ronkebp:

Some men do not want to believe that women cheat also. I was arguing with a neighbours husband, who was beating his chest that 90% women do not cheat. I just looked at him and laughed.

dayokanu:

The one thing I agree with Richvkunt is that you cant know how you would react until you are in that situation

Outstrip:

Any woman who says she is staying with an abusive cheating husband for her child is a liar. She is doing it for herself. A situation like that is worse for the child so you cannot say it is for the child. Their real fear is starting over again or as someone here put it "finding worse" if she leaves. That should be enough for anybody to know that she is doing it for herself. She wants to feel safe even at the cost of her dignity and the future of the innocent child. I wonder what a message a clearly resentful and bitter woman will send to a child that sees and understands clearly what is going on.

Outstrip:

[size=13pt]Any woman who says she is staying with an abusive cheating husband for her child is a liar. She is doing it for herself. [/size]A situation like that is worse for the child so you cannot say it is for the child. Their real fear is starting over again or as someone here put it "finding worse" if she leaves. That should be enough for anybody to know that she is doing it for herself. She wants to feel safe even at the cost of her dignity and the future of the innocent child. I wonder what a message a clearly resentful and bitter woman will send to a child that sees and understands clearly what is going on.

Richvkunt:

Jenny,
The last time we jousted,I asked if I could tell you the allegory of the soup pot?
You conveniently ignored me.
I will do the same too.
However I know,you know,I am right.

jennykadry:

Outstrip tell that to AGIGBOMA of a silly and mentally deranged poster, how can a woman say she is staying for her kids? How will that environment help That child? THe boys will end up knowing its ok to cheat on their wives and the girls will see it as a norm when their husbands to cheat on them.

Women that stay in this kind of relationship, stay for themselves

Jenifa_:

@outstrip,

you make a good point but
not all women are bitter and resentful of unfaithful husbands. ex. there are some who believe that all men cheat and therefore do not see it as grounds for separation or divorce. I personally know a woman who puts condoms in her husband's briefcase when he goes on business trips. I know this because I overheard her on a phone conversation and she was very light-hearted about it. this woman clearly isn't the bitter, resentful type who feels she's losing her dignity. She is the typical woman OP is talking about who accepts adultery from her husband.

Outstrip:

Any woman who says she is staying with an abusive cheating husband for her child is a liar. She is doing it for herself. A situation like that is worse for the child so you cannot say it is for the child. Their real fear is starting over again or as someone here put it "finding worse" if she leaves. That should be enough for anybody to know that she is doing it for herself. She wants to feel safe even at the cost of her dignity and the future of the innocent child. I wonder what a message a clearly resentful and bitter woman will send to a child that sees and understands clearly what is going on.

Jenifa_:


oh my goodness. lol you're crazy

Outstrip:

I have a friend who is going through something similar right now. I have decided that this year I will have to tell her to either keep the man and shut up about his bad behavior or just let him go. I say this because I see how it affects her children. I am very uncomfortable when she brings him up around the kids. They are children. They love their dad. It puts them in a diffeicult position. Anytime they fight she asks him to leave. he is happy because he can go and shack up for a while with another woman. After that woman has finished him and he is dry he runs back and she takes him back until the next fight. How will her daughter ever understand how to live in peace with a man when her mother is constantly angry and raining abuses on their father. STD carrier, shameless man, diseased dog etc. I cannot even imagine. The man on the other hand is a serial cheater but always afraid that she is cheating. He pulls the children to the side to question them about any possible "uncles" that their mom might take them to go visit. I just hate it. If you are going to stay then stay but shut up. If you know you do not like it then let him go and save the children the pain


Outstrip,

Im sorry to hear this.It sounds very intense and messed up. This woman needs to stop the drama and upsetting everyone because of her own fears! And same with the Father! They are not thinking about the children at all. Less words and action are the key.  

jennykadry:

As usual you have no answer. Baseless assumptions again, now you see why I ignore your comments[b] sometimes?[/b]

Nope, I don't know you are right. You are not right. All you do is talk cheap, you never have anything to back it up with. There are a few men here who I know are telling the truth when they post, And believe me you are not one of them.

jennykadry:

First off outstrip I wouldnt have that kind of person as a friend, second off, I would have told her off a long time ago. Third off such a person is not allowed in my house.

I remember sometime last year, I was writing a note on a clients file and there was this nurse telling her fellow nurses how her partner was treating her like crap and stuff and mind you It wasn't the first time I've heard her talk about this partner of hers As If the advise she has received from her fellow workers was not  Enough for her, she asked for my opinion . I told her to learn to shut her mouth if she is insisting on staying with this abuser and let everyone rest, I also told her that the next time she wants to date she should consider dating someone mature in mind and in age and not some little boy in his 20's who she expects to be faithful to her when he has younger girls of his age he really wants to be with and share a life with. . ,  . .

Believe me you that woman hasn't said a word to me since last year and I don't care, and guess what? When she walked away from me see her fellow colleagues were like "wow you hit the nail on the head, we never knew you to be such a person" before they even finished heir statements I told them off as well, told them the world will be a better place if friends Like them opened their mouths and said the truth sometimes instead of acting like they were really her friends and then go behind her and act like biatches.

Outstrip:

You know her kids have become so dear to me. She has one daughter who my heart just bleeds for. She is a very good person but she has let her self to be treated so poorly that she is now so bitter. If I did not have this woman in my life I would say that I could not keep someone like her alive. I don't understand the power he has over her. She wanted to give up her growing business and move out of state. I could not understand why she would not ust face him instead of giving up her hard work just to run somewhere were he would find her anyway. I plan on being totally honest with her. I know she values my opinion. I just need to tell her bluntly. It is hurting the kids and that part I cannot stomach much longer

Outstrip:

You know her kids have become so dear to me. She has one daughter who my heart just bleeds for. She is a very good person but she has let her self to be treated so poorly that she is now so bitter. If I did not have this woman in my life I would say that I could not keep someone like her alive. I don't understand the power he has over her. She wanted to give up her growing business and move out of state. I could not understand why she would not ust face him instead of giving up her hard work just to run somewhere were he would find her anyway. I plan on being totally honest with her. I know she values my opinion. I just need to tell her bluntly. It is hurting the kids and that part I cannot stomach much longer