Many African men still living in olden days where women is the sole proprietorship in kitchen . And our forefather will even say all education or money u spend on women will end in kitchen ...
I want to quickly tell our men that it's not so now and things have changed... Thou Africa has a culture but regardless of any culture women needs to be treasure and care for in all ramifications which doesn't exclude helping her in kitchen routine or house chores routine..
You can never see an western men seating idleness waiting for his wife to come and cook for him when he knows they are going to share her paycheck when she receive her wages , salary or bonus. They understand that it's equal right when it comes to helping each other. That's why you see their women looking beautiful and fresh than their age most times , thou we have many bad man and husband there that treat their wife as slave but women are not slave again , they're not Kitchen material again. In some cases some men need to know and understand that their wife destiny or glory might be more than their own and support her with all their strength..
Many African men is killing their wives dreams and ambition and I must tell you if you stand against the path that God has giving your woman because of insecurity, jealousness or house routine u can easily help her God will ask you and judge you at the end of the world. He said women is our helper not kitchen's keeper..

Many men has made their woman get old than their age because of the stress without no help from the so called husband .If you think you have money and you don't want your wife to work ,you are just an ignorant and jealous husband because that's not love but cage and slavery, even dangote never stops looking for money despite having enough so don't ask your wife to be at home doing nothing.
if you support each other from paying bills to house routines,you can easily build empire for yourself and raise amazing children that will always wish to be your children again in the next life .Many young Africans can not pray they come from their parents again due to bad parenting ,broken home and Child Abuse.If you don't help your wife and leave her to all house routine she can even reach menopause at an early age and she won't even satisfy you in bed because she is physically and mentally stressed out .
May God bless all the good husbands out there and change the mind of the bad ones (there is nothing God cannot do) Amen....

Paying bills?? Lol.... we all know that gender that is allergic to paying bills unless they dont have choice

IyanuDeb:

Many African men still living in olden days where women is the sole proprietorship in kitchen . And our forefather will even say all education or money u spend on women will end in kitchen ...
I want to quickly tell our men that it's not so now and things have changed... Thou Africa has a culture but regardless of any culture women needs to be treasure and care for in all ramifications which doesn't exclude helping her in kitchen routine or house chores routine..
You can never see an western men seating idleness waiting for his wife to come and cook for him when he knows they are going to share her paycheck when she receive her wages , salary or bonus. They understand that it's equal right when it comes to helping each other. That's why you see their women looking beautiful and fresh than their age most times , thou we have many bad man and husband there that treat their wife as slave but women are not slave again , they're not Kitchen material again. In some cases some men need to know and understand that their wife destiny or glory might be more than their own and support her with all their strength..
Many African men is killing their wives dreams and ambition and I must tell you if you stand against the path that God has giving your woman because of insecurity, jealousness or house routine u can easily help her God will ask you and judge you at the end of the world. He said women is our helper not kitchen's keeper..

Many men has made their woman get old than their age because of the stress without no help from the so called husband .If you think you have money and you don't want your wife to work ,you are just an ignorant and jealous husband because that's not love but cage and slavery, even dangote never stops looking for money despite having enough so don't ask your wife to be at home doing nothing.
if you support each other from paying bills to house routines,you can easily build empire for yourself and raise amazing children that will always wish to be your children again in the next life .Many young Africans can not pray they come from their parents again due to bad parenting ,broken home and Child Abuse.If you don't help your wife and leave her to all house routine she can even reach menopause at an early age and she won't even satisfy you in bed because she is physically and mentally stressed out .
May God bless all the good husbands out there and change the mind of the bad ones (there is nothing God cannot do) Amen....

In this day and age, no one is forcing the female gender to end up in the kitchen, they are the ones doing it to themselves when they can't see beyond marriage. A lady that lacks ambition will end up being a baby factory stuck inside the kitchen.

advanceDNA:
Paying bills?? Lol.... we all know that gender that is allergic to paying bills unless they dont have choice

it's not necessarily true, it's just the choice of men, they tend not to be interested in independent woman because somehow they are scared of them, they always want a submissive woman which they think independent woman are not

IyanuDeb:
it's not necessarily true, it's just the choice of men, they tend not to be interested in independent woman because somehow they are scared of them, they always want a submissive woman which they think independent woman are not

Scared of women....?? What are u saying..??.
Nobody wants a partner that will disrespect them whether you are a man or woman..

Everyone wants to be respected..its not a man thing ...its a sign of love and loyalty....

By the way....i dont know what u women interpret as submissive that u keep making it look like an evil thing......obviously its different from man's idea of submissive.....

the fact that u all keep yammering about it like some evil thing even before u marry shows why most of u cant live successfully with men once u have small change...

When your only contribution in the marriage is your worn out pussy.

IyanuDeb:

Then when people only farm. In some traditions, women don't go to farm, so it makes sense she care for the home, take care of the children and also cooks. It doesn't makes sense the man still comes home to such work again. Most definitely this was the idea or what brought forth the gender roles. I see this as division of labor. Unfortunately there are some traditions which isn't so. The woman also go to farm and do all domestic chores.

Times have changed, why some of those customs and traditions were formed are no longer relevant. The way things are were not like before.

Now it is no longer farming, everyone can earn(aka bring food).

Custom, traditions and norms are formed by people. Despite the irrelevance of what I cited above now, archaic minded people still hold on to it. With excuses like "it is our culture" , "this is how our forefathers do" totally forgetting or refuse to think and reason why it was a norm then. Besides why shouldn't you do things your own why? When even the forefathers do things there own way.

With these being said. Everyone should do whatever they think is right and they agree on.

If you agree with your partner she'll bring the money to run the home, be in the kitchen... Your role is to only mow the lawn, that's your problem.

If you two decide he provides the money, you cook and clean. That's also your problem.

You two agree that you work and the man cooks and clean. Who is stopping you?

If you agree that you both earn and do home duty equally. Who would stop you?

Good news is that no one would force you to any tradition or custom. If your partner doesn't subscribe to a way you think your home should be, is it by force to marry them? If they later change is it by force to stay?

However the average persons especially in Nigeria still prefer or subscribe to the traditional roles.

Women still thinks it is the man's duty to cater and provide for her and the family. Her money is her money. Isn't she calling for the traditional role? Why wouldn't she go to the kitchen then?

Men also wants she provide, hence drifting from the standard traditional role but still not wanting to touch the kitchen. Lol

I don't see all these as a problem, grown up adults should decide things for themselves. unless you want to dictate to people how to live or make their union.