Kobojunkie:
It is only dark, cold and depressing if you want it to be for you. I recall that after I joined the cycling club, winter months became anything but dark, cold and depressing. I would ride out on my Bicycle even in the snow to go watch Christmas lights or shows downtown. I realized that I had in fact been the one torturing myself all the time I used to dread the winter months.

This gives part of the answer - the winter has definitely been reconfiguring your psyche to be bland.

Kobojunkie:
As expected, that went right over your head.

Lmao,

I know that may sound inappropriate, but deep down, konji catch you girls even more than guys.
I’ve related with enough girls who share this hidden secrets. You girls are just so good in not showing it and act like you don’t care

rickleye:


You are very apt .
I know a few and you couldn’t tell from the outside but one just told me that she is lonely . But she far from me . I dey try go 2ce a year visit am but e no cheap .

It’s that hard that some we propose to pay your flight ticket or split the bills with you. It’s that bad

Luckysbab:


I wonder the kind of junkies you socialize with though. I mean that, in all sense of honesty.

I'm just laughing at all those taking her serious by quoting her and responding to her. She's very sick and needs good mental health. And I wouldn't be surprised if it is the abroad she is that has turned her reasoning faculty to the controversial personality that she has become presently.

You can see how she struggles to argue and get attention. Can't be far fetched about this loneliness issue that has affected her mental health. She gat to talk like a talkative.

sharpwriter:

I'm just laughing at all those taking her serious by quoting her and responding to her. She's very sick and needs good mental health. And I wouldn't be surprised if it is the abroad she is that has turned her reasoning faculty to the controversial personality that she has become presently.

You can see how she struggles to argue and get attention. Can't be far fetched about this loneliness issue that has affected her mental health. She gat to talk like a talkative.

You captured it well.

Kobojunkie:
1. Have you ever noticed how when the same "white" people move to Nigeria, even with the disadvantage of not being raised in Nigeria , they easily find ways to adapt and mingle than Nigerians do when they go abroad? Ever wondered why?

2. Don't expect everyone's jokes to appeal to you. That is where learning about them and what interests they have come in. For example, I had problems mingling myself, and so several years ago I joined a city cycling club so I could do that, mingle. As i went out regularly on rides with club members and hung out with them even outside of the rides when I could, I started to gather the same interests they had, talk about many of the same things they did, and even find interesting many of the same things they were interested in. You can't socialize or mingle if you are not first willing to step outside of yourself.

3. I disagree with you since humans are social beings so at whatever age you find yourself here, you will definitely find those to socialize with if you are willing to step outside of yourself to do so.

I disagree with your first point. How exactly do they mingle when they come to Nigeria as expatriates? People who limit them selves to ikoyi, phase 1, Victoria island and banana island, and only hang out with their fellow expatriates. Is that one mingle? Oga, they don't mingle when they come to Nigeria. If you live in Lagos, how often do you see white people on the mainland apart from seeing them in clusters at shopping malls, restaurants, and clubs in ikoyi, Banana island, Lekki phase 1 and v/island....?


2. Not everyone's joke will appeal to you, especially when you grow up in a different culture. Except you want to fake a smile when they crack their boring jokes. I call that hypocrisy.

3. I have lived, worked and travelled between different cultures and countries in the last 14years, and I can affirm to you that as you grow older, you would naturally limit yourself to your kit and kin. When you are a young adult or teenager, you are more naturally adventurous and inclined to interact with other races in the western world, but as you age and grow older, the opposite begins to happen and that inclination reduces drastically. It is just nature.

Summarily, oga ,white people don't mingle when they come to Nigeria either as visitors or expatriates. They restrict themselves to their fellow whites and limit their movements within the highbrow places of where they reside or stay in Nigeria. Pls stop making them feel superior to the Nigerians in terms of mingling. They don't also mingle freely if you are not within their social network. Their mingling ends most times at the workplace. Please, let's not go there with too much argument.

Dil-do don suffer for this one hand

DrAkpamudehe:
■ I disagree with your first point. How exactly do they mingle when they come to Nigeria as expatriates? People who limit them selves to ikoyi, phase 1, Victoria island and banana island, and only hang out with their fellow expatriates. Is that one mingle? Oga, they don't mingle when they come to Nigeria. If you live in Lagos, how often do you see white people on the mainland apart from seeing them in clusters at shopping malls, restaurants, and clubs in ikoyi, Banana island, Lekki phase 1 and v/island....?
2. Not everyone's joke will appeal to you, especially when you grow up in a different culture. Except you want to fake a smile when they crack their boring jokes. I call that hypocrisy.
3. I have lived and travelled between different cultures and countries in the last 14years, and I can affirm to you that as you grow older, you would naturally limit yourself to your kit and kin. When you are a young adult or teenager, you are more naturally adventurous and eager to interact, as you age and grow older, the opposite begins to happen. It is just nature.
■ Summarily, oga ,white people don't mingle when they come to Nigeria either as visitors or expatriates. They restrict themselves to their fellow whites and limit their movements within the highbrow places of where they reside or stay in Nigeria. Pls stop making them feel superior to the Nigerians in terms of mingling. They don't also mingle freely if you are not within their social network. Please, let's not go there with too much argument.

1. You say that as though all expatriates in Nigeria are from the same country and work only with people from their same country. Don't critic from afar... go closer and you will find that many of them have Nigerian friends and even girlfriends for even that same area wey dem dey live. I happen to have known one who left Chicago for Nigeria many years ago who ended up roommate-ing with his Nigerian girlfriend whom he met down there. I don't know if they ever got married but I wouldn't be surprised if they did. He used to talk with excitement about how he had learned to cook Nigerian soups and make amala and ewedu soup.

2. No one is asking you to fake a smile. Instead you are being asked to step out of yourself so you can experience something different from what you have been used to. Open your mind and broaden your horizons so you can equally experience that othe4 side that you never were able to before majorly because of your preprogramming. Choosing to remain closeminded is the bane of existence for any people or culture.

3. And I can tell you with certainty that what you described only applies to those who have chosen to close themselves up to everyone and everything else out there.

4. This reads simply like someone someone resistant to stepping outside of himself and comfort zone would say.

Kobojunkie:
1. You say that as though all expatriates in Nigeria are from the same country and work only with people from their same country. Don't critic from afar... go closer and you will find that many of them have Nigerian friends and even girlfriends for even that same area wey dem dey live. I happen to have known one who left Chicago for Nigeria many years ago who ended up roommate-ing with his Nigerian girlfriend whom he met down there. I don't know if they ever got married but I wouldn't be surprised if they did. He used to talk with excitement about how he had learned to cook Nigerian soups and make amala and ewedu soup.

2. No one is asking you to fake a smile. Instead you are being asker to step out of yourself so you can experience something different from what you have been used to. Being close minded is the bane of existence for any people or culture.

3. And I can tell you with certainty that what you described only applies to those who have chosen to close themselves up to everyone and everything else out there.

4. This reads simply like someone someone resistant to stepping outside of himself and comfort zone would say.

Your first point has rendered your remaining points invalid. It is a normal thing for them when they come to Nigeria as expatriates to get a Nigerian girl as a sezmate or girlfriend. They do that in other to explore and see how the black girl tastes, Nigerian guys also do the same when they go to their culture. They don't mingle with Nigerian men when they come to Nigeria as expatriates, they only limit themselves to the top Nigerian guys and whites within their work and cultural network. That is not mingling in the real definition. There are cheap girls every where in Lagos, portharcourt and Abuja who throw themselves cheaply at these expatriates when they go to night clubs and become their girlfriends after the first hookup.
I don't know where you reside or if you have really moved around. In Lagos state, apart from Chinese and Asians, have you ever seen white skin people in yaba, surulere, orile, or other low brow areas on the mainland with high human density? I don't know how old you are, but you seem to be a very young man in his 20s which is the age of exploration and adventure, so further argument with you on this topic is a waste of time.

These black ladies in foreign countries are not serious. Majority of them are very arrogant and difficult to approach.
They are not friendly to black guys abroad. I just feel they are paying back the guys for the heartbreaks most of them have experienced.
Why can't we blacks be more friendly and united to ourselves just like the Asians especially Indians, Bangladeshis?

Acidosis:


Why haven't you gone back to your village despite the hardship in Lagos, Abuja, and Port Harcourt?

I am not residing in any of the state you mentioned... You just fooled yourself again

Kobojunkie:
Again, I didn't "enjoy" winter for the longest time. It was only after I decided to step outside of myself, learn how to properly dress warm during the winter, that I began to enjoy winter.

2. This is rubbish reasoning since both men and women have to step outside of themselves, learn how to dress warm , etc., in order to mingle and enjoy winter the same.

A man can dress up and go out and have fun by himself at a club etc . For ladies it’s different . They would rather go with a group for security. Without a vehicle in winter it’s not easy to get around to some places. Build your nucleus of friends first either at church or at work. There is no one glove fits all . But to counter her boredom start with things you are familiar with when springs comes and summer she can step out and take advantage of the various activities that abound.
Even whites experience winter blues . There are ton of suicides that occur during this time of year. Many are not announced for fear of copy cats.
Many are lonely. It’s a loneliest time of the year . She just needs someone who understands and can relate to what she’s going through and encourage her that there’s light at the end of the tunnel .

Omoawoke2:


It’s that hard that some we propose to pay your flight ticket or split the bills with you. It’s that bad

Wow I did not know that!

rickleye:


Wow I did not know that!

Yes bro, konji na bastardd.

So am i on a mre serious note here in Nigerian,it wasn't as that to note on but after several disappointments which led my heart locked up 4rm ladies,i gat used to 'NO RELATIONSHIP' untill now i got tired of jst being myself.

checkmatez:
Okay no problem
When you dey come back?

Smile 😁😁
Better question

Let her come and meet her family and friends here in Nigeria

Kobojunkie:
1. No Nigerian we be? For Nigeria did you marry every gal you dated for marriage? Let's stop bullsheeting abeg!

2. Abegi!

3. Whatever you wish to call it. It has almost always been a part of Nigerian culture and remains so to date so pretending their are cultures differences as far as the handling of individual sexual needs is ludicrous!

4. Nigerians too carry meaningless culture for head.

Lols, I see why some randy guys bash Ladies, you take sincere opinions out of context and spin it to suit what you believe. If your experience points men to want a lady's body rather than values, then it is what it is, but not all of us date women for the purpose of sex.

Has it occur to you that one could be rejected based on region or culture which is no fault of theirs and a factor you don't have control over.

I can see you're comfortable with what suits you, I will rather not engage further. Happy Sunday.

E better to cry for Canada than to smile for Naija.

Kobojunkie:
This isn't about the numbers but the why. Why are they not able to find partners when they are surrounded every day by people from all over the world?

2. Why are they typically unable to blend like people from other countries and races?

Is the why are stated earlier.

Thank God, I can socialise with all races, majority of nigerian girls would rather be forming fine girl up and down....

It's Ego that's killing some of them

This life no balance, Na now I know the meaning!
U yapa for greener pastures for the sake of say "what a man can do woman do more than him"
Now u dey cry... Oya come home naha

1Sharon:


Why do people keeping this? The western culture is not socially isolated if you don't want it to be. There are places westerners can go to socialize. And there are clubs that cater to Nigerian music.


She is complaining of loneliness because she isn't fully integrated and doesn't understand the system yet

Not to drag this issue and I'm not in Canada as well so I can't say I understand the specific context but the same clubs that cater to Nigerian music and the like, isn't it Africans like yourself you meet there? She complained about sharing an apartment with someone she can't even talk to.

Invite fellow Nigerians to hangouts and 8 out of ten times, they will ghost because they have to go to work even on weekends. Should we party on Mondays then?

I'm not hating but e get as e be.

I agree however that once she blends in some more, she'd be fine.

Bad leaders cause am

AdamuKD:

Prick dey hungry am
All those nonsense feminist, this will be una fate.

Siofra and co

Stroll to the nearest embassy, purchase your ticket, pack, and return back to where you won't be lonely and miserable.

Not everyone can live and thrive in countries where people mind their business and avoid needless associations or need to socialize.

She's been Dickmatized.....that thing is not any woman's mate.

Dem just dey demo


Cold is coming -23°c soonest

I don't know what's wrong with this generation but it's like a spiritual problem.

You're lonely and you went to tell the whole world on tik tok and YouTube?

Cursed generation.
Everything is measured by attention.

officialwdhtv:
I feel so lonely. I feel so sad- Nigerian lady residing in Canada weeps as she recounts her life after relocating

#wetindeyhappentv


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mWSftpQCZO4

I need her phone number

checkmatez:
Okay no problem
When you dey come back?

Abi na.
She should come back and use all the differences she has noticed with Canada and Canadians, to change our perception and make our country better.

Shikena.

Come back, silly girl.

Unittyy:
The lady should socialize and mingle with people

For where?!

That place is lonely as shitt.

Nobody want to mingle with liability.

She go soon commit suicide.