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Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Princewill1(m): 6:47pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Procashtips:You're just having comprehension problems here. Check dictionary definition of the word "gamble" to learn. As someone who once undertook a risk management course, I'm aware that there are elements of risk in most of the things we do in life. But there are certain "threshold of risk" that can be reached in your business or dealings, it will automatically become a gamble. Also, gambling is not only stricted to sports bet or casino. You can gamble with your business, family, career etc. For example; I'm a fan but Putin gambled with his administration when he decided to invade Ukraine. The fallout in the last 2 years shows how highly risky that decision was to his tenure. You can't compare the odd of a market woman losing her capital with that of a Forex trader. A forex trader is 1000x more likely to lose his capital on the long run than a petty trader in the market because of the "threshold of risk" involve in forex trading. It's the threshold of risk involved that made it to be categorized as a 'gamble' along side sports betting because both share same nature of extreme risk. 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by MrPRevailer(m): 6:49pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
prettycute90 Gambling is an chronic addiction. Much like smoking and drinking. Spiritually speaking, it is an evil spirit. And he can get his deliverance and freedom like many people who have. In the Lord's Chosen Church, start attending and the your husband to follow you. He will be free either from day 1 or as he continues. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by millionboi2: 6:58pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Procashtips:you don't know the meaning of gambling.Any speculation is gambling forget grammar. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Procashtips(m): 6:59pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Princewill1: The more examples you give, the more it exposes your knowledge on the subject matter. You even went ahead to use Putin and Russia as a case study which exposes you the more. What do you know about the SMO going on in Ukraine? You are talking about risk, yet bringing up examples you can't defend. You claim to have gone through risk management course, yet do not know the difference between sport betting (gambling) and forex(currency/stock/commodities/indices) trading. I don't want to lecture you on the difference since I didn't assert, and since you did the assertion, kindly tell us how you arrived at sport betting and forex trading having same threshold of risk. I'm 100% sure you do not know Forex trading is not just about currency trading. I guess people working in Nigeria stock exchange market, London stock exchange market, Tokyo stocm Exchange market or new york stock exchange markets are gamblers Or those banks employ solely to trade the financial markets Or Buffet and the big names out there who frequent the these markets. If you count all the above as gambling, then you're nothing but naive on this subject matter. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Procashtips(m): 7:02pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
millionboi2: Meaning everything we do on earth (all have a bit of speculation in them) is gambling. So? |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Exceed15: 7:04pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Una just dey shout separate from him.. bla bla bla. None of us knew when the going was good . Madam if down in ur heart u feel your best decision is to leave the marriage then go ahead. But if u know this dude isn't that useless as you painted then have a rethink. No one on tells a story that doesn't favour him/her . It is well with your Marriage. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Peskid147: 7:49pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
If your husband is a church goer, then tell his pastor about his habits but if he doesn't go to church I will advise you take your children and leave that hell u call a marriage because your mental health and that of your children matters alot. I believe you are still very much young so starting life from a different environment will help you a lot note your husband can never change. 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Brunicekid(m): 7:55pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:I understand that uncertainties can happen to the man, but determined and obvious efforts should be made by the man to get something doing. It's not that the man will then relax and not make efforts after what happens. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by zakkxx: 8:31pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Madam God bring you together so that your will help him stop that rubbish. Fast and pray! Any time you want to serve him food make positive declarations! “As you eat this food the spirit of Gambling will die in Jesus name!, you will love me alone! You will love Christ “ |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Kobojunkie: 8:40pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
zakkxx:Stop lying! God washed his hands off marriage and child bearing in Genesis 3 vs 16 - 24. And He reiterated that Marriages are of this world and not the Kingdom of God in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. So how could God have given her this man to help him stop .... what rubbish talk is that? |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 8:45pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Solsix: I bet it was clear your dad was TEMPORALLY down and would soon become the breadwinner again. Different from she's breadwinner and permanently far richer than your dad! |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 8:52pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
caandi: OP is obviously not telling the whole story. A man who only cares for gambling, and doesn't care for his children will not be clamoring to be the one the children stay with. Also don't forget OP will be keeping an eye on them |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 8:55pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
lendahand: But sometimes things happen. No where does it say that if a wife rises permanently above her husband and becomes the breadwinner she must become insultive and bossy! |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by millionboi2: 8:57pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
franchasofficia:You spoke like a fool you are,let me ask you did you carry any money from your mothers womb when you were born, what makes you think tomorrow can never be better if not your foolishness. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 9:00pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Brunicekid: No matter what the man gets doing, as long as his wife makes more and is the breadwinner, he go chop insults from her and bossiness, and constant complaints about little things |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by millionboi2: 9:15pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
Coolbite:quote her and paste this,so she can see it. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by lendahand(m): 10:22pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:if a man bearing children is abnormal, a woman providing becomes abnormal equally. If a woman becomes bossy and insulting in this abnormal situation, you don't blame her much. Mind you, a woman assisting in doing one or two things temporarily is normal but a prolonged sole catering of the entire family will twist the normalcy and cause her to go across board. 2 Likes |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by yollychika(f): 11:00pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
He will never change! Get a lawyer, you could win custody of the children after divorce!!! 2 Likes |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 11:23pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
lendahand: I don't blame her at all, only stating a fact: Women RESENT being breadwinners! |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 11:27pm On Sep 09, 2023 |
yollychika: Not according to Google
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Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by frozen70(f): 5:20am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Prettycute90: If you continue enduring this sheet you will get more depressed Meanwhile that marriage has not been working because he vehemently refuse to contribute financially and does not support house chores He is just complacent with himself the way things are If you are not getting yourself again and it's affecting your mental being Just move to your parents house let him stay there for the time being A nursing mother can't be nursing a child with a depressed state of mind Alternatively, ignore him and see yourself living as a single mum But the moment he becomes violent just pack out and save your life |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Tundex911: 5:53am On Sep 10, 2023 |
We really do not date for a long time before we got married. Because I knew him back then in school from a far distance. And we liked each other but didn't date. So, meeting again after graduation and in a different environment, made me believe I already knew and the fact that we already liked each other I'm very sure, a very serious guy will be wooing you back then before you choice him over other. Madam na your cross do carry am wella Oluwa a wa pelu e |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Solsix(m): 6:52am On Sep 10, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:It remained like that permanently |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Tyktoker: 7:26am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Kobojonkie you again? Kobojunkie: |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emmyileri(m): 7:36am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Prettycute90:Are you a Christian? Do you go to church? Have you engage with his family about the issue? Have you informed his pastor? Have you prayed about it? If you can't answer these questions, you shouldn't complaint about your sufferings. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by sexyyoyo(m): 8:06am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Bad advice my dear. Don't follow such and never rush into a new relationship. All that glitters cant be gold . remain faithful to your husband even if you want space to work on yourself. Not all men are responsible when it comes to providing. Ask your mother inlaw how she managed his dad. That might help you. Please never go out there trying to date another man hoping to get a provider, you will burn your fingers and regret would be worst ok. author=DaddyCoool post=125674785]Since he offered to be with the children, let him. While helping from a distance, sort yourself out and also find out how marketable you are in the dating scene - maybe you'll hook a better guy [/quote] |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Hubeznigeria(m): 9:44am On Sep 10, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:I guess they are not wired to bear such load. Those who do without making complaints have a special kind of grace and are made of sterner stuff. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 9:45am On Sep 10, 2023 |
sexyyoyo: This is exactly the type of advice that keep people in poverty, trapped in unhappy situations, and never attaining anything near their potential. A young lady just told you her marriage is irrevocably broken, that she has become broke due to same marriage, that everything has failed in trying to get her husband to change, and that they have agreed that the best thing was separation. And your best advice to her is to stay in same exact situation, don't take any risks that could better her life because she could "burn her fingers"! BAD ADVICE, my dear. Life is a risk any way you slice it. And the most exciting, adventurous lives are usually attained taking calculated risks. While the most boring, unfulfilled lives usually come with avoiding any risks, staying with the known and safe, no matter how unsatisfying. Many women/men have hit the "jackpot" with second, third marriages/relationships! |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by sandygechy(f): 9:46am On Sep 10, 2023 |
So,there’s nothing wrong with a woman paying house rent,school fees,feeding,utilities and other bills while still playing her traditional roles of taking care of kids,cooking,cleaning and is also expected to perform in the bedroom to a man who is jobless,lazy,addicted to gambling and not willing to change Wooooow!!!! It will not work and will NEVER work!!! Iamzik: |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 9:53am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Solsix: That's why I always use the words "most", "vast majority", etc. Because there are always exceptions and outliers |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 10:01am On Sep 10, 2023 |
Hubeznigeria: They usually manage to hide the resentment, but it still seeps out here and there. There could be one or two exceptions but usually for a reason |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DaddyCoool: 10:03am On Sep 10, 2023 |
millionboi2: You ought first ask him what kinda job |
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