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Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 11:40pm On May 14
Nairaland Family,

I am in a dilemma. There is a lady I met and we started getting along. We reside in different states. We chat, call and video call. All seems good and rosy!

I was serious with her… pure intentions and all. It got to a point where she has to go for NYSC. I assisted her and got her to serve in the state I reside which was also her choice.

She came and somehow got a PPA in my area so we started staying together. However, the relationship had a major issue with beliefs as her dad wouldn’t allow her marry someone with my belief. So it looked like a dead end but there are emotions from both ends.

The issue now is she answers some calls, comes back late from work and then sleeps out sometimes. Like yesterday, she said they were going for a school reunion stuff and a guy came to carry her in his car. She didn’t come back till today.

My issue is how humane will it be to ask her to leave my house? knowing how involved I was in getting her to serve in the state and all? How harsh could that be?

If I don’t do that, I get caught up in webs of several hurts. The calls, late night returns and all. Of course it’s is very likely na guy she dey get all these stuff with. I have asked he before and she said if she has a guy would he allow her to be staying with another guy, but you know babes na! She could have even told the guy I am her uncle from the mothers side 😃😃

One mind is saying I should forget been humane and ask her to leave. Like that is what is left for me to do as I am unable to keep up with all she has been doing. If I leave her to stay, more issues for me. Like I’m drowning in jealousy. She closes by 9 and sometimes come home by 11pm

What do I do please?

Call me whatever name, I gree but I need genuine advise
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 11:48pm On May 14
@harddon
Re: Emotional help needed by cenaman(m): 11:56pm On May 14
Simplitanomiasis is the decease of simps....

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Re: Emotional help needed by dawnomike(m): 12:21am On May 15
Hiploko:
Nairaland Family,

I am in a dilemma. There is a lady I met and we started getting along. We reside in different states. We chat, call and video call. All seems good and rosy!

I was serious with her… pure intentions and all. It got to a point where she has to go for NYSC. I assisted her and got her to serve in the state I reside which was also her choice.

She came and somehow got a PPA in my area so we started staying together. However, the relationship had a major issue with beliefs as her dad wouldn’t allow her marry someone with my belief. So it looked like a dead end but there are emotions from both ends.

The issue now is she answers some calls, comes back late from work and then sleeps out sometimes. Like yesterday, she said they were going for a school reunion stuff and a guy came to carry her in his car. She didn’t come back till today.

My issue is how humane will it be to ask her to leave my house? knowing how involved I was in getting her to serve in the state and all? How harsh could that be?

If I don’t do that, I get caught up in webs of several hurts. The calls, late night returns and all. Of course it’s is very likely na guy she dey get all these stuff with. I have asked he before and she said if she has a guy would he allow her to be staying with another guy, but you know babes na! She could have even told the guy I am her uncle from the mothers side 😃😃

One mind is saying I should forget been humane and ask her to leave. Like that is what is left for me to do as I am unable to keep up with all she has been doing. If I leave her to stay, more issues for me. Like I’m drowning in jealousy. She closes by 9 and sometimes come home by 11pm

What do I do please?

Call me whatever name, I gree but I need genuine advice

It is your house... Simoly say no to laye night entry and stand your ground. If she can't cope, she should leave your abode in peace.

Sorry, you've really taken a lot of nonsense

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Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 6:14am On May 15
dawnomike:
It is your house... Simoly say no to laye night entry and stand your ground. If she can't cope, she should leave your abode in peace.

Sorry, you've really taken a lot of nonsense
Thanks for the response

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Re: Emotional help needed by Jomonix: 6:29am On May 15
Difficult to advise. If you truly love her, fight for her. No physical fight oh. Be the man she wants
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 6:31am On May 15
Jomonix:
Difficult to advise. If you truly love her, fight for her. No physical fight oh. Be the man she wants
Thank you for at least understanding how difficult it is

At a point I felt I was being a SIMP. At least someone else sees it is a difficult situation
Re: Emotional help needed by psalmylee(m): 6:58am On May 15
Re: Emotional help needed by psalmylee(m): 7:02am On May 15
Jomonix:
Difficult to advise. If you truly love her, fight for her. No physical fight oh. Be the man she wants
op , pls forget this type of advice oo..
Fight for who, a battle u have already lost before it started ?
My guy just play along lash am well and when she is through with he service ask her to leave and don't flinch.
For God sake there are over 3 billion women in the world while simping for one who does not even respect and value you ..
My guy, Love and value yourself first coz u cannot hurt what u claim to love..
These girls no worth am o
One bit..
Go in peace brother
God bless u

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Re: Emotional help needed by Double0h7(f): 7:17am On May 15
Look, it’s your home and you don’t need to feel no guilt about asking anyone to Leave. You tried to have a relationship with her, and your intentions were pure towards her. Now that the relationship has broken down, just end things with her and ask her to find alternative options.

Let her father pay for the new accommodation or she can go and stay with the men who she’s obviously seeing. But, I have a feeling you’re too nice and you won’t set your boundaries firmly. However, in the end you’re going to get your feelings hurt because she is abusing your kindness and playing in your face.

Give her 30 days notice, and a curfew to follow because you need to feel safe in your home. After those 30 days put her stuff outside and change your locks. You have to grow a backbone going forward because nowadays people don’t respect kindness.

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Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 7:31am On May 15
psalmylee:
op , pls forget this type of advice oo..
Fight for who, a battle u have already lost before it started ?
My guy just play along lash am well and when she is through with he service ask her to leave and don't flinch.
For God sake there are over 3 billion women in the world while simping for one who does not even respect and value you ..
My guy, Love and value yourself first coz u cannot hurt what u claim to love..
These girls no worth am o
One bit..
Go in peace brother
God bless u
Thanks Mate

That lashing one dey cheesy
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 7:32am On May 15
Double0h7:
Look, it’s your home and you don’t need to feel no guilt about asking anyone to Leave. You tried to have a relationship with her, and your intentions were pure towards her. Now that the relationship has broken down, just end things with her and ask her to find alternative options.

Let her father pay for the new accommodation or she can go and stay with the men who she’s obviously seeing. But, I have a feeling you’re too nice and you won’t set your boundaries firmly. However, in the end you’re going to get your feelings hurt because she is abusing your kindness and playing in your face.

Give her 30 days notice, and a curfew to follow because you need to feel safe in your home. After those 30 days put her stuff outside and change your locks. You have to grow a backbone going forward because nowadays people don’t respect kindness.
Swears bro..

Thank you sooo much
Re: Emotional help needed by Jomonix: 8:36am On May 15
Hiploko:
Thank you for at least understanding how difficult it is

At a point I felt I was being a SIMP. At least someone else sees it is a difficult situation

But most of all don't let the situation derail your purpose in life. Keep your eyes on the ball. What ever distract you from this is not good for you. Be guided.
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 9:03am On May 15
Jomonix:


But most of all don't let the situation derail your purpose in life. Keep your eyes on the ball. What ever distract you from this is not good for you. Be guided.
God bless you!

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Re: Emotional help needed by 1000Capacity: 9:18am On May 15
She could have even told the guy I am her uncle from the mothers side 😃😃

You are already her uncle from her mother and father side na grin
She's actually waiting for you to tell her to leave

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Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 9:56am On May 15
1000Capacity:


You are already her uncle from her mother and father side na grin
She's actually waiting for you to tell her to leave
You may not be wrong ooo cheesy
Re: Emotional help needed by 1Battery(m): 10:01am On May 15
Bros you de Bleep up ,throw way her bags.
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 10:19am On May 15
1Battery:
Bros you de Bleep up ,throw way her bags.
Is this not extreme?

We shared good moments at a point. It is the right thing to send her away but i feel it should be done with sense
Re: Emotional help needed by asapeola(m): 1:21pm On May 15
I no say ur mind don comot but the free lashing u dey get still dey play on ur mind.

You have 2 options: 1. Allow her freedom (but warn her abt the late night stuff cos even u sef dey at risk if anything happens to her) and continue to collect your share until she's done.

2. Cut ur loss n let her know say her staying with u dey block your own paroles. So she gats move out within a reasonable time.

Some of these bannies dey run things during service year hence she don tell you say no be say she get boyfriend. So u suppose don code wetin she mean. I have been in an almost similar situation tho she came for exams n ddnt want to leave after exams finish.

Shalom!
Re: Emotional help needed by obinna58(m): 1:33pm On May 15
She’s leading you 2-1 and you think equalizing draw is being harsh, a match she has already removed winning possibility and you’re hesitant for a draw

Draw the game at least or are you arsenal
Re: Emotional help needed by Sonnobax15(m): 1:34pm On May 15
lipsrsealed
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 1:36pm On May 15
asapeola:
I no say ur mind don comot but the free lashing u dey get still dey play on ur mind.

You have 2 options: 1. Allow her freedom (but warn her abt the late night stuff cos even u sef dey at risk if anything happens to her) and continue to collect your share until she's done.

2. Cut ur loss n let her know say her staying with u dey block your own paroles. So she gats move out within a reasonable time.

Some of these bannies dey run things during service year hence she don tell you say no be say she get boyfriend. So u suppose don code wetin she mean. I have been in an almost similar situation tho she came for exams n ddnt want to leave after exams finish.

Shalom!
Insightful... Thank you
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 1:36pm On May 15
obinna58:
She’s leading you 2-1 and you think equalizing draw is being harsh, a match she has already removed winning possibility and you’re hesitant for a draw

Draw the game at least or are you arsenal
How please?
Re: Emotional help needed by obinna58(m): 1:47pm On May 15
Hiploko:
How please?
You’re harboring olosho, as if it’s not shameful enough you’re pitying her on top
Re: Emotional help needed by Jflex07(m): 1:51pm On May 15
Why not just use her dey cure your konji but also tell her that you aren't comfortable with her late night movement. She has to put an end to that asap!
Re: Emotional help needed by Wainey: 1:55pm On May 15
Hiploko:
Nairaland Family,

I am in a dilemma. There is a lady I met and we started getting along. We reside in different states. We chat, call and video call. All seems good and rosy!

I was serious with her… pure intentions and all. It got to a point where she has to go for NYSC. I assisted her and got her to serve in the state I reside which was also her choice.

She came and somehow got a PPA in my area so we started staying together. However, the relationship had a major issue with beliefs as her dad wouldn’t allow her marry someone with my belief. So it looked like a dead end but there are emotions from both ends.

The issue now is she answers some calls, comes back late from work and then sleeps out sometimes. Like yesterday, she said they were going for a school reunion stuff and a guy came to carry her in his car. She didn’t come back till today.

My issue is how humane will it be to ask her to leave my house? knowing how involved I was in getting her to serve in the state and all? How harsh could that be?

If I don’t do that, I get caught up in webs of several hurts. The calls, late night returns and all. Of course it’s is very likely na guy she dey get all these stuff with. I have asked he before and she said if she has a guy would he allow her to be staying with another guy, but you know babes na! She could have even told the guy I am her uncle from the mothers side 😃😃

One mind is saying I should forget been humane and ask her to leave. Like that is what is left for me to do as I am unable to keep up with all she has been doing. If I leave her to stay, more issues for me. Like I’m drowning in jealousy. She closes by 9 and sometimes come home by 11pm

What do I do please?

Call me whatever name, I gree but I need genuine advise

i was in a similar situation like u some time ago, the babe lives in my house and broke my heart.
It took sometime but i told her to leave, my happiness returned after she left.
Now i dont regret it.
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 3:45pm On May 15
Wainey:
i was in a similar situation like u some time ago, the babe lives in my house and broke my heart.
It took sometime but i told her to leave, my happiness returned after she left.
Now i dont regret it.
Way to go
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 3:46pm On May 15
obinna58:

You’re harboring olosho, as if it’s not shameful enough you’re pitying her on top
I am a nice person naturally. That is why it's hard
Re: Emotional help needed by obinna58(m): 3:57pm On May 15
Hiploko:
I am a nice person naturally. That is why it's hard
Mr nice shey you know anything wey happen to that lady, the consequences Dey on top your head

Keep making your character the side story and suffer the consequences of another
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 6:54pm On May 15
obinna58:

Mr nice shey you know anything wey happen to that lady, the consequences Dey on top your head

Keep making your character the side story and suffer the consequences of another

Thank you
Re: Emotional help needed by MrCork: 7:19pm On May 15
Hiploko:
Nairaland Family,

I am in a dilemma. There is a lady I met and we started getting along. We reside in different states. We chat, call and video call. All seems good and rosy!

I was serious with her… pure intentions and all. It got to a point where she has to go for NYSC. I assisted her and got her to serve in the state I reside which was also her choice.

She came and somehow got a PPA in my area so we started staying together. However, the relationship had a major issue with beliefs as her dad wouldn’t allow her marry someone with my belief. So it looked like a dead end but there are emotions from both ends.

The issue now is she answers some calls, comes back late from work and then sleeps out sometimes. Like yesterday, she said they were going for a school reunion stuff and a guy came to carry her in his car. She didn’t come back till today.

My issue is how humane will it be to ask her to leave my house? knowing how involved I was in getting her to serve in the state and all? How harsh could that be?

If I don’t do that, I get caught up in webs of several hurts. The calls, late night returns and all. Of course it’s is very likely na guy she dey get all these stuff with. I have asked he before and she said if she has a guy would he allow her to be staying with another guy, but you know babes na! She could have even told the guy I am her uncle from the mothers side 😃😃

One mind is saying I should forget been humane and ask her to leave. Like that is what is left for me to do as I am unable to keep up with all she has been doing. If I leave her to stay, more issues for me. Like I’m drowning in jealousy. She closes by 9 and sometimes come home by 11pm

What do I do please?

Call me whatever name, I gree but I need genuine advise



Ok so You meet woman online & u fall in love...corrrrrect?
.....did u check if she hav pricccccck first??(no oofencsece) angry
Re: Emotional help needed by Hiploko(m): 8:31pm On May 15
MrCork:



Ok so You meet woman online & u fall in love...corrrrrect?
.....did u check if she hav pricccccck first??(no oofencsece) angry
she get puna

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