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Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:27pm On Jan 21
I'm 27 and my body count is 2.

Had my first s*x when I was 22 with my then girlfriend, we did it 3 times and it was honestly not bad. She enjoyed it, especially my 3rd attempt after I have gained good experience from my 1st and 2nd experience, she attested to it that the 3rd time was fire.

I stayed celebate after that 3rd experience till I met my now girlfriend, whom I dated for 2 years before having penetrative s*x with her for the first time on my 26th birthday, of which was her first experience.

It wasn't fun at all for me, I struggled to penetrate her that I mostly only fingered her due to the penetration difficulties and her writhing in pains.

Our second time came with the same experience, but was quite better. On both occasions she complained of pains down there that extends to over 2 days.

Our 3rd was much better, penetration was possible but still not as seamless as I experienced with my first girlfriend I had s*x with.

I have gone ahead to do it more times with my girlfriend but we still experience penetration difficulties.

Please is this normal? Because it is really frustrating and sometimes when this frustration gets to my erect dick it loses erection and I sometimes just get fed up.

Could it be that her pussy is too tight or could it be because my dick is curved. But I'm surprised because I never experienced this penetration difficulties during my first time.

Can you relate to this?
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Itooweak4una: 8:31pm On Jan 21
Do you know something called "lubricant"?

You can get it at any supermarket or pharmacy close to you.
But if you're too shy, use olive oil or vaseline to massage your penis before penetrating.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:37pm On Jan 21
Itooweak4una:
Do you know something called "lubricant"?

You can get it at any supermarket or pharmacy close to you.
But if you're too shy, use olive oil or vaseline to massage your penis before penetrating.
Thanks for your suggestions.

Actually I noticed it could be a lubrication problem, which made me get Durex lube at some point but still there was no much difference. Tho it became quite better.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by budaatum: 8:37pm On Jan 21
It is nature's way of protecting girls from men till both parties are mature enough to understand the consequences of what they intend doing.

It is a relic today, as humans have found a way to lubricate and enter and mitigate the circumstances.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:39pm On Jan 21
budaatum:
It is nature's way of protecting girls from men till both parties are mature enough to understand the consequences of what they intend doing.

It is a relic today, as humans have found a way to lubricate and enter and mitigate the circumstances.
So a 27 yo male and a 22 yo female are not matured enough to have s*x?

And between, at 22 when I first had sex, penetration wasn't a problem at all.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by illicit(m): 8:42pm On Jan 21
Either she's stiffening or not wet

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by budaatum: 8:43pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

So a 27 yo male and a 22 yo female are not matured enough to have sex?

Age has nothing to do with maturity. And this is not about being "mature enough to have sex", but about having mature knowledge about sex.

It is obvious that the op, despite his age, is not sexually mature, probably due to him focussing on becoming mature in other more important things.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by budaatum: 8:45pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

And between, at 22 when I first had sex, penetration wasn't a problem at all.

Op may not be going for the open women you are going for. He and his partner do seem not to have your experience.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:47pm On Jan 21
budaatum:


Age has nothing to do with maturity. And this is not about being "mature enough to have sex", but about having mature knowledge about sex.

It is obvious that the op, despite his age, is not sexually mature, probably due to him focussing on becoming mature in other more important things.
Okay, I agree I am totally not sexually matured.

That is why I'm curious and want to know if this is normal for some girls, especially ones with limited sexual experience. Also, I want to know how we can improve this.

Thanks

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:51pm On Jan 21
illicit:
Either she's stiffening or not wet

🥵
Advice me please.

How can I get her to stop stiffening or become very wet?

Because I actually do lots of romance and foreplays before attempting penetration.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by budaatum: 8:53pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

Okay, I agree I am totally not sexually matured.

That is why I'm curious and want to know if this is normal for some girls, especially ones with limited sexual experience. Also, I want to know how we can improve this.

Thanks

Oh! I'm so sorry. I did not recognise you were the op in my latest response.

Sex, like most things, require learning and experience to do right. And I commend you for your thread seeking learning, which I will let those more mature than me give to you.

All I'd add is that you let love continue to be a significant part of your sex.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by illicit(m): 8:55pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

Advice me please.

How can I get her to stop stiffening or become very wet?

Because I actually do lots of romance and foreplays before attempting penetration.

Maybe watch porn together
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 8:57pm On Jan 21
illicit:


Maybe watch porn together
Really appreciate this and will give it a try.

But is actually a weird one lol
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by fyzaila: 9:11pm On Jan 21
Stop fornication, abstain till marriage.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:15pm On Jan 21
fyzaila:
Stop fornication, abstain till marriage.
Why?

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by DystopianMuse(f): 9:17pm On Jan 21
Stop taking advantage of the naive girl ijn.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:17pm On Jan 21
DystopianMuse:
Stop taking advantage of the naive girl ijn.
Stop being an idiøt ijn

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Nezero(m): 9:21pm On Jan 21
Plenty of pre-intimacy.

Communicate.

Take plenty of time.

Explore her body.

And if e no still happen as you like, laugh over it and try again tomorrow

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by fyzaila: 9:21pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

Why?

As if you don't know it's not good. undecided

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:24pm On Jan 21
fyzaila:


As if you don't know it's not good. undecided
Why is it not good?
For your information, my life is not guided by some religious laws.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:28pm On Jan 21
Nezero:
Plenty of pre-intimacy.

Communicate.

Take plenty of time.

Explore her body.

And if e no still happen as you like, laugh over it and try again tomorrow
Thanks for this.
That's exactly what we've been doing o. We laugh over it and I make her understand that we still have many years ahead for it to get better cool
But I really need solutions. Is frustrating.

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by matify83: 9:30pm On Jan 21
She is frigid resulting in vaginismus
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:30pm On Jan 21
matify83:
She is frigid resulting in vaginismus
Hmm, make I browse about the meaning of this one lol
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by codedgalaxy: 9:31pm On Jan 21
Op your partners are tensed which results in dryness and difficulty in penetration. Maybe because you doing a sloopy job, and they can tell you're an amatuer at it.
Trust me if a woman feels your vibe wella everything will be running out of her hole. From creaming to squirting to orgasm and lots more.
Which can somtimes be embarassing cause, you be bringing out your bed to sundry after the act damn!
I would have ascribed it to health issues but it doesnt look like its one since same thing occured with two diffrent girls.
My advise try to up your game.
There is more to sex than the act.
Sex is more of mental game than you think.
For there is a way you ooz profond charisma, a woman will be so drenched in her wetness just cause of a single glance from you damn.
Let me not cap much.
You can always come for extramoral lessons lol.

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Codedgalaxy

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by DystopianMuse(f): 9:31pm On Jan 21
E PAIn am!! Rapist gringrin
Auxtan:

Stop being an idiøt ijn

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:35pm On Jan 21
codedgalaxy:
Op your partners are tensed which results in dryness and difficulty in penetration. Maybe because you doing a sloopy job, and they can tell you're an amatuer at it.
Trust me if a woman feels your vibe wella everything will be running out of her hole. From creaming to squirting to orgasm and lots more.
Which can somtimes be embarassing cause, you be bringing out your bed to sundry after the act damn!
I would have ascribed it to health issues but it doesnt look like its one since same thing occured with two diffrent girls.
My advise try to up your game.
There is more to sex than the act.
Sex is more of mental game than you think.
For there is a way you ooz profond charisma, a woman will be so drenched in her wetness just cause of a single glance from you damn.
Let me not cap much.
You can always come for extramoral lessons lol.

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Codedgalaxy
Are you sure you read my post well?
I said, my first girlfriend I had s*x with, I never experienced penetration difficulties, while my girlfriend now and the girl I will spend the rest of my life with, I struggle to penetrate her during s*x.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:38pm On Jan 21
DystopianMuse:
E PAIn am!! Rapist gringrin
Like I said before, stop being an idiøt ijn.
I'm adding, GROW UP now.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by ukaface(f): 9:47pm On Jan 21
Mtcheeeew

Radarada

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 9:49pm On Jan 21
ukaface:
Mtcheeeew

Radarada
You could have just skip the post.
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by ukaface(f): 10:02pm On Jan 21
Auxtan:

You could have just skipped the post.
But I didn’t

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Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by Auxtan(m): 10:03pm On Jan 21
ukaface:

But I didn’t
Your problem
Re: Why Is Penetrating Her Difficult? by imagrg(m): 10:10pm On Jan 21
Your preek is becoming weak and a weak preek cannot penetrate a partially open toto.

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