Fineman2:
She should beg her husband for forgiveness

Muslim marriage or Christian ?

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

Buy 2A notebook, write "my husband I'm sorry" 7times on each line of each page.

When you're done, kneel down and beg for forgiveness and don't ever accuse him again in your life.

Cheers.

Oga don go upgrade one of his sidechicks to a temporary wife.

Madam should just calm down because what goes up will surely come down and they say revenge is better served cold.

Soon oga will get to the age of mashed unripe plantain and oil less vegetable soups. Na that time smart wives dey wait to take their pounds of flesh by traveling endlessly to their children's homes abandoning their randy husbands preekbands at the mercies of rude housemaids.

Sidechicks usually run away at that stage.

frozen70:


You know what, just gather yourself and take the things you value in that house and go back to your base

Allow the dust to settle down

Then with time, we will know who will apologize to each other

Your sanity is the most important thing for you now because of your child

How old are you?
You are still single I guess?

Brandiebird:
I guess you weighed him by his financial, and romantic capacity instead of his character and relationship with God so enjoy his wealth! Say you’re sorry, look the other way, and await your future sister wives in peace. Just be smart and ensure you get the biggest cut of the cake by being the best wife of the bunch.

Abeg make Jennyclay and Candidlady no see this one ooo

frozen70:


You know what, just gather yourself and take the things you value in that house and go back to your base

Allow the dust to settle down

Then with time, we will know who will apologize to each other

Your sanity is the most important thing for you now because of your child

This will just open the door wide for the next wife. Stay in your home and try to fix your home if you still value it and then you decide.

NonsenseRubbish:

This will just open the door wide for the next wife. Stay in your home and try to fix your home if you still value it and then you decide.

Has he not been chasing other women

Did you read where she was asked to apologize to her man for asking him why he took her personal effects out of her room to accommodate the ones he us bringing

So she should apologize to her husband because she asked him why he was bringing women home

See marriage is not a do or die affairs

If you can't cope just move on, life doesn't want you to start killing yourself for just marriage

labake1:
Hmm
Step 1: apologize to him
Step 2: pretend to forget and start petting him
Step 3: manipulate your way to get another opportunity to travel out
Step 4: leave with your baby and never come back

You think say abroad na paradise?

Nigerian women and I was thereby him, how much did you contribute to his success

labake1:
Hmm
Step 1: apologize to him
Step 2: pretend to forget and start petting him
Step 3: manipulate your way to get another opportunity to travel out
Step 4: leave with your baby and never come back

But our forefathers married multiple wives!!!

Why plan evil?

Samantha124:
A man that quickly runs to his family during small altercations with his wife is not a real man and was never ready for marriage.

Him quickly running to his family proves that he's guilty of what you're accusing him of... That's a red flag right there.

Buy the ball is in your court.

Our forefathers married multiple wives.

While some men in this modern day still practice it, and South Africa is not exempted.

what do you sacrifice for him?


Na you sponsor for school?

labake1:
Hmm
Step 1: apologize to him
Step 2: pretend to forget and start petting him
Step 3: manipulate your way to get another opportunity to travel out
Step 4: leave with your baby and never come back

Labake add no 5 and 6 na

Baronthecelebri:
Leave the marriage, divorce that bastard.

very funny advice,how many husband's in Nigeria can afford to send their wife abroad just to give birth,that woman doesn't lack anything and want her to sacrifice everything and go back to her papa house and start from scratch,just because of another pvssy?you are encouraging her to sacrifice a comfortable life?if she dares divorce that man she will cry tears as big as October cabbages when she will realize that a common pvssy Is not worth sacrificing her marriage

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

my advice is priceless, worthy of application, if you need my advice, then listen attentively, find your peace first, whenever, whichever way your peace and happiness will be restored do it, I am a very wise person, I repeat ur peace is Paramount, be happy my dear, for this thing sha pass away

Gggjhhj:
Nigerian women and I was thereby him, how much did you contribute to his success

Lol.....

To them..the vagina is what made u successful

I bet you saw the red flags but you pretended you didn't so that you can become a married woman. It's your cross now, carry it

Xwizard:

Labake add no 5 and 6 na

5. Start a new life in the new environment
6. Focus on your child and enjoy

Dshocker:


But our forefathers married multiple wives!!!

Why plan evil?

How is moving on from betrayal, evil?

labake1:



5. Start a new life in the new environment
6. Focus on your child and enjoy

7. Abroad is not heaven
8. She still need dick
9. She might lack taking that part

The husband cheated with a slim lady or ladies.
She should reconcile with the husband.

labake1:



How is moving on from betrayal, evil?

Running away with his children...

You were not supposed to return unannounced in the first instance especially if you were to be a Muslim.

If you're planning on practicing polygamy, then why must you sneak around behind your wife's back? Why didn't he bring that girl with a small figure into the house in his wife's presence? Because our forefathers were honest with their wives from the beginning and weren't sneaking around.

And if you're planning on practicing polygamy, then what's stopping you men from being honest with your girlfriends from the beginning before you can propose? Why don't you tell them while you're still dating that you're planning on marrying many wives or still sleeping around with other women even after marriage?

So that the ladies can decide whether they still want to stay or leave.

Polygamy is an honourable thing to do and sneaking around with other women and still lying about is far from polygamy, it's trashy.

Dshocker:


Our forefathers married multiple wives.

While some men in this modern day still practice it, and South Africa is not exempted.

If tables were turned and it was a man who found another man's clothes in the house, would you advice him to let it slide too?

I mean this man is not even man enough to be honest about it even though the evidence is everywhere... What if next time he infects her with an STD and still runs to his family and twist everything by blaming her all over again, accusing her of infecting him in the first place?

Would you call that a marriage still worth fighting for

Styluss:
He is obviously guilty! he cheated!
On the second thought the woman should let it slide and know that her days are numbered, if she escalate it, I'm sure she is would be out sooner than she thought.

Dshocker:


Running away with his children...

If he doesn't want that, he would have kept his d**k well. There is always consequence for a crime besides he is not remorseful about what he did

Xwizard:

7. Abroad is not heaven
8. She still need dick
9. She might lack taking that part

7. How did you know that abroad is not heaven, have you been there?
8. What happened to szx machine and male strippers?
9. You can't tell or are you the said husband?

labake1:



7. How did you know that abroad is not heaven, have you been there?
8. What happened to szx machine and male strippers?
9. You can't tell or are you the said husband?

Labake this advice is killer oooo. We already told young ladies, do not abandon ur hubby for any other lady or mistress. Let him do that himself.
Anyways we all different on reasoning

Find another man then divorce that bastardoy

Fineman2:
I am a 30year old lady. My husband and I got married in 2021 and I traveled to the UK earlier this year to give birth to our first child. My husband could not join me due to his work and businesses but he has been with me through the journey through communication and it never felt like he was not over there with me.

I decided to make my come back a surprise by arriving a week earlier than I told him. When I got back, he was not home. All clothes and traces of me were gone in our room and home. I later found out that my items were locked in one of the other rooms. In our matrimonial room, I met some ladies clothes and underwears. I am a plus sized lady while the items I met belong to a slim lady. When he got back that day, I confronted him and questioned what was going on.

He said that he wanted to renovate our room and that he mistakenly bought the wrong size of clothes and underwears for me. In my continuous attempt to make sense of the situation as his own clothes were still in the other side of the wardrobe and only his pictures are all over the house, he started shouting, called me all sorts of name and stomped off.

He has since turned everything on me. His friends, brothers and mother are in support of him. They asked that I apologize for asking him such questions. Another thing one of his brothers said was that he is entitled to 4 women.

I felt my world shatter infront of me. This is the man that I have sacrificed so much for so that our marriage can work. I have cried to the extent that I feel sick. Do I apologize for peace to reign? How many times will I have to apologize for what I didn’t do wrong? Should I still stand on my grounds to find out whose items I met in our home? I do not know what to do. Please advise me

You married your cross ma. So jejely and quietly carry your cross with prayers and fasting.

I don't know when women will understand that marriage is not the be all and end all of life.
A man who doesn't respect and adore you?
Reciprocate the energy my dear. Zero him from your mind and focus on yourself.
Make sure you pack enough savings in a private bank account in case of eventuality.

Men and women, if your partner no send you again, you too ignore them. Just kill the love and continue with the marriage for the sake of whatever still makes you happy (Children, money or the title of being married).
I still maintain that the only valid basis for separation or divorce is domestic violence. Aside that, my sister manage your own o.
Don't take any rash decisions you might regret. No perfect marriage anywhere.