We did the Yoruba traditional marriage and church wedding but no court wedding and I paid her dowries according to Yoruba tradition

BabbanBura:


Great comments!

Op, except if you didn't pay dowry on your first marriage in an Igbo culture, no one can take your kids and change their names, no one!

09122573727(quote author=Intergrated post=127305030]What did in just read. A woman changed your childrens name and you are alive. Op abeg send me your number.abeg[/quote]

I think so too. I want to learn how to be a bad guy. I am just too kind and soft

MrBroke:
All I can say is "you not man enough"

That's my side of the story. The day she was packing she told me she has been planning the divorce for 2 years

We4all:
You sound like a weak man. I also feel you are not saying the whole truth.

It's not arranged at all. We got married in a church and did the Yoruba engagement but no court wedding

OlawaleBammie:


Don't mind OP
It's either

1. OP is a fuul, creating fiction thread.
1. OP is not the biological father of those children and he knew room the beginning..OP can not perform, the marriage was just an arrangement marriage, rhe family friend was the owner if the marriage and the children.

Because if not so, how can u tell me ur wife divorce you and changed the surname of ur children while u re still alive??

Mu² OP think everybody is as fuulish as h!m

As at the time she brought the kette from court I was a depot head of the largest drink FMCG in the world (you can check the name Ab InBev online) and so I wasn't poor at all. I earn well

Jennyclay:
@bolded, of course he won’t answer the question.

The truth is, most these men are so poor that they can’t even take good care of themselves not to talk of their wife and children… and they would still be expecting true love from their wife . Shior!!

He most have deceived his wife into marriage, only for the wife to find out that he has nothing to offer then she peacefully leave with her children in order not to cheat on him.

Nobody wants to settle down for less my dear!!

I did. I paid dowries the Yoruba way

ahnie:

He nor pay DOWRY....Don't you gerrit.

Uhmmmm

ecolime:



A woman took your kids away just like that and changed their surname. I just have to believe that family friend she married is their real father and not you.

If truly you are their father, then Will Smith no SIMP reach you. You should still be crying till now. Spits

Exactly . No court wedding but we did all other sruffs

Intergrated:
how them take dey marry without dowry? . To the extent she carry am go court. I thought you do traditional and registry or church and traditional?

I am not 100% sure of the paternity as no medical test was done but I suffered on those children .I love them and too care of them to the best of my ability till she left with them

Kobojunkie:
She carry who go court? No court will allow a woman deprive a man of children that are his. It doesn't matter whether he paid dowry or not, legally, children born in a marriage belong to both husband and wife unless the children are not biologically the man's.

So, let's not pretend we know the story more than OP abeg!

It wasn't sir )ma

ahnie:
I want to believe your acct has bn HACKED.

I am now in Lagos please help me

Acidosis:



You don't have to believe anything yet. Just try and convince the op to provide details here. As long as he is ready to relocate to Lagos state, he will gain full access to his kids in max. 3 months.

I need help. Please help me

Acidosis:



Yeah, this thing can happen when the child in the picture is genetically dum.b.

To lay claims over a child you didn't birth biologically, you have to go through the legal route (e.g., adoption, etc.). Anything outside this scope is a complete waste of time.

We are not legally married as there was no court wedding but we did church wedding and the Yoruba engagement

Think9ja:
Who is this weak man?
You're crying, as per say person die or what?

God never create woman weh go temper with my seed

If I impregnate you and you don't want to keep it, better abort it without letting me know. Cos if I do know, you're keeping that baby whether I'm going to marry you or not. If you try anything funny, oloun I'm going spiritual.

Are you talking about someone you legally married here or some wajoko settings?

Your mum and dad will be disappointed seeing what a weak man you have become

I wish you well sha

I got the responses and I really appreciate the responses both negative and positive. I'm all fairness I feel I am too soft too as a man. Not stupid cos if you meet me in person you will know what I am saying but sometimes the wisdom of a wise man seems foolish. If you can help in any way, assist me

Janeola:
■ I got the responses and I really appreciate the responses both negative and positive. I'm all fairness I feel I am too soft too as a man. Not stupid cos if you meet me in person you will know what I am saying but sometimes the wisdom of a wise man seems foolish. If you can help in any way, assist me

Too soft as a man? What does that even mean? Stop fooling yourself as there is no such thing.

Can you force a woman to remain with you when she has no desire to? Do you think it even makes sense to force anyone to being in relationship with you? Stop buying bullsheet ideas fed you by others. Focus your mind on understanding the situation you are in and come up with a best fit solution instead.

Again, why was your ex able to take your kids away from you and even change their names? You still haven't answered that question. We are not mind readers, so you will have to open up about that.

Janeola:
■ I am not 100% sure of the paternity as no medical test was done but I suffered on those children .I love them and too care of them to the best of my ability till she left with them

Yet you stood by and allowed your ex take them from you and even change their name from yours, why?

Kobojunkie:
Why exactly did you completely lose custody of your kids from your first marriage? Your wife changing the name of the kids means you are not even acknowledged as their father at all. Divorce does not give anyone that right. So answer that question and that may help answer your current question as to whether you are also going to lose custody of your son if you and your wife were to go your separate ways.

2. The word "best" is relative though. What you think is best may not necessarily be considered best by the other person involved in the marriage so you need to be in continuous communication with your partner about these things for a marriage to work. So, how is communication between you and your spouse?

May God bless your wisdom cos have never heated such before in my life.

How can she changed their surname to d new husband or is d new husband d initial or original father of the kids 😳😳😲

Something is really wrong somehwere

Janeola:
I got the responses and I really appreciate the responses both negative and positive. I'm all fairness I feel I am too soft too as a man. Not stupid cos if you meet me in person you will know what I am saying but sometimes the wisdom of a wise man seems foolish. If you can help in any way, assist me

Answer this plz

How do u go about it by allowing your ex to go with the children to an extent of changing their surname 😳😳😳😲😳😳😲😳

Janeola:
I was married for 10 years, lost the marriage some 7 years ago. The marriage was blessed with two children. My wife left and married a family friend the very next month she divorced me and changed the name of the kids to her new husband's name . I cried and cried but was helpless as I don't have what it takes to fight back. I remarried after 5 years and 2 years down the lane it's looking like this one too might not work. The marriage is blessed with a son. He will be one year old in few days. Am I going to loose this my son again. Please help me. What do I do. I am doing my best in the marriages both the failed one and this one but it seems I am not just good with good women. If I divorce now . Can I be given custody of a year old boy ? I can't sleep. I have crying, I can't sleep. Please help me. What can I do

Dont be surprise another third marriage will fail too

By then people will conclude that the problem is from you and you go explain tire


Seat her down and ask her to tell you all the problems she is facing in this marriage that you want to solve them through her support and cooperation

Just start with that

But if you are feeling to big to bend down your pride and discuss with her

Then it's gone

This one strong o