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'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by correctbae: 5:54pm On Jul 04, 2018
A married lady with kids took to Twitter, @ozzyetomi to advise ladies to stop getting married as the benefits in marriage can actually be gotten from your partner Unmarried.

She made the statement when an unmarried lady, @mochievous asked to know the benefits of getting married.

Tweets below:

@mochievous tweet:

As a young unmarried woman, I often wonder about the benefits of marriage for me. So far, my list is empty.
Married women, I’ll love to hear from you. What are the best parts of being married? Help.


@ozzyetomi tweet:

I dont particularly advocate for marriage simply because most things (listed) you can have with a partner but unmarried, maybe minus tax breaks (which doesnt apply in Nigeria same as most legal advantages of being married). Truth is advantages are few & far btw for women.
People choose to get married mainly for emotional and romantic reasons but the institution is generally not skewed in women’s favor. Personally i think all women should stop getting married but thats just me ��‍♀️


Source: https://correct.com.ng/women-should-stop-getting-married-most-benefits-you-will-get-in-marriage-can-be-gotten-unmarried-from-your-partner-married-lady-advice-single-ladies/

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by delugajackson: 5:55pm On Jul 04, 2018
It is now official. Women are the most confused set of people on earth.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by correctbae: 5:57pm On Jul 04, 2018
More tweets:

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:57pm On Jul 04, 2018
Young Lady: Kindly SPEAK FOR YOURSELF.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by delugajackson: 6:02pm On Jul 04, 2018
Did she just say that marriage is of no benefit to Nigerian women? Entirely ironic!

A typical Nigerian woman enjoys 101 percent benefits in marriage. Go to some families, you will find out that the man is maggi, onion and pepper in the house. The man is paying the rent, the man is paying the children's fees and then still spends on her. Virtually everything is taken care of by the man while all she does is give birth to children by the minute. Worst case, she chats with her friends all day on Facebook and everyother social network. Whoever says Marriage doesn't favor women must be living in utopia and is ignorant of certain realities.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by dingbang(m): 6:05pm On Jul 04, 2018
She is just bored

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by pocohantas(f): 6:12pm On Jul 04, 2018
Definitely a Nigerian woman, married to a Nigerian man.

She answered the question logically though.

As for the one asking that question, she just wants to start a war. Doesn't she have parents? What are the best parts of her mother being married? Therein lies the answer to her question.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Ytea(f): 6:19pm On Jul 04, 2018
Haunty if you don't want to get married, don't. Face your empty list. Don't try to check other girls' list. Carry yourself and go, leave us alone.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by aminu790(m): 6:20pm On Jul 04, 2018
Jar kaniya!!!



delugajackson:
It is now official. Some Women are the most confused set of people on earth.
Sorry brogrin

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by GOFRONT(m): 6:34pm On Jul 04, 2018
Abeg o Anty, Wait make I first marry my girl......No posion her mind for me

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by valentinos22(m): 6:38pm On Jul 04, 2018
Ytea:
Haunty if you don't want to get married, don't. Face your empty list. Don't try to check other girls' list. Carry yourself and go, leave us alone.
it just make sense for me this way......she is trying to compare the density of her marital frustration/emptiness to others.....on this matter ehn, u are just a marital pariah
grin grin

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Famousqueen(f): 6:42pm On Jul 04, 2018
she just said my mind, the only thing i want in life, is mental peace, happiness, and enjoy my life without anyone restricting me cool why get married when i will be subjected to pains, commitments, emotional trauma, e.t.c

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 6:47pm On Jul 04, 2018
This is confusing! It's like me stuffing my face with cake while telling you it can lead to diabetes

Bitch_ we know, now pass me a slice, I will eat it moderately angry

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 6:48pm On Jul 04, 2018
I pondered on this question last night, and came up with an answer : The more independent you become, the lesser you see the need for Marriage. When you live by your own terms, pay your own bills, have a regular Bleep, attention and care from opposite sex, You are most likely to loose interest in marriage.

But hey! who asks for another person's list of benefits of being married? Are we all getting married to the same individual? cheesy

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Angy55(f): 6:54pm On Jul 04, 2018
Some Ladies

Okay, don't get married, work and earn all the money you can and be paying one young boy to be lashing you always. Pay any young guy to impregnate you and that settles it.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by pocohantas(f): 7:03pm On Jul 04, 2018
LivingFree:
This confusing! It's like me stuffing my face with cake while telling you it can lead to diabetes

Bitch_ we know, now pass me a slice, I will eat it moderately angry

I had to read her post again, I think the questionnaire listed some benefits. She replied she doesn't PARTICULARLY advocate for marriage based on the listed things[i.e its benefits transcends the listed]. We need to know what that lady listed for a start.

Looking at it logically, do you think if women [African/NIGERIAN women] were very independent, they would be jumping into marriage the way they do? I really do not think so. For a lot of them, it is a poverty alleviation programme. Even the men know this, one reason some want a woman they are richer than. If she doesn't submit to him, she must submit to his money or back to her father's mud house cheesy

It is actually funny she is married, going by her closing statement.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by donstan18(f): 7:08pm On Jul 04, 2018
The lady that asked that question is an evening newspaper looking for a way to console herself.

-No matter how a Nigerian lady claim not to want to be called a wife on social media, she'll still log out and face reality.

-Comments and posts like this are often made by married women who are loyal, submissive to their husbands in reality and benefiting from marriage. But the dump and single ones will be quick to embrace it.

-It's funny how a married woman made such statements, but if she's to be asked to lead by example by leaving her marriage to get the same benefit as a single lady, she won't do it.

-If marriage is to be abolished in Nigeria, Nigerian ladies will die of hunger and poverty because an average Nigerian lady is poor, looking for a man to depend on which is their major reason for marriage(To alleviate from poverty)

Funny thing is; That lady might be holding fried chicken or turkey with chilled wine, wearing sexy dress and crossing her legs in her husband's parlor enjoying, while the foolish and single frustrated ones be consoling their lonely and unmarried state with her posts. grin grin

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 7:18pm On Jul 04, 2018
pocohantas:


I had to read her post again, I think the questionnaire listed some benefits. She replied she doesn't PARTICULARLY advocate for marriage based on the listed things. We need to know what that lady listed for a start.

Looking at it logically, do you think if women [African women] were very independent, they would be jumping into marriage the way they do? I really do not think so. For a lot of them, it is a poverty alleviation programme. Even the men know this, one reason some want a woman they are richer than. If she doesn't submit to him, she must submit to his money or back to her father's mud house cheesy

It is actually funny she is married, going by her closing statement.

Sis, this is all shades of confusion for me... What is her point? is she gloating that her marriage is better than other marriages? If so why not advocate for whatever she has going on at home? I understand that marriage no longer feeds whatever needs it was feeding in the past (poverty alleviation) but it still offers a certified partner through life! It gets lonely when the lights go out and everyone closes shop, she's arguing that we could get this without marriage but she fails to recognize the importance of the covenant made at the alter. And the payback when that promise is broken (I joke but not really) grin lipsrsealed

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by pocohantas(f): 7:31pm On Jul 04, 2018
LivingFree:


Sis, this is all shades of confusion for me... What is her point? is she gloating that her marriage is better than other marriages? If so why not advocate for whatever she has going on at home? I understand that marriage no longer feeds whatever needs it was feeding in the past (poverty alleviation) but it still offers a certified partner through life! It gets lonely when the lights go out and everyone closes shop, she's arguing that we could get this without marriage but she fails to recognize the importance of the covenant made at the alter. And the payback when that promise is broken (I joke but not really) grin lipsrsealed

She doesn't want to be called an angry feminist grin

Babe, even the certified partner through life isn't guaranteed no more. Payback in Nigeria? Thinking of it now, I wanna believe that's one of her grievance.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by dumininu01(m): 7:36pm On Jul 04, 2018
Women grin grin grin

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by troubleseller: 7:37pm On Jul 04, 2018
Wait till you are 70 and you are looking for someone to help you bring garri from your kitchen in your one room apartment.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Biglittlelois(f): 7:37pm On Jul 04, 2018
I think the society we are in especially Nigeria affects mind set alot, not every woman wants to GET married, not every woman wants to STAY married, some just wants to taste and leave, people do what society wants so that they wont be tagged different names, personally i'm indifferent about marriage, only advantage is to have a stable and safe fvck mate, have kids legally et al.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 7:48pm On Jul 04, 2018
pocohantas:


She doesn't want to be called an angry feminist grin

Babe, even the certified partner through life isn't guaranteed no more. Payback in Nigeria? Thinking of it now, I wanna believe that's one of her grievance.

Aha! We've cracked her code! lol! In that case marriage in "Nigeria" ain't worth it lipsrsealed

Who needs guarantees in life? shi, the oxygen we breathe ain't guaranteed but we breathe anyway grin

Marriage is a beautiful ideal with the right person... I just wish our generation wasn't filled with needy people. Think about it most of the broken marriages are due to some need that wasn't met! The sick irony is that no one can meet our needs but us! But we hold other's responsible for our needs. When marriage was a poverty alleviating scheme, men married many women but now a days a man can't find 1 to marry? why? Poverty is an easier need to manage in comparison to 'Making her happy' you can't throw money at happiness.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by pocohantas(f): 7:59pm On Jul 04, 2018
LivingFree:


Aha! We've cracked her code! lol! In that case marriage in "Nigeria" ain't worth it lipsrsealed

Who needs guarantees in life? shi, the oxygen we breathe ain't guaranteed but we breathe anyway grin

Marriage is a beautiful ideal with the right person... I just wish our generation wasn't filled with needy people. Think about it most of the broken marriages are due to some need that wasn't met! The sick irony is that no one can meet our needs but us! But we hold other's responsible for our needs. When marriage was a poverty alleviating scheme, men married many women but now a days a man can't find 1 to marry? why? Poverty is an easier need to manage in comparison to 'Making her happy' you can't throw money at happiness.

You are smart, but this is Romance section.
Prepare for them comments grin

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by samysmoothfresh: 8:12pm On Jul 04, 2018
this one is another unrepentant hypocrite from dem linda ikeji, amarabae and co crew



by their comments laced with frustration and confusion, you shall know them

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by evy800(f): 8:36pm On Jul 04, 2018
Madam abeg speak for yourself

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:52pm On Jul 04, 2018
pocohantas:


She doesn't want to be called an angry feminist grin

Babe, even the certified partner through life isn't guaranteed no more. Payback in Nigeria? Thinking of it now, I wanna believe that's one of her grievance.
this is because bad news spreads faster than good news. The bad belle people are quick to see and spread the news of your crashed marriage. There are still certified partner through life that can be guaranteed. There are people enjoying their marriage. This mentality of I am right, you can't be right is why many marriages are failing. We are tuned to the negatives especially in Africa. There is no place for empathy any more. People marry and date for their selfish gains. Marry a complement and you will enjoy life!

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by mustylique(m): 8:55pm On Jul 04, 2018
LivingFree:


Aha! We've cracked her code! lol! In that case marriage in "Nigeria" ain't worth it lipsrsealed

Who needs guarantees in life? shi, the oxygen we breathe ain't guaranteed but we breathe anyway grin

Marriage is a beautiful ideal with the right person... I just wish our generation wasn't filled with needy people. Think about it most of the broken marriages are due to some need that wasn't met! The sick irony is that no one can meet our needs but us! But we hold other's responsible for our needs. When marriage was a poverty alleviating scheme, men married many women but now a days a man can't find 1 to marry? why? Poverty is an easier need to manage in comparison to 'Making her happy' you can't throw money at happiness.


marriage IS still a poverty alleviating scheme in this country, mostly.
the happiness of most naija babes revolves around money, so money can be thrown at happiness in this context, most of the time atleast.
the bottom line is that the country is fvcked up and it is affecting everyones mentality irrespective of gender. marriage is only favourable with the right mentality by both parties.

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jul 04, 2018
pocohantas:


I had to read her post again, I think the questionnaire listed some benefits. She replied she doesn't PARTICULARLY advocate for marriage based on the listed things[i.e its benefits transcends the listed]. We need to know what that lady listed for a start.

Looking at it logically, do you think if women [African/NIGERIAN women] were very independent, they would be jumping into marriage the way they do? I really do not think so. For a lot of them, it is a poverty alleviation programme. Even the men know this, one reason some want a woman they are richer than. If she doesn't submit to him, she must submit to his money or back to her father's mud house cheesy

It is actually funny she is married, going by her closing statement.
and this is a reason Africa will remain the poorest continent because they fail to think out of the box in most cases. Being dependent on someone because he is richer does not mean one is out of poverty. Being poor is a state of the mind. Driving a car, living in a house, travelling round the world isn't success if one didn't work for it. There is nothing like working for what you have... this is success to me

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jul 04, 2018
Some demonic persons will just come with some silly views and thoughts and claim they are fighting for women. Go fight for your mother, sister and daughter first before you fight for other women. Especially African women. Each to their own and where they find happiness. You don't have to come against marriage simply because you don't believe in it. Calling marriage an institution created against women?? WTF. A frustrated lesbian who perhaps is ashamed to be come out as a lesbian is who I see here. If you wanna empower African women, come build institutions that will develop their mental prowess not preaching against getting married. People find somethings fulfilling. Marriage is one of those things!

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by Nobody: 9:12pm On Jul 04, 2018
Famousqueen:
she just said my mind, the only thing i want in life, is mental peace, happiness, and enjoy my life without anyone restricting me cool why get married when i will be subjected to [b]pains, commitments, emotional trauma, e.t.[/b]c
you already have the bad mindset, so it won't be easy for you until you start to see things differently. Humans are the difficult people to deal with I agree but understanding one's purpose in life is key. If you have a purpose, find someone who complements that purpose. You won't feel restricted. Unfortunately, many don't have a purpose,so they feel restricted when they are being scolded or guided!

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Re: 'Women Should Stop Getting Married' - Married Lady Advises Single Ladies by CAPSLOCKED: 9:13pm On Jul 04, 2018
donstan18:
The lady that asked that question is an evening newspaper looking for a way to console herself.

-No matter how a Nigerian lady claim not to want to be called a wife on social media, she'll still log out and face reality.

-Comments and posts like this are often made by married women who are benefiting from marriage. But the dump and single ones will be quick to embrace it.

-It's funny how a married woman made such statements, but if she's to be asked to lead by example by leaving her marriage to get the same benefit as a single lady, she won't do it.

-If marriage is to be abolished in Nigeria, Nigerian ladies will die of hunger and poverty because an average Nigerian lady is poor, looking for a man to depend on which is their major reason for marriage(To alleviate from poverty)

Funny thing is; That lady might be holding fried chicken or turkey with chilled wine, wearing sexy dress and crossing her legs in her husband's parlor enjoying, while the foolish and single frustrated ones be consoling their lonely and unmarried state with her posts.


I JUST HAVE TO AGREE WITH THIS POST.

WOMEN ARE WOMEN'S GREATEST ENEMIES.

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