Never will i tell them, PICK UP THE PISCES OF YOURSELF AND MOVE ON TO THE NEXT STEP

That is where understanding comes in, and the mother have a lot to play in that regard.

But as the Father i will never open my mouth to say such thing.

ifyalways:

Occasional pray for Mommy and Daddy biz to prosper/God bless mommy and daddy?Yes but If you mean telling kids about the bad turn over?NO for me,unless the kids are above 16 years.

My opinion.

homerac7:

whats all ds thing abt " if they r teenagers" or young adults? hav we sooner stopped how intelligible we were as very young kids? stop insulting kids intelligence here as if u were never one before. it will surprise u  how understanding your "kids " can be if only u can find d proper way to explain the situatuion to them. they even may accept it better that smany supposed adults since they view issues wt much innocence.

remember when i was in primary 5 (about 10 years old), a new kid joined my class. he was much "tusher", than we local kind in d semi-urban public primary school we were attending. he was a loner because he was trying to adjust to his new "status" and not just environment. i befriended him and found out dt he was a Lagos middle class born and raised kid who was attending private school until his father's sudden loss of job, mother died and home loss. the dad had to scrape up things together and borrowed to get then to the cheaper community and placed him and d sister in a public primary school. now, d msg is ds; till we left primary six after abt two years of very close friendship, he never for once blamed d father for his relagated comforts, rather, he was always telling of how his father goes extra miles to see to their needs. he had so much respect and understanding for d father. i can go on and on telling  of instances he will avois spending his pocket money so dt he wont hav to burden his dad wt little levies, and many other things. i think his father's decision to explain d full circumstances to d young kids helped bond them stronger and made them more responsible, empathetic and matured in their reasonings.

i therefore advocate that the kids be told but only in very manner that will make them understand and still fell protected.

delpee:

No big deal. My kids always know our financial status and how to survive under any condition. Its made them to be more considerate and more mature in reasoning. No child is too young to be informed albeit in different ways depending on the age. Its good for everyone.

agog:

Children will always be able to figure out these things even if we think we're sheltering them from reality. Our hardships are part of reality, even in a child's world. Children can observe things and are smart enough to know when adults are hiding stuff from them in the name of "protecting them".

You spoke my mind in this. If they are carried along with what is happening in the house, they are lesser likely to fall to outsider enticements (in the case of teen girls). They also pray for Dad and Mom situations to be changed.

The money in her parents account should not be an issue with this. proper upbringing is what will make her choose not to be a prostitute.

lola.luv:

Back then, there was certain time things hit a hard note financially. My dad was trying to finish up an unfinished project, so he called my brothers and I (we were teenagers) and he told us he would deny himself to cater to us but we should also understand if he sometimes has to cut down on some of our material demands, because things were not really working well financially. He told us to be patient, that things will be ok again.

This was the same 'my dad' who previously told me when I was resuming Uni that anything I needed, I didn't have to ask anybody but him. And who also backed up that promise with the necessary actions.

So I knew that it wasn't like he didn't want to provide, he'd just fallen on hard times.

It really made me to love and respect him the more. Consequently, I was very happy and content with my few cloths and it's become a habit NEVER to ask anybody for anything!!!