Hello all

My girl wants both of us to plan things together in order to achieve our target. Our Major target is starting a business and then we get married. We are both working and we all have low income. We have been dating for like 5 years now and we really love each other and want to be together for the rest of our life. But due to the fact that I am not financially buoyant, She suggested that it we be great if we should join our income together then it will be easier to achieve what ever we want.
My question is,
Has such cases ever happened to any one, a girl and a guy combining their income together to meet up their target?
A man supposes to be the head of the house, what if in the future she proud that if not for her, we won’t achieve what we are archiving today? Should she assist me or I hustle on my own?

Please I need advice and ask me what ever question I will answer.

you should be very grateful that she's willing to sacrifice her income for both of you to be happy in future

A man supposes to be the head of the house, what if in the future she proud that if not for her, we won’t achieve what we are archiving today? Should she assist me or I hustle on my own?

Why would she say that if she gave her income willingly. I think she really loves you and wants to have a future with you.

In d future if she becomes proud, u let her no a proud woman divides d home.And a home divided cannot stand

Shikena!

u too dont do things dat will mk her proud
is she naturally proud?

@ stephen121, thank for your Advices
@ Idowuogbo, sorry i dont really get that
@ Dyt, She is not the proud type, i can strongly say this.She has been with me since when i was nobody, visited me in a place i never expected.

My bad! I speak wiv proverbs a lot.

U bothered about pride rite? If pride comes in, u thoroughly explain to her d consequences and strain it might put on ur union.

Gerrit!

My friend you better come down from your high horse and swallow your pride and Ego and accept her ideology because girls like her are very few in the market!

stephen121: you should be very grateful that she's willing to sacrifice her income for both of you to be happy in future


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[b]Why would she say that if she gave her income willingly. I think she really loves you and wants to have a future with you.

100% agree, stephen!

Yield

100% agree, stephen!

Idowuogbo: My bad! I speak wiv proverbs a lot.

U bothered about pride rite? If pride comes in, u thoroughly explain to her d consequences and strain it might put on ur union.

Gerrit!

Ohh ok, i got it now, thank you

@OP: I dont support ur collecting any money for business, from ur girl; except if she wants to loan u d money, then u can collect n pay her back later. If not, I'll suggest u go look for d money elsewhere! I pray ur plans of being together, 4ever works; but what if it doesn't? There are 2sides to a coin! Guy, use ur own money, run ur biz o! I rest my case!

austushi1: @OP: I dont support ur collecting any money for business, from ur girl; except if she wants to loan u d money, then u can collect n pay her back later. If not, I'll suggest u go look for d money elsewhere! I pray ur plans of being together, 4ever works; but what if it doesn't? There are 2sides to a coin! Guy, use ur own money, run ur biz o! I rest my case!

Hmmmmmm

I think it might work out but you guys have to remain focused and true to each other(Fidelity) else it will backfire later own.My 2cents

Are you complaining

gabriel74: Hello all

My girl wants both of us to plan things together in order to achieve our target. Our Major target is starting a business and then we get married. We are both working and we all have low income. We have been dating for like 5 years now and we really love each other and want to be together for the rest of our life. But due to the fact that I am not financially buoyant, She suggested that it we be great if we should join our income together then it will be easier to achieve what ever we want.
My question is,
Has such cases ever happened to any one, a girl and a guy combining their income together to meet up their target?
A man supposes to be the head of the house, what if in the future she proud that if not for her, we won’t achieve what we are archiving today? Should she assist me or I hustle on my own?

Please I need advice and ask me what ever question I will answer.

Great Girl
Question for you
Will you advise your sister to give money to her boy friend
They are not married and they don't have kids together
Hell NO

Totoplayer20:
Great Girl
Question for you
Will you advise your sister to give money to her boy friend
They are not married and they don't have kids together
Hell NO

Thats a good one, thank for the advice,if at all there will be something like that, we have to get married first.

kpolli: Are you complaining

LOL

Will you do the same if she was the one who wanted to start a business. U say u wanna be together forever. This doesn't happen by magic. It will take 2 of u to join head, body and resources and build TOGETHER. U become a unit. Real love is selfless. Be happy you have a woman who care so much for you and your future

D fact dat dis gal loves u can not be overlooked. But d fact remains,u r nt yet married. Just has sm1 said luk 4 d money elsewhere bc in d near future wen disagreement cums(which is certain),won't she talk abt d money she gave?

Planning together to achieve what you BOTH want, now, what's wrong with that poster. It's not like she's taking full responsibility of the finances, you are BOTH combining incomes. And yes, u should thank ur stars she consented but if u stil not okay with it, pay her back in future but for the now, make do with what u both have.

@OP
Your girl is a nice girl. You should take the money, only as a loan. Pay her back as soon as you can. . .

This way, your ego wont be hurt and you'll still get to be ''the man'' in your relationship.

Just my 2 quid

To me, Business & Family/Friendships don't mix. Talking from personal experience

Totoplayer has said it all.

I advise u hustle on ur own & look for a better alternative. That way, ur pride & dignity remains intact!!

This is a two edged sword: If you must combine your resources together, which is ideal, be ready to stay humble and accept her opinion, and dont even dream of cheating on her in future. If you do not accept, you are doomed to hustling for almost eternity. I will say, take it, and listen to her every input in the business and you will be successful. When I started out, I saved, all my funds in my girlfriends bank under her control and we have been great, for the past 4yrs, we seen several millions successfully managed.

@op, no padi 4jungle. Business n family dnt blend 2geda. Hustle on ur own!!

NEVER NEVER NEVER...It will come back to haunt you terribly because the money made she will consider to be hers and also if she does not pull her weight you will have to sack her and that will be the final disaster

Idowuogbo: In d future if she becomes proud, u let her no a proud woman divides d home.And a home divided cannot stand

Shikena!

Well said!

Man what a rare gem of a woman you have got.
That babe really loves u I guess.And is taking a great risk with you!!
Or will you rather preferred a woman with the mentality:" my money is my money, my husband's money is our money"?
I will advise if you are sure you are marrying the babe to accept her offer, and be faithful to her. Few women will be willing to do what she offered to do, and to think you are not yet married! Don't be preoccupied with if she becomes proud in the future. What if she does not? People change, and nothing guarantees that the babe you pick when you are made and in cash will not start acting up after a few kids. If she starts acting up, you can at least say you never asked her for funds, as she willingly offered.
Go and build your future and stop looking for smoke where there is no fire!!!
She has been with you 5 good years, you think she has not seen financially stable men, with whom she will not need to take such risks and still stuck to you?
If you wish you may document the partnership and record the cash injection from her.

2goodbobo: My friend you better come down from your high horse and swallow your pride and Ego and accept her ideology because girls like her are very few in the market!

True talk my Guy!

tellwisdom: Bro, you are a foollllsih boy . Why would she give you punny and still give u money??

Lmao!!!