If there has been a debate in your home about the paternity of one or more of your children, and that prompts for a DNA test. If the test shows that your hubby is the true father of your child or children, what will be your reaction?

What do you mean what will we do??
Nothing of course, he’s supposed to be the father.
Maybe a little “See I told you my darling, you are the only one! Apologies accepted!”, after a sigh of relief (because I did do a little something!)

What's she going to do, like i don't understand.

So it's now a crime to confirm if our children are truely ours..

I'd prefer that he conducts the DNA in secret without confronting me first... Because if he confronts me, we argue and he eventually does the DNA, immediately the results come out and show that he's the father, our relationship will then be broken.

Because it'd only shows that he doesn't trust me, so why continue being with someone who doesn't trust you? Because one day he may end up falsely accusing me of something else.

I got your point,you are trying to say that would be the woman after the result comes out positive,just cus the man did not have trust in her.

Samantha124:
I'd prefer that he conducts the DNA in secret without confronting me first... Because if he confronts me, we argue and he eventually does the DNA, immediately the results come out and show that he's the father, our relationship will then be broken.

Because it'd only shows that he doesn't trust me, so why continue being with someone who doesn't trust you? Because one day he may end up falsely accusing me of something else.

I understand your perspective, however, from a males perspective, it isn't an issue of trust, it's the desire to be CERTAIN that the kids you're investing in are actually yours ...

It's more like you place an order for something and you want to confirm that what you ordered is actually what you're getting before you pay for it ...
(It's not a good enough illustration, but I hope you get the picture)

And mind you, a man won't just wake up one morning and says he wants to conduct a DNA test, nahhhh ...

He'll only do this when there's some form of suspicion in his woman's behavior ...

But regardless sha ...
DNA test wouldn't be the in thing if women stopped being fraudsters ...

That's why he should do the DNA in secret since he'll be acting out of suspicion and not certain.

Because if my man confronts me first only to do the DNA and finds out that the children are his, our relationship with never be the same again.

From my own point of view, I'm going to see it as if he doesn't trusts me anymore... Even if I decide to stay in the relationship, it won't be the same anymore.

I might forgive, but I won't forget.

Fahvvy:


I understand your perspective, however, from a males perspective, it isn't an issue of trust, it's the desire to be CERTAIN that the kids you're investing in are actually yours ...

It's more like you place an order for something and you want to confirm that what you ordered is actually what you're getting before you pay for it ...
(It's not a good enough illustration, but I hope you get the picture)

And mind you, a man won't just wake up one morning and says he wants to conduct a DNA test, nahhhh ...

He'll only do this when there's some form of suspicion in his woman's behavior ...

But regardless sha ...
DNA test wouldn't be the in thing if women stopped being fraudsters ...

talented321:
What's she going to do, like i don't understand.

Are u a Lady? That question is not meant for u.

If you want to end the marriage because of an innocent dna, then you're good to go..

Samantha124:
That's why he should do the DNA in secret since he'll be acting out of suspicion and not certain.

Because if my man confronts me first only to do the DNA and finds out that the children are his, our relationship with never be the same again.

From my own point of view, I'm going to see it as if he doesn't trusts me anymore... Even if I decide to stay in the relationship, it won't be the same anymore.

I might forgive, but I won't forget.

i'm talking on behalf of all real and responsible niggas(husbands)

Orinechi:
Are u a Lady? That question is not meant for u.

Innocent DNA? I wouldn't expect you to understand until you're able to get pregnant and carry a child for 9 months.

How would you feel if your woman suspects you of cheating even when you're not to a point that there's no longer peace in the house and she'll even hire a PI to follow you around.

Because in her defense she'll also say it's just an innocent PI... Would you continue living with such a person who's full of insecurities?

talented321:
If you want to end the marriage because of an innocent dna, then you're good to go.. i'm talking on behalf of all real and responsible niggas(husbands)

Samantha124:
I'd prefer that he conducts the DNA in secret without confronting me first... Because if he confronts me, we argue and he eventually does the DNA, immediately the results come out and show that he's the father, our relationship will then be broken.

Because it'd only shows that he doesn't trust me, so why continue being with someone who doesn't trust you? Because one day he may end up falsely accusing me of something else.

What if the DNA confirms that the children are not his?

He'll make his own choice as to whether he'll stay or leave.

FromZeroToHero:


What if the DNA confirms that the children are not his?

pradoyeep:
If there has been a debate in your home about the paternity of one or more of your children, and that prompts for a DNA test. If the test shows that your hubby is the true father of your child or children, what will be your reaction?

It really depends on how the conversation got started. And how it’s presented.
Some women will like the justification that the kid is yours .
Others will call it a betrayal of trust.

Some will laugh at you and a dinner date should resolve it .
Some will get cold for a while which means you’re in the dog house.

9 months? You're a woman so you don't understand what it mean to raise another man's kid after been deceived by a woman you called your wife.

Samantha124:
Innocent DNA? I wouldn't expect you to understand until you're able to get pregnant and carry a child for 9 months.

How would you feel if your woman suspects you of cheating even when you're not to a point that there's no longer peace in the house and she'll even hire a PI to follow you around.

Because in her defense she'll also say it's just an innocent PI... Would you continue living with such a person who's full of insecurities?

Many women raise other women's children, but you'll never hear them complaining.

What do you have to say about those men who would take their children from their baby mamas and then expect their wives to help raise them without consulting with the wives first? Isn't that witchcraft?

And you also haven't answered my last question, would you continue staying with an insecured woman who'd hire a PI to follow you around?

talented321:
9 months? You're a woman so you don't understand what it mean to raise another man's kid after been deceived by a woman you called your wife.

There is no harm in raising another person's child if i'm aware and not the one i was deceived without my knowledge, know the difference.
Going for dna test doesn't mean i don't trust u, it's just a confirmation to truely know if our children belong to us,.

Samantha124:
Many women raise other women's children, but you'll never hear them complaining.

What do you have to say about those men who would take their children from their baby mamas and then expect their wives to help raise them without consulting with the wives first? Isn't that witchcraft?

And you also haven't answered my last question, would you continue staying with an insecured woman who'd hire a PI to follow you around?

Samantha124:
He'll make his own choice as to whether he'll stay or leave.

Not at all. He will just send you away. Public property should not be privatized. It is criminal

You're speaking from your own point of view which is biased.... But from my point of view, it's something else.

Then what do you have to say about those women who are made to raise children they weren't aware of? Their husbands kept the children a secret until one day the baby mamas dropped them in their house and left, or the child found his or her way to the house.

By suggesting a DNA to my face when I've been nothing but faithful basically means you think of me as a community bicycle... Nothing is stopping you from conducting it in secret.

And how would you feel if your wife also tells you that hiring a PI doesn't mean she doesn't trust you, but a confirmation to truely know if you're not cheating on her

talented321:
There is no harm in raising another person's child if i'm aware and not the one i was deceived without my knowledge, know the difference.
Going for dna test doesn't mean i don't trust u, it's just a confirmation to truely know if our children belong to us,.

I don't understand your first line..
I'll be happy if you want to spy my movements because i know i'm not cheating and as far it will not cost me my any dime or freedom then you're good to go..

Samantha124:
You're speaking from your own point of view which is biased.... But from my point of view, it's something else.

Then what do you have to say about those women who are made to raise children they weren't aware of? Their husbands kept the children a secret until one day the baby mamas dropped them in their house and left, or the child found his or her way to the house.

By suggesting a DNA to my face when I've been nothing but faithful basically means you think of me as a community bicycle... Nothing is stopping you from conducting it in secret.

And how would you feel if your wife also tells you that hiring a PI doesn't mean she doesn't trust you, but a confirmation to truely know if you're not cheating on her

You don't ask urself what makes your hurband seek for dna, your only concern is insecurity. So to check either something is really legit is now insecurity to you.
There're children that don't demand dna, but any non resemblance, straight dna..

Samantha124:
You're speaking from your own point of view which is biased.... But from my point of view, it's something else.

Then what do you have to say about those women who are made to raise children they weren't aware of? Their husbands kept the children a secret until one day the baby mamas dropped them in their house and left, or the child found his or her way to the house.

By suggesting a DNA to my face when I've been nothing but faithful basically means you think of me as a community bicycle... Nothing is stopping you from conducting it in secret.

And how would you feel if your wife also tells you that hiring a PI doesn't mean she doesn't trust you, but a confirmation to truely know if you're not cheating on her

That's also not a problem, I'll take my children and leave.

And he better make sure that we're not married in community of property because me leaving will just be useless... According to the law, I'll still be entitled to half of the property.

But before he kicks me out, he also needs to first make sure that I've got a decent job because if I don't, I'll apply for spousal support from him upon the divorce and make him pay me for the rest of his life...

So not only will I be entitled to half of the property, he'll also be paying me spousal support.

Amumaigwe:


Not at all. He will just send you away. Public property should not be privatized. It is criminal

How come I've never seen any man happy when his wife tracks his movements?

What if me leaving will cost you a fortune? Don't forget that I'm a law graduate and I know how the law works...

talented321:
I don't understand your first line..
I'll be happy if you want to spy my movements because i know i'm not cheating and as far it will not cost me my any dime or freedom then you're good to go..

Like I said, DO IT IN SECRET IF YOU WANT TO!!!!

It seems like you're trying to avoid my questions... What do you have to say about those women who are made to raise children they were not aware of because their husbands kept them a secret from them until one day their baby mamas came knocking on the door

talented321:
You don't ask urself what makes your hurband seek for dna, your only concern is insecurity. So to check either something is really legit is now insecurity to you.
There're children that don't demand dna, but any non resemblance, straight dna..

Like Samantha has stated above, that relationship will never be the same again. Especially, if there has been open accusations and yelling…

1. I don't mind because i am free..
2. Your leaving will not cost me any dime because i don't commit any crime. Forget whatever you read, you'll hate me if you bring any leg that will ruin my happiness because it's not going to be funny..
3. If you think going for dna is a crime then win ur husbands trust..
4. I don't trust women no matter who she is, and i don't expect you to trust me but i don't judge and i can live with you to any far if you don't nag..
5. God bless me with decent women who don't care about my money but my love and just want to be with me, still yet i don't looseguard..

Samantha124:
How come I've never seen any man happy when his wife tracks his movements?

What if me leaving will cost you a fortune? Don't forget that I'm a law graduate and I know how the law works...

You can't win an insecured man's trust no matter what you do.

Same thing applies with women, immediately she suspects you of cheating, you can never fully win her trust back.

If you don't want a nagging woman, then give her a reason not to nag.

talented321:
1. I don't mind because i am free..
2. Your leaving will not cost me any dime because i don't commit any crime. Forget whatever you read, you'll hate me if you bring any leg that will ruin my happiness because it's not going to be funny..
3. If you think going for dna is a crime then win ur husbands trust..
4. I don't trust women no matter who she is, and i don't expect you to trust me but i don't judge and i can live with you to any far if you don't nag..
5. God bless me with decent women who don't care about my money but my love and just want to be with me, still yet i don't looseguard..

I'm not avoidingany your questions, it's just that the truth is biased to you..

Samantha124:
Like I said, DO IT IN SECRET IF YOU WANT TO!!!!

It seems like you're trying to avoid my questions...

these are the lies i hate both male and female, i'll rather tell you the truth, if you want to leave fine, if you want to stay fine.. I can't hide from the woman i house.. Lie lie

What do you have to say about those women who are made to raise children they were not aware of because their husbands kept them a secret from them until one day their baby mamas came knocking on the door

My don't trusting you is best known me, because i can play along as far we're together.. So you'll not suspect, but as soon their is no resemblance, dna straight and i don't care if you want divorce... I'll never allow any woman to take me as her father and i believe even her father will not accept such nonsense..

Samantha124:
You can't win an insecured man's trust no matter what you do.

Same thing applies with women, immediately she suspects you of cheating, you can never fully win her trust back.

If you don't want a nagging woman, then give her a reason not to nag.

She get lucky

Fine... Want is lie lie in your own mother tongue?

talented321:
I'm not avoidingany your questions, it's just that the truth is biased to you..
these are the lies i hate both male and female, i'll rather tell you the truth, if you want to leave fine, if you want to stay fine.. I can't hide from the woman i house.. Lie lie

Lie lie means samantha like sex..

Samantha124:
Fine... Want is lie lie in your own mother tongue?