The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.


How do you handle the betrayals that comes with family relationships, love-interests and loved ones?

If you're an honourable person, you tend to think that everybody else is honourable. But the world doesn't function that way. Throughout history, as documented in the shakespearean tragedies, people have always betrayed themselves over the position, money, love, hurt, envy and just plain greed.

SO how do you go about handling the betrayals that inevitably comes from close quarters- from close colleagues, lovers, friends and family? How?
In this popular video, everyday Nigerians share their experiences of how their love was abused, lover was stolen and money was swindled. Please watch and let's share our thoughts.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWqppErCr60

can you actually prepare for betrayals

When my friend's dad retired from his regional managerial position in an oil company in 2007, things were super rosy for a bit and everyone (family & friends) were swarming around like bees to honey.

Fast forward 3 years later when his Dad was duped in tens of millions, things started to wane and then he saw the harsh reality of life roared it's ugly head. Friends turned foes, family turned it's back.

The dad went for a major hip replacement surgery and was stranded in the hospital. Several calls to ex colleagues of his, friends etc seemed mission impossible and it was really surprising seeing these same people that flocked around and requested numerous favors from his dad acted like they couldn't even recognize his name. His mum cried, his dad was bitter and there was this huge cloud of disappointment, disbelief and betrayal hanging over his family.

He felt Betrayed but better enough to use that as the fuel/energy for their family comeback

Ashe makashinka nna nan tare dakai.....

Munafukinka na gindinka.....


As said by Hausa

I stay away from them as don't ever look back

One reason why betrayal hurts the most, because it usually comes from the least expected person.

Damnnn niggar

Betrayal always come from people you have sacrificed for

hmmmm Dealing with betrayal from a close friend can be deeply hurtful and challenging to navigate. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation:

Allow Yourself to Feel: It's important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed. Allow yourself time and space to heal and come to terms with what has happened.

Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor to share your feelings and seek support. Talking about your experience with someone who can provide empathy and guidance can help you gain perspective and cope with the betrayal.

Reflect on the Situation: Take some time to reflect on the circumstances surrounding the betrayal. Consider the reasons behind your friend's actions, as well as any contributing factors from your side. This self-reflection can help you understand the situation better and come to terms with it.

Communicate Your Feelings: If you feel ready and comfortable, consider expressing your feelings to your friend. Honest communication can be a crucial step in the healing process. Clearly articulate how their actions have affected you and allow them to share their perspective. However, keep in mind that their response may not always meet your expectations or lead to reconciliation.

Set Boundaries: Evaluate whether it is healthy and appropriate to continue the friendship. If you decide to maintain the relationship, establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. It may take time to rebuild trust, and it's essential to protect yourself from further harm.

Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and well-being. Take care of your physical and emotional health by engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness or meditation, exercising, or seeking professional help if needed.

Forgiveness (if possible): Forgiveness is a personal choice and can be a long and complex process. It does not mean condoning or forgetting the betrayal but rather freeing yourself from the negative emotions and the burden of holding onto resentment. Forgiving can be liberating, but it should not be rushed, and it's okay if it takes time.

Learn and Grow: Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth and reflection. Learn from the betrayal, identify any patterns or red flags, and use the lessons to make healthier choices in future relationships.

Remember, healing takes time, and everyone's journey is unique. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through the process of healing and moving forward

Betrayal

Betrayals can hit everybody differently... But personally,when someone who I truly trust betrays me,I'm always pained....... Nothing pain person reach that one.....

Then again,how to handle such scenario is never to give such a person a second chance to betray you again.

Mine is too painful to recount. But I'll try.

I was betrayed by my blood brother (elder) with whom I shared my business plans, not knowing that he was making his own calculations on how to snatch the business from me.

He convinced me to borrow money from our parents and add to mine, thereby making the family have a say in it. Then he used our family to force my hands into letting him manage the business with me. He ruined the business and I lost everything.

Six years now, I am still struggling to recover even a fraction of what I used to be worth. No apology came from him or anyone.

I noticed that, even the little progress I am struggling to make doesn't go down well with him. This was a guy I was helping out with cash and what not, not knowing that he was not okay with his younger brother doing better than him. I found out the hard way.


Beware of siblings.

If you take human beings to serious you will be disappointed alot.

Everyone is a Bleep up by default. If they act right that's fine and if they mess up that's okay too.

Depending on people to always do/act right will be your greatest disappointment on life.

This is you and I am sorry you experienced this. I'm sure you've learned a lesson to two for that's the essence of going through the things we go through.

quote author=ideamonster post=124500539]When my friend's dad retired from his regional managerial position in an oil company in 2007, things were super rosy for a bit and everyone (family & friends) were swarming around like bees to honey.

Fast forward 3 years later when his Dad was duped in tens of millions, things started to wane and then he saw the harsh reality of life roared it's ugly head. Friends turned foes, family turned it's back.

The dad went for a major hip replacement surgery and was stranded in the hospital. Several calls to ex colleagues of his, friends etc seemed mission impossible and it was really surprising seeing these same people that flocked around and requested numerous favors from his dad acted like they couldn't even recognize his name. His mum cried, his dad was bitter and there was this huge cloud of disappointment, disbelief and betrayal hanging over his family.

He felt Betrayed but better enough to use that as the fuel/energy for their family comeback[/quote]

By cutting them off.

I don't have friends at all.
I stay alone because I have been betrayed several times.

Limit your secret, and control your movement.

blueghost:
hmmmm Dealing with betrayal from a close friend can be deeply hurtful and challenging to navigate. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation:

Allow Yourself to Feel: It's important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed. Allow yourself time and space to heal and come to terms with what has happened.

Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor to share your feelings and seek support. Talking about your experience with someone who can provide empathy and guidance can help you gain perspective and cope with the betrayal.

Reflect on the Situation: Take some time to reflect on the circumstances surrounding the betrayal. Consider the reasons behind your friend's actions, as well as any contributing factors from your side. This self-reflection can help you understand the situation better and come to terms with it.

Communicate Your Feelings: If you feel ready and comfortable, consider expressing your feelings to your friend. Honest communication can be a crucial step in the healing process. Clearly articulate how their actions have affected you and allow them to share their perspective. However, keep in mind that their response may not always meet your expectations or lead to reconciliation.

Set Boundaries: Evaluate whether it is healthy and appropriate to continue the friendship. If you decide to maintain the relationship, establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. It may take time to rebuild trust, and it's essential to protect yourself from further harm.

Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and well-being. Take care of your physical and emotional health by engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness or meditation, exercising, or seeking professional help if needed.

Forgiveness (if possible): Forgiveness is a personal choice and can be a long and complex process. It does not mean condoning or forgetting the betrayal but rather freeing yourself from the negative emotions and the burden of holding onto resentment. Forgiving can be liberating, but it should not be rushed, and it's okay if it takes time.

Learn and Grow: Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth and reflection. Learn from the betrayal, identify any patterns or red flags, and use the lessons to make healthier choices in future relationships.

Remember, healing takes time, and everyone's journey is unique. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through the process of healing and moving forward

You must be very dumb if you can't contribute without ChatGPT

Mine is worst
I came to realize recently that those am busy fighting for don't wish me good
Omo he hurt pass anything
Getting to know about a betrayal it's always from a friend and not an enemy

ideamonster:
can you actually prepare for betrayals

Exactly
You will never see it coming until you see yourself in the middle of a very terrible set-up.

Some people are just schemers and evil
Plotters.
God epp us🙏

blueghost:
hmmmm Dealing with betrayal from a close friend can be deeply hurtful and challenging to navigate. Here are some suggestions on how to handle the situation:

Allow Yourself to Feel: It's important to acknowledge and process your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed. Allow yourself time and space to heal and come to terms with what has happened.

Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or a counselor to share your feelings and seek support. Talking about your experience with someone who can provide empathy and guidance can help you gain perspective and cope with the betrayal.

Reflect on the Situation: Take some time to reflect on the circumstances surrounding the betrayal. Consider the reasons behind your friend's actions, as well as any contributing factors from your side. This self-reflection can help you understand the situation better and come to terms with it.

Communicate Your Feelings: If you feel ready and comfortable, consider expressing your feelings to your friend. Honest communication can be a crucial step in the healing process. Clearly articulate how their actions have affected you and allow them to share their perspective. However, keep in mind that their response may not always meet your expectations or lead to reconciliation.

Set Boundaries: Evaluate whether it is healthy and appropriate to continue the friendship. If you decide to maintain the relationship, establish clear boundaries and expectations moving forward. It may take time to rebuild trust, and it's essential to protect yourself from further harm.

Focus on Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote self-care and well-being. Take care of your physical and emotional health by engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness or meditation, exercising, or seeking professional help if needed.

Forgiveness (if possible): Forgiveness is a personal choice and can be a long and complex process. It does not mean condoning or forgetting the betrayal but rather freeing yourself from the negative emotions and the burden of holding onto resentment. Forgiving can be liberating, but it should not be rushed, and it's okay if it takes time.

Learn and Grow: Use this experience as an opportunity for personal growth and reflection. Learn from the betrayal, identify any patterns or red flags, and use the lessons to make healthier choices in future relationships.

Remember, healing takes time, and everyone's journey is unique. Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate through the process of healing and moving forward

This looks like something ChatGPT would spew out

1999, I met this black beauty and we started dating. But prior to meeting her, I have other pretty girls I'm dating.
Here comes this guy who approached my main girl but she politely told him we are dating and she introduced the toaster to me which we later became friends. Along the line, we became very close friends and surely, he must know all my parole. He got to know my beautiful black babe which I never knew he had already falling for her. As per guys gisting and forming "abeg that girl dey disturb me" not knowing he has completely falling in-love with her.
As I type this, I vividly recall some event that played out which makes me more sad and surprise.
I was with my main girl on a good bright Sunday morning when I hard a knock on my door.
what! my so called friend brough my black babe to my house to come visit me. He immediately abscond and left me to settle my matter. I was able to convince both of them, escorted the black chick and comeback to my main chick that was still waiting for me.
I got admission into the university and left but still in same city. I lost one of my elder brother which the loss really got to me and I discharge all my babes and focus on school.
Fast forward to one evening while I was returning from school, I decided to branch a café to browse and do other stuffs. Lo and behold, I saw this same fvcking dude with that black babe in the café with his hands wrapped around her neck. I felt nothing though but that was how we subconsciously and naturally parted ways. Years later, we reconnect with the black sisi who's then a big girl working with a new generation bank. Anytime she visit, she will sponsor every every.. both drinks and small chops

Stay away from that person.

But Note;

Live an unpredictable life.

Never expect anything from anyone. Not even greeting. So you won't feel hunt if not greeted.

Don't depend on anybody. E get y!

Believe in yourself and ability, Hussle.

Don't open your mouth wide to tell everyone everything Abt yourself. Be unpredictable.

No dey talk too much and trust no one. That doesn't mean you shouldn't relate, but just be smart about it.

Na who know person dey kill am.

..

Stay away and keep your distance.

Never invite them to an event where you have your new circle of friends.

Else, they will end up corrupting them and destroying a lot of great things. I'm speaking from experience. You can only survive the second strike if you're the man. I mean you're not just a friend, but contribute to the growth of the circle.

don't try to pay evil with Evil, give them distance (be unavailable). Learn and don't forget. Then let Nature take it's course. What goes up will surely land on the solid sphere of the earth.

Can we really handle betrayal?? In my time on this earth I have suffered so much pain from close relatives than others.
One thing is that you can't handle it but you can learn from it, it's makes you stronger.
if you have the means just move on, stay far away from them, dont think of revenge because it will only drag you back.
Try to be happy and build your own family

Lance008:
Mine is worst
I came to realize recently that those am busy fighting for don't wish me good
Omo he hurt pass anything
Getting to know about a betrayal it's always from a friend and not an enemy

it seems unbelievable but the people u look out for dont really give a fv.ck about u. thats life

You are alone in this life