xxhoney: i am writing this because i am not sure if my view on this matter is right or not. my friend has been dating this guy for over four years and all through this time, she has been the one taking care of him even when she had no job. its not as if he hasnt been trying to get one but even after all his struggles, it was very tough on him. she has been taking care of him as everyone abandoned him even his parents. he is a good guy in d sense that he doesnt womanise, smoke but drinks moderately. the only problem i have with him is his strict nature. he has an attitude problem, he disagrees with alot of things. he is still a nice person and he appreciates what shes been doing for him but i still feel that it gets to him because she dares not raise her voice at him, or insult him even jokingly or else his conclusion will be that shes raising shoulders because shes been d one taking care of him. he loves her very much because of her kind heart towards him. sometime ago she wanted to leave him but he begged so much and shared alot of tears she was having too many suitors come her way but she was always cutting them off, rich good looking guys. and shes a beauty too. sometimes i feel so sorry for her because she doesnt deserve what shes been through she is such a good girl. she decided to stick with him after all the pleading. but sometime last year, she assisted him with some loan for a business but he said it was quite little so he gave it to his friend who already had an ongoing business to be returned with interest after 3 months but the business went bad and his friend lost all the money, almost a million naira. it is seriously affecting her salary as she now repays the loan through it. she has been so worried but he isnt finding her complaints easy he said she should stop complaining like this all the time that he doesnt like it that she just has to be strong that it will be well this was what he said when she paid 200k for a visa that went bad that money was lost. this led to a very slight misunderstanding and because of that, he hasnt called her for a week now. about 2 pastors telling her that that guy is her husband even a stranger walked up to her one day and said the same thing and also told her that the guy has a very bright future but do these prophecies come to pass all the time? why will she be going through this pains with someone who is supposed to be the husband she is 30years now and the guy 32. he has a job now though a small one but no plans for marriage yet and she has like 3 marriage proposals pending, one from a top rich lawyer in abuja i know money is not everything but this gal deserves to enjoy pls what do u think? i need your honest comments here

xxhoney: @ sweetlemon, d guy didn't know any of d pastors but she did. And d stranger was even in another state. I agree with d previous posts as I do not completely believe in pastors prophecies especially when it has to do with right husband/wife. I believe everyone shud be able to seek Gods guidiance & direction on his or her own. Thanks u guys for all your responses, keep em coming.... Would like to see more. :-)

Dyt: the only problem i have with him is his strict nature

clears throat


well
since ur pastors has said he is d ryt man, wait wit him till u r 45
it is well wit u both

Sam xiu lee: I think she should move on,poor guys are always nice when they don't have money,they pretend to be nice,once they have money it's either they stick with cos they think that they owe you, basing the relationship on self pity and debt etc.when the money comes thats when you see the real character.

MRbrownJAY: - unless she was forced into doing all what she did, then i see no problem here. when men are doing the same thing, nobody sees anything wrong in the act, so why should this be any different?
- why do you think people should raise their voices or insult their partner? is it because she has money that you think she has the right to do such low life act? people who have ABSOLUTELY no class do such thing, at least she is showing some maturity.
- how do you know that the reason he loves her is simply because of her kind heart?
- people should take ALL of their pastors prophecies, or none......but taking only the ones that suits you is definitely WRONG!
- thinking that happy people dont go through pain/suffering is also a sure way to fail in life.
- the fact that you want them to marry when they have nothing SECURE in place, shows us all YOUR level of desperation/irresponsible nature.
- nothing this guy does is good for you, yet they have been together for 4yrs. when are you going to realize that your views do NOT matter, and that you probably should accept their r/ship?.

we can all understand from your post that you would rather marry her off quickly (out of desperation) to any strangers out there........but maybe you should LISTEN to your friend, and be there for her. not everyone out there want to marry donkeys, just out of desperation for marriage.

Onegai: Human beings! I don't know why we exist. This is a sad case of right woman, wrong man. I had the same problem, my salary was even smaller than my ex's, but I was more generous and invested in his future. He would hala over lack of anything, and kept worrying I would blame him if the rel ended. Then he pulled away and when I tried to remove him off my bb or I don't reply his msg, he loses his shi.t. When I try to fix things, he doesn't want to talk.
This man is taking advantage of a good woman. And he's not calling her. Let her stop, don't beg. Pray. Ask God for help. Pastors are not infallible, so they could have misunderstood God's intentions to her. She's proved herself, and it's still not enough for him. Some people cannot accept love when it comes because they're used to rubbish. So let him find her. She's been his blessing, and let her remember, Jacob wrestled an angel for his blessing. I've seen good women end up marrying fellows like this and the man cheats, because he has from Day 1 never been able to appreciate his blessing.[i][/i][size=18pt][/size] Yes, they will cry when you want to leave, the lady I know in this situation, her hubby calls her mum when she wants to leave after 13 years of marriage. But he doesn't want to stop cheating. Let her be careful.

190: wow for a nigerian woman - Im impressed

madambini: @ OP:
You are a F-O-O-L!
A woman does not spend money on a man that is not her husband!
If ur so called boyfriend hits small money, he'd forget u so quickly.
And who are these so called prophets telling u that the godforsaken man is your husband? Will they live with you in the marriage?
Rubbish!