Okay coming here as a last resort because I genuinely think this problem could be the end of my marriage. Also throwaway bc my husband is a frequent redditor. My husband (35M) and I (32F) welcomed our first baby three months ago. We’ve been married 7 years now and decided it was time to expand our family. Everything was going well and we were in our little newborn bubble of bliss until the hospital bills came. Both my husband and I have jobs and everything financially is split 50/50, but we’ve always kept our money separate with the exception of a joint account for bills.

Throughout the duration of my pregnancy, I planned to go for an unmedicated natural birth with as little intervention as possible. That was up until I hit the 24 hour mark of labor, I caved and got the epidural (which I was open to having if needed). My husband had no problem with it, even encouraged it.

When the bill came he brought it to me to pay all $8,000+ (after insurance) from my personal savings, I asked why. He said “You’re the one that couldn’t hold out for a few more hours and jacked up the bill with all your meds and an extra nights stay and he shouldn’t have to pay for all of my extra requests. If I wanted luxury, I should expect to pay for it”. I was stunned, and flipped out, but I’ll spare you the details.

He refuses to budge, calling me a princess for expecting him to pay for all the “extra add ons” I requested in the hospital. this is by far the biggest issue in our 14 year long relationship so far and I’m so lost on where to go from here. I gave in and paid the bill, but since then we haven’t been talking much and honestly I just feel disrespected. Do I have the right to feel this way or is it just hormones? Am I The Asshole for expecting him to contribute towards the cost of my childbirth? WIBTA for considering leaving him?

What would you do in this situation?

DyshApp:
■ He refuses to budge, calling me a princess for expecting him to pay for all the “extra add ons” I requested in the hospital. this is by far the biggest issue in our 14 year long relationship so far and I’m so lost on where to go from here. I gave in and paid the bill, but since then we haven’t been talking much and honestly I just feel disrespected. Do I have the right to feel this way or is it just hormones? Am I The Asshole for expecting him to contribute towards the cost of my childbirth? WIBTA for considering leaving him? What would you do in this situation?

ROFLMAO


First pregnancy without epidural? Na she pretend say she fit play wonder woman only to find out she no get the stamina join. Na her wahala be this one. Whatever decision she makes na she go bear am.

Medicare is very expensive abroad

The day I knew how much ambulance cost in Florida I feared for Oyinbo people

Ambulance that isn't even here

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO


First pregnancy without epidural? Na she pretend say she fit play wonder woman only to find out she no get the stamina join. Na her wahala be this one. Whatever decision she makes na she go bear am.

I know right I mean who does that she really though that she was wonder woman

Bliss52:
Medicare is very expensive abroad

The day I knew how much ambulance cost in Florida I feared for Oyinbo people

Ambulance that isn't even here

You can even have a fever and just buy drugs you have to go to a hospital and see a doctor just to get drugs

An average African man will joyfully clear the bill or run to his kinsmen to assist him clear the bill while giving glory to God for blessing his family with a bouncing baby. Still our womenfolk deride us and call us toxic and immature.
Oya naa, see an oyibo husband trying to split (or even refusing to pay) child delivery bill.
I wonder if any of our deluded feminists can accept what this woman went through.

The odd world

louken:
An average African man will joyfully clear the bill or run to his kinsmen to assist him clear the bill while giving glory to God for blessing his family with a bouncing baby. Still our womenfolk deride us and call us toxic and immature.
Oya naa, see an oyibo husband trying to split (or even refusing to pay) child delivery bill.
I wonder if any of our deluded feminists can accept what this woman went through.

Sheybi I've been saying it, let's give our African women the "equality" that they're seeking, na them go run ...

Once they have a taste equality in the realest sense, they'll trash this talk of feminism once and for all ...

louken:
An average African man will joyfully clear the bill or run to his kinsmen to assist him clear the bill while giving glory to God for blessing his family with a bouncing baby. Still our womenfolk deride us and call us toxic and immature.
Oya naa, see an oyibo husband trying to split (or even refusing to pay) child delivery bill.
I wonder if any of our deluded feminists can accept what this woman went through.

But the man sef wicked he refused to even split the bill because she should have not taken pain relief for child birth

louken:
An average African man will joyfully clear the bill or run to his kinsmen to assist him clear the bill while giving glory to God for blessing his family with a bouncing baby. Still our womenfolk deride us and call us toxic and immature.
Oya naa, see an oyibo husband trying to split (or even refusing to pay) child delivery bill.
I wonder if any of our deluded feminists can accept what this woman went through.

I stand to be corrected but that doesn't sound like a white man

There was a thread on front page about a man complaining about paying for his wife's c section. So calm down

Funny how these stuffs usually turn out

louken:
An average African man will joyfully clear the bill or run to his kinsmen to assist him clear the bill while giving glory to God for blessing his family with a bouncing baby. Still our womenfolk deride us and call us toxic and immature.
Oya naa, see an oyibo husband trying to split (or even refusing to pay) child delivery bill.
I wonder if any of our deluded feminists can accept what this woman went through.

No, that's not true. African men that run to marry white women richer than them?
African men that wail here everyday that their girlfriends can't offer them money in their relationships??
African men that say they can't marry a woman who doesn't have a job?
African men that demand for princess treatment nowadays while pining for rich white women that will pamper them??
Definitely not the African men of this generation or on nairaland.

God bless the African people for this, we settle this in-house, the man takes the bill without complaining or seek the help of the wife is she is the cooperative one!

siofra:


No, that's not true. African men that run to marry white women richer than them?
African men that wail here everyday that their girlfriends can't offer them money in their relationships??
African men that say they can't marry a woman who doesn't have a job?
African men that demand for princess treatment nowadays while pining for rich white women that will pamper them??
Definitely not the African men of this generation or on nairaland.

He is talking about Men
Not gigolo's

Bliss52:
Medicare is very expensive abroad

The day I knew how much ambulance cost in Florida I feared for Oyinbo people

Ambulance that isn't even here

Speaking on the ambulance matter, in New York, a woman was in a bad accident. Several people rushed in to help , while someone pulled out his phone to call for an ambulance. Woman somehow spotted him, somehow guessed he was calling for ambulance, because she screamed 'Please don't call an ambulance. I can't afford it'

Medicare is expensive anywhere period. Even in countries where it is free, people pay for it at very very high tax rates. (As in, half your yearly income). The USA has high health standards, which is why healthcare is very expensive there. (and why people are opposed to single payer healthcare like the UK's NHS, because it means higher taxes , and tax in the USA is very high already).

He didn't use what?.

.

Ok oo

This is a useless man . The child belongs to you both not her alone.

Na wa ooo


What is so difficult about child birth?

Is it not only pushing?

When 90% of our mothers gave birth to us at home with no assistance from anybody.

VERY LAZY WOMAN

I support the husband

This one resemble obodoyibo matter.


If no be Nigeria, e no concern me.


Until then, next!

First off, wondering what type of insurance they have that expected them to pay $8000 for childbirth.

That said, isn't the child theirs? Why is he acting silly? Whatever expense was borne, he should be happy the baby and the mother survived and gladly agree to pay his share.

Leave his sorry arse because tomorrow he will still refuse to pay for the baby’s food saying he didn’t use it.

Brave up for the single parent you are about to become and make sure not to take in again.

this is madness

You have said your own, let the husband man narrate his own side of the matter then we will respond appropriately.

HE IS JUST PASSING A MESSAGE THAT I THINK ALL WOMEN NEED TO PAY ATTENTION TO. ALWAYS BEHAVE AND CHOOSE YOUR CHOICE OF LUZURY LIFE AS IF YOU ARE THE ONE PAYING. BE CONSIDERATE AND NOT ALWAYS EXTRAVAGANT. THE MAN SHOULD AT LEAST PAY HALF OR TOTAL THOUGH EXCEPT IF HE HAS WARNED AHEAD AND ALREADY ANGERED BY ULTRANCES NOW.

Husband and wife issues, it could still be resolved.

Time for a man to wake up.


Women have taken men for granted for so long.



This message isn't for simps!