Please help!!! Give feedback. My fiancé has this friend he has known since about 16. They met at boarding school. She liked him at one point of time. They had one close interaction in bed where she stopped him from allowing anything to happen once they were older. He would frequently fly to see her during holidays and periodically throughout the year. I told him that I thought this was a friendship he should let go out of respect for our future. Am I wrong? He leaves the house to talk to her on the phone at weird hours of night and morning. Is this ok?

Staytru: Please help!!! Give feedback. My fiancé has this friend he has known since about 16. They met at boarding school. She liked him at one point of time. They had one close interaction in bed where she stopped him from allowing anything to happen once they were older. He would frequently fly to see her during holidays and periodically throughout the year. I told him that I thought this was a friendship he should let go out of respect for our future. Am I wrong? He leaves the house to talk to her on the phone at weird hours of night and morning. Is this ok?

u told him right

. . . .Going out to receive the call is overly suspicious.

What's being discussed that can't be said in your presence?

@OP
if you were not so hell bent of destroying the friendship he had with this person, then maybe he wouldnt have to hide to answer calls from her. you better accept him fully or find some other person to marry, instead of trying to use blackmail to satisfy your insecure self.

@ MRbrownJ... I never tried to destroy friendship initially, but when I found out he tried to have sex with her and jumped in the bed with her with undergarments (before we were together)I made a logical decision to ask him to remove her from his A list of friends. And at no time even if they remained the best of friends w/o me saying a word is it exceptible to leave me while I am sleep in the middle of the night to CALL HER at 4AM especially when I already told you I don't like when you leave me in the bed to go talk to your male friend during tht time.. On top of that wants me to have his child ( like now) and you keeping company with a women that is known for having sex with whoever and whenever and he agreed with me she would be the type to be a married man mistress. Next time get all the facts dear before you suggest I am insecure. It is one thing to be insecure and another to not take any shit and having standards we were friends for over 6 years before in a relationship and never have he disrected me before and was not going to start.

U didnt need d poll :-/

u knw its wrong, me i suggest u talk to him about how u feel. Heart to heart. He wld explain why he z still frnds wt ha, so shld b understandin, cut him some slack n tell him to just reduce d communicatn wt d girl. They can still b frndz tho.
If he respects u he'd comply. If he doesnt comply get ready to share ur marital bed with him n d lady wen u re married. Cos dt one is nt a normal frndshp.