ProudNigerian01: Funke Akindele is doing very well for herself and the Nigerian movie industry. Kudos to her and her likes.
Side note: Learn to be a giver especially to the poor. It will open amazing new doors for you. Give without expectation from the receiver but from God alone. Remember how you felt when you were given something, make someone feel the same way. The beauty of life lies in how happy other people are because of us.
Prov.22.9 - He who has a generous eye will be blessed, For he gives of his bread to the poor.
Prov.28.27 - He who gives to the poor will not lack, But he who hides his eyes will have many curses.
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waxxydude: Lmao, look at this r3-tarded idiot. Each response right from your first comment exposes your level of thought and mental assimilation.
I legit introduced your mind to a very valid instance on how you can indeed learn from films. And what is your response? ... You wonder why Nigerians are extremely backward. Keep being simpleminded and have a good day 😎
PS; you don't have to learn from all movies as some are ludicrous and purely for entertainment value, but you can learn ALOT from many mindful movies.
That chap is not worthy of any response from anyone.
If legit stats were sought out about the backgrounds of all the rapists in a given country, are you sure you can bet that most of them would be from homes with single mothers?
The statistics is that if I give a child to a single father and another one to a single mother, the chances that the child will turn out bad is higher for the single mother than the father.
1. Where did you see this specific statistic - please don't deploy the stats for dual parent homes for single father homes.
2. At all events, the underlying factor will be economic - given the likelihood that more men earn better.
A widow is not a single Mother.. nature's call is different from obvious bad decisions. When we say Single mother...you should understand what we mean here.
Printme: The movie was cool. A Nollywood movie I actually enjoyed in a long while.
At the same time, I think it reflects on a very key aspect of life that most people never give much thoughts to.
That is, a male child will always need their father.
Regardless of how much a woman will love the male child, they will always need their father to be good influences in the society.
She gave birth to five children and all their fathers were absent. It's a lesson for women. Once you spoil your life, men will continue to chop and go.
No man will ever want to settle and train another man's child.
It doesn't matter how much you try to manipulate them with the "it's a mistake" or "a real man ought to take care of another man's child"
It won't work. They will just chop you and go and probably add their own seeds since you want to be unfortunate that way.
Also, statistics shows that male children raised by single mothers tends to be the "bad eggs" in the society.
And we all saw that in the movie. Not even one of the children turned out fine for the society. Instead, they were filled with that selfish love that put only their needs into consideration and never the needs of others.
And that's the kind of love women can give their children. Only a father's disciplinary love tells the child that other's needs are important.
It is the father that seeks to make sure the male child, no matter how strong he is, he never used that strength for his own benefits alone.
If she had thought the children to protect others and not just herself, they probably would have turned out fine.
Overall, I think the movie was entertaining but the lessons were still there except you choose to ignore it.
abeg can you give me some top Nigerian movies I have not watched a Nigerian movie in years. I will love my family to experience it thank you
tiswell: Many wicked wives/women deliberately or subconsciously manipulates the children against their fathers,but I thank God the tide is fast changing. Men are now fully awake to the age long wickedness of women. Man will suffer to solely bear the financial weight and train his kids,only for him to be relegated in the long run,while the kids(now grown) sing praises of their mothers up and down.
Yes women do that too In my own experience most of the time men are responsible often because of domineering attitude and excessive violence. Men are responsible for managing their relationships with their sons. Nigerian men often fail ,believing all they have to do is provide money. In this generation that approach does not work and a lot of young men do not like to be around their fathers. We cannot blame women for that. That is why When people talk of single mothers I laugh. Some fathers are better not to have in your life. Being a father is a job and needs knowledge and training because times are changing
Lol... I haven't seen the movie to know how he came to his conclusions. Also, I'm not sure what he intends to achieve with that analysis/advice. However, it's not uncommon for people to view or analyze situations, events, stories, movies, etc. through the lense of thier preconceived mindset. One doesn't need to be a philosopher to know that his so-called lessons are narrow and skewed towards convincing women to take things that men wouldn't touch with a six feet pole.
NL guys are always quick to advise women, but 99% of the time, this is always geared towards women widening the window of thier tolerance to accommodate more misgivings from men. I don't have any issues with tolerance provided it goes both ways, but that's hardly ever the case. The OP conveniently ignored the fact that a lot of women lose thier husbands due to domestic violence, cheating or even death. Is he now suggesting that these women should stick to thier husbands and take it all? Ok, let's assume he's only advising those "bad" ladies that leave thier spouses for the silliest reasons, why doesn't he, in that same breath, advise the men that kick out thier wives with thier actions? Why doesn't he tell them that thier children might suffer the consequences? Why doesn't he advise the men that mess around with the hearts of these single mothers just to "chop and go"? Why is he making it as these things are men's birthright and the women are the ones that have to alter thier ways to accommodate the nature of men? I mean, he just pointed out how mean some men can be, but it's the women he's advising to change.
Anyway, it's true that fathers play a big role in the lives of thier kids. This is not because a woman cannot bring the finance, sternness or authority the stereotypical man is known for but because raising a child is simply a difficult task for one person regardless of gender. However, we must never lose sight of the fact that a child raised by a single parent is better off than one raised in a violent home and in many cases, they do end up well. So sometimes, parting ways could be in the best interest of the kids.
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Biglittlelois: Imagine dismissing the effort of single mothers that chose to stay and care of her kids, what stops single fathers from being father figures for their kids?
Waiting for Op to answer this questions
Thank God its coming from fellow men, had it been it's from women, the number of mentions filled with insults would have been 7 pages.
But a well trained child with morales will understand the difference between good and evil.
But more importantly, each side has consequences.
You equate money with turning out fine? Bros they may not turn out to be common thieves. But trust me, there are worst evil that men do that you can only imagine
He is talking about raising children, what makes a widow different from a single never married mother in terms of child raising?
A widow is a single mother who has lost her husband, she's single, she's a mother, their father is absent and she's doing all by her self.
So what's the difference.
I said it's contextual! And I reference what it means
A widow might have grown up children that are married and with kids! That's y I said it is contextual.... meaning women with little kids that are either out of wedlock or those baby mamas
Lol... I haven't seen the movie to know how he came to his conclusions. Also, I'm not sure what he intends to achieve with that analysis/advice. However, it's not uncommon for people to view or analyze situations, events, stories, movies, etc. through the lense of thier preconceived mindset. One doesn't need to be a philosopher to know that his so-called lessons are narrow and skewed towards convincing women to take things that men wouldn't touch with a six feet pole.
NL guys are always quick to advise women, but 99% of the time, this is always geared towards women widening the window of thier tolerance to accommodate more misgivings from men. I don't have any issues with tolerance provided it goes both ways, but that's hardly ever the case. The OP conveniently ignored the fact that a lot of women lose thier husbands due to domestic violence, cheating or even death. Is he now suggesting that these women should stick to thier husbands and take it all? Ok, let's assume he's only advising those "bad" ladies that leave thier spouses for the silliest reasons, why doesn't he, in that same breath, advise the men that kick out thier wives with thier actions? Why doesn't he tell them that thier children might suffer the consequences? Why doesn't he advise the men that mess around with the hearts of these single mothers just to "chop and go"? Why is he making it as these things are men's birthright and the women are the ones that have to alter thier ways to accommodate the nature of men? I mean, he just pointed out how mean some men can be, but it's the women he's advising to change.
Anyway, it's true that fathers play a big role in the lives of thier kids. This is not because a woman cannot bring the finance, sternness or authority the stereotypical man is known for but because raising a child is simply a difficult task for one person regardless of gender. However, we must never lose sight of the fact that a child raised by a single parent is better off than one raised in a violent home and in many cases, they do end up well. So sometimes, parting ways could be in the best interest of the kids.
Printme: The movie was cool. A Nollywood movie I actually enjoyed in a long while.
At the same time, I think it reflects on a very key aspect of life that most people never give much thoughts to.
That is, a male child will always need their father.
Regardless of how much a woman will love the male child, they will always need their father to be good influences in the society.
She gave birth to five children and all their fathers were absent. It's a lesson for women. Once you spoil your life, men will continue to chop and go.
No man will ever want to settle and train another man's child.
It doesn't matter how much you try to manipulate them with the "it's a mistake" or "a real man ought to take care of another man's child"
It won't work. They will just chop you and go and probably add their own seeds since you want to be unfortunate that way.
Also, statistics shows that male children raised by single mothers tends to be the "bad eggs" in the society.
And we all saw that in the movie. Not even one of the children turned out fine for the society. Instead, they were filled with that selfish love that put only their needs into consideration and never the needs of others.
And that's the kind of love women can give their children. Only a father's disciplinary love tells the child that other's needs are important.
It is the father that seeks to make sure the male child, no matter how strong he is, he never used that strength for his own benefits alone.
If she had thought the children to protect others and not just herself, they probably would have turned out fine.
Overall, I think the movie was entertaining but the lessons were still there except you choose to ignore it.
Raising a child is the duty of both parents. But in the absence of one or both parents, extended family members and guardians are the NEXT in line to fill that void.
In any event, I have seen many women raise their children single-handed or with the support of a respectable father-figure like an uncle in the lives of the kids, most especially the boys (in the absence of the biological father's). In the event that the woman has NO clear career path she is into, then money or sustainable income becomes a challenge and things go south on the home front for the kids who then become rebellious, skip school, pilfer items, and gravitate towards bad friends and recreation drugs or hard drugs.
A tribe called Judah is a very interesting movie and it does have a lot of real life lessons to learn from. Our choices determines our result. No negative choice leads to any positive end, rather others would be put at risk if care is not taken. Kindly watch FUTURE SELF, a message that captures the real life experiences of most of us. You will love it.
