wrongnumber:


Let him marry the two. Stop disturbing our peace. Too many troubles in the land.

1Sharon:
I know your heart lies with the billionaire's daughter. You now perceive your child's mother as damaged goods, even though it's your child she birthed

Most men with baby mamas usually end up marrying a childless woman.

Vawulenciano:
All Nairalanders please help him with advise.


A friend narrated his story to me and I'm hiding his identity while bringing the issue to Nairaland to help me know what to advice him by speaking on it.
This is the story.



I need advice.
Between the lady that was there with you when there was nothing and the one who made you rich, which one is best for marriage and you are only allowed to marry just one.



I'm Ijaw from Bayelsa State.
I loved this girl. She loved me too. She told her father she want to marry me, her father say if she leave his house he will rent out the room he gave her.
She said no problem that she will marry me and she took her properties then pack to my house in another town but neighbouring Community and different LGA.
Her father kept his word.
Rented it to students for the place was University area and student rented it fast.
My father said he doesn't like the lady that I should send her away, me knowing that she lost her house for my sake told my father that I won't and when I saw that my father was bent on sending her away, I said instead of she to leave, I'll pack out with her and I did.


Then I went and build a basher at my own place for I have land and we started living there.
Things became so hard and we left that place and travelled out because nobody wants to support us from our both families.
We travelled to Benin with our last cash and started sleeping at front of a shop at night while we work menial jobs by day.
Hoping that we later go Lagos and rent better house after saving some money and we start life there.



After sometime, we missed each other and couldn't find each other.
This girl was already pregnant for me and we had taken blood oath back in Bayelsa that nothing would ever separate us.
She cut her self with Matchet for my sake and I did same then we joined the fresh bloods together.



Couldnt find her and later gave up because we missed each other.
Later I travelled to Ghana with a friend then I came back Nigeria and got work in Port Harcourt.
Later met another Ijaw lady from Kalabari and she was from Billionaire family and an only daughter.



After sometime together
I asked her to marry me and she said yes.
I had some millions in my account and she had some roles she played before I became millionaire.
Now, my other woman that lost for so long has come with a son and say we must marry for she trace me back home and my people called me for I and them settled and became family again.




The girl did not spoil the pregnancy and she has now brought back a boy.
What can I do, the other lady is saying she won't agree either.


All my ancestors I can remember only had 1 wife each.
My 5 fathers from great great grandfather to my father all had one wife.
I can't handle two.
One wife is in my family DNA.


Please I need help.
How can I settle this?

cocolacec:


Marry the two women,those women love you deeply.You can break tge jinx of one wife in your wife.

Nigeriableeds:

All guys are not the same just like all ladies are not the same.

1Sharon:



So you truly believe that?

marsup:
What has the other lady with the child been doing ever since they lost contact? Didn't she move on with someone else? How has she been able to improve herself since?
You are married now, take care of your child, and do what you can for the lady. Do not break your home for her, else you will lose everything.
What the hell is a blood covenant anyway?

jude79:
If you're the only man in the world with two of them, won't you marry them
When Elon musk, the richest man in the world, was faced with whether to abandon one business or run the two together, he choose to run the two together, today both businesses are doing well, forget any inhibition, marry the two, they are equally important.

Vawulenciano:


He has not married the rich babe officially but they have both agreed for the marriage and were about to get it done before the other one came.


Blood convenant is strong something o.

marsup:

The choice is his to make.
Again I ask, what has the other been doing since they lost contact?

Vawulenciano:


Probably she couldn't go back her father's home because she disobeyed him and followed the guy and she couldn't go back the guy's family place for his people do not want to see her with eyes and she felt that the only way to gain pity or audience is when she has birthed the child because she knew he wouldn't be at home but with that child, his people would listen her and tell her where he is.

Vawulenciano:
All Nairalanders please help him with advise.


A friend narrated his story to me and I'm hiding his identity while bringing the issue to Nairaland to help me know what to advice him by speaking on it.
This is the story.



I need advice.
Between the lady that was there with you when there was nothing and the one who made you rich, which one is best for marriage and you are only allowed to marry just one.



I'm Ijaw from Bayelsa State.
I loved this girl. She loved me too. She told her father she want to marry me, her father say if she leave his house he will rent out the room he gave her.
She said no problem that she will marry me and she took her properties then pack to my house in another town but neighbouring Community and different LGA.
Her father kept his word.
Rented it to students for the place was University area and student rented it fast.
My father said he doesn't like the lady that I should send her away, me knowing that she lost her house for my sake told my father that I won't and when I saw that my father was bent on sending her away, I said instead of she to leave, I'll pack out with her and I did.


Then I went and build a basher at my own place for I have land and we started living there.
Things became so hard and we left that place and travelled out because nobody wants to support us from our both families.
We travelled to Benin with our last cash and started sleeping at front of a shop at night while we work menial jobs by day.
Hoping that we later go Lagos and rent better house after saving some money and we start life there.



After sometime, we missed each other and couldn't find each other.
This girl was already pregnant for me and we had taken blood oath back in Bayelsa that nothing would ever separate us.
She cut her self with Matchet for my sake and I did same then we joined the fresh bloods together.



Couldnt find her and later gave up because we missed each other.
Later I travelled to Ghana with a friend then I came back Nigeria and got work in Port Harcourt.
Later met another Ijaw lady from Kalabari and she was from Billionaire family and an only daughter.



After sometime together
I asked her to marry me and she said yes.
I had some millions in my account and she had some roles she played before I became millionaire.
Now, my other woman that lost for so long has come with a son and say we must marry for she trace me back home and my people called me for I and them settled and became family again.




The girl did not spoil the pregnancy and she has now brought back a boy.
What can I do, the other lady is saying she won't agree either.


All my ancestors I can remember only had 1 wife each.
My 5 fathers from great great grandfather to my father all had one wife.
I can't handle two.
One wife is in my family DNA.


Please I need help.
How can I settle this?

Ginik:
some people have not ever read more a single verse of the bible since January

Vawulenciano:


Probably she couldn't go back her father's home because she disobeyed him and followed the guy and she couldn't go back the guy's family place for his people do not want to see her with eyes and she felt that the only way to gain pity or audience is when she has birthed the child because she knew he wouldn't be at home but with that child, his people would listen her and tell her where he is.

marsup:

Please let your friend take care of the child, and settle the lady. Let them break any "covenant they went into".
He should marry the recent girl he knows now, not just for money, but for the fact that he loves her and has proposed.
He can't afford to call off the engagement now.

Vawulenciano:


He is saying he prefers the one that was sleeping outside the streets with him before but he fears the reaction of the other one.
He fears the reaction of the rich babe and her people.

marsup:

He has to make a choice, so everyone can move on.
It's a tough one though, it requires wisdom.
Personally, I'm worried about what the other lady with the child has been doing all these while they were apart, where she's been , what she has been up to.
She might not be the same person he used to know. He shouldn't marry out of pity, and because he feels obligated to.

WantsandMore:
Why were you both separated if you've always been struggling at that point in time?

Vawulenciano:


All he told me was that they missed each other and couldn't locate each other in Benin City just like I wrote in his words at the post there.

WantsandMore:
as a good listener, pickup points, sometimes our friends hide details in conversations Just so we can validate an already made decision they've taken. But if you want to be an objective judge, find out everything you can, ask questions that may make them uncomfortable because you don't want to be answerable for another man's mess up. Because people r quick to say stiff like " But na you say" "But you told me too" all of this just to avoid taken responsibility. Do you understand?

Vawulenciano:


When he left her he followed other people so now that he saw her, he felt she was the best.
Nevertheless, blood oath is spiritual something.
It calls you no matter what kind of life you want away from it.


Let's assume the lady had some not nice ways when they went apart, but then she came back and said him or nothing else..

Don't you think she has made up mind?

Vawulenciano:


He is saying he prefers the one that was sleeping outside the streets with him before but he fears the reaction of the other one.
He fears the reaction of the rich babe and her people but still asking me to help him think it through.


The guy don confuse about the matter.

marsup:

Marrying the wrong person, is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone.
I wish him the best of luck.

jude79:



Naturally, he should marry the one that loves him most, which of course is the billionaire's daughter, he will be cursed by nature into poverty, if he rejects her, the only thing that qualifies the old girlfriend is the blood oath, not the child, the child can be taken care of even without them being married, if she was determined to find him, she would have done so, whenever she surfaces in his life difficulties follow, but because of the oath of a thing, he should marry them both and keep them in separate apartments, shikena

Vawulenciano:



Haha.
But I don't think this is true.

jude79:



Naturally, he should marry the one that loves him most, which of course is the billionaire's daughter, he will be cursed by nature into poverty, if he rejects her, the only thing that qualifies the old girlfriend is the blood oath, not the child, the child can be taken care of even without them being married, if she was determined to find him, she would have done so, whenever she surfaces in his life difficulties follow, but because of the oath of a thing, he should marry them both and keep them in separate apartments, shikena