Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

kkins25:


They are buying into the Disney world narrative of the beauty and the beast, or Ogre and Princess Fiona. E go shock them.

The moment a woman, naija woman for that matter, thinks her standard of living is better than yours, you're basically another human walking the planet. She has a lot of boundaries for such people that you dare not break. Somebody might want to say "Don't women marry poor men?" To that I respond, No. Poorer women marry poor men.

If you want to play the Beauty and the Beast game, you might be lucky in the West. Not here!

It's time men too for extremely successful men to start dating successful women. If you're earning 100k, you potential spouse should be at least 50k. But, Naija man, has a larger brain in between his legs.

ikeno:
Hypocrites and two face people full this forum.
He can't have a relationship with her cause she's a bank and he's a cleaner? But, a male banker can have a relationship with a female cleaner abi.
Try being friends with her, you can also compliment her on so many things.

outoftheworld:


Use your tongue count your teeth boy.
Are you not ashamed of yourself working as a cleaner in the bank?

I actually meant you should hustle and have a good source of income first.
I'm far older than you, that's why I'm advising you.
I learnt through experience, it's hard to get a nice girl to date you and remain faithful if you can't take care of her. Channel your energy and attention on standing up yourself first, girls can only weigh you down. Besides you can't keep a girl you can't take care of.
If you are doing well financially you can have any girl you want.

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

Mikespecialone:


This comment got me laughing 😂 😝 😂 😂

TheFreshVanilla:
This is what happens when you watch those youtube Nollywood movies like "How A Poor Cleaner Captured D Heart Of Her Banker Boss". Try your luck. Na slap you go chop.

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

AfahaAbia:


You sound American! Are you Nigerian or?

outoftheworld:


Use your tongue count your teeth boy.
Are you not ashamed of yourself working as a cleaner in the bank?

I actually meant you should hustle and have a good source of income first.
I'm far older than you, that's why I'm advising you.
I learnt through experience, it's hard to get a nice girl to date you and remain faithful if you can't take care of her. Channel your energy and attention on standing up yourself first, girls can only weigh you down. Besides you can't keep a girl you can't take care of.
If you are doing well financially you can have any girl you want.

FinidiGeorge:

Bad guy... Dangerous hunter I salute o.

SaintUlot:



I was following this your suspense filled story with keen interest, until you decided to wrap it up hurriedly. Abeg we need the detail story. It is very important.

VeeVeeMyLuv:


This is a great romantic story that ended well in happy ever after. You are fortunate, very fortunate. This is what we call open pure heart 💖. Not arrogance, ego or pride.

But in your case you were older right? 😃

But this op is younger than her and in lower class both in education and level career wise, he even admitted to have issues in his social life. 🤷🙊

Your case is far diff from his.

Ballzproblem2:
is he not a human being? na una type they push youths into crime

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

TheFreshVanilla:
This is what happens when you watch those youtube Nollywood movies like "How A Poor Cleaner Captured D Heart Of Her Banker Boss". Try your luck. Na slap you go chop.

illicit:
U wan toast d person wey dey send u errand?

U get mind o

What if she no gree?

She go use errand frustrate u

Superpack589:


I use to work as a cleaner in a bank branch a few years ago. I resigned in 2021 after working there for 4 years. During my work there, I was the youngest person in the entire branch so everybody sends me on errands. Those 100, 50 naira change on top was what I was after because they help me alot. After buying the food for my colleagues, I would use their change to also buy for myself too. At a time it became too much as they almost turned my primary job into an errand boy. I had to fight and stop the errands and focus on my future.

At the time, I only had waec which I even failed. It was with that cleaning job that I was able to write Nabteb and then furthered my education. If a school is around you, it will be easier. After morning cleaning, you can just go to class and if nothing is going on in school, you can return to the office and it is important to also have somebody telling you what's going on in school. Before you know it, you will be done with school and have the result to apply for a better position in the bank if you wish to continue working there. You have to focus on your future.

Fast forward to the topic at hand. Most young guys who have worked as cleaners experience this, especially if you are the one running errands for everybody. The ladies especially will treat you very well, you will almost think they like you. Most of them just want to continue using you. And you may just be having that feeling because you feel she can help your life easily.

I think some can be genuine anyway but the challenge is that the gap is too much. Cleaner and banker. They will always look at you lesser except it is just genuine love and the lady loves you too. The chances of this ever working is very slim and the stress is just too much. Both of you will not be able to work in peace in the bank anymore. If she really really loves you, she will tell you to stop running errands for others and will also be commanding you sometimes because she is above you in the office and you will not be able to take this for long. The challenge is just too much.

There was a particular petite lady at the bank where I worked as a cleaner. This lady just liked me. I almost felt she wanted me to be screwing her. She would come to the cleaner's office where I use to sit down most of the time (if there's nothing to do) and just rest her head on my shoulder. My preek go just stand. She does not do this to any other person in the bank. She was so close to me and just like touching me every time. The connection was very visible that my fellow cleaners were even telling me to advance that she was giving me green light. I was just too scared and afraid of doing it abeg. In my own case, I believe I would have been able to nack this lady if I was a bad boy.

Even apart from that particular lady, there were plenty of others in the bank who were just too nice to me that I had feelings for. Many, fine fine girls o. But I'd rather go and stand outside and toast one customer or student (because the bank was close to a big polytechnic) than toast a staff.

The problem is that you are bored. It happened to me too. So after morning cleaning, I would just go upstairs and start pressing my phone.
I loved writing so much and so at a time, I started applying for writing jobs on this nairaland. When I got a job, I would use my free time to do it and that filled up the gap so I was no longer bored because it was like doing two jobs at the same time. I eventually resigned and started writing full time. Now I earn in a month what some of those my former colleagues earn in 6 - 7 months. No jokes.

For now, what you should be focused on is how to build yourself up and get yourself a better future. On the other hand, you will definitely leave there one day so if you want to have some adventures and be able to tell those funny stories later, you can try asking her out. The world will not end. Just do it casually and don't count on her saying yes. She might say no and you move on with your life. Whatever happens from there, you can face it. You are a strong man.

I wish you good luck bro.