This's just too sad.

Na wah o!

I will go to the place later today to see if I can locate these people. I will offer them 1,000 naira for sex with the wife. Her mouth should still be functunal. Just hope she does'nt have body odor.
I don't believe all the sob stories. The man is a layabout.

^^stay away from that family and it will be well with you.

Johndoe100:

I will go to the place later today to see if I can locate these people. I will offer them 1,000 naira for sex with the wife. Her mouth should still be functunal. Just hope she does'nt have body odor.
I don't believe all the sob stories. The man is a layabout.

looool dickhead, oboy u no well o

@tpia@

Take it easy. There is nothing wrong in what JD is saying. It's just life in Lagos. No free lunch for Eko, don't you know that? The money is his to do as he likes with.

Johndoe100:

I will go to the place later today to see if I can locate these people. I will offer them 1,000 naira for sex with the wife. Her mouth should still be functunal. Just hope she does'nt have body odor.
I don't believe all the sob stories. The man is a layabout.

If you really can spare N1K and I know you can, please abeg, give it to her and dont ask her for anything in return. The hand that gives is always on top.

michelin89:

Oh please. Do women get pregnant every time they Be Intimate? Condoms are not the only way to practise safe sex, if he comes out the moment he releases, the chances of impregnating his wife wil become very slim.

They are just ignorant and irresponsible parents. No sympathy for them, but a lot of pity for their kids.

Not having money is not an excuse to have 100 kids because they can't afford condoms.

Women dont get pregnant everytime they Bleep it just happens that somehow those who dont really want/need the babies get pregnant easily - check the mad women on the streets, the teenage gurls and the poverty stricken woman with a jobless husband under the bridge.
Making love especially with a legal partner doesnt give room for withdrawal method. Its just not right

Step 1 - Verification: We need to ascertain that Monday Obuh is a real person that lives under a bridge with his family.
Step 2 - Need Assessment: We need to assess the degree of need(medical, housing, economic) from the people directly involved; in this case, Mr Monday Obuh and his wife. The general state of well being of the couple and their child will be assessed. Also find out we will use KII to find out what Mr Obuh did for a living and why he failed at that. Fourthly, we will also find out what kind of business Mr Obuh can do to sustain his family.
Step 3 - Intervention: I suggest we use Meaningful Involvement of People Affected (MIPA) We set up a bank account with Mr Monday Obuh and CAIV as signatories. That way one party cannot withdraw money without the knowledge of the other. This is for transparency; and to build trust. We will also create a direct line of communication (a gsm number) between Mr Obuh and anybody willing to donate. At any given time, you can find out what is being done and how much is in the account.
Step 4 - Monitoring : The first six months to one year will be crucial. We need to help Mr Obuh and his wife make the right decisions so they don't go back to the bridge. This is where our counselors come in. They will receive regular counselling at least for the first six months to ensure their reintegration into normal life is as smooth as possible.
This is a summary of what can be done. We can start this week. At the very least we should get this couple decent accommodation to ensure the survival of both their children.

^ nice info, Crotalus. Hope it comes out of the spambot soon.

Do you mind cross referencing it with what Mrs Chima and Talina opined on the thread r231 created?

www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-802184.0.html#msg9542518

Thanks to everyone who wants to help.  I daresay there is some mental illness at play here.  According to the story, the woman's family put pressure on her to leave the husband.  While she's admirably refused to do that, I don't see why she can't go stay with someone for a while until she and her husband can be reunited.

That man will never be able to find time to go seek work as long as the whole family is living in such condition.  Because I suspect he needs to stick with the wife so she doesn't get jumped by the hooligans in the area.  That's what goes on when you live on the street, I imagine.  

The best help will be, not gifts of cash (to prevent the likelyhood of robbers attacking them), but a way to get them lodging with one years paid rent.


P.S: We had a similar story this time last year - about a destitute 5-yr-old.  It was hard doing much from afar.  Many of us were ready to contribute whatever we could spare.  But efforts to generate interest from people (Naijas who are already so worn down by daily life) was fruitless, to be honest.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-565111.0.html

Thankfully, a followup article stated that the boy had found a home.  Hope he's doing well.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=591914

^^^ This is what I would like to see. 1 years paid rent for that family. I think then they would have a chance to get things together and not be so stressed out. They could take a deep breath,and smile when looking for work.

I won't be surprised if this couple tells you that condoms & other contraceptives are sins, God put us in this position & will provide for our children. That's how silly Nigerians have become, even the very poor ones.

I think the man is lazy. I live in Lagos and believe me, menial jobs are not so hard to find. There are car washes in every corner of Lagos where he can earn like N1000 or more per day. I really pity the poor kids but I think a lot more questions need to be asked before anyone steps in to help. You might just be throwing away your money.

Odunnu:

Women dont get pregnant everytime they bleep it just happens that somehow those who dont really want/need the babies get pregnant easily - check the mad women on the streets, the teenage gurls and the poverty stricken woman with a jobless husband under the bridge.
Making love especially with a legal partner doesnt give room for withdrawal method. Its just not right

michelin89 is not serious.

a man is jobless, he stays at home 24/7. what else is he expected to do apart from shaggi[i]n[/i]g his wife?
besides that, poverty fosters fertilization. i don't think i have ever seen a barren woman that is poverty stricken in my entire life.
all poor people produce children like magic. many don't even need medical care. they produce the children in their bedroom without a midwife.
i am on a research. if you know any well-to-do woman who cannot put to bed - she should leave her life of opulence and try the rough life for a year.
i guarantee you, she would put to bed.

lukkie:

I won't be surprised if this couple tells you that condoms & other contraceptives are sins, God put us in this position & will provide for our children. That's how silly Nigerians have become, even the very poor ones.

I think the man is lazy. I live in Lagos and believe me, menial jobs are not so hard to find. There are car washes in every corner of Lagos where he can earn like N1000 or more per day. I really pity the poor kids but I think a lot more questions need to be asked before anyone steps in to help. You might just be throwing away your money.

We could analize this and guess all day,but the fact is, they have been living under a bridge for too long a time and for whatever reasons. I would gladly help them get in a place for a year but then its up to them to help themselves. It a leg up! If everyone chipped in a bit of money, its irrelevant to worry about it IMO. A family will have a home!Isnt that enough?

While I agree wholehertedlyy with mrs Chima's suggestions, I must go with talina's. When a person needs help, you help them. Now. Yes is all well and good to set up Nairaland Charity, a website and partnership with UNESCO. I bet you the couple will probably be dead before any of these gets off the ground.Its a miracle the child survived this long. We have dealt with these people severally. It will take weeks, months even, to do what she is talkin about. Very few people grasp the urgency needed here. Talina is one of them. WHAT WE NEED TO DO RIGHT AWAY IS REMOVE THIS COUPLE FROM UNDER THE BRIDGE AS A MATTER OF URGENCY.

You've done it before, please do it again with your NGO. dunno why i'm so uncomfortable with you

WHAT WE NEED TO DO RIGHT AWAY IS REMOVE THIS COUPLE FROM UNDER THE BRIDGE AS A MATTER OF URGENCY.

how to go about that?

Who here is in Lagos?

talina:

Who here is in Lagos?

[s]i'm not, but even if i was i might not want to get directly involved. [/s]

I think its good to work with formal/established structures in situations like these.

How many ppl on NL run NGOs or work for NGOs?

Crotalus seems to be the only one so far, and he happens to be willing.

1. If we cant get substitutes/alternatives, perhaps he can do the needful to remove the doubts and reservations people have about him?

2. He has mapped out a strategy. Can he execute it alone or what assistance will he require?

r231, whats the agenda or next step for our NGO? Seems Seun doesnt want to get personally involved and thats understandable. It might just be a cell thing then. Item 2 is?

There are people on this forum I would entrust as the treasurer, and I would send a donation to, if they would be willing to rent the place and inform the couple living under the bridge. I would do the hands on work,with the support of members here, if I could. It just seems so simple to me and its frustrating.
Its like: Collect the money
Person goes and pays the rent for a year on an apartment
Then, go inform the couple and give them bus money,or take them there

Am I being naive about the simplicity of this?

a lot of people are looking for ways to reach this couple, but it seems there arent a lot of avenues to contact them.


no one seems to know how to go about it.

God have mercy!

But wait oh,Is Cele bus stop not the one close to Chosen church @ Amuwo odofin?I can't help but wonder why they've not been able to get help from millions of people who obviously pass them by on their way to and fro church.

I don't also buy the snake part,i know that place quite well and there possibly could be no such rodents that side.The journalist added that for pity effect.

Anyone verified this story yet,the said couples actually exist?

I'd see if I can locate them btw today and morrow and if i do,wud get a different set of pictures of them and upload here(if they consent),find out why the man is not hustling,how to possibly contact them etc.

^^^ You know the place! Well,snakes,rodents or not, theyre still homeless . I dont know why something like this would be reported for no reason but how then, can this be verified?

snakes can live anywhere and there are swamps, canals, ponds, puddles etc not too far from that area.

@Talina,I want to believe I do.
If they meant Cele @ Amuwo Odofin then Yes,I do.
I modified my previous post.lol

ifyalways:

@I want to believe I do.
If they meant Cele @ Amuwo Odofin then Yes,I do.
I modified my previous post.lol

Wonderful! This is good! Thank you

ifyalways, You made my night!

ifyalways:

God have mercy!

But wait oh,Is Cele bus stop not the one close to Chosen church @ Amuwo odofin?I can't help but wonder why they've not been able to get help from millions of people who obviously pass them by on their way to and fro church.

I don't also buy the snake part,i know that place quite well and there possibly could be no such rodents that side.The journalist added that for pity effect.

Anyone verified this story yet,the said couples actually exist?

I'd see if I can locate them btw today and morrow and if i do,wud get a different set of pictures of them and upload here(if they consent),find out why the man is not hustling,how to possibly contact them etc.

Please do, ifyalways.

I was there yesterday. When people live under bridges, they don't spend the day there like they rented the place. They vanish during the day and come there at night. It was an interesting experience.

@tpia
I read your original post. I thought they has cured you. Never tell me what I can or can not do capish?

If you aint ready to find them a job other than housecleaning, plz leave the folks alone
The man looks like he carries a certificate, the woman on the other hand. . . . .

This is why women should get their education and find high salary end jobs. If your man cant work, you be the bread winner

Having children in poverty. . . SMH!

While we ll continue to lament over this family's dielemma, there is need to be very carefull at the same time. Look we know the hardship in Lagos, but some ppl we do everything portraying their leaders with the worst image ever. This man doesen't look ill enough not to be able to pick up a job that can cover up the cost of putting a roof over his family. There are lot questions to yet to be answered.
-why is he raising a family under a bridge?
-Does this man have friends or family members who aren't sleeping under the bridge?
-Is he seeing other families who aren't living under the bridge?
-Are there no brickslayer jobs in Lagos
-Are there not ppl doing conductor in molue buses?
-Is no rubber plantation in his village or the village nereby?
-Does Lagos state has a socialsystem that states that homeless ppl need to be cared for?