other - I won't remain in a relationship that dwindles to that level - I need more than that with a spouse or a mate.

Our prenup agreement must have that stated within its confines "romance and romantic gestures must remain in the relationship    "- so he isn't shell shocked, blindsided or surprised or starts talking nonsense about "Americans this or Americans that" when I decide to sign myself out of the relationship.

You have to actively and continuously show me that you care for me - same as I will show him.  If I am the only one submitting loving gestures and he has resigned himself to "only living" the relationship by just going to work each day, eating and sleeping and doing a routine that is devoid of "romance".  He can sign up for that lifestyle choice with someone else who values it much more than I do.

Communication is key.You should be able to communicate with your spouse a lot and when one is wrong, dont hesitate to apologise and more importantlyn keep the flame of romance and sex burning.Once in a while go out and at times be adventorous!

spicyhunky:

Communication is key.You should be able to communicate with your spouse a lot and when one is wrong, dont hesitate to apologise and more importantlyn keep the flame of romance and sex burning.Once in a while go out and at times be adventorous!

you said it all

thank you ariblaze at least am speaking from my little experience of 7 years.