This is a true life story. I want married men and women to learn from it. I am a young woman in my early 50s. I have 3 kids with my husband. We are doing great in the beginning our our relationship. I am a career woman. I worked in a good company but pay was not encouraging while my husband works with a company as well. We are both resident of Osogbo. We both loved each other. Due to salary issue at home, we both put resources together to start selling chicken foods very close to our resident. We got the shop through my father-in-law. Both of our parents are residing in Osogbo. I had all my children without CS, let us say I am a lucky woman.

My husband can die for his family. He loves me and the children. We don't do festive season in Osogbo. We always travel to Lagos and Abuja to explore good environments. We started this during our courtship. I do love the traveling. Though, we are planning to travel to Dubai this year if God permit. I am a fervent church goer. I love working for God. I love going to church, attending church programmes. We are members of a very popular church. My husband's work does not permit him to attend some of the programmes in church, I understand. That is why I am a woman to support him. Our children are doing great as well.

I started having anxiety over my husband. Why? He is a Marketing Manager in a branch. I did understand the work earlier but I don't know what happened to make me start having feelings that he is having affairs with colleagues at work. My husband does not smoke or ever see him with alcohol or beers. He comes home exactly 8pm in evening. Like I said, we started the business to be able to assist him financially. I don't like seeing him thinking over house rent, school fees etc. We have extended family members in our list as well.

Back to infidelity, I am a social woman. I am on Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok, name it. I believe in making new friends on social media. I thought making friends or using social media will boost my sales or give me connection I want. We need money as well. If I am permitted to attach my old Facebook account, all my friends are married old men which I think we may not have feelings for. I do love my husband and I can't exchange him with anyone. The mistake I made started when I started checking my husband phone. He is a loose type. He does not password his phone. I can't count series of messages I read on his WhatsApp, Facebook messengers from beautiful women. But I forgot that I married a very young and handsome man. He is every woman's dream. I too started giving chances to men on my social media accounts, dash out my numbers just to retaliate what he is doing to me.

I deleted all my messages with them before bed or immediately. Everybody does this, including my husband. Nobody can come out with opposite sex messages and show it to his or her spouse. I give him such respect. My husband too started noticing my attention with men on social media. I almost burnt down the our house forgetting I have soup on fire, I was busy chatting with an old man, though he asked me out and I told him I can't, he respected me for that. i did not know he had different agenda for me. I was having negative minds towards my husband that maybe one day, he will throw me out of the house. I had done all I could to frustrate him to do so but we could only fight verbally, he had never raised his hands over me. I slapped him one day and what he did was to leave house immediately. I even one day chatted with one of his lover on Messenger which he later knew about. I was looking for all opportunity to leave him because he is having an affair. Hold on, he has never missed coming home early after work, he has never missed my food at home, he has never stopped paying bills at home, then where is infidelity coming from. My heart does beat anytime I see him greeting an opposite sex.

My problem started when I mistakenly visited an old man I met on Twitter (X). The man promised me heaven and earth. He promised to take good care of me. I like good life as well. I want to end the struggling. I gave him my number, we do call on WhatsApp, chat on Instagram or Facebook which I always delete immediately. He gave me N800k to support my business and promised to establish supermarket for me. Had I known that women's brains are like that of cockroaches. I felt for his promises. He invited me to Lagos one day. I lied to my husband that I have an occasion with a friend. He always allows me to attend any occasion because of trust he had in me. After all, I am his wife. The man picked me up from Berger in Lagos to one of his hotels in Lagos. I was spoiled that day. I could not allow him to touch me because of my conscience, though I like to date him as well but he is married too. He asked his driver to take me back to Osogbo that day. It was just a day function I told my husband. He did not know anything.

One day, my husband was rushed to the hospital dead but later revived. I was called and he said that he did not want to see me around him. I did not know what is going on. How could my own husband said that to me. He left home healthy now. He called his father and narrated what happened to him. His father was so mad at him that he wanted to die because of a woman. He spent 4 days in hospital because he had attack (High blood pressure) all because he read messages I had with this rich man on my phone. He did not believe I could lied going to Lagos to visit a married man. He trusted me so much. Despite all this, I keep lying that nothing happen between us. He decided never to have sex with me again. He separated the room. Meanwhile, I still chat with other men on my social media. I still give out my numbers to them because I am addicted to it.

He came home one faithful day and packed all his clothes and left. I did not see my husband for months. He did not call or pick my calls. I had to visit his parents and apologise. A family meeting was called and all was settled. Though before then, my husband had started planning on how to issue me divorce paper. I almost lost my lovely husband. What surprised me was that anytime he advised me, my heart beat because I am giving audience to opposite sex on social media. To cut the story short, my home is back with love.

What I did?
I ended all relationship with opposite sex
I unfriend all married and unwanted friends
I focused on my home and business
I trust him and he does too

Obinrin

Who go dey read this long epistle now

I wish my story is sent to front page for others to learn from.

Was he responding to those beautiful women and chatting them up, or he would ignore their messages? Did he initiate those messages? I'm sure he most likely did.

Married men should just stop chasing and chatting with single women. If you know you're going to have ojukokoro after marriage and make your wife insecure, stay single. I'm always very disgusted when married men (most of whom are Nigerian men) try to talk to me on FB. I always think it's not right for them to be chatting with single women when they've a wife, plus it's just not my thing. I've lost count to how many I've blocked, lols.

All that said, OP, you did do too much in retaliation, giving your numbers to men and chatting with them, visiting that man and going out with him. That your
husband was chatting with other women (which I don't condone!) is no reason to do payback and even worse. You said he was home every night at 8pm, so at least you could rest assure that he wasn't actually dating another woman or having a physical affair but you were heading towards that with that man. You've to be careful so you don't destroy the sacredness of your marriage and home. Two wrongs can't ever make a right.

9jaceo:
This is a true life story. I want married men and women to learn from it. I am a young woman in my early 50s. I have 3 kids with my husband. We are doing great in the beginning our our relationship. I am a career woman. I worked in a good company but pay was not encouraging while my husband works with a company as well. We are both resident of Osogbo. We both loved each

The boldfaced, a woman in her early 50s is not a young woman. She is a middle aged woman.

9jaceo:
This is a true life story. I want married men and women to learn from it. I am a young woman in my early 50s. I have 3 kids with my husband. We are doing great in the beginning our our relationship. I am a career woman. I worked in a good company but pay was not encouraging while my husband works with a company as well. We are both resident of Osogbo. We both loved each other. Due to salary issue at home, we both put resources together to start selling chicken foods very close to our resident. We got the shop through my father-in-law. Both of our parents are residing in Osogbo. I had all my children without CS, let us say I am a lucky woman.

My husband can die for his family. He loves me and the children. We don't do festive season in Osogbo. We always travel to Lagos and Abuja to explore good environments. We started this during our courtship. I do love the traveling. Though, we are planning to travel to Dubai this year if God permit. I am a fervent church goer. I love working for God. I love going to church, attending church programmes. We are members of a very popular church. My husband's work does not permit him to attend some of the programmes in church, I understand. That is why I am a woman to support him. Our children are doing great as well.

I started having anxiety over my husband. Why? He is a Marketing Manager in a branch. I did understand the work earlier but I don't know what happened to make me start having feelings that he is having affairs with colleagues at work. My husband does not smoke or ever see him with alcohol or beers. He comes home exactly 8pm in evening. Like I said, we started the business to be able to assist him financially. I don't like seeing him thinking over house rent, school fees etc. We have extended family members in our list as well.

Back to infidelity, I am a social woman. I am on Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok, name it. I believe in making new friends on social media. I thought making friends or using social media will boost my sales or give me connection I want. We need money as well. If I am permitted to attach my old Facebook account, all my friends are married old men which I think we may not have feelings for. I do love my husband and I can't exchange him with anyone. The mistake I made started when I started checking my husband phone. He is a loose type. He does not password his phone. I can't count series of messages I read on his WhatsApp, Facebook messengers from beautiful women. But I forgot that I married a very young and handsome man. He is every woman's dream. I too started giving chances to men on my social media accounts, dash out my numbers just to retaliate what he is doing to me.

I deleted all my messages with them before bed or immediately. Everybody does this, including my husband. Nobody can come out with opposite sex messages and show it to his or her spouse. I give him such respect. My husband too started noticing my attention with men on social media. I almost burnt down the our house forgetting I have soup on fire, I was busy chatting with an old man, though he asked me out and I told him I can't, he respected me for that. i did not know he had different agenda for me. I was having negative minds towards my husband that maybe one day, he will throw me out of the house. I had done all I could to frustrate him to do so but we could only fight verbally, he had never raised his hands over me. I slapped him one day and what he did was to leave house immediately. I even one day chatted with one of his lover on Messenger which he later knew about. I was looking for all opportunity to leave him because he is having an affair. Hold on, he has never missed coming home early after work, he has never missed my food at home, he has never stopped paying bills at home, then where is infidelity coming from. My heart does beat anytime I see him greeting an opposite sex.

My problem started when I mistakenly visited an old man I met on Twitter (X). The man promised me heaven and earth. He promised to take good care of me. I like good life as well. I want to end the struggling. I gave him my number, we do call on WhatsApp, chat on Instagram or Facebook which I always delete immediately. He gave me N800k to support my business and promised to establish supermarket for me. Had I known that women's brains are like that of cockroaches. I felt for his promises. He invited me to Lagos one day. I lied to my husband that I have an occasion with a friend. He always allows me to attend any occasion because of trust he had in me. After all, I am his wife. The man picked me up from Berger in Lagos to one of his hotels in Lagos. I was spoiled that day. I could not allow him to touch me because of my conscience, though I like to date him as well but he is married too. He asked his driver to take me back to Osogbo that day. It was just a day function I told my husband. He did not know anything.

One day, my husband was rushed to the hospital dead but later revived. I was called and he said that he did not want to see me around him. I did not know what is going on. How could my own husband said that to me. He left home healthy now. He called his father and narrated what happened to him. His father was so mad at him that he wanted to die because of a woman. He spent 4 days in hospital because he had attack (High blood pressure) all because he read messages I had with this rich man on my phone. He did not believe I could lied going to Lagos to visit a married man. He trusted me so much. Despite all this, I keep lying that nothing happen between us. He decided never to have sex with me again. He separated the room. Meanwhile, I still chat with other men on my social media. I still give out my numbers to them because I am addicted to it.

He came home one faithful day and packed all his clothes and left. I did not see my husband for months. He did not call or pick my calls. I had to visit his parents and apologise. A family meeting was called and all was settled. Though before then, my husband had started planning on how to issue me divorce paper. I almost lost my lovely husband. What surprised me was that anytime he advised me, my heart beat because I am giving audience to opposite sex on social media. To cut the story short, my home is back with love.

What I did?
I ended all relationship with opposite sex
I unfriend all married and unwanted friends
I focused on my home and business
I trust him and he does too

In this same osogbo, Ex Hoeniranu obinrin niyin ma. Sin no more

ojotobiloba1:

In this same osogbo, Ex Hoeniranu obinrin niyin ma. Sin no more

Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

This life no balance oooo. Let us guide ourselves as men and also our wives. God will help us all. Nobody should condemn the woman at all. It can happen to anyone. Our homes will not break in Jesus name.

9jaceo:


Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

Glad to hear this. May Almighty God gives you the wisdom, perfection not to fall to temptation again. Wishing your home all the best.

9jaceo:
This is a true life story. I want married men and women to learn from it. I am a young woman in my early 50s. I have 3 kids with my husband. We are doing great in the beginning our our relationship. I am a career woman. I worked in a good company but pay was not encouraging while my husband works with a company as well. We are both resident of Osogbo. We both loved each other. Due to salary issue at home, we both put resources together to start selling chicken foods very close to our resident. We got the shop through my father-in-law. Both of our parents are residing in Osogbo. I had all my children without CS, let us say I am a lucky woman.

My husband can die for his family. He loves me and the children. We don't do festive season in Osogbo. We always travel to Lagos and Abuja to explore good environments. We started this during our courtship. I do love the traveling. Though, we are planning to travel to Dubai this year if God permit. I am a fervent church goer. I love working for God. I love going to church, attending church programmes. We are members of a very popular church. My husband's work does not permit him to attend some of the programmes in church, I understand. That is why I am a woman to support him. Our children are doing great as well.

I started having anxiety over my husband. Why? He is a Marketing Manager in a branch. I did understand the work earlier but I don't know what happened to make me start having feelings that he is having affairs with colleagues at work. My husband does not smoke or ever see him with alcohol or beers. He comes home exactly 8pm in evening. Like I said, we started the business to be able to assist him financially. I don't like seeing him thinking over house rent, school fees etc. We have extended family members in our list as well.

Back to infidelity, I am a social woman. I am on Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok, name it. I believe in making new friends on social media. I thought making friends or using social media will boost my sales or give me connection I want. We need money as well. If I am permitted to attach my old Facebook account, all my friends are married old men which I think we may not have feelings for. I do love my husband and I can't exchange him with anyone. The mistake I made started when I started checking my husband phone. He is a loose type. He does not password his phone. I can't count series of messages I read on his WhatsApp, Facebook messengers from beautiful women. But I forgot that I married a very young and handsome man. He is every woman's dream. I too started giving chances to men on my social media accounts, dash out my numbers just to retaliate what he is doing to me.

I deleted all my messages with them before bed or immediately. Everybody does this, including my husband. Nobody can come out with opposite sex messages and show it to his or her spouse. I give him such respect. My husband too started noticing my attention with men on social media. I almost burnt down the our house forgetting I have soup on fire, I was busy chatting with an old man, though he asked me out and I told him I can't, he respected me for that. i did not know he had different agenda for me. I was having negative minds towards my husband that maybe one day, he will throw me out of the house. I had done all I could to frustrate him to do so but we could only fight verbally, he had never raised his hands over me. I slapped him one day and what he did was to leave house immediately. I even one day chatted with one of his lover on Messenger which he later knew about. I was looking for all opportunity to leave him because he is having an affair. Hold on, he has never missed coming home early after work, he has never missed my food at home, he has never stopped paying bills at home, then where is infidelity coming from. My heart does beat anytime I see him greeting an opposite sex.

My problem started when I mistakenly visited an old man I met on Twitter (X). The man promised me heaven and earth. He promised to take good care of me. I like good life as well. I want to end the struggling. I gave him my number, we do call on WhatsApp, chat on Instagram or Facebook which I always delete immediately. He gave me N800k to support my business and promised to establish supermarket for me. Had I known that women's brains are like that of cockroaches. I felt for his promises. He invited me to Lagos one day. I lied to my husband that I have an occasion with a friend. He always allows me to attend any occasion because of trust he had in me. After all, I am his wife. The man picked me up from Berger in Lagos to one of his hotels in Lagos. I was spoiled that day. I could not allow him to touch me because of my conscience, though I like to date him as well but he is married too. He asked his driver to take me back to Osogbo that day. It was just a day function I told my husband. He did not know anything.

One day, my husband was rushed to the hospital dead but later revived. I was called and he said that he did not want to see me around him. I did not know what is going on. How could my own husband said that to me. He left home healthy now. He called his father and narrated what happened to him. His father was so mad at him that he wanted to die because of a woman. He spent 4 days in hospital because he had attack (High blood pressure) all because he read messages I had with this rich man on my phone. He did not believe I could lied going to Lagos to visit a married man. He trusted me so much. Despite all this, I keep lying that nothing happen between us. He decided never to have sex with me again. He separated the room. Meanwhile, I still chat with other men on my social media. I still give out my numbers to them because I am addicted to it.

He came home one faithful day and packed all his clothes and left. I did not see my husband for months. He did not call or pick my calls. I had to visit his parents and apologise. A family meeting was called and all was settled. Though before then, my husband had started planning on how to issue me divorce paper. I almost lost my lovely husband. What surprised me was that anytime he advised me, my heart beat because I am giving audience to opposite sex on social media. To cut the story short, my home is back with love.

What I did?
I ended all relationship with opposite sex
I unfriend all married and unwanted friends
I focused on my home and business
I trust him and he does too

You're a very evil and disgusting woman.
Scum of the earth.

9jaceo:


Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

Scum.
Absolute filth.

You don't deserve forgiveness.

After you both have had your fill of adultery, your minds now touch ground. Smh.. Many couples in marriage are just deceiving themselves.

Never marry outside Christ . Let him be the bedrock of your marriage.

9jaceo:


Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

We all know you committed adultery already, you went to visit a man but nothing happened. If you can deceive simp men there are some men you can't deceive. Thank God your husband is a simp sha..

I don't know which lesson is there to learn from this story 😕🤔.

A discipline person with good morals will never indulge in indecency no matter the circumstance.

A man gave you 800k, took you to an hotel but never touched you. You are telling us nothing happened.

Continue lying and deceiving yourself.

This did not happen. Stop playing on people's intelligence.

Too long to read. Please next time apply sufficient paragraphs and spacing.

What's the lesson here? That married men and women should not cheat or have affairs outside? Were you not told that from the beginning?

9jaceo:


Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

E no concerns...Ur tea&cup of coffee...Ur tea is ur cup of coffee...U can drinks it with ur nephew during curfew...,aftaall; u are as few as ur nephew, dat don't observes curfew... Did ur few nephew do observes curfew...?U are as few as ur nephew,u don't need 2 observe curfew

9jaceo:


Though, I regret my action but all in the past now. Those married men outside should please stick to their lovely wives. Women must not do what can kill her husband. Those guys are home breakers. Don't start what you won't finish. Do not collect numbers, money or gifts from opposite sex. Pray for your spouse to make it as well. Women should not give too much attention to men on social media. If you fail to say hi or hello or how are you to your husband and the next people to say such to is married men or male friends on social media, then you are not a good woman. Stop giving them attention. Like I said, I have learnt my lesson. My home is back. I pray my husband trust me like before again.

The truth of the matter 9jaceo is that trust is gone. Your husband can never trust you again and no relationship can survive without trust. I don’t know why your husband did not divorce you but I can assure you that he cannot sleep with both eyes closed again.

Madam don't deceive yourself, if this your story is true, forget it, that man can never trust and love you again, maybe he just accepted you back base of some reason but you see that trust, it's far gone and without trust no relationship can stand. I don't know how you women think, after destroying what you have built for years, you will just destroy it cos of your insatiable selfish desire, that your husband is going to give you the shock of your life soon and you won't expect it, you are supposed to be a role model to your younger one's but you are the one that is messing up.. tuehhh

Woman in your early 50s still getting advances from men? Abeg this story is too manufactured to be true.

50 years old...

With 3 kids.

And you are still acting like a young school girl on heat.

Don't want to sound self righteous though.

Thank God you learnt a lesson. But I don't know if trust can be completely restored in that marriage though.

If I was your husband I could never fully trust you again... But thank God I am not him!

Kajaard:


The boldfaced, a woman in her early 50s is not a young woman. She is a middle aged woman.

She is whatever she thinks she is
She can claim to be a teenager sef at 50

Omo

I think about 80% of Nigerian women are ashawo

ezugegere:
I think about 80% of Nigerian women are ashawo

your mother and sisters included, abi 😉

Moral of the story is that olosho is an inbuilt trait. There's nothing one can do about it.

People should screen properly the kind of people they marry. No matter how you treat your olosho partner right, if they belong to the streets, they belong to the streets, period!.

I have reservations about the veracity of this story, howbeit, one of the pillars of a successful marriage is trust. If both partners cannot have implicit trust for each other, then there will always be an opening for marital problems