^As devastated as you are, it is a good thing that you got to the bottom of the matter. It will help you heal from the heartache faster. Take heart and focus on other important aspects of your life. God-willing you will meet your own man who will be a true husband- just be patient and learn from the entire episode.

cshall1120:

I believe you right!!! He finally admitted this whole year I've been thinking we were both in love with each other and that he wanted me to live with him its been all lies. He has been secretly dating someone that is Nigerian and he says he love her too. And he thinks that he would be better off with her. Just devastated that i totally trusted him and opened up my heart to him and he was lying and deceiving me and was only with me until a Nigerian came along.

Good! Let him go! U'r better off without him. Let him go and meet the girl he thinks is best for him. God wil provide u a man that REALLY and TRUELY loves u for WHO and WHAT u r.

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REALITY101:

Damn you are so fucking obsessed with Igbo men in the sense of being tribal bulldozer. You're kinda right cuz two of my yoruba friends are married to some older fat white women.

Lol

tpia@:
madam or mr op

if one yoruba man wants to slip from your grasp then why dont you just go for another or are you saying if you dont marry this particular man you'll never marry again?


i could be wrong but i dont get what the thread is about. I'm sure there are plenty of yoruba men who would gladly marry or date you- so what's the problem?

you never even marry the guy yet, you're already opening thread and abusing his mother.

na wa oh!!!!

like attracts like sha.

the fellow sef must be an agbero type.

tpia, are you sure it is the same thread you are reading because your deductions from OP's post are of the mark.

niggadee: Lol

nice pix

tpia@:
madam or mr op

if one yoruba man wants to slip from your grasp then why dont you just go for another or are you saying if you dont marry this particular man you'll never marry again?


i could be wrong but i dont get what the thread is about. I'm sure there are plenty of yoruba men who would gladly marry or date you- so what's the problem?

you never even marry the guy yet, you're already opening thread and abusing his mother.

na wa oh!!!!

like attracts like sha.

the fellow sef must be an agbero type.

It wasn't my desire to search after a Yoruba guy. It just happened. And you right I could have handle the situation better. And yes I could have been a little more respectful in regards to his mom. Its all good. God knows best

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I am currently in the same position i really care about my nigerian boyfriend and he says he cares about me but he believes in (charms,curses,and all that other stuff) and he thinks that if he disobeys his parents that he will have bad luck the rest of his life and that he will never be happy.. so i met him and our first date went well but i was worried that his parents wouldnt approve because ALL of my bestfriends are either Nigerian or Ethiopian im just afriacan american so i've been around their culture most of my life and i truely respect it and i have seen how some do not approve of such relationships I asked and he said his parents wouldnt mind so we had several wonderful dates we spent every minute together after we made it official and he seemed totally in love with me even introduced me to his siblings and friends as his girlfriend until on his birthday I made very special plans and he seemed annoyed and was soooo rude the whole night told me he didnt want to celebrate and when i said i loved him he looked scared.... we get home and argue over his behaviour then i broke down because I try not to invest in a relationship because i have trust issues and i had already told him of my rocky past which he says he could handle...smh LIES so he then tells me that he doesnt want to fall in love with me no matter how much he cares because he could never marry me due to his parents and that the bible does not want him to disobey his parents yes he threw the bible at me as a christian i was obviously shocked and yelled that fornication and lying is also a sin !!!! but that didnt matter he then tells me i deserve better and that i should have someone who is able to love me(he even tried to set me up with a friend)smh but we should be friends and that he cares about my feelings... BTW he also told me that his plan was to be with me for awhile and then break up with me when he got deployed.... YES HES A MARINE HE LIVES IN AMERICA 6000 MILES AWAY FROM AFRICA BUT HIS BALLS ARE CHAINED TO HIS MOTHERS FRONT PORCH IN AFRICA!!! I need help i love him seriously just his smile makes me happy and all i want is to make him happy and be with him we may never get married heck im in college im too young and it would atleast be 3 years but i want him to atleast try instead of leave me the way he is....... What should i do?

listen to yourself, crying 'i'm willing to do this' 'i'm ready to do that' to a bunch of people that don't even want you. How much could you possible love yourself desperately chasing someone is isn't even willing to overlook anything just to be with you? Talkless of bend his own principles to suit you?
Why don't you reserve your energy for someone that will reciprocate? Someone that will stand up for you? Trust me you don't even want to go near this man or his family, they have showed you early signs that you should take note of and even search in other men that you date (if dating yoruba men is a thing for you then you're on a very long road). Bottom line stop wasting your time with these people.

gabbi14: I am currently in the same position i really care about my nigerian boyfriend and he says he cares about me but he believes in (charms,curses,and all that other stuff) and he thinks that if he disobeys his parents that he will have bad luck the rest of his life and that he will never be happy.. so i met him and our first date went well but i was worried that his parents wouldnt approve because ALL of my bestfriends are either Nigerian or Ethiopian im just afriacan american so i've been around their culture most of my life and i truely respect it and i have seen how some do not approve of such relationships I asked and he said his parents wouldnt mind so we had several wonderful dates we spent every minute together after we made it official and he seemed totally in love with me even introduced me to his siblings and friends as his girlfriend until on his birthday I made very special plans and he seemed annoyed and was soooo rude the whole night told me he didnt want to celebrate and when i said i loved him he looked scared.... we get home and argue over his behaviour then i broke down because I try not to invest in a relationship because i have trust issues and i had already told him of my rocky past which he says he could handle...smh LIES so he then tells me that he doesnt want to fall in love with me no matter how much he cares because he could never marry me due to his parents and that the bible does not want him to disobey his parents yes he threw the bible at me as a christian i was obviously shocked and yelled that fornication and lying is also a sin !!!! but that didnt matter he then tells me i deserve better and that i should have someone who is able to love me(he even tried to set me up with a friend)smh but we should be friends and that he cares about my feelings... BTW he also told me that his plan was to be with me for awhile and then break up with me when he got deployed.... YES HES A MARINE HE LIVES IN AMERICA 6000 MILES AWAY FROM AFRICA BUT HIS BALLS ARE CHAINED TO HIS MOTHERS FRONT PORCH IN AFRICA!!! I need help i love him seriously just his smile makes me happy and all i want is to make him happy and be with him we may never get married heck im in college im too young and it would atleast be 3 years but i want him to atleast try instead of leave me the way he is....... What should i do?

I have played that number in the past
Tell him to stop lying
Dude is using is parents as an excuse
Telling him to man up
He want a Nigerian woman fine but he should man up

gabbi14: I am currently in the same position i really care about my nigerian boyfriend and he says he cares about me but he believes in (charms,curses,and all that other stuff) and he thinks that if he disobeys his parents that he will have bad luck the rest of his life and that he will never be happy.. so i met him and our first date went well but i was worried that his parents wouldnt approve because ALL of my bestfriends are either Nigerian or Ethiopian im just afriacan american so i've been around their culture most of my life and i truely respect it and i have seen how some do not approve of such relationships I asked and he said his parents wouldnt mind so we had several wonderful dates we spent every minute together after we made it official and he seemed totally in love with me even introduced me to his siblings and friends as his girlfriend until on his birthday I made very special plans and he seemed annoyed and was soooo rude the whole night told me he didnt want to celebrate and when i said i loved him he looked scared.... we get home and argue over his behaviour then i broke down because I try not to invest in a relationship because i have trust issues and i had already told him of my rocky past which he says he could handle...smh LIES so he then tells me that he doesnt want to fall in love with me no matter how much he cares because he could never marry me due to his parents and that the bible does not want him to disobey his parents yes he threw the bible at me as a christian i was obviously shocked and yelled that fornication and lying is also a sin !!!! but that didnt matter he then tells me i deserve better and that i should have someone who is able to love me(he even tried to set me up with a friend)smh but we should be friends and that he cares about my feelings... BTW he also told me that his plan was to be with me for awhile and then break up with me when he got deployed.... YES HES A MARINE HE LIVES IN AMERICA 6000 MILES AWAY FROM AFRICA BUT HIS BALLS ARE CHAINED TO HIS MOTHERS FRONT PORCH IN AFRICA!!! I need help i love him seriously just his smile makes me happy and all i want is to make him happy and be with him we may never get married heck im in college im too young and it would atleast be 3 years but i want him to atleast try instead of leave me the way he is....... What should i do?

Girl my situation was kind of the same. Just move on. Momma is partially just an excuse for what he intended to do all along. He knew what he was doing when he got involved with. And I knew its hard, I cried for months but the best thing to do is move on. This is his culture and you cant change that....Sorry that you have to experience that, I personally know that its not a good feeling. But if you like Nigerian men there are others out there willing to date African American women, just be careful

cshall1120:


Girl my situation was kind of the same. Just move on. Momma is partially just an excuse for what he intended to do all along. He knew what he was doing when he got involved with. And I knew its hard, I cried for months but the best thing to do is move on. This is his culture and you cant change that....Sorry that you have to experience that, I personally know that its not a good feeling. But if you like Nigerian men there are others out there willing to date African American women, just be careful

It is not culture but excuse, I have done it
Like you clearly stated that other are willing to date and marry AA woman
I am happily married to AA woman

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^^ladies hope you saw his post.

he even resembles AA or somali.

note, dont know the guy from adam and neither am i endorsing him plz.

Black men ain't shit. Get a white man.

luckgames:
I have played that number in the past
Tell him to stop lying
Dude is using is parents as an excuse
Telling him to man up
He want a Nigerian woman fine but he should man up

thats a possibility!

I know and thank you for the advice and support I am just soo pissed idk what hurts more that i loved him, that He broke up with Me,or the way it happend. i havent been this mad in years but i guess the show must go on i just hate that he seems so calm cool and collected after all this!!

Mrs.Chima:
Black men ain't shit. Get a white man.

Other BS of your
Evil comes in all color, race and nationality
Don't fool yourself Madam

luckgames:
Other BS of your
Evil comes in all color, race and nationality
Don't fool yourself Madam

Don't hate.

Mrs.Chima:


Don't hate.

Girl, I am not a hater
Sis, Question for you
Do you have white joystick at home?

I have noticed that TOO MANY people are under the impression that non-Nigerian women goes out in the hunt looking for Nigerian men. I mean WTF? I know I am going to bruise some feelings...oh well.

Nigerian men are no different than non-Nigerian men. Collectively, all of them are full of shit.....but I digress. Why do some people feel it is their duty to tell GROWN people whom they should or shouldn't date/marry?

Would it be any different if OP was Nigerian? Then what would the excuses be? An arsehole is an arsehole regardless if he is a momma's boy or a broke nigga. Some people need to stop making excuses for pure fuckery. It has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with what, you are, where you come from, and whom you represent. If you want someone, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE ANY EXCUSES. Real talk.

Now OP..take your experience with a grain of salt and move forward with positivity. You may meet another Yoruba who would have class and intelligence far greater than your ex. You may meet an Indian or German who will love you regardless. Never let anyone make you feel like shit or ashamed because you are Black American.

Despite what dumb arses say...Black women in Western countries aren't just marrying/dating Africans, but Asians, Whites, Arabs, Native American, and Islanders.

You also have remember many chatters on here are looking for someone to love and desire them as well. Some of them have boyfriends and girlfriends goes by the name VASELINE AND BATTERIES.

luckgames:
Girl, I am not a hater
Sis, Question for you
Do you have white joystick at home?

No. My husband is Black.

Mrs.Chima:
I have noticed that TOO MANY people are under the impression that non-Nigerian women goes out in the hunt looking for Nigerian men. I mean WTF? I know I am going to bruise some feelings...oh well.

Nigerian men are no different than non-Nigerian men. Collectively, all of them are full of shit.....but I digress. Why do some people feel it is their duty to tell GROWN people whom they should or shouldn't date/marry?

Would it be any different if OP was Nigerian? Then what would the excuses be? An arsehole is an arsehole regardless if he is a momma's boy or a broke nigga. Some people need to stop making excuses for pure fuckery. It has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with what, you are, where you come from, and whom you represent. If you want someone, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE ANY EXCUSES. Real talk.

Now OP..take your experience with a grain of salt and move forward with positivity. You may meet another Yoruba who would have class and intelligence far greater than your ex. You may meet an Indian or German who will love you regardless. Never let anyone make you feel like shit or ashamed because you are Black American.

Despite what dumb arses say...Black women in Western countries aren't just marrying/dating Africans, but Asians, Whites, Arabs, Native American, and Islanders.

You also have remember many chatters on here are looking for someone to love and desire them as well. Some of them have boyfriends and girlfriends goes by the name VASELINE AND BATTERIES.

You are my girl

Mrs.Chima:
I have noticed that TOO MANY people are under the impression that non-Nigerian women goes out in the hunt looking for Nigerian men. I mean WTF? I know I am going to bruise some feelings...oh well.

I find it soo weird, some of them really believe it. I mean really believe it, thats why they go about actin complete dickheads and giving the rest of us bad reps.

tpia@:
^^ladies hope you saw his post.

he even resembles AA or somali.

note, dont know the guy from adam and neither am i endorsing him plz.

Dude lookin lik a brokedown Willis McGahee. I'm sure the op could do better.

queensmith:

I find it soo weird, some of them really believe it. I mean really believe it, thats why they go about actin complete dickheads and giving the rest of us bad reps.

I agree with this because I never went in search of a Nigerian he pursued me. I have never thought about dating anyone from Africa prior due to the things i had heard. But Hey if it makes them feel better to think that way let them go ahead.

SAFO:

Dude lookin lik a brokedown Willis McGahee. I'm sure the op could do better.

Yanno! Get yo arse out of my mind!

There is no need for her to be crying and blowing her nose over a worthless nigga. Real talk.

cshall1120:

I agree with this because I never went in search of a Nigerian he pursued me. I have never thought about dating anyone from Africa prior due to the things i had heard. But Hey if it makes them feel better to think that way let them go ahead.

I believe that he CONTACTED you and despite the bullshit you hear about Nigeria....you still gave him a chance and that is commendable.

You have many "supposedly intelligent" niggas claiming they have graduate degrees but can't distinguish between bullshit and reality.

That's embarrassing for them.

Be proud of who you are and trust me a man will NOT MAKE any excuses regarding you. He just didn't want you and Bleep HIM.

queensmith:

I find it soo weird, some of them really believe it. I mean really believe it, thats why they go about actin complete dickheads and giving the rest of us bad reps.

Girl...I don't know what wrong with some of these ditzy niggas because you and I know that Nigerian men are mostly the ones doing the "hunting" even many of them said it personally.

There are a few chicks that aren't Black have made statements offline stating that Black Dick is the truth. I told their dumb arses....a dick is a dick is a dick regardless color.

What they should be more concern with is the nigga right INSIDE...and not between his legs.

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