I have a girlfriend who we intend settling down together if God permits. I love her so much and have never cheated on her cos it is not in my nature to cheat at all. We have known for two years now. But I feel really not convinced that she wants to settle down with me. I have broken up with her severally but she keeps coming back. I feel like running away from this town, so I don't get to see her again. Here are a few of her unconvincing attitude that get me sceptical:

1. She hasn't introduced me to any of her family members or friends yet. Though I know her elder sister and Brother. But I got to know them by virtue of my job. Her elder sister is my Boss and her elder brother comes to visit us at work from time to time. Her elder sister (my Boss) once prayed that God should bless me so I can quickly pay her kid sister's bride price. She said so jokingly anyway. She already suspects something is going on, but it isn't official yet. I even asked her to inform her sister about us so she can see her reaction since she's very close to her. But she said, it would be an Insult to her & husband to introduce me to them as her man, because she lives with them & finds it not to good to do so. Also, she says I'm not ready yet and when I'm ready she will do that wholeheartedly. She is awaiting NYSC mobilization. And I am praying God for a Better job. But I believe it still doesn't stop her from introducing me to at least a friend & family member. She requested for my sister's number, I gave her. But up till now, she hasn't called my sister. I even bought her Airtime same day I gave her my sister's number. It's really disheartening.
2. She doesn't post me on her social media accounts. But she enjoys it when I post her pictures & write romantic stuffs about her. When I complained about this, she posted our pictures on her Whatsapp with the caption "And we Snapped". Since then, she hasn't posted any.
3. We can't hang out or walk on the streets. She claims her Elder sister's Husband may accidentally bump on us and it will be disrespectful to the husband who houses her.
4. I once saw her chat with a guy who she's also dating. She claimed they met online, & the guy traveled from Kano to Porthacourt to see her. The guy lodged in a hotel and she was going to see him everyday till he traveled back to Kano. She said they only kissed and there was no sex. That's her problem anyway cos it's not business. At the time, the guy visited her, we hadn't started the relationship. She broke up with the guy for some reasons.. but keeps chatting with him. She said there's nothing going on between them. I got angry. And her response was that, if she checks my WhatsApp and Facebook now, would she not see my chats with other girls? I was so shocked to hear this. Last year, I opened a Facebook account, posed as a big Politician & used my political godfathers picture on my profile, I sent her a friend request, she accepted & we started chatting. Of course she didn't know I was the one. I requested for her number, she gave me. I asked if she's in any relationship, but she denied it. I fixed a day that we would meet physically & she accepted. I felt really terrible. And I when I opened up & confronted her, she denied giving out her number. She said she wasn't even willing to go meet him anywhere that it was all joke.
5: she doesn't give me sex. She claims to be a virgin which I know she's lying. She's 28yrs old. We only kiss and do other stuffs but no penetrative sex. She asked that I wait until our wedding night. I believe that if u love someone genuinely, sex is the least thing to argue about. Until I met her, I had never sucked a woman's Vagina, she's the only one. And she knows how hygienic I'm. Though she appears to love and respect me so well, but why is it been hidden from the friends and family members?
6. I read her chat with her female friend on WhatsApp. She said "Who relationship help"
Then, I started wondering if I'm actually in a relationship with her or I'm in a relationship with myself.

I'm quite an emotional type and I'm really hurt. I do everything to make her happy. But the indices of a healthy relationship are missing from her end. This is same lady dat would call me at 2AM to profess her love for me. She said she is ready to start life with me even if it's in just one room apartment. Even if it's garri, she'll drink with me. But her actions are not in tandem and in consonance to her words. I'm confused here. Pls help me.

33 years old OP you just have 7 more years to attain the standard

My dear OP. See you. See heartbreak. Continue

garriAndsugar:
33 years old OP you just have 7 more years to attain the standard

You're trying to say I'm a fool?

TheFinesseKid:
My dear OP. See you. See heartbreak. Continue

Baba, the matter don tire me I swear. She said if I genuinely love her, I would be patient with her. Haven't I been patient enough for two years? All her misdemeanors I have tolerated

Opanka44:
I have a girlfriend who we intend settling down together if God permits. I love her so much and have never cheated on her cos it is not in my nature to cheat at all. We have known for two years now. But I feel really not convinced that she wants to settle down with me. I have broken up with her severally but she keeps coming back. I feel like running away from this town, so I don't get to see her again. Here are a few of her unconvincing attitude that get me sceptical:

1. She hasn't introduced me to any of her family members or friends yet. Though I know her elder sister and Brother. But I got to know them by virtue of my job. Her elder sister is my Boss and her elder brother comes to visit us at work from time to time. Her elder sister (my Boss) once prayed that God should bless me so I can quickly pay her kid sister's bride price. She said so jokingly anyway. She already suspects something is going on, but it isn't official yet. I even asked her to inform her sister about us so she can see her reaction since she's very close to her. But she said, it would be an Insult to her & husband to introduce me to them as her man, because she lives with them & finds it not to good to do so. Also, she says I'm not ready yet and when I'm ready she will do that wholeheartedly. She is awaiting NYSC mobilization. And I am praying God for a Better job. But I believe it still doesn't stop her from introducing me to at least a friend & family member. She requested for my sister's number, I gave her. But up till now, she hasn't called my sister. I even bought her Airtime same day I gave her my sister's number. It's really disheartening.
2. She doesn't post me on her social media accounts. But she enjoys it when I post her pictures & write romantic stuffs about her. When I complained about this, she posted our pictures on her Whatsapp with the caption "And we Snapped". Since then, she hasn't posted any.
3. We can't hang out or walk on the streets. She claims her Elder sister's Husband may accidentally bump on us and it will be disrespectful to the husband who houses her.
4. I once saw her chat with a guy who she's also dating. She claimed they met online, & the guy traveled from Kano to Porthacourt to see her. The guy lodged in a hotel and she was going to see him everyday till he traveled back to Kano. She said they only kissed and there was no sex. That's her problem anyway cos it's not business. At the time, the guy visited her, we hadn't started the relationship. She broke up with the guy for some reasons.. but keeps chatting with him. She said there's nothing going on between them. I got angry. And her response was that, if she checks my WhatsApp and Facebook now, would she not see my chats with other girls? I was so shocked to hear this. Last year, I opened a Facebook account, posed as a big Politician & used my political godfathers picture on my profile, I sent her a friend request, she accepted & we started chatting. Of course she didn't know I was the one. I requested for her number, she gave me. I asked if she's in any relationship, but she denied it. I fixed a day that we would meet physically & she accepted. I felt really terrible. And I when I opened up & confronted her, she denied giving out her number. She said she wasn't even willing to go meet him anywhere that it was all joke.
5: she doesn't give me sex. She claims to be a virgin which I know she's lying. She's 28yrs old. We only kiss and do other stuffs but no penetrative sex. She asked that I wait until our wedding night. I believe that if u love someone genuinely, sex is the least thing to argue about. Until I met her, I had never sucked a woman's Vagina, she's the only one. And she knows how hygienic I'm. Though she appears to love and respect me so well, but why is it been hidden from the friends and family members?
6. I read her chat with her female friend on WhatsApp. She said "Who relationship help"
Then, I started wondering if I'm actually in a relationship with her or I'm in a relationship with myself.

I'm quite an emotional type and I'm really hurt. I do everything to make her happy. But the indices of a healthy relationship are missing from her end. This is same lady dat would call me at 2AM to profess her love for me. She said she is ready to start life with me even if it's in just one room apartment. Even if it's garri, she'll drink with me. But her actions are not in tandem and in consonance to her words. I'm confused here. Pls help me.

Let me first of all laugh small

Op your Real Age is 23 because i find it very amusing a man of 30years+ is boldly saying in public that he is emotional

Such a ridiculous and pathetic thing to hear

When i'm through with breakfast, I will advise you.

Opanka44:


Baba, the matter don tire me I swear. She said if I genuinely love her, I would be patient with her. Haven't I been patient enough for two years? All her misdemeanors I have tolerated

bros. Call am today. Tell am say if she no let you Bleep. Make she no call u again. Lock up.

I was following until I got to the fourth reason. 😂. Why are you acting like a dunce bossman? And to think you're in your 30s? I even think say una two na early twenties sef no know say grown man and woman dey behave like this. 28 and 33

It's obvious she's playing a game to see who the better option is las las.

Reading this kind of thread makes me laugh, thank God for the redpill sha
Op, the numerous redflag am seeing here is making my eyes to turn red

Palazee:
Reading this kind of thread makes me laugh, thank God for the redpill sha

Op, the numerous redflag am seeing here is making my eyes to turn red

You don't even need to take any redpill to understand life and relationship with women.

You just need a decent IQ and a focused life.

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Op, you're just her last resort. She won't throw you away, but when she's searched for a while and not found anything better, she'll return to you with another man's kid calling them yours or probably a virus.

Run Forrest, Runnnnn......

Something is fishing about her and her sister's husband.

Opanka44:


Baba, the matter don tire me I swear. She said if I genuinely love her, I would be patient with her. Haven't I been patient enough for two years? All her misdemeanors I have tolerated

Patience? Seriously between you and Hausa ram no difference.

No offence bro.

JONSYN7154:
Patience? Seriously between you and Hausa ram no difference.

No offence bro.

Lol... I am not offended in any way bro. Truth must be told at all time and I'm glad I'm being told the sad truth

Opanka44:


Lol... I am not offended in any way bro. Truth must be told at all time and I'm glad I'm being told the sad truth

Thanks for your understanding.

Since you want the truth I will tell you.
She's using you as the second fiddle incase the main guy disappoint her.

Opanka44:


You're trying to say I'm a fool?

He's not trying to say, he's telling you the fact.

JONSYN7154:
Thanks for your understanding.

Since you want the truth I will tell you.
She's using you as the second fiddle incase the main guy disappoint her.

Ok Sir. I appreciate you. But how do I make her never to come close to me. We work in same place but she's yet to go for NYSC. I don't double date and I expect my woman to stick to me and me alone. I've asked her to stay away from me but she keeps coming, I'm tired. She traveled last Christmas and before she left, I gave her some small money to buy a few things for her mum whom I don't know yet. I even saw her off to the park. But immediately she took off, she stopped picking my calls. As a matter of fact, when she arrived her destination, she still didn't call and wasn't picking my calls. I got worried, but later heard she arrived safely and I was relieved. She ghosted me through out and the communication seized for almost 7months. When she returned to her sister place again, she asked them we settle. And we settled. I'm sure she will still do same when she travels for this forthcoming Christmas. We are from the same place. Her birthday is 15th of dis month, and I am contemplating not buying her any gift or even wish her a happy birthday cos when I don't want a woman again, I don't want anything to connect us

Opanka44:


Ok Sir. I appreciate you. But how do I make her never to come close to me. We work in same place but she's yet to go for NYSC. I don't double date and I expect my woman to stick to me and me alone. I've asked her to stay away from me but she keeps coming, I'm tired. She traveled last Christmas and before she left, I gave her some small money to buy a few things for her mum whom I don't know yet. I even saw her off to the park. But immediately she took off, she stopped picking my calls. As a matter of fact, when she arrived her destination, she still didn't call and wasn't picking my calls. I got worried, but later heard she arrived safely and I was relieved. She ghosted me through out and the communication seized for almost 7months. When she returned to her sister place again, she asked them we settle. And we settled. I'm sure she will still do same when she travels for this forthcoming Christmas. We are from the same place. Her birthday is 15th of dis month, and I am contemplating not buying her any gift or even wish her a happy birthday cos when I don't want a woman again, I don't want anything to connect us

when she travelled for Christmas she do go to the guys place that's why she's ghosting you anytime she travels from Christmas.

For you to break free from her you need to identify your weakness in you that she's using to hold you.

OP,

You once said you are a PRIVATE school Teacher trying to make ends meet.🤔

How come you are so Obsessed with Girlfriend issues?😕😒😒

U better focus on Things that will BETTER your Life o! 🤨😏

JONSYN7154:
when she travelled for Christmas she do go to the guys place that's why she's ghosting you anytime she travels from Christmas.

For you to break free from her you need to identify your weakness in you that she's using to hold you.

Hmmmm... I'm really fed up. I hate to be in the situation I am in right now. By God's grace, I'm a very handsome and intelligent guy. And she can confirm that. I know how many female colleagues of mine that have begged me to date them and are willing to give me free sex. But I can't cheat on her even when she isn't giving me sex. Is it a crime to love? I want to do something that will pain her so well so she can stop coming close to me. Maybe I shouldn't wish her a happy birthday or post her on social media or buy her any gift. That's my plan now

Vinnie2000:


OP,

You once said you are a PRIVATE school Teacher trying to make ends meet.🤔

How come you are so Obsessed with Girlfriend issues?😕😒😒

U better focus on Things that will BETTER your Life o! 🤨😏

I don't womanize at all. This is the only woman I know that's why I'm bothered. If I have many, I wouldn't bother myself worrying about dis same girl. I don't think it's a crime for a struggling Young Man to fall in love

Opanka44:


Hmmmm... I'm really fed up. I hate to be in the situation I am in right now. By God's grace, I'm a very handsome and intelligent guy. And she can confirm that. I know how many female colleagues of mine that have begged me to date them and are willing to give me free sex. But I can't cheat on her even when she isn't giving me sex. Is it a crime to love? I want to do something that will pain her so well so she can stop coming close to me. Maybe I shouldn't wish her a happy birthday or post her on social media or buy her any gift. That's my plan now

You know what tp do best.

Opanka44:


Hmmmm... I'm really fed up. I hate to be in the situation I am in right now. By God's grace, I'm a very handsome and intelligent guy. And she can confirm that. I know how many female colleagues of mine that have begged me to date them and are willing to give me free sex. But I can't cheat on her even when she isn't giving me sex. Is it a crime to love? I want to do something that will pain her so well so she can stop coming close to me. Maybe I shouldn't wish her a happy birthday or post her on social media or buy her any gift. That's my plan now

once a man is in LOVE A NEW FOOL HAS BEEN BORN.


Not until you become wise you'll still be use by her.