InvertedHammer:

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1. Do DNA on all your kids.
2. Your life is not safe.

A woman who can keep such secret from a husband is a bomb waiting to explode.

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emmanuelewumi:






Yes Yoruba women are encouraged to have houses, investments and other income generating assets. Yoruba women are entitled to inheritance from their parents.


My late grandma had houses , my late mother had a house, all my sisters have investment properties.


Na wife you marry, no be slave. But the wife as a partner who is making her own money is required to have a financial role in the running of the household expenses

Naijabad:
What will you do if your wife is secretly building a house in her fathers compound.

Naijabad:
What will you do if your wife is secretly building a house in her fathers compound.

tetula123:


The question is it being kept a secret. Nobody is saying she should not. Why keep it a secret. Leave what you are typing here. You definitely going to feel bad.

tetula123:


The question is it being kept a secret. Nobody is saying she should not. Why keep it a secret. Leave what you are typing here. You definitely going to feel bad.

madridguy:
I will support her with a trailer of dangote cement.

Naijabad:
What will you do if your wife is secretly building a house in her fathers compound.

IamMobisola:


How many couples who cheat tell their spouses about their cheating rendezvous? Isn't that a secret too? Lots of men have has kids outside their marriages and kept it a secret from their wives.
In a marriage, there will always be a secret. This shouldn't be any different

immortalcrown:
I will pray and work to be able to build our own house in my compound.

Any of her belongings that she does not willingly give to me is not worth fighting for, because what is gotten through violence may easily massage ego but can hardly give real happiness. I want to live long. You will die young if you don't overlook or endure certain things in marriage.

emmanuelewumi:



There is a woman who used to leave in my area, the husband opened a catering business for her. When she saved money, she asked me to assist her to get a land that she would love to surprise her husband by building a house.


I asked her to inform the husband who opened the business for her. When he told the man, he collected the money from the wive bought a bigger car, moved to a bigger apartment.


Husband was an Electrical Engineer.


The next time she saved money, she bought a land without telling the husband and also built a 3 bedroom apartment on it at Sango Otta


It was after the husband was retired and couldn't afford rent, that the wife opened up to the husband that she had built a house where the family could relocate to.

jmoore:
I will do nothing. She used her money, not mine.

tetula123:

The question here. We are assuming in a stable home. The woman does this. Is it right ?

immortalcrown:
I will pray and work to be able to build our own house in my compound.

Any of her belongings that she does not willingly give to me is not worth fighting for, because what is gotten through violence may easily massage ego but can hardly give real happiness. I want to live long. You will die young if you don't overlook or endure certain things in marriage.

amah4game:
curious to know how you would or can differentiate your money and her money in the project, bearing in mind one way or the other you give her money 🤔

emmanuelewumi:


Is she not working? Is there no household budget? Is she not contributing her quota of the budgets?

amah4game:

True talk..., she works, she contributes, but if she is the one mainly going to shop for up keep items for the home, for instance a naira cut here and a naira cut there over time fit buy cement

emmanuelewumi:

Does not point how you can differentiate your money and her money in the project 🤔
And a good woman would not build a house in secret without her husband knowing,



She is a good woman. She didn't use the naira cut here and there to buy hair, phone or do cosmetic surgeries, but she could build a house with the money


She is a very good money manager

LilMissFavvy:
You think most modern women care about the above? If you go and marry another woman, her life goes on. Just don't keep turning back to nag or fight for the children.

tetula123:

All you mentioned they do it. Does it make it right ?

immortalcrown:
I will pray and work to be able to build our own house in my compound.

Any of her belongings that she does not willingly give to me is not worth fighting for, because what is gotten through violence may easily massage ego but can hardly give real happiness. I want to live long. You will die young if you don't overlook or endure certain things in marriage.

bassdow:
Know a couple of Yoruba wives who have done this. No being tribalistic, just that all of them wey I know na Yoruba.

Guess they wanna play safe should their man marries another woman as is prevailent among Yoruba Men.

As for how I got to know, people mostly trust me enough to open up to me.

And when they know You're the sort who don't spread information (me dey forget our discuss as you dey talk am, hence you never would hhear it elsewhere except it's from you) about, then they don't have issues doing AMEBO with you.

As for mua, I give listening ear, afterall, AMEBO sweet especially when no be you be the subject

emmanuelewumi:




We don't know the home is stable or not, you are assuming the home was stable.



Life is too short to give oneself unnecessary headaches.


The husband has the option of building his own house without informing his wife, he can also decide to send her packing.


If a woman is employed, productively engaged, making her own and contributing her own quota to the running of the house, it is none of my business what she does with her money.


The OP should be happy he has a forward looking wife who is building and not using her money to buy phones, jewelries and cosmetic surgeries. The money some women spend on cosmetic surgeries can build a house.

4mee:
that's the deepest from of betrayal. i'll advice you review this for tips

ogawisdom:
Hmmm why is she hiding it from me?
To continuing billing me I guess?

I will ignore her and unleash my own secret on her.

It means we will keep alot of secrets in that marriage, who says I can't secretly marry and start another family elsewhere before kicking her out

NB I will support her if she is open about it and has been supporting in our home.

jmoore:
I will do nothing. She used her money, not mine.