i was dating a beautiful arabian girl for 6 yrs bt my pa never approved of her until wen her parents forced her to marrry some1 else. Now my family are presenting me some 1 of dsame name wth d former bt i dont have a slight crush for her may be because i hv shut d door of my heart. dey are all angry with me. should i succumb to their need? pls advise me.

@bashdecash

well,the first thing i would tell u is,as hard as it is ,u have to forget ur gf of 6 yrs,cos now that she is married i dont see y u should still be emotionally attached to her(though 6 yrs aint a joke),but face reality she is gone for good.

secondly,the new gal they r 'forcing' on you,does she have any good qualities that u like(not neccessarily physical qualities here).i mean habits,attitude,etc.i'm not saying u should compare with ur former gal(we r all different).if she has atleast 70% of the qualities u have in mind then date her(dont marry her yet o)

Thirdly,if u make up ur mind to date her ,let ur ppl know u r not going to marry her straight away like that,but that u want to get to know her better.

Overall,i think u r the one in the best position to make ur choice cos ur ppl may want the best for u,but in the end u will be the one to live with her.

Cheers!!!

sup with the arranged marriages.

don't go into a marriage that u will regret a lifetime.

go out there, meet pple and live ur life.

rachiwise, thank u very much 4 d advise. d new girl hv a lot of qualities too and frm a good background either, but am just finding it difficult to love her and dt may cause havoc in d marriage thing.