Rubyjade:
I used to work with several engineers with diverse personalities but many of them were somewhat introverted. I found being kind, leaving them to their work and not forcing them to be overly involved.

For the most part, they were thinkers and not as introverted as they appeared. I discovered once they got comfortable with me that they would chat and we'd laugh.

I think the key is to try to be understanding, try to make sure they are comfortable around you and don't pressure them to do what isn't natural to them. Invite them to social activities like luncheons and other things but don't be surprised if they don't attend. I used to ask one if he wanted me to make him a plate. Eventually, he attended.

As long as they are doing their job, leave them to it. People in certain positions took those positions because it doesn't usually involve social activities. Engineers, accountants, dishwashers…there’s a lot of jobs that don't need to be social. Assume that's why they choose that job.






Introverts are not rude or arrogant. We just keep ourselves to ourselves and get on with things. It doesn't mean we're unfriendly.


1. Allow them to get settled in at work in the morning before talking their ear off. Introverts sorta have to acclimate themselves to social environments such as work or parties every time.

2. Keep conversations short and sweet unless they are keeping the conversation going. Nothing is more awkward than a person that won’t stop talking to you despite your clear lack of interest in what they’re saying. Just say “hi” and keep it moving unless they are clearly in the mood to talk.

3. If they say their “fine” or “okay” just take their word for it. Don’t try to probe for more information or try to get them to open up to you. We’re naturally quiet, reserved, and have bitch resting faces! We’re not sad or upset…that’s just how we are naturally.

4. If we decline the invitation to the office happy hour or Christmas party, please respect our decision! Don’t try to convince us to go or ask us why we don’t want to go. We would just rather avoid large awkward social gatherings! And everyone, (even extroverts) can agree that office social events are a bit awkward!

5. Don’t tell them that they need to be more social in the office. The only thing we NEED to do is our freakin job! Everything else outside of that is extra credit. And we are also well aware that our social withdrawal may cost us a promotion but we’re perfectly fine with that! Co-workers are just that…coworkers…not friends!

6. Don’t try to force them out of their comfort zone by putting them on the spot. We aren’t “shy” extroverts who need to get out more. We are introverts who actually prefer flying under the radar. Don’t make them give the presentation to the whole office! Don’t make them wear the stupid Halloween costume for everyone’s amusement! Don’t put them on blast in mass emails! Don’t make them give speeches to the whole office! Just leave us alone!!

7. Don’t make our quietness seem like an issue. Almost all of my supervisors have said “Gosh! You’re really quiet!” In reality, we’re similarly bothered by how loud everyone else is but UNLIKE you, we don’t make a big deal about it. We accept people for who they are. SO WHAT, if I’m quiet and you’re talkative?? People are different. Don’t make me feel uncomfortable for being who I am!

I know I listed 7 points, but it all boils down to 2 things:

ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE
LEAVE THEM ALONE UNLESS THEY REQUEST OTHERWISE!

McStoic:

I don't envy introverts

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Tell me na

ashewoboy:
That is the question.

What do your colleagues say that hurts you?

All because you are all by yourself. You are not as outspoken as others are.

How have you improved?


How are you improving?


Tell us.

Sucre6:


Introverts are best secret keeper

GreatVocalist:

Then you don't respect introverts.

I'm not sure how you define "selfishness" here, but I know that being over-analytical is one feature you can't take away from introverts.

It's like our lifeblood. You can't be alone with your thoughts most of the time and not be over-analytical. There are pros to this thing too.

McStoic:


I don't always like too quiet folks sha

DynamicWriter:

Sure, I can write news articles.

My contact info is on my signature. I can't post it here due to naira land rules.

Silentgroper:
is there a pdf??


please I'd like this book...

SeriouslySense:
I found the book boring, because i don't really like manipulations. The ideas do not glue to my head.

Zeel007:


Exactly, I still have d hard copy at home till date, no think I bought it when I was in 200 level, after reading like 2 chapters of it, I couldn't continue with it cos is very manipulative. And I don't like a manipulative idea. Nah so I drop the book, is a long time ago though.

That's what how politicians read. If you notice some of them are acting exactly what is in that book

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I mean, can you post BAD NEWS for

Zeel007:

Check pdfdrive dot com

massalati:
My problem now is that I’m a student, I’ve paid my fees and I’ve done all the necessary registration but I’ve not been going to school.
it’s not easy to be with my colleagues in school and the funniest thing is that they don’t know me in my department, I’m always at home doing nothing I do feel bad for myself, i gat no one to talk to about this stuffs.

Exams is coming up soon, I just hate being who I’m, I hate this introvert shit. I just want to be alone all the time Omo nawaoo life tire me oo.

I was thinking It will be easier to outgrown this shit in my adulthood but no way man
I have attended 3 fuckin universities and I will keep on droping out on my own because I don’t go to school and I miss exams as well Omo na so depresion wan take kill me, if not for crypto trading I wonder how I for the see money 💰.. I’m lucky nobody is sponsoring me, and I will be 28 next month

McStoic:


I respect introverts but hate their selfishness and over analytical nature

Meedon:


Bro. You ghat to face your fears. Remember, you are not going to be here (on this earth) in the next 500 years. Go to class. Read books like 48 laws of power especially the law that talks about "entering action with boldness."

No one will give a Bleep about you if you don't stand up and do the things you ought to do. Remember, u are not the only one with this issue.

massalati:



Thanks 🙏, I will keep trying my best

massalati:
My problem now is that I’m a student, I’ve paid my fees and I’ve done all the necessary registration but I’ve not been going to school.
it’s not easy to be with my colleagues in school and the funniest thing is that they don’t know me in my department, I’m always at home doing nothing I do feel bad for myself, i gat no one to talk to about this stuffs.

Exams is coming up soon, I just hate being who I’m, I hate this introvert shit. I just want to be alone all the time Omo nawaoo life tire me oo.

I was thinking It will be easier to outgrown this shit in my adulthood but no way man
I have attended 3 fuckin universities and I will keep on droping out on my own because I don’t go to school and I miss exams as well Omo na so depresion wan take kill me, if not for crypto trading I wonder how I for the see money 💰.. I’m lucky nobody is sponsoring me, and I will be 28 next month

GraceAndPeace:
I hope you know it's not normal?

I was like you too, hated school but had no choice than to go. I was the most awkward student in the whole school. It was that bad.

But today I hold the God-forsaken-demon by the bulls.

It's was a hell of a walk.


Nothing the crucifixion of Jesus can't do