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Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Iamzik: 10:38am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Rechargeam247: This lie has been told for too long and need to be corrected. If a man cannot provide he is worse than an infidel... that's women favourite quote in the Bible. Have you ever cared to read proverbs 31? If not please do and let's have this conversation. I'm all for a man taking responsibility in the home and I strongly condemn any man that is so irresponsible that he refuses to make effort to take care of his family's need- such as the OP's husband That said, there is nothing wrong with a woman providing for the home....the Bible is very balanced when it comes to managing finances in the home. 2 Likes |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Procashtips(m): 10:40am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Prettycute90: You've started cooking for yourself and the children right? That's one way to start When is your rent due? Make arrangements for where to move to without him once it's due, do not renew unless he does: (1) Get a job if he doesn't have any now and make your account the salary account for the first 3 months (2) Learn a skill if he doesn't have a job and can't find one (But must change his phone to the type that won't allow betting apps) (3) I won't advise him to learn Forex because real forex trading is not for strugglers or desperate people, it will drive him and yourself down the hole. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emerged01(m): 10:43am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Marriage na for the strong minds not for the weak. Every married person always have reason to lament at one point in time. No marriage is perfect. For the sake your kids you just have to bear alot of things only when you are strong. Be strong for your kids. In this situation,you are considering the effect of your husband's behaviour on yourself but do you consider what effect of separation would be on the kids? Now they still enjoy your full care but if you insist on separation,never leave your kids behind.Separation is never good for the kids. Many of us in marriage have it smoothly early but have it rough as times goes on while some of us have it rough early in marriage but with patience and tolerance,understanding set in and things gradually becomes smooth. If you have never had it rough in marriage,good for you but always prepare for the worse while hoping for best. 1 Like |
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Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by emekajacobogbon(m): 10:45am On Sep 09, 2023 |
My love calm down and reason with me. From your caption, "AS A CHRISTIAN" Means you are a core believer. This is really a challenging time. You didn't mention anything else besides gambling and it's effects in his life and how it's destroying things in the family. What you need to know and do as someone who has tried all possible means to redeem him without success is this; 1) separation whether temporal or permanent will give room for the devil to gain access and have the floor to do more harms which is against your christian faith. 2) you have to know that Time is the greatest determinant, you have to know that the time to go and start life afresh and reach the stage you are now is the same time it will take him to come back to his senses. Love you more and cherish you more. 3) Instead of hearkening to the loudest voice talking to you now and whispering divorce, my reject the voice and tell the voice that what you need is MONEY. 4)MY dear channel all your strength, soul, body, spirit and mind towards making money. IF YOU HAVE MONEY, YOU WON'T BE HERE EXPLAINING TO ANYONE. 5) YOU HAVE TO DECIDE WITHIN YOU THAT YOUR HUSBAND IS LATE AND YOU CHOSE NOT TO REMARRY. 6) I MEAN TOTALLY IGNORE HIM AND EVEN HIS SHADOW AND SEE WHAT WILL HAPPEN 7) FOR YOUR INFO, 95% OF MEN ARE INTO THIS MESS. EVEN PASTORS.... I WISH I CAN TALK TO YOU ONE ON ONE 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Procashtips(m): 10:46am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Dothans: You need tips on how to replace your gambling addiction with something else. You need a hobby that's majorly offline. Do you work? |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by SeniorMan715(m): 10:46am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Divorce is only accepted in the case of adultery, expect it you can only separate |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Amex2018: 10:50am On Sep 09, 2023 |
kingviny: you have said many useful and valuable things in your writeup especially offering to speak with the man. Honestly i fell pained when good people especially women end up with wrong people in marriage. This is something I pray I don't get into because marriage to me should be enjoyable and not trying to manage someone. I pray she is able to find solace in God and God's willing recover your home and husband who is already at the point of being lost. But she should have this at the back of her mind that only God can truly restore her marriage at this point. The problem here is not who is the bread winner in the home. It is that the husband is not acting as a man. A man should be in control of his home. This is what it means to be the head of the home. This is what most women seeks for. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by SILVERLINES: 10:51am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Prettycute90: If all that you explain is true then I have my full support to divorce him. But, please make sure u take ur lovely children along with you. And also I will say u seek spiritual solutions for him on his behalf cos it takes a serious spiritual problem for a man to behave that way 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Higher3g(m): 10:53am On Sep 09, 2023 |
He just needs help in overcoming the addiction; ones that is settled, every other things fall in place. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Greenfusion: 10:54am On Sep 09, 2023 |
I don't support separation at the moment in this case, It's obviously bad for you emotionally and financially. But i think alot more needs to be known, how and when did your husband start gambling, it is before or after marriage? What kind of gambling does he do? The genesis of these needs to be known, he obviously needs serious help both spiritually, mentally and physically. What kind of friends does he have? If he has a reasonable and close friend that you assume does not do gambling, you can seek their help. Also, a close person you think he respects. Another thing you should know about him is, why is he gambling? Is he into drug of any kind? I believe if you can answer these, it would help you understand what you are dealing with and better attack it. Everything we do as human is as a result of a reason....you need to know the WHY. You just have to plan yourself for now and manage to cater for your kids....may be you should remove him from your manage plan while you try to solve the puzzle. Divorcing him now in my opinion is not an option, it's not easy for single mothers out there. You would likely be used and dumped like trash. Also, your children might suffer more. If you plan to separate for some time, if you have a place in your parents house or his parents house would be better for you.... although this depends on your relationship with his family...but na wahala to add to them...the reason for this is because if everything comes back to normal, he would not assume you had affairs during the time. Sometimes the worse husbands became the best, and the best became the worse, use your head. The lord is your strength. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by AlaafinOfOyo: 10:55am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Fiscus105: OP. This is another satanic advice. Note all the advice encouraging you to divorce your husband are from the pit of hell. Do Not heed them. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Higher3g(m): 10:55am On Sep 09, 2023 |
SILVERLINES: I don't support this position, solution is what she should be looking for. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Grace2Grace(m): 10:57am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Dear OPs, your caption is misleading, your question is, as a Christian, are this grounds enough for divorce? The difference between you and others having this same experience is that YOU'RE A CHRISTIAN. You cant take your issues as a Christian to a non Christian for advice, definitely they will advice you based on what they know. Madam, AS A CHRISTIAN ( IF AND ONLY IF ) THERE'S NO GROUND THAT'S GROUND ENOUGH FOR DIVORCE. AS A CHRISTIAN, DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION. If truly you're a Christian, then you should know where to go and what to do in your time of temptation, trials, difficulty, challenges, etc. Have you forgotten that man that is born of woman has plenty troubles. Read your Bible na. Your marriage is big business, it's your destiny. DONT MAKE IT A CARICATURE BY BRINGING IT HERE. MAY GOD SEND YOU HELP TO INSPIRE YOU AND LEAD YOU ARIGHT. 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by FuckTheMod: 10:58am On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:But why would a reasonable man feel comfortable to allow his woman be the bread winner? The least a reasonable man can do is provide shelter, food and clothing. As a man, I'll never even feel alive if my woman is the bread winner, unless I'm just incapacitated by health or physical problems. E no make sense na 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by samsard(m): 11:01am On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:I'm a man and I won't support my sister to remain in a marriage where the husband is addicted to gambling and can't get his act together. Ideally the woman should be contributing to the home, not taking up everything when the man is not sick or temporarily incapacited. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ladywise: 11:04am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Do not divorce your husband encourage him to look for job. You too look for job and stop complaining. Tell him how much you love him, show him love, let him know that gambling is not good. Please my dear don't leave your husband. He will change believe me follow him with peace and love. 2 Likes |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Fiscus105(m): 11:05am On Sep 09, 2023 |
AlaafinOfOyo: When she dies of depression, "devil in suit" like you would also go to her grave yard and preach that her family should take heart, that she is going to paradise. The kids she would leave, fool like you won't make any provision for them to become somebody in future Oga Deputy Jesus, bible is our constitution, read 1 cor 7: 14-15 and interpret it for us 2 Likes
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Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by ladywise: 11:05am On Sep 09, 2023 |
samsard: Then why can't you support your sister to help her husband. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by edgecution(m): 11:06am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Prettycute90: Your husband is suffering from Gambling Addiction. He needs help asap. You need to report him to his family members or any respected relative. If he refuses to seek treatment please get a job and separate from him till he comes to his senses. I know lots of married couples that cant divorce or separate because of finances and it seems that's your case too. You need to make a decision. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Sleekfingers: 11:06am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Prettycute90: Separation. That's after you have talked to him. Tell his relatives. Seek counseling from a professional. If nothing changes. You better divorce him. Marriage is not a do or die affair. 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Afolue(m): 11:07am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Na wa oh..! Different angle to bad marriages. This one strong. Your husband is like a packaged material from the pit of hell. Gambling is addictive. Every gamble is a vengeful one to make up for losses in which lose is inevitable. Madam, whether he wants the kids or no, just leave to save your life first, as the kids grows with him and see how life is treating them under their father, na dem go take their legs find you come. Go and recover to be at peace with yourself & cleared conscience. No matter what anyone does in this life, just try your best to be safe and let God complete the rest in his own time. Salam..! |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Oyerinde16(m): 11:11am On Sep 09, 2023 |
If she has the means, she won't be here complaining and seeking advice... If she takes the kids, to where... × No money to rent n furnish a new house...abia 9ja n accommodation be anybody mate... × No money to cater for herself and the kids... × But if luck shine on the mumu gambler... him 2000 odds with 1k enter now, everywhere stew, the gambler will become swrt hrt... × Shittu happens dear, it's for better for worst... stay there now support him... you are only tired cos he has not made it... × If we talk one side, we go talk the other side too... husband you too wake up and take some responsibilities abeg... |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Justkatty(f): 11:13am On Sep 09, 2023 |
In anything you do, don't leave the kids with him. Since he doesn't want to be useful to himself, he should stay faraway. 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Edusouls(m): 11:16am On Sep 09, 2023 |
I don’t see anything bad ur husband did to you rather than he dosent have money or job, which is the situation of most Nigerian men, women are selfish to to the core to the extent that once they provide for her own children and husband their system starts to react violently, only God knows how and why he created women 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by mozona(m): 11:17am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Have patience and pray for him, he is into gambling, which I will Neva support but pray for him, it might be a break through. Well I don't even know what am saying, but the fact is is don't leave him. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Brunicekid(m): 11:22am On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:A man should be able to provide for his wife, the Bible says so. This doesn't negate the fact that women can support. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by samsard(m): 11:29am On Sep 09, 2023 |
ladywise:To help a married woman help her full-grown adult man that is old enough to be a family man but not reasonable enough to stay away from pathological gambling? You do realize this is majorly a gambling problem, don't you? 1 Like |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Solsix(m): 11:32am On Sep 09, 2023 |
DaddyCoool:Only a handful of them can without making noise about it |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by Caaz: 11:33am On Sep 09, 2023 |
mrblessed:Turn which new leaf?waste your time not. |
Re: As a Christian, Is This Not Enough Reason To Divorce Him? by DeBigdick(m): 11:34am On Sep 09, 2023 |
Prettycute90: Firstly, on behalf of the men in Nairaland I apologize for you going through all this. But how did you marry this rubbish to the extent of having children for him? He might be jobless but he's not making effort to get a job and still gamble with the little money he has!!!, he deserves to be flogged. So he doesn't even send money to his mother at home. Tueh !!! My advice: Report to everyone around him, shame him, report to him to his brother, his mother and his father, his pastor so that when you leave him they won't see you as a bad woman. if he doesn't show remorse or he's not Ready to change Japa !!! Because you have a bright future. Such men shouldn't be called men. As a man it's your job to provide even if you don't have the means to do so, you should have the intention through your actions by looking for the means. Having the intention itself will show you're not lazy. if he doesn't change Japa before he put another child into you. 2 Likes |
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