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Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by coogar: 8:24pm On Jan 06, 2012
dayokanu:

Who is more likely to stay with a cheating spouse, a richer woman or a dependent wife?

in nigeria, both would stay!
as long as the husband is not physically abusive. . . .i.e. he still shows some form of "respect" with his adultery(he doesn't make it overly obvious), then all is well.
i have heard of married women saying "as long as he doesn't bring them to our matrimonial home, it is well!"


The richer wife would only stay if she wants to. but the dependent one, by the time she thinks of what to eat tomorrow, she would just overlook it.

she can always go back to her family if what she would "eat" is that important.
an average married woman has more "respect" in nigeria than a rich single mother. . . . .the woman who's living from hand to mouth would even insult the rich woman and attach all form of metaphysical excuses for her single-hood. a single woman in nigeria today is still an outcast(lagos and abuja aside).


I am not saying the societal outlook to it is not a factor but look at societies where women are made dependent and see the abuse going on there. Look at other African countries and especially Arab nations and see what the women go through there.

the laws and the courts of those countries where women are made dependent is much more a bigger factor than the "dependence" of the woman.
if the western countries are all about "independent woman" without putting the men in jail for every atrocity, then it would have been different. do you think it would be the same in nigeria if the government there puts men in jail every time they abuse their women? would it be the same thing if men are escorted out of their own homes by the police whenever they fight with their wives - regardless of the woman's financial status?

mr dayo, it has little to do with a woman's financial status.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 8:34pm On Jan 06, 2012
Dayo!! Dayo!!! Dayo!!!!!! ( how many times did i call you)


1. Lets assume i really do not have any savings,  ( because my kain person, for don gada money tey tey, from his account, that kain case, i be joint owner of his account. grin grin grin). OK, no shakings, i do not have any money to sustain me for a week, right?

He is still going to suffer it, there is no need telling friends, this type of thing, it would only ridicule you and the marraige, i am taking laws into my hands megaly, I know how i will get money from him without him knowing his pocket is being drained, moreso, it would not be because he cheated once i am packing out of the house, for where? cool cool, he never hala. I will deal with him and the money, when i say it, i really do mean it.  Only if you don't know your ''way'' that one would settle to live in the forest.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 11:07pm On Jan 06, 2012
coogar:

in nigeria, both would stay!
as long as the husband is not physically abusive. . . .i.e. he still shows some form of "respect" with his adultery(he doesn't make it overly obvious), then all is well.
i have heard of married women saying "as long as he doesn't bring them to our matrimonial home, it is well!"
So because emotionally abused women say things like "as long as he doesn't bring them to our matrimonial home, it is well!" means all is really well? Did you even think this through even as you typed??

How can you describe the act of adultery as RESPECTFUL in any form? I mean what if this "some form of respect" you speak of? He respects her as long as the emotional abuse is not done directly in her presence? I don't get whatever you are trying to spew above really.

When a person LIES AND DECIEVES you,even hurts you, causing you emotional harm, do you . . . . can you in any way or form still conclude that the action is done out of "some form of respect"?


It is obvious that many in this generation have been mind-fked into believing some of the worst is what we deserve and should be OK with, but come on, we also happen to be the most educated and hence better able to cut through all the bull society and our illiterate parents fed us.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Outstrip(f): 11:32pm On Jan 06, 2012
dayokanu:

Ronke its easy for you to say because you are not in that shoe.

How many times have you seen women whose husband are cheating but cant walk out or talk because they would say what do you want me to eat?

When you hold the key to someones "belly" you can do and undo without being challenged.

I know a guy, Whose wife is an housewife, the slightest argument, he changes the pin on the ATM and the woman would still have to come beg him.

I was with him one day that the wife was caliing him for $100 in the joint account to go see movies with her girlfriends and if you see the questioning on top ordinary $100. I just dey shake my head. BTW this wife is Akata not Naija whom we say want to stay married at all cost


I hope your friend knows that he is not the only one sleeping with his wife
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by MissyB3(f): 11:46pm On Jan 06, 2012
Ronke has said all that needs to be said.

No woman or man should accept ''infidelity'' from his or her spouse.

Forgiveness is a different issue

ronkebp:

It all also boils down to family orientations, the legacy that has been laid down
Terse!
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by coogar: 11:54pm On Jan 06, 2012
Kobojunkie:

So because emotionally abused women say things like "as long as he doesn't bring them to our matrimonial home, it is well!" means all is really well? Did you even think this through even as you typed??

if she says it is well, who are you to say she's unwell?
how do people debate like this?


How can you describe the act of adultery as RESPECTFUL in any form? I mean what if this "some form of respect" you speak of? He respects her as long as the emotional abuse is not done directly in her presence? I don't get whatever you are trying to spew above really.

discuss polygamy - apply the concept of polygamy to this nigerian women.
at least, the husband must have kept a form of relationship with the mistress before he brought her home as a 2nd wife.

are you now saying all first wives have been emotionally abused or whatever word in the dictionary that depicts what you meant?
this mentality is crass.


When a person LIES AND DECIEVES you,even hurts you, causing you emotional harm,  do you . . . . can you in any way or form still conclude that the action is done out of "some form of respect"?

i think that depends on what the society accepts.
you know this now because you have copped some western education. if you were born into hausa family with little or no education and you were taken to one alhaji at the age of 9 as the 13th wife, would you say you have not been respected? who is to say what is right or what is wrong?


It is obvious that many in this generation have been mind-fked into believing some of the worst is what we deserve and should be OK with, but come on, we also happen to be the most educated and hence better able to cut through all the bull society and our illiterate parents fed us.

you have been poisoned by the west!
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 1:01am On Jan 07, 2012
coogar:

if she says it is well, who are you to say she's unwell?
Interesting . . . so if a mad woman tells you it is well, you will state for sure that it well? Is that how you analyze these things? I asked you some straight up questions on this. Any idea when you will answer the questions asked? Or am I to assume this is another turn around the wheel?

coogar:

how do people debate like this?

discuss polygamy - apply the concept of polygamy to this nigerian women.
at least, the husband must have kept a form of relationship with the mistress before he brought her home as a 2nd wife.

are you now saying all first wives have been emotionally abused or whatever word in the dictionary that depicts what you meant?
this mentality is crass.

i think that depends on what the society accepts.
you know this now because you have copped some western education. if you were born into hausa family with little or no education and you were taken to one alhaji at the age of 9 as the 13th wife, would you say you have not been respected? who is to say what is right or what is wrong?

you have been poisoned by the west!

I think you are desperately trying to pretend you argue this sensibly and so you do not even see the confusion you weave there.

A : woman marries a man knowing from the beginning he is likely going to marry other wives, and is OK with it.

B: woman marries a man who she believes is in the relationship with just her, only to watch him, months/years later, engage in adulterous affair(s) and then marry these women/other wives, expecting that she will have to live with the new reality

Just so I am sure, are you somehow suggesting that A above = B?
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 1:41am On Jan 07, 2012
it's not about "accepting". It's more a matter of forgiveness. To 'accept' means to submit and no woman or man with a certain level of self esteem or value would just accept someone cheating on them. Now forgiveness is another thing. It means that the act/s has/have already happened and the guilty party promises not to make the same mistake/s. I think i would probably forgive but never would i just accept being cheated on which is suggestive that i know of the misdeed and will allow it to continue. Never.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Jenifa1: 2:03am On Jan 07, 2012
something you have to realize that the MAIN purpose of marriage is to raise children. that stable 2 parent environment is really important.
romantic love itself is being described by scientists as an evolutionary phenomenon meant to force a man and a woman to stay together long enough to raise their child/children.


agiboma:

I wont speak for women but ill speak to my reason's for staying in a marriage with a partner that is a serial cheater, i would not even call it cheating anymore because i just accept it to keep the peace. For me my child is the reason why i stay period. Furthermore i have never been in a relationship where my partner has been 100% faithful i am not sure such a thing exist. Leaving him to find better or g-d forbid i find worst omg. I have not made up my mind to take that chance.

You are not the only one. many women do it for the same reason as well.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by coogar: 2:24am On Jan 07, 2012
Kobojunkie:

Interesting . . . so if a mad woman tells you it is well, you will state for sure that it well? Is that how you analyze these things? I asked you some straight up questions on this. Any idea when you will answer the questions asked? Or am I to assume this is another turn around the wheel?

except that married women in nigeria who have all come to terms with their husband's infidelity are not mad.
many of them are working professionals and some of them even head conglomerates.

unless you are telling me the late simbiat abiola or maryam babangida are all mad, then you are pissing in the wiond.


I think you are desperately trying to pretend you argue this sensibly and so you do not even see the confusion you weave there.

which confusion?


A : woman marries a man knowing from the beginning he is likely going to marry other wives, and is OK with it.

B: woman marries a man who she believes is in the relationship with just her, only to watch him, months/years later, engage in adulterous affair(s) and then marry these women/other wives, expecting that she will have to live with the new reality

Just so I am sure, are you somehow suggesting that A above = B?

a and b are the same. . . . . it depends on the circumstances. no woman can know for sure what the future holds.
so telling me a woman knows from the beginning her hubby is [b]likely [/b]to marry other wives is shooting in the dark.
what is the meaning of "likely"?

abraham never knew he would father a child with another woman when he married sarah. that's life for you. it can throw a curve ball.
you can start interviewing all the women in polygamous homes in nigeria. a large proportion of them would tell you 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th wife were not in the plans initially. some men marry 2nd wives because they are looking for a son or a daughter or whatever reason they can come up with.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 2:35am On Jan 07, 2012
coogar:

a and b are the same. . . . . it depends on the circumstances. no woman can know for sure what the future holds.
so telling me a woman knows from the beginning her hubby is [b]likely [/b]to marry other wives is shooting in the dark.
what is the meaning of "likely"?

abraham never knew he would father a child with another woman when he married sarah. that's life for you. it can throw a curve ball.
you can start interviewing all the women in polygamous homes in nigeria. a large proportion of them would tell you 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th wife were not in the plans initially. some men marry 2nd wives because they are looking for a son or a daughter or whatever reason they can come up with.

The highlighted there is the problem. If you believe A and B which are completely different circumstances, are same, then there is no point and I now understand why you seem to be pushing what you are pushing.

A really sad situation really but it is what majority have come to accept as their norm, and all we can do is really work on re-educating and recondition those who can be saved from this.
Kobojunkie:

It is obvious that many in this generation have been mind-fked into believing some of the worst is what we deserve and should be OK with, but come on, we also happen to be the most educated and hence better able to cut through all the bull society and our illiterate parents fed us.

^^ unfortunately!!
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 3:17am On Jan 07, 2012
It is very easy to brag about a situation you have never experienced.
Lots of women come on this forum and brag about what they will do if they catch their husband cheating.
I assure you that in reality of the situation 99% of these women will do NOTHING,but meekly accept the situation.
Talk is cheap,very cheap.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 3:59am On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:

It is very easy to brag about a situation you have never experienced.
Lots of women come on this forum and brag about what they will do if they catch their husband cheating.
I assure you that in reality of the situation 99% of these women will do NOTHING,but meekly accept the situation.
Talk is cheap,very cheap.


While I am not for people bragging and all, I do have to caution that we not then decide that it is OK to 'meekly accept' situations common sense dictates as wrong, not just for us, but for the kids that are involved. When a spouse commits adultery, there is a decision to be made -- the decision whether to continue or not continue in such a relationship. This decision is made easy by the fact that the Bible even suggests that it is OK to leave. Chosing to continue with the relationship does not in itself imply one accepts-- no. In most cases, people decide to draw up new contracts on what would happen should the infidelity happen again. However, choosing to "accept" implies one decides it is ones 'fate' to be used, and abused by their partner. That is usually a sign of deeper psychological issues that need to be dealt with. Many of those who end up adopting this mind set themselves come from broken homes or homes where they were made to believe that they were to come second in the equation. And I know a lot of people do this but that does not make it right in anyway.

Growing up in Nigeria I witnessed many of these abusive families implode and then produce zombies, and how many live wayward lives expecting those around them to "meekly accept" the situation.

One particular situation comes to mind. My best friend, growing up, -- her mother had her with one man, but left the man and went with another man. Not long into that particular marriage, i.e 4 more kids later, Iya Tope abandoned the man, her children with him and the child from her first marriage, Tope, so she could go GBADUN LIFE with some other man. 

In the beginning, the man, we called him Baba Tope, that was abandoned, took care of the kids and "meekly accepted" the situation. The Iya Tope would show up back in their lives every now and then and he would welcome her back as if nothing happened. But each time she would 'escape' again. Before long, the effects of the toxic relation where more than clear in the children. They acted up in all ways they could. It was as if there was a bomb in the middle that every one was afraid of defusing but no one wanted to admit it's existence. Long story short, not until the Baba Tope completely cut the Iya Tope off and decided to focus his energy on providing the children a healthy environment within which to grow and HEAL, did these kids finally settle down. They are still trying to heal today,over 20 years later from the emotional turmoil but overall these kids believe they are better off.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:24am On Jan 07, 2012
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa?

One reason could be she's planning revenge. tongue
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:34am On Jan 07, 2012
@ kobojunkie Thank you for your post.
However my beef is with ladies who come on this forum to brag that if they catch their man cheating on them they will leave his sorry a.rse.
Misleading impressionable young women.I am not saying cheating is right,but the fact is lots of married men engage in it,and their wives know about these things and meekly accept it as a way of life.These same women with these marital problems will come on to a public forum and advise others to leave their husbands if they catch them cheating or advise them to have an affair,because your husband had one as a kind of pay back option.
Some of these women know their husbands are cheating on them and turn a blind eye to it,only to come onto NL and start talking BS.
My point is that in 99% of cases where a husband has been discovered to be a serial cheat,Mrs Wifey is gonna forgive him and life will go on as usual.
It could be for financial,economic or social resons but she will forgive him!
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 3:05pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt, i hope you are not referring my reply to Dayokanu as a bragado, i don't brag, and i do not have the liver and time to brag,if you knew personally or part of my friends you will know i do not brag, my hubbyb knows what i can take and will not take. Just so we are clear, ''cheating'' is something i will never ''meekly accept'' in any form, any woman that accepts her husbands infidelity is not a woman, and should not be a mother that would train any child, what legacy do you want to lay down for your children??. And please stop this '' feminine nazi'' thingy, just because women have decided (some though) to mold their marraiges in a way that would suite and benefit everyone, does not make them an outcast from the Nigerian-men perspective (if it does, i do not care really). And also change your orientation about ''all men are wired to cheat''; that talk there, is just pooo!!!!. And i maintain it is better to remain single than to be married to a ''a sperm donor" and not a husband.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 3:08pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:

@ kobojunkie Thank you for your post.
However my beef is with ladies who come on this forum to brag that if they catch their man cheating on them they will leave his sorry a.rse.
Misleading impressionable young women.I am not saying cheating is right,but the fact is lots of married men engage in it,and their wives know about these things and meekly accept it as a way of life.These same women with these marital problems will come on to a public forum and advise others to leave their husbands if they catch them cheating or advise them to have an affair,because your husband had one as a kind of pay back option.
Some of these women know their husbands are cheating on them and turn a blind eye to it,only to come onto NL and start talking BS.
My point is that in 99% of cases where a husband has been discovered to be a serial cheat,Mrs Wifey is gonna forgive him and life will go on as usual.
It could be for financial,economic or social resons but she will forgive him!
This your post here reeks of chauvinism.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:07pm On Jan 07, 2012
ronkebp:

Richvkunt, i hope you are not referring my reply to Dayokanu as a bragado, i don't brag, and i do not have the liver and time to brag,if you knew personally or part of my friends you will know i do not brag, my hubbyb knows what i can take and will not take. Just so we are clear, ''cheating'' is something i will never ''meekly accept'' in any form, any woman that accepts her husbands infidelity is not a woman, and should not be a mother that would train any child, what legacy do you want to lay down for your children??. And please stop this '' feminine nazi'' thingy, just because women have decided (some though) to mold their marraiges in a way that would suite and benefit everyone, does not make them an outcast from the Nigerian-men perspective (if it does, i do not care really). And also change your orientation about ''all men are wired to cheat''; that talk there, is just pooo!!!!. And i maintain it is better to remain single than to be married to a ''a Fluid donor" and not a husband.


ronkebp,
Happy new fuel/petrol price,
I hope you are not getting hot under the collar over my innocent remarks?
I was just talking in general.Women brag a lot but at home meekly take what Mr Husband dishes out to her no matter how vile.
The ironic thing is that after taking such from her hubby will turn around and ask her friend in the same position to leave her husband,which to me smacks of hypocrisy.
Just voicing my views and observations and am sorry if I struck a raw nerve.
But then NO woman can predict how she will react to any situation until she IS IN IT!
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Jan 07, 2012
ronkebp:

This your post here reeks of  chauvinism.


I think I have a right to be a chauvinistic dinosaur pig on a forum for which I pay nothing.
It is my conjugal right,so I will take it! grin
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:

e.These same women with these marital problems will come on to a public forum and advise others to leave.
Some of these women know their husbands are cheating on them ,only to come onto NL and start talking BS.


Have you got proof? Or you are just making assumptions as usual? I would love to have at least One proof from you showing everyone here that the feminist cabal or women that tell other women to leave their cheating husbands are tolerating poo from their husbands at home but have turned blind eye to it.

I await sir.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Jan 07, 2012
Jenny,
The last time we jousted,I asked if I could tell you the allegory of the soup pot?
You conveniently ignored me.
I will do the same too.
However I know,you know,I am right.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 4:49pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:


ronkebp,
Happy new fuel/petrol price,
I hope you are not getting hot under the collar over my innocent remarks?
I was just talking in general.Women brag a lot but at home meekly take what Mr Husband dishes out to her no matter how vile.
The ironic thing is that after taking such from her hubby will turn around and ask her friend in the same position to leave her husband,which to me smacks of hypocrisy.
Just voicing my views and observations and am sorry if I struck a raw nerve.
But then NO woman can predict how she will react to any situation until she IS IN IT!


grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin i no fit vex again, the fuel price don make me laugh tire.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Jan 07, 2012
^^^You know say me and you are friends no matter our divergent views.
I can not say the same of some others who employ multiple user names to attack me. grin grin
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 4:58pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:


I think I have a right to be a chauvinistic dinosaur pig on a forum for which I pay nothing.
It is my conjugal right,so I will take it! grin

You do, but it is always good to still be fair, because the way you paint this women, is really not what they are,

Have you ever asked yourself,what if the husband of the advicer does not misbehave., what if, he is a good man that respects and cares for his family Or are you trying to tell me that there are no good men at all in Nigeria?? that there are no responsible men at all in Nigeria? No God fearing men at all in Nigeria??
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 5:39pm On Jan 07, 2012
ronkebp:

[size=13pt]''cheating'' is something i will never ''meekly accept'' in any form, any woman that accepts her husbands infidelity is not a woman, and should not be a mother that would train any child, [/size]what legacy do you want to lay down for your children??.


I echo that ! People who "meekly accept" any bad situation in life should definitely not be allowed near kids. In fact, I will opt to have there tubes tied so that they can own have all that to just themselves and no one else.

The average Nigerian lady, both home and abroad today, almost seems to ACCEPT it is OK for the man to cheat, and why is that? Because many of them were likely raised in homes where their own mothers "meekly accepted" such stupidity, and some went as far as to drum it into the children's heads that it was OK to sit in abusive relationships in the name of keeping the marriage together. That to me is creating HELL for oneself when there is NO NEED TO.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 5:46pm On Jan 07, 2012
@ronkebp,
My dear ,
Can you hazard a guess of the percentage of men who do not cheat on their wives/partners?
On a scale of 1-100%?
Please try and be honest and remove the feminist,in denial, eye glasses.
I know it is every woman's nightmare,and in reality no woman wants to catch her husband being unfaithful,but it happens all the time.We read about it all the time,in newspapers,magazines and on the internet.
So why live in self denial.
Lots of women turn a blind eye to their husbands liaisons,because they want to maintain a happy home,but we do not need to pretend it is not going on.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 5:52pm On Jan 07, 2012
^^^^^ to fairly answer your question, 30% of men are faithful to their wives and are good husband, and some women happen to be married to this sets of men.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 5:53pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:

 @ kobojunkie Thank you for your post.
However my beef is with ladies who come on this forum to brag that if they catch their man cheating on them they will leave his sorry a.rse.
Misleading impressionable young women.I am not saying cheating is right,but the fact is lots of married men engage in it,and their wives know about these things and meekly accept it as a way of life.These same women with these marital problems will come on to a public forum and advise others to leave their husbands if they catch them cheating or advise them to have an affair,because your husband had one as a kind of pay back option.
Some of these women know their husbands are cheating on them and turn a blind eye to it,only to come onto NL and start talking BS.
My point is that in 99% of cases where a husband has been discovered to be a serial cheat,Mrs Wifey is gonna forgive him and life will go on as usual.
It could be for financial,economic or social resons but she will forgive him!

There will definitely be those out there who continue to live in denial of their reality and that is why it is good to drum on the truth daily in hopes that even they too will get it someday.

As for your point, well, what I am trying to say is in 99% of those cases, wrong is wrong and people need to be awakened to this fact. Mrs wifey choosing to live in DENIAL is not the same as her forgiving him, especially if Mr serial cheat continues to cheating even after. So Mrs Wifey, choosing to live in denial especially for any material reason should not be confused with her FORGIVING the attrocity being committed against her.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Kobojunkie: 5:54pm On Jan 07, 2012
Richvkunt:

@ronkebp,
My dear ,
Can you hazard a guess of the percentage of men who do not cheat on their wives/partners?
On a scale of 1-100%?
Please try and be honest and remove the feminist,in denial, eye glasses.
I know it is every woman's nightmare,and in reality no woman wants to catch her husband being unfaithful,but it happens all the time.We read about it all the time,in newspapers,magazines and on the internet.
So why live in self denial.
Lots of women turn a blind eye to their husbands liaisons,because they want to maintain a happy home,but we do not need to pretend it is not going on.




Not all men cheat!! In some cases, it is the women that are the cheaters. That you read more of cases where men do it, does not then mean it is some God given right for men to do it or that it is inevitable in some way or form.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by ronkebp(f): 5:59pm On Jan 07, 2012
Kobojunkie:


Not all men cheat!! In some cases, it is the women that are the cheaters. That you read more of cases where men do it, does not then mean it is some God given right for men to do it or that it is inevitable in some way or form.

Some men do not want to believe that women cheat also. I was arguing with a neighbours husband, who was beating his chest that 90% women do not cheat. I just looked at him and laughed.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by Nobody: 6:15pm On Jan 07, 2012
ronkebp:

^^^^^ to fairly answer your question, 30% of men are faithful to their wives and are good husband, and some women happen to be married to this sets of men.


@ronkebp,
Please try again,you are way,way off the mark,I am a man and I should know,this is an anonymous forum so I can afford to tell you and other women the truth,however if we ever met in real life I would never tell you these things.
I know that women give other women advise about their cheating partners,but i always say pray it does not happen to you or if it does please turn a blind eye to it.Do not say if you catch your husband cheating you will leave him because you never can predict what you will do IF it does happen.
I think Kobojunkies analysis is a lot more realistic than ronkes analysis.
Re: Why Should A Woman Accept Adultery From Her Husband And Vice Versa? by dayokanu(m): 6:18pm On Jan 07, 2012
The one thing I agree with Richvkunt is that you cant know how you would react until you are in that situation

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