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My dear sister, it is a good thing to remain a true virgin in midst of our present day worldly distractions. Meanwhile, from your numerous posts and comments so far, you are not a virgin, but only a ‘technical virgin’, ask me why? It is quite unfortunate that our ladies of today misunderstand what a virgin is. In the true context of what God and spiritually we call a virgin, it is a girl who has never known any man or had intimate intercourse- this means emotionally she had never yielded to intimate urges (watching pornographic films and pictures or discussing erotically to arouse herself to satisfy her intimate desires), physically (self-servicing, kissing, caressing of bodily parts, cuddling, petting, necking or nibbling, etc), she has never dared any of the aforementioned things. A girl that measures up to this expectations, is truly a virgin, and would reap all the blessings and gains God had promised for virgins, else, she is wasting her time for nothing.

Now, you confessed that you’re a virgin, and you still use vulgar words, and engage in Intimate discussions that can mislead others, are you not already committing emotional and mental sex? Of course you are, tell yourself the truth because only you can tell yourself that. You are a virgin and you confessed that you dress to impress guys but they can’t eat you as you put it, haven’t you yourself confessed that you are a intimate symbol and tempter to guys and still claim that you’re a virgin? A true virgin that God wants you to be, cannot even think of doing such because her thoughts are devoid of Intimate things and intimate immorality thinking.

I am not trying to discourage you please, but my dear, take a step backward and redress your lifestyle now if you truly want God to count you as virgin because presently from your posts and comments, you’re are not a true virgin, but a technical virgin. Forgive me for passing judgment on you, anyway, there’s need for this judgment to be passed now as it stand now.

I know of one of my friend’s girlfriend, who keeps seeing herself as a virgin, and still goes on indulging in: kissing, sucking, petting, necking, nibbling, etc with my friend. Yes, she did told my friend not to have regular intercourse with her (penetration), but she indulges in other intimate acts with him and even helps him to get emotional relief during such act, and yet, she and my friend goes about boasting that she is a virgin, and that they are reserving it for their wedding night. I am also aware that she and my friend do engage in phone intimacy whenever they are apart, and she still calls herself a virgin, just because the hymen had not been broken physically, but had been emotionally, spiritually and mentally broken several times, how then is she a virgin? But after I sensitized my friend on this, he came to realize that they had been fooling and deceiving themselves. So think wisely my dear and stop being too prideful of it, you’re not doing it for man or for yourself alone but for God, unless I am mistaken, which means you are too.

Finally, I heard you attack a certain lady that she is angry with you because she gave her virginity to the wrong man, and you even accused her of being married. Listen my dear, I am a man, and I speak as a man, there is no guarantee that because a man you will finally marry tomorrow meets you as a ‘technical virgin’ not ‘true virgin’ this time, will love and treat you so perfectly, and that he is the Mr. Right, because he married you as a virgin, no, no, no, ask other guys too, he might even end up mistreating you more than his numerous concubines outside, all you need to do is pray fervently to God, whether you are a virgin or a LovePeddler in a brothel, you both stand equal chances of meeting a perfect man, so long as your ways are right with God, and you do your part as a girl. If we may ask some honest married men to comment, many would testify that they married a virgin and yet divorced in less than ten years, and some married a known LovePeddler and are living happily today. What am I trying to say in essence? Being just a ‘technical virgin’ with a shabby ugly character will not benefit you and whoever that would marry you tomorrow. So all you need is God and then work daily on your character as a girl, because that alone can win you the best man on planet earth, whether you are a virgin or not! I arrest my case, shalom!

that's very true my brother, if she is a virgin as she claims, then where did she learn about such eroctic words like "popping of cherries" from? This is the kinds of words used in errotic magazines & as such does not qualifies her as a virgin even though she might be a virgin in physical, she is not a virgin emotionally as pointed out above.