Elohorp:


Will do him no good in court actually
Infact he won't be allowed to present them

I don't know about the UK system. From what i have learned from a few friends in America, your lawyer files a counter claim most times and that is why you are advised not to engage her or disclose your new location. That way, you can't be served any papers by the court and makes her case dismissed in many cases. While in your own case, a more suitable judgment is gotten for you. You might lose more to her but you don't lose all and if she is working, she doesn't get alimony since you are both given custody of the children.

It is really messy because the children and the couple suffers the pains of a broken home.

GboyegaD:


I don't know about the UK system. From what i have learned from a few friends in America, your lawyer files a counter claim most times and that is why you are advised not to engage her or disclose your new location. That way, you can't be served any papers by the court and makes her case dismissed in many cases. While in your own case, a more suitable judgment is gotten for you. You might lose more to her but you don't lose all and if she is working, she doesn't get alimony since you are both given custody of the children.

It is really messy because the children and the couple suffers the pains of a broken home.

Am not talking of UK but American

Hmm sir two people can never be given custody of the same children,it's one person has custody and the other has visitation right

And the court must always award child support to the one with custody

Even if she doesn't know your location a good lawyer will change it from divorce cash to abandonment case in the matter it has turn to a very serious case,and if you are working in a big company or for government,ahh you go hear am

That running away thing only works when you don't have children if you have children,he go purge you and if you run hope you know without a legal divorce you can't remarry and if you die lass lass na your legal spouse na own everything you get
When going aboard as a couple it's best to be in love and put God and your children first

If not for shyness I would have put a little personal experience of mine hear
But let's just say when you take your wife aboard,don't maltreat her and up your bed game,she go loyal,I know a Nigerian lady that handover her earnings to her husband,till the man told her she shouldn't worry about doing that,as a man use prick and love to control your wife

Elohorp:

Am not talking of UK but American

Hmm sir two people can never be given custody of the same children,it's one person has custody and the other has visitation right

And the court must always award child support to the one with custody

Even if she doesn't know your location a good lawyer will change it from divorce cash to abandonment case in the matter it has turn to a very serious case,and if you are working in a big company or for government,ahh you go hear am

That running away thing only works when you don't have children if you have children,he go purge you and if you run hope you know without a legal divorce you can't remarry and if you die lass lass na your legal spouse na own everything you get
When going aboard as a couple it's best to be in love and put God and your children first

If not for shyness I would have put a little personal experience of mine hear
But let's just say when you take your wife aboard,don't maltreat her and up your bed game,she go loyal,I know a Nigerian lady that handover her earnings to her husband,till the man told her she shouldn't worry about doing that,as a man use prick and love to control your wife

I have friends who have joined custody and experienced the same in Canada. All that is needed is proof by both parties of their capabilities to take care of the children. Examples for the man are not limited to when she goes to work and youbtake care of the kids or when she travels and you had to take care of the kids etc. So what happens is that the kids are picked up by the school bus on Friday morning and dropped with the other parent in the afternoon and that happens every other weekend.

So what this means is that they are with one parent from Friday afternoon to the next Friday morning and vice versa. Why I said it is burdensome is because both parents need leave within a reasonable mile of each other and may not be able to explore in all ways from career to social etc.

GboyegaD:


I have friends who have joined custody and experienced the same in Canada. All that is needed is proof by both parties of their capabilities to take care of the children. Examples for the man are not limited to when she goes to work and youbtake care of the kids or when she travels and you had to take care of the kids etc. So what happens is that the kids are picked up by the school bus on Friday morning and dropped with the other parent in the afternoon and that happens every other weekend.

So what this means is that they are with one parent from Friday afternoon to the next Friday morning and vice versa. Why I said it is burdensome is because both parents need leave within a reasonable mile of each other and may not be able to explore in all ways from career to social etc.

Honestly I don't know about Canada but in us have never seen that

And I believe that can only happen when the divorced peacefully not with battle

And from what I just asked about custody the highest earner must pay the lower earner alimony and child support no matter how many times you carry them,child support is fixed on how much you earn
And the experience of your lawyer also helps alot

Elohorp:


Honestly I don't know about Canada but in us have never seen that

And I believe that can only happen when the divorced peacefully not with battle

And from what I just asked about custody the highest earner must pay the lower earner alimony and child support no matter how many times you carry them,child support is fixed on how much you earn
And the experience of your lawyer also helps alot

Even more in the US. In the case where both have good income and have joined custody, the thing the man usually looses is the mortgage he has paid. Interestingly, the woman is compelled to pay the mortgage going forward if she is keeping the house.

Not sure about imbalanced income as I don't know of any situation like that. In situations like this where one party is acting this selfish, the other partybshould file a counter suite.

obaidan:

people born out of wedlock no dey succeed?

And where did you see that statement you made? What directly concerns wedlock with success?

Dybala11:

And where did you see that statement you made?
What directly concerns wedlock with success?

Well

GboyegaD:


Even more in the US. In the case where both have good income and have joined custody, the thing the man usually looses is the mortgage he has paid. Interestingly, the woman is compelled to pay the mortgage going forward if she is keeping the house.

Not sure about imbalanced income as I don't know of any situation like that. In situations like this where one party is acting this selfish, the other partybshould file a counter suite.

I just asked my husband,see as he dey look me🤣
Any way joint custody the higher earner still has to pay alimony and child support to the lesser earner and the higher earner is usually men and for that refunds of mortgage theres no law like that in America,he explained some things to me about the house and car if there's kids but too long to type,also most men don't even want joint custody because of their jobs,so they don't bother fighting in court,joint custody is a real battle
America laws are highly against the men oh
No play go there, America laws are mostly in favour of women,out of hundreds divorce cases,90 will grant the woman alimony and child support
Because the men are usually the cause of the problem in America
And the country is positioned to have men as higher earners so they are the ones usually paying child support

Elohorp:


I just asked my husband,see as he dey look me🤣
Any way joint custody the higher earner still has to pay alimony and child support to the lesser earner and the higher earner is usually men and for that refunds of mortgage theres no law like that in America,he explained some things to me about the house and car if there's kids but too long to type,also most men don't even want joint custody because of their jobs,so they don't bother fighting in court,joint custody is a real battle
America laws are highly against the men oh
No play go there, America laws are mostly in favour of women,out of hundreds divorce cases,90 will grant the woman alimony and child support
Because the men are usually the cause of the problem in America
And the country is positioned to have men as higher earners so they are the ones usually paying child support

Not in the case of joined custody. Perhaps, research more on this.

GistMedia0:
A Nigerian woman called social workers to chase her husband out of their home, citing alleged maltreatment. The couple's argument quickly escalated as each side presented their grievances, shedding light on a complex situation.

The husband, whose identity remains undisclosed, fired back at his wife's claims by revealing he had spent a staggering £24,000 on her school fees from the beginning to the end of her education. Additionally, he highlighted that he was the one paying for the house they lived in, making her request for him to leave all the more bewildering.

In a heated exchange, the woman retorted, "I no born children for you?" This remark struck a nerve as it came to light that she was the one keeping their children while simultaneously asking him to vacate the premises.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cWXJRosQRA8

The problem is that Most Nigerian woman has the heart of stone. Unforgiveness, anger , do me i do you back runs in there veins.

GboyegaD:


Not in the case of joined custody. Perhaps, research more on this.

Nah I no want research more,I done tire I no dey plan to get divorced, information not really useful to me

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