Yoruba will say

Ori buruku

Hmm

Not good

Forget stereotype and all fallacies.

Marriage has no formula. Do what Suites your home!

And don't let society shape your marriage for you. If you like live in your parents house. If you like dont.

No formula for marriage.

NikoDeBonAmi:
These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.

If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.

go back and read your own post yourself, this time, reason like a mature mind, then return and answer the question by your self.

rentAcock:
Absolutely nothing wrong with it, as a matter of fact, that's what I did. I got married and lived in the same house with my parents and siblings. While living with them, I was saving massively. My wife and I went back to school as well and got masters degrees. We had no kids for the 3 years we lived there so it was manageable. This allowed us to save enough money to build our own house without any debts. So it is financially wise to live in your parents house while married. You get to know each other more, it strengthens the bond between your wife and her inlaws and there's this sense of appreciation you have when you finally get your own place.

Op is talking about permanent stay in he's parents home. Lol

Nice2023:



U brought a topic and u still don't want us to air our opinion.

U are too immature. Is like u are being spoon feed at home and that's why u want to live till u are 60years in ur fathers house.

Be deceiving yourself.

U want to enslave another man's daughter,lazy man.

Leave op alone... He wants to die in he's parents house lol.

It depends.

Living in your parents house is different from living with your parents in the same house after getting married.


So, if you mean living with your parents in their house after getting married, is very wrong.

It doesn’t define u as someone responsible or capable of building a home and caring his responsibilities. But if na abroad and ur parents have BQ at the back of the building for u to stay for free, u wouldn’t mind oo, cuz rent is fucking high. We count too many things in naija because life is relatedly cheap, especially rent.

NikoDeBonAmi:
These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.

If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.

It's wrong brr!!! Anyhow u like put am!!! You've to stand on your own as a man... Period... Abi u no wan buy or build ur house? Change that mentality brr

Everything, everything is wrong.

There’s no formula
Different strokes for different folks, know what works for you and what doesn’t.

Shikena

Nothing! Absolutely nothing!

NikoDeBonAmi:


That's very wrong. I know many people married and staying in parents home with their wives and there is nothing like that tagging witch thing. I guess you just watch too much Nollywood movies. As a matter of fact most of the ladies I know are taken as eggs by their inlaws in the home.

Oga you don't know anyone . I put it to you

independence that's what wrong.

But if you are oriented as a proper socialist, Then you an extension of ur family. If they in line, so be it.


Nothing is good or bad thinking make it so.

_shakespear

Nazgul:
Your mom and your female siblings wouldn't respect your wife. She won't feel comfortable in that house

Only a desperate woman would marry a man living in his parents house.

What is this one saying?

Just say that is how they behave in your place and don't generalize.

NikoDeBonAmi:
These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.

If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.

Women don't like it, they won't be comfortable with such arrangement, cos they won't be able to press your mumu button at will.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it, I take care of my family business and it is very close to my family home, also all my siblings are outside the country, I see no reason why I will not stay in my family home when I get married, the whole flat is empty except for my mum's room, which is also vacant anytime she goes on vacation outside the country, although it's every man's wish to build his own house but we must start from somewhere, save first and build your own castle. So every one's case is different.

stasius:
Forget stereotype and all fallacies.

Marriage has no formula. Do what Suites your home!

And don't let society shape your marriage for you. If you like live in your parents house. If you like dont.

No formula for marriage.

the most realistic comment ever

Jamieb:

Oga you don't know anyone . I put it to you

Keep kwayet please, no be everything be lie.

I know two guys married and living in their parents house with their wives.

Both of them have duplexes(standard/confirm ones, no be gbegbe ones) that is 92% to 95% completed when last I checked.
One of them have at least 4( I don't know the actual figure) different buildings he uses for rent.

So, what is your point exactly?

I think it's just the mentality. Social media is good but then it's also bad in some ways. In the sense that, it has shaped some peoples' reasoning upside down. There's absolutely nothing wrong in living with your parents when you have a large house.That's if they want. They would even assist you in taking care of your kids well, if you and your wife are working class.

For me, my dad is late and my mom lives with me and my wife. She formally stays in the village, but I discovered she's always falling sick. So I went to bring her to live with me and my wife, that's after discussing with her(my wife) and she agreed. Since she has been living with me, no more sickness. She's always happy and doing one or two to keep herself busy and she's not lonely again. She has BP but I help her to manage it. Takes her drugs and eats well. I also check her BP anytime I come back from my hustle.

Don't allow social media to shape your life for you. Do what pleases you and works for you.

Ulogwe1:
Living in your parents house is different from living with your parents in the same house after getting married.


So, if you mean living with your parents in their house after getting married, is very wrong.

According to which constitution?

Honestly speaking, I don't see anything wrong in it . But if you are a grown man, you are not expected to still be living with your parents.
It reduces a man to almost no body

Barbiturate:
I think it's just the mentality. Social media is good but then it's also bad in some ways. In the sense that, it has shaped some peoples' reasoning upside down. There's absolutely nothing wrong in living with your parents when you have a large house.That's if they want. They would even assist you in taking care of your kids well, if you and your wife are working class.

For me, my dad is late and my mom lives with me and my wife. She formally stays in the village, but I discovered she's always falling sick. So I went to bring her to live with me and my wife, that's after discussing with her(my wife) and she agreed. Since she has been living with me, no more sickness. She's always happy and doing one or two to keep herself busy and she's not lonely again. She has BP but I help her to manage it. Takes her drugs and eats well. I also check her BP anytime I come back from my hustle.

Don't allow social media to shape your life for you. Do what pleases you and works for you.

God bless you. It is really absurd how yeye social media is trying to configure people's ideology and mentality when it comes to certain issues in life.
There is no ideal.
Do what is good for you and your home. Simple.

Everyone has their own choices, and there's no one-size-fits-all rule. It's not accurate to say it's strictly good or bad. Let me break it down: Leaving your parents' house is wrong if it's just because of what people might say. If you're leaving their big house just to rent your own due to societal expectations, who is your financial adviser?

It might be right to move out, especially if you'll be living under the same roof(same kitchen, living room e.t.c) as your mom and wife. These women are likely to clash and it could lead to problems. However, if your mom is easygoing, it might be okay.

For instance, I know my own mom. If my family has a big house and I want to live in our town, why wouldn't I stay in my father's house?

It was one of the greatest mistakes I ever made

ZIMDRILL:


Every woman wants her own kitchen, decoration etc

Every woman wants a house that accomodates relatives including her own

Every woman wants to built what is hers and the children not what drags family relatives


Living with in mother and father in law's house makes it difficult for woman to do that

In simple terms your growth and freedom is limited, when living under someone's roof. Have your own roof where you direct and call shoots

I don’t want any relatives in my house. both mine and hers.

So if someone's wife moans loudly, that's how the whole house will be shaking. How do you expect them to look at you the next morning during daily devotion?

You are looking for trouble

jmoore:
If nobody is pursing you and your parents house is close to were you work, please remain in your father's house.

I saw many people lamenting about house rent in one thread like that.

Ignore people's opinion. They are not the one feeding you.

I will only leave my father's house when I have enough money to build a better house.

Hmmm… I thought I made a mistake agreeing to live with my husband in his father’s house… but at some point it would be tiring… I can’t wait for us to move into our own home so I can at least treat my husband to different meals and take care of him properly