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Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Oracleee: 7:44am On Jan 26 |
What is wrong is the poor man's stereotype idea attached to it. Inherently, there might be personality clash between your mum and wife if it's in the same structure. Especially kitchen duties. Even my mum and sister do disagree on certain things kitchen wise and household arrangements, now imagine a whole foreign lady coming into the picture. This might be the greatest kibosh to me. But if in the same compound but different buildings, omoh it's a win win. A doctor friend is married with two kids and still stays in his Dad's compound. He his doing very well alongside the wife hitherto. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by MrBroke(m): 7:46am On Jan 26 |
Truvelisback: I don't understand how rent is the problem here, except you want to live above your means, rent is nothing. Let say you make 50k monthly, your rent should be 100k, look for a house of that range and cohabit with your spouse and grow from there. Our problem is living above our means. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 7:47am On Jan 26 |
Ahmed0336: See thinking! Chai! Then, in the old age, you will be lamenting why you don't get to see children paying you visits, lol. You haven't even said why you hate it yourself and for your children |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by jmoore(m): 7:47am On Jan 26 |
LEARNPYTHON:Dem dey use chat GPT to play with your head. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by MrBroke(m): 7:47am On Jan 26 |
Oracleee: Exactly |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 7:50am On Jan 26 |
Nice2023: Really? My wife, my mother and I were living together in her husband's house, I got married in there. When I built my house, all of us still moved together with the kids. My wife and mother have have been living together for 12 years, no friction and no one is tagged a witch. Only God knows where you guys always get this notion! Nice2023:And I just quoted you above. And one more thing, who is running the house between the two: my wife is in the control of how the home is being run 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by OBTOREPA(m): 7:51am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi:Mathew 19:4-5-6 |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Iamzik: 7:54am On Jan 26 |
JessicaRabbit: I like how you write... nice and fluid |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 7:58am On Jan 26 |
Nice2023: What a mentality? Wetin u want the Arabs do? Their generations live together despite having money and wealth. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by CandidAdmin(m): 7:59am On Jan 26 |
hakeemhakeem:In the same house? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by sylve11: 8:01am On Jan 26 |
JessicaRabbit: Well said. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 8:02am On Jan 26 |
Tokskob2008:What's wrong in this part of the world or what makes it wrong in this part of the world? We're always too much concerned with the opinions of people about us. We would rather do what people/society expected of us than do what is better and convenient for us. Thank God I don't belong in that class |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by sylve11: 8:04am On Jan 26 |
CatchMeIfUCanMO: |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Nice2023(m): 8:07am On Jan 26 |
BitterTruth0001: Mr. Man keep quiet...if u want to be pampered go to ur family house. Nairaland isn't anyone's family house. What contribution have u made?...jobless man. Just poking into another person's quote. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 8:07am On Jan 26 |
ZIMDRILL: Hehe! What's this kind of mindset? Is it a curse to continue living there? Even the Whites are not this too harsh on themselves! Besides, I don't know any culture in Nigeria that forbids it or stigmatise it. Nazgul:Now, I have heard everything. There is this rich man in our city. Every male child married into his small "estate" at first, they later moved out when they themselves were becoming big men in the society. If you had such a man as a dad, wealthy and loving, it would take you time to finally move your family out 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by rationalhuman(m): 8:10am On Jan 26 |
One of world`s Richest families, the Ambani Family (Most expensive House on this planet) and Adani and so many other lives together. There are millions of middle class families live together, its is considered a prestige. In Many Asian Family oriented cultures it is considered a shame to live separately. 1Sharon: 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Iamzik: 8:11am On Jan 26 |
JessicaRabbit: ๐๐ |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by maasoap(m): 8:16am On Jan 26 |
Oluwomonext212:It is wrong if the location is Nigeria but it is okay if the location is abroad, right? Or, may be I didn't catch the sarcasm sha |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by LEARNPYTHON(m): 8:18am On Jan 26 |
JessicaRabbit:At the bolded, I'm tempted to argue that you're better than her actually. Your response on your religious leanings confirms my supposition ๐, and it makes me admire you the more. I know it will be difficult for someone with an analytical and philosophical mind like yours to be completely in agreement with an organized religion where there's so much irrationalities that can be observed quite easily. Are you a writer, professionally ? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Clinghton: 8:19am On Jan 26 |
Unless you're the first born, apart from that I find it uncomfortable I love privacy. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Erastuslove: 8:40am On Jan 26 |
If all the parties involved are doing well and enjoying themselves without porknose NO WAHALA LOVE GO STILL DEY THERE AND RESPECT 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by SocialJustice: 8:52am On Jan 26 |
rentAcock:People like you make nairaland worth it in your own little way. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Preciouschinwe(f): 8:53am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi:not advisable, for peace and respect |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by tiswell(m): 8:54am On Jan 26 |
Everything is wrong with it |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by kellexnuel(m): 8:58am On Jan 26 |
Everything is wrong with that ideology. You can't make your own rules when you are living in your father's compound even if you have a separate quarters. You wife is limited, caged can't make her own rules. If u believe in God, the Bible says a man should leave his father's house and rent his own house. Whether your family is peaceful or holy or good doesn't change God's instruction. The blessings is in following instructions. Abraham was caged because he lived with his father for 75 years. Why didn't God bless him in his father's house because his parents are nice people or the siblings are homelyand accommodating. Am married and i know how much i pay as rent but i don't regret it. I love it every day with zero regrets God's favor keep showing up every day for me. I am living with my wife and beautiful baby girl |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Kingzjayzee: 9:07am On Jan 26 |
Your patents moved out of their own parents house. Why would your own be any different? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by JessicaRabbit(f): 9:25am On Jan 26 |
LEARNPYTHON: I am flattered, truly! But I still insist that comparing me to Chimamanda Adichie is like pitting a sprightly haiku against a sprawling epic. Thank you for the kind sentiment though! Your response on your religious leanings confirms my supposition ๐, and it makes me admire you the more. Again, thanks! I know it will be difficult for someone with an analytical and philosophical mind like yours to be completely in agreement with an organized religion where there's so much irrationalities that can be observed quite easily. In spite of the contradictions, the inconsistencies, and the sheer lack of empirical evidence, I wouldn't necessarily place myself in direct opposition to organized religion. It's more of a...fascinated bewilderment, you see? Like watching a particularly flamboyant, yet oddly persistent, game of dress-up from the sidelines. Are you a writer, professionally ? Yes, I actually am. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Quebec91(m): 9:49am On Jan 26 |
Gbam ๐ Ahmed0336: |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Quebec91(m): 9:49am On Jan 26 |
abi na jmoore: |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Samfloxin(m): 9:50am On Jan 26 |
rentAcock:You didn't achieve those things because you were living there, after all, how much is rent? You lived there because there was peace and you made the achievement because you and your wife are earning well and prudent in savings |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by CatchMeIfUCanMO: 10:02am On Jan 26 |
sylve11: Imagine o |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by jmichael259(m): 11:29am On Jan 26 |
ZIMDRILL: Whether permanent or temporal, it doesn't stop a lady from having her own kitchen, decorations, building her own etc. Like someone replied you, many married people are living in single room or one bedroom RENTED apartments. If that doesn't restrict them, why or how will occupying a portion of their family house/compound be restrictive? |
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