Kobojunkie:
So, if the family does not advise the man, the man has no reason whatsoever to change at all? More importantly, how does the advice given, maybe today, translate to income and rent tomorrow since OP said rent is already past due?

2. So, advice that can help her is for her to call up his family to ask them to pay the rent for them or for them to call up her husband and advise him now to go get a job so that at the end of several months they can get money for already overdue rent?

You claim not to understand how I reason yet I am wondering if you reason at all.

TOPMAN4LIFE:
■ With all this your talk up and down, what do you think is good for her to do.
From your response, l will know the type of person l am exchanging words with.

Kobojunkie:
Op and her 3 kids are about to become homeless, so unless the man's family is going to f0ck over money to pay the rent, it doesnt behoove OP to go contacting before taking clear and decisive action which is to move her children to her parent's home so they are spared the devastation of watching their belongings being cast out into the streets.

Unlike you, I actually look for meaningful resolutions to obvious issues.

TOPMAN4LIFE:
■ But you should have provided your own advice like this as l have done my own and allow OP to decide.
You now carry the matter for head as if me and you want collect award on best advice

Kobojunkie:
I did. Simply pointing out how unreasonable it is to ask her to call up his family to give a grown-arsed man advise before she moves her children out of "harm's" way.

TOPMAN4LIFE:

What if doesn't take your advice,
The way your talking as if your advice must be taken, na WA for u o

austinvizy:
■ Really sad, but wisdom is profitable to direct. Leaving the man will not solve the problem. What about the welfare of your kids...
The best you can do in this situation is to encourage him with love, let him understand that its really hard on you already, he should try and take up other jobs to support the home at least.
■ Lastly, pray for him, it changes situation too.

Kobojunkie:
Who lied to you virginity makes you meek?

yinkeys:

Was an analogy
You hurriedly replied my post without reading the entire thing properly
I guess you don’t comprehend context

Kobojunkie:
Do you even begin to understand what it means to quote something out of context?

2. Marriage has never been a problem. Rather, the problem here is the many lies you lot tell of marriage using the many mentions of God to deceive people. OP's thread is clearly evidence of some of those lies. Atheists have even better marriages than you folks with your many delusions since they approach it from a logical standpoint which works in tandem with the real world, something that cannot be said of the many delusions you lost weave around your marriages.

REALretep post=126403207■ [size=8pt:
Glad to hear that we both at least seem to agree that marriage is a good thing based on your bolded statement above.
I still maintain that you clearly misunderstood the Bible verses you quoted earlier or you mischievously quoted them knowing fully well your interpretations were completely out of context.
There may be lies told by folks who believe in God...I agree with you on that. And there may also be many failed marriages involving folks who believe in God. That is also very correct. But also there are many truths told by folks who believe in God and there are also many successful and fruitful marriages involving folks who believe in God.
■ There are also atheists who may have successful and fruitful marriages and also atheists whose marriages have failed. It therefore depends on where you focus your mind on... whether the cup is half-filled or half-empty.

■ And lastly, your comment on "logic working in tandem with the real world" is inherently faulty as humans naturally don't use logic all the time because of our capacity for emotions/feelings and spiritual inclinations.
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socialmediaman:


Is she better off alone? Can she handle the responsibility of childcare while also working? When the kids grow up, who will be the figure for them?

Kemadealadire:

Let me know when you wake up from the dream🤨

luminouz:


Bullshiiit advice from a single woman!!!

Kobojunkie:
Leave God and His mention out of your rubbish.

God of the Bible cursed marriage and childbearing in Genesis 3 vs 16, and Jesus Christ equally said that the marriages of men are not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 - 36. But your pastors will not tell you this part because their businesses depend on you staying with the many delusions surrounding marriage today.

yeldey:


Lol, this OP is Man disguised as a woman with 3 kids.

He is the person who needs a job in a Multinational lol.

He knows women get sympathy and favour easily, especially when he decides to manipulate us being a supposed Virgin.

Check his profile, he registered the account today.

So many fake people online!!!

Wujio:




It is hypocrisy to only touch areas the woman needs to work upon leaving the lack of finances and the man out of it totally. Do you have partial blindness?

I didn't see you say a man who doesn't take care of his home is worse than an infidel and suggesting that the man like a true father should do should hunt for any kind of job. You bashed the woman toning down her goodness because you want women to appear guilty. A man that doesn't take care of his home is an infidel

Let's stop putting women in horrible state please

BRATISLAVA:


Why is her virginity more important to you than her gambling, lazy king?

Why is the only thing you can come up with cheating? A woman who has a lazy husband should have her virginity or vagina monitored by you when she says she has a problem with her unmotivated husband, yet you ask why she mentioned her virginity?

Why is your second paragraph as unhelpful a solution as you could come up with as your last paragraph?

Surely you would have a lot to preach if it were the husband with this matter.

Kobojunkie:
1. You sat without a job or income for 3 whole years while your wife had to carry the load that is you and the kids all by herself for all that time?

2. Women dey see things in marriage for real! So basically, because some other woman could be willing to carry him as her load, she should hold onto him as a load instead?

3. The worst of it all is God, who made clear that marriage has nothing to do with His Kingdom, is always being roped into it all by those without a conscience.

nedekid:

As per your first question or statement, she is trying to say she did it all by the book, ie the proper way.

sonofthunder:




You are clearly short sighted hence you cannot see what I'm driving at.


Besides if she's honest to respond, I will give her the best advice and support I can offer but till then.......

preshpraiz:
It's 2.47 am here but I can't sleep, I hardly sleep these days.

My whole world is crumbling.
I have been a regular guest here for awhile now but had to register this morning, I need somewhere to pour out my heart, somewhere to dump my frustrations.

I came from a good, not so rich home but my parents were so hardworking.I had a good moral upbringing, went to tertiary institution and graduated with good grades.

While in school, I never had a boy friend though I had a lot of "chykers", never went clubbing, didn't socialize much.

Few months to the end of my NYSC, I met my husband. We got talking and boom, I fell in love with him. He is my ideal man....he doesn't drink nor smoke, gentle and soft spoken.

He wasn't earning much but it didn't bother me. I believe in working hard and growing with my man.

Now my regrets...
* The "angel" I married has refused to get a job after losing the last one during COVID 19.

He said he can never work in a private company again. His target is multinationals.

I encouraged him to pick up a job with private company while hoping for a bigger fish at least to support in taking care of the needs at home but he said no.

I'm left with taking care of our 3 kids, feeding, school fees and virtually every need at home. All he does is press phone, gamble and sleep.

Now our rent is due, no money.
I married as a virgin, married for love and not money, work my ass off, doing so many side hustle to shoulder the expenses at home. I'm tired. I regret all these.

When I see my "unserious" classmates on social media and sometimes offline, I weep. See them living large. I thought all the sacrifices I made way back will pay off now.
I have made up my mind that if he doesn't fix the rent, I will move back to my parent's house.

Kindly feel free to advise or bash me. Tankio

Virusvetty:
God will help you

sonofthunder:




Going by the book, she needs to be ready to work it out with her husband...... The proper way has never been easy oh...... The highway to "hell" is wide and smooth.

sonofthunder:



Mr./Miss/Mrs. I too know, go and read the op well before quoting me. The op is self righteous, story sounds cooked up.

Sometimes you make sure something is genuine before responding to issues people bring up. So many people are clout chasers. Someone just check the profile self and said op is a man and the best you can do is throw jabs at me


Her virginity is an issue because she seem not to know why she chose to preserve it.

She thinks it's better she lived as a hoe in here younger years rather than being chaste. You also think about that.

The man was working and providing/supporting until he lost the job.... Read her statement, she looked down on the man's earnings maybe even mocked him self but will never tell you that...... She said her man swore to never work for private company again...... You think say na small frustration be that?

sonofthunder:



So what's the connection between virginity and your current predicament? Or you are in search of a pity party to encourage you to go and cheat?

Typically, when we have a problem, we need the best solution and not the best solution we can come up with.


Moving back to your parents is not a bad solution but do you think there could be better solutions you need to explore?

juman:
Many men are lazy.
Yes.
Why should a man that called himself husband and father wake up and do nothing?
That man is very useless idioti.
He has to work hard to pay bills.
He should know he must provide for himself and the young children.

Lazy men should know:
You cant stay idle waiting for mana to fall from heaven.
You should not stay doing nothing expecting your wife to bring food, even if she get it from her man friend.
Oh, that kind of man is really useless.