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My dad died last week aged 74. He was well taken care of when he was alive. Am one of those that condemn expensive burial but to my surprise apart from family contributions my own personal budget for the burial which comes up October is nothing less than 350k already and the more God bless me I ll add more before the date.

So far there's a word called 'befitting burial' I must give it to my loving father shikena!

Wait till your papa die before you judge me

Africa lifestyles especially Nigeria is of no importance to the world. Only in Nigeria, in some cultures bride price and miscellaneous can buy a complete duplex, in other cultures they don't have time for those uneccessities.

In Nigeria also funeral activities are totally ambiguous e. g Yoruba, Binis, Ibo etc... The deceased is not taking all these chunk of vanity anywhere. According to the scripture "from dust you are, and to dust you'll return "..

We(Nigeria) devote so much time for what doesn't make sense or add substance to our existence, that's why d continent is far behind in almost everything all in the name of foolish cultures and traditions.

Man made cultures and traditions and over time, they're supposed to be subjected to scrutiny and if need be abolish irrelevant ones.

Dasherz:
This burial trend really got to me ... My uncle's burial had a budget of over 20million naira ... I was stunned .... Do U know how many more businesses can be added to the family with such amount of money .... Now grandpa just died at 99 and according to these hungry villagers he must be buried like a chief ..

Burials should be the cheapest event so far, it's a mourning not a celebration ... The craze with burials in this part of the world is just so annoying

Hmmm, 20m. Money is good

kalu61:
Hmmm, 20m. Money is good

Money is good when invested in profitable ventures... 20 million to bury an organic matter that's a waste

Ain't gonna talk yet.

Dasherz:


Money is good when invested in profitable ventures... 20 million to bury an organic matter that's a waste

Well, the social status of the person matter sha. Burying a big man in an unannounced way get as e be.

kalu61:
Well, the social status of the person matter sha. Burying a big man in an unannounced way get as e be.

Mehnn
Left for me once you die .. just dig a hole and put the corpse inside .. and the a tree is planted there at least you will serve as manure and won't be totally useless

won't people eat??!!

Dasherz:

Mehnn
Left for me once you die .. just dig a hole and put the corpse inside .. and the a tree is planted there at least you will serve as manure and won't be totally useless

Plant tress. Let me be going.

The black man still has a long way to go.

daveP:
It's something I've always heard my dad talk about for decades since I was a kid.

I recall 6years ago, my grand uncle died and a family meeting was called.

In the meeting, those who knew my dad for his outright vehemence against squandering of money on lavish things were ready for him.



They budgeted 16m for the burial.


My dad said its better they divert such funds to better ventures that can affect lives for years. They shouted at him despite being the eldest in the meeting.


Last last 6cows were killed and some several bushmeat as well.


All of them are broke now.... like they came apologize for their conduct that day.



Funny enough, on my own personal observation, I discovered everyone on the Christian side that lost a loved one always write "Gone to Glory" as though they knew where such a soul went to. what kind of blind hope is that?


A sister's account in 2010 I can't forget.


Her dad was old and he was mean and wicked in deeds and actions. He went to church ceremoniously. He fell ill and the morning he was to die, he began to shout "fire fire fire, no not this place now.... "


No matter how dumb you wanna be, you'll know he saw where he was going to spend eternity. He gave up the ghost with a finger in his mouth. His last words were "O MA se o"



They still wrote Gone to Glory on his Burial ceremony order of program!!!


She was the only one that didn't do anything cos she was sad that despite efforts for him to change, he was still in his Adamic self. It's not being judgemental. It's just reality.


The OP's account is right.


They'll leave an old man in illness in a rural area in poverty and no show of care for him. Only to know on the burial day that he has son's and daughters that are very rich here and there and are well placed in the society and travel abroad frequently.


Solomon was right, all is vanity and a chasing after the wind....


Be sure of where you want to spend Eternity!!!

I'm glad we reason alike in this matter.

folake4u:



I'm glad we reason alike in this matter.

Secretly winks amidst the crowd. Shhhhhh.

daveP:
Secretly winks amidst the crowd. Shhhhhh.

Werey!