Araboy:

what is yours ? Have you being an escort

slimyem:

i believe there's no relationship without secrets no matter how true to each other the parthers claim.
Everyone has a secret diary somewhere in their hearts and nothing can make them let it out.
I also  think its okay as long as one is sure they are not secrets that'd haunt you sometime in life.
if your partner knows EVERYTHING,chances are he/she might use it against you if you ever miss it somewhere and we are instintively wired to keep little parts of ourselves and lives no matter how must trust we have for our partners in relationships.
If you disagree,your view will be highly welcome and if you do agree,well, you have it!

slimyem:

i believe there's no relationship without secrets no matter how true to each other the parthers claim.
Everyone has a secret diary somewhere in their hearts and nothing can make them let it out.
I also  think its okay as long as one is sure they are not secrets that'd haunt you sometime in life.
if your partner knows EVERYTHING,chances are he/she might use it against you if you ever miss it somewhere and we are instintively wired to keep  little parts of ourselves  and lives no matter how must trust we have for our partners in relationships.
If you disagree,your view will be highly welcome and if you do agree,well, you have it!

Slimmmy. sweery will u be my baby mama. You very beauriful

Araboy:

what is  yours  ?  Have you being an escort  

coogar:

nah. . .
slimyem is a virgin(that's her secret)

i don't quite agree with that.

you ought to tell your partner what you think he stands a better chance finding out from a 3rd party.
i wouldn't want to hear from a 3rd party that my spouse is an ex-convict. . . . .that would effectively terminate the relationship.

Mr, Cork:

Slimmmy. sweery will u be my baby mama. You very beauriful

Cuddlemii:

@op, you are right. Even as individuals without involving a relationship or being in a relationship,we all keep secrets at one point in time so as not to get judged, criticized, taken advantage of, be vulnerable or let people use it against us either through blackmail or aggression.

The trick is this, most couples or partners find one grievous or convincing secret to tell each other so as to get the trust of their partner but deep down its not everything that was told. For example, a former runs babe who aborted and was fought by her married man-friend's wife can decide to tell her bf that she was once a bad girl that grooved and made mistakes because her childhood was rough. That would quickly get the sympathy & trust of the bf that she is very open & sincere to him. But was she? Critically she wasn't, she only built his trust but she didn't mention the abortion, involvement with a married man and the fight with the married man's wife. So anytime anyone mistakenly gives account of her past deeds to her bf, he would overlook it as she has won his trust even if she cleverly didn't tell him everything but how would he know? Its a secret cleverly told with hidden elements. So people tell a fraction of secret so as to get into their partners psyche, build trust, impress them that they are genuine and prepare them for future gist that might spring up and destroy the relationship. Its part of the psychologies of game playing, mind playing and relationships. Some people can assume any role and act it convincingly but deep down their secrets rest within.

But no one would come out and tell you all the decadence in their past or present life except in rare cases with peculiar people that either have big mouth, no control of what they utter or they can't keep secrets or they are not good liars or they are also dealing with a partner who has a can of secrets too but told them most of it.

apocalypse:

I agree with some but not all you've written , if you set out in all your relationships to be faithful the burden of trying to cleverly or stylishly hide certain things about you wouldn't come to be. I agree with sexkillz that revealing oneself to your significant other happens in stages which is proportional to the trust gained , of course I wouldn't divulge everything about me if I'm not totally comfortable with you and so barricades are set to mark progress in the relationship. [size=14pt]This can't be termed keeping secrets but being totally sure of the person you are involved with before committing such info[/size]

apocalypse:

I agree with some but not all you've written , if you set out in all your relationships to be faithful the burden of trying to cleverly or stylishly hide certain things about you wouldn't come to be. I agree with sexkillz that revealing oneself to your significant other happens in stages which is proportional to the trust gained , of course I wouldn't divulge everything about me if I'm not totally comfortable with you and so barricades are set to mark progress in the relationship. This can't be termed keeping secrets but being totally sure of the person you are involved with before committing such info

Cuddlemii:

Ok I understand your point. But my statements are usually not what everyone does but setting examples of what some people do so you can know that there are different people in the society with diverse xters & mindsets. I am just trying to explain that there are some people who divulge a fraction of their secret and not all. Not everyone no matter the level of trust, love or commitment would tell you everything. Some people are so good at bottling things up that they die with their secret.

apocalypse:

I don't agree that everyone keeps secrets , I have seen relationships where both parties didn't have secrets and some where one party was totally honest to the other. Of course you can't call it keeping it a secret if I have omitted telling my partner certain details about myself but would be willing to share if she ask.

slimyem:

not telling stuff or not willing to share stuff still makes it a secret.skepticism will still bother around some issues and naturally you'd hold them back not because you do not trust your partner but because you are ashamed of past deeds and seriously,some thing are just better left there.
You cannot always tell the ALL.

apocalypse:

Wait a minute , before we go on I'll like a clear definition of a secret

slimyem:

secret-not known or seen or not meant to be known or seen by others.
Now,what are talking about?

slimyem:

^hold on!
Are you saying there's nothing in your past that you wouldnt want to leave there permanently?
You know it doesnt have to be ashamed of.
It just might be something that was really painful and you just wouldnt want to bring back memories of it by telling it.
Arent you seeing my point??

Mynd_44:

When you are married, Idealy, you should not keep secrets but in reality, it's another thing