Good day mums. My hubby confessed to me some days ago that my live in maid that left last month, they both had some things going on, that they never had sex but they romanced countless times in the midnight when I was asleep. He said it started when I refused him sex so the girl in question started seducing him with her dressing. I have a 6 months old baby who wakes up in the midnight a lot to breastfeed. I trusted my hubby so much that I can't believe such a thing would happen, am in so much shock and so angry.he also confessed that that is the main reason she left cos web our sex life improved he wasn't going to her again.i asked him why he didn't tell me immediately all these started since I thought we were close, and he said he didn't know how I would react. Right now am not just talking with him anymore and I don't respect him again cos I remember how he yelled at me a lot when she was around. It's still as if am dreaming. Please experienced mothers advise.I have not being myself since he told me. What is holding me back from reacting is because he confessed and I didn't catch them in the act. At this stage I don't trust any man again.

enque:


This one u r adding 'special' to her title, biko tell us wetin dey

lol.... Nothing ohhh!!! My husband bought same thing for like 4500 and from my special customer i usually buy it for 3200. You see why she is special.

Akorkor:


lol.... Nothing ohhh!!! My husband bought same thing for like 4500 and from my special customer i usually buy it for 3200. You see why she is special.

i'm not far from arena o (i de airport road).....I go halla u if I need the contacts anytime

enque:


i'm not far from arena o (i de airport road).....I go halla u if I need the contacts anytime

No problem!!! I dey kampe. Na wholesales she dey sell.

debbydominic:
Good day mums. My hubby confessed to me some days ago that my live in maid that left last month, they both had some things going on, that they never had sex but they romanced countless times in the midnight when I was asleep. He said it started when I refused him sex so the girl in question started seducing him with her dressing. I have a 6 months old baby who wakes up in the midnight a lot to breastfeed. I trusted my hubby so much that I can't believe such a thing would happen, am in so much shock and so angry.he also confessed that that is the main reason she left cos web our sex life improved he wasn't going to her again.i asked him why he didn't tell me immediately all these started since I thought we were close, and he said he didn't know how I would react. Right now am not just talking with him anymore and I don't respect him again cos I remember how he yelled at me a lot when she was around. It's still as if am dreaming. Please experienced mothers advise.I have not being myself since he told me. What is holding me back from reacting is because he confessed and I didn't catch them in the act. At this stage I don't trust any man again.

Hmmm!!! This is somehow serious. He still fear you that is why he came out to tell you about his escapade. Please don't keep malice with him because that can send him out more. I will advise you go for counselling(Not church oh)Professional Counselor because of respect issue you have for him now. The lord will have its way in your household

Benignasweety:
One Pharmacy in the East when I was still running around for my unending lochia

Lol @ unending lochia
I check the big supermarkets around and see if I will find it

limsycutey:
Hello mamas, I hope you and your little ones are doing great. . I was one of the August 2016 mamas, Jisola will be 11months old tomorrow, how time flies! A lot has been happening, relocation, new job, mummy duties I hardly have time to come here again.

I have a question please, my elder sister is pregnant with her second baby and she stays on the island. She used St. Luke's on commercial avenue (Yaba) for her first and she does not want to go back there. She went to southshore (somewhere in V. I) today and vaginal delivery is between 400k-500k Please we need recommendations of good and relatively affordable hospitals on the island. Thank you.

Lolz what do you expect from a hospital located on Mike Adenuga close?

Military Hospital Awolowo road Ikoyi.(60-80 for vd)

Island maternity Campbell Street Lagos island.(30-50 for vd and 120-150 for cs)

Premiere specialist ogalade close Victoria island(off ologun agbaje/saka Tinubu.(150-180 vd 250-350 cs)

Prices may vary according to patient need.

enque:


pele!
na everything u pack go swap?

I had already opened one pack of the molfix giga economy pack. It's the second one that I didn't open that I swapped

jazzyjazz:


Lol @ unending lochia
I check the big supermarkets around and see if I will find it

Na big supermarket sef i de buy am....it's not so popular like 'molFAKE'

reniduke:
Mamas please urgent request. Anyone know or can recommend creche around yaba to ebutemetta. Lo is almost 3months when i resume in 11days time. Im doing daycare cos im scared to hire nanny n leave a stranger in my house.
Next time ill get the nanny like one month before i resume and be observing her till i have to resume.

I will recommend playdays creche and preschool at 54 iwaya road onike yaba. My kids are there in the creche and school. The crèche fees is 25k monthly. They're available from 6am to 7pm and I think there's a fee of 2k for late night pick up

debbydominic:
Good day mums. My hubby confessed to me some days ago that my live in maid that left last month, they both had some things going on, that they never had sex but they romanced countless times in the midnight when I was asleep. He said it started when I refused him sex so the girl in question started seducing him with her dressing. I have a 6 months old baby who wakes up in the midnight a lot to breastfeed. I trusted my hubby so much that I can't believe such a thing would happen, am in so much shock and so angry.he also confessed that that is the main reason she left cos web our sex life improved he wasn't going to her again.i asked him why he didn't tell me immediately all these started since I thought we were close, and he said he didn't know how I would react. Right now am not just talking with him anymore and I don't respect him again cos I remember how he yelled at me a lot when she was around. It's still as if am dreaming. Please experienced mothers advise.I have not being myself since he told me. What is holding me back from reacting is because he confessed and I didn't catch them in the act. At this stage I don't trust any man again.

first u need to deal with your heart bf any other thing. My hubby would say, never keep a goat with a yam and don't expect it to eat. Keeping malice is worsening the whole thing, refusing him sex was very very wrong. That aside, c a counsellor together, not pastor ooo. U need to forgive him and love him more for telling u

olubankemi:


Oya enter bathroom and open shower on top you head. Feel cool, you are overdue.

Eat whatever you feel like eating.

Thanks ma'am

hunniesuzie:
3 weeks ke!!!!!!!!! Biko eat freely. I think I only stuck with hot stuff for like 5 days

Ok, good to know

enque:


Na big supermarket sef i de buy am....it's not so popular like 'molFAKE'

This company Don suffer for our hand

Akorkor:


Hmmm!!! This is somehow serious. He still fear you that is why he came out to tell you about his escapade. Please don't keep malice with him because that can send him out more. I will advise you go for counselling(Not church oh)Professional Counselor because of respect issue you have for him now. The lord will have its way in your household

He said he had to tell me about it to clear his conscience and during those period it was as if he was under a spell. Do you know any good counsellor you can recommend. I haven't been married for up to 3 years.

jazzyjazz:



This company Don suffer for our hand

debbydominic:

He said he had to tell me about it to clear his conscience and during those period it was as if he was under a spell. Do you know any good counsellor you can recommend. I haven't been married for up to 3 years.

No ma. I don't know any professional counselor but am sure other mama here may have idea of one or two. See mama, he still has a lot of love and respect for you that's why he came out of his shell to tell you what he did in secret. A lot of men Can not kiss and tell. It's also not easy to combine motherhood and wifehood(if there is any English like that) together but we need God grace to do it. At least our mother did it successfully so WE CAN TOO. What he did is wrong but for the fact that he told you, you have to find it in your heart and let it go(Not easy though). Always knows that men are babies and they need too much attention. It is well with us

@enque,,, don't let me start advertising for them... the diaper is so bae dat I don't use to see it in Ilorin here.. hv been sending my sister dat lives in Lagos. she go buy n send to me..
I don't need to form jare... atimes if I wan to change for my lo and see dat is still intact,, me I live it from morning like 10 till night and when I removed it u will think we use it few hours ago..

we r dat we are ogi voltron.. imagine d wee....na only ogi,tombrown n cerelac we dey take for now.. try it

Please mama why not church(Pastor)?

Akorkor:


Hmmm!!! This is somehow serious. He still fear you that is why he came out to tell you about his escapade. Please don't keep malice with him because that can send him out more. I will advise you go for counselling(Not church oh)Professional Counselor because of respect issue you have for him now. The lord will have its way in your household

debbydominic:
Good day mums. My hubby confessed to me some days ago that my live in maid that left last month, they both had some things going on, that they never had sex but they romanced countless times in the midnight when I was asleep. He said it started when I refused him sex so the girl in question started seducing him with her dressing. I have a 6 months old baby who wakes up in the midnight a lot to breastfeed. I trusted my hubby so much that I can't believe such a thing would happen, am in so much shock and so angry.he also confessed that that is the main reason she left cos web our sex life improved he wasn't going to her again.i asked him why he didn't tell me immediately all these started since I thought we were close, and he said he didn't know how I would react. Right now am not just talking with him anymore and I don't respect him again cos I remember how he yelled at me a lot when she was around. It's still as if am dreaming. Please experienced mothers advise.I have not being myself since he told me. What is holding me back from reacting is because he confessed and I didn't catch them in the act. At this stage I don't trust any man again.

now this statement can be interpreted in a few ways:

1. is it that the girl in question KNEW his wife refused him sex and then she started dressing differently in order to seduce the man? if she knew, how did she come about such information?

Or

2. has she always dressed that way, and then hubby started noticing ..... ALL of a sudden for whatever reason best known to him.

sorry to sound harsh,
but it seems to me that hubby may be trying to place the blame or cause of his short-comings on wifey. and that is utter BULL$h!T and classic Adam syndrome excuse.... "the woman made me do it".


i guess it is a good thing he told you himself rather than you finding out in any dramatic fashion, you will both need counselling and the trust will need to be re-built. there is no relationship that is not salvageable if both parties decide to make it work

HOWEVER, I will stress this point:

he needs to address the reasons for his straying..... and take full responsibility for his lack of control and not put the blame on you .

because it is emotional blackmail.... so no matter what mood you are in, well, ill, stressed, dying.... if he asks for sex you will then feel pressured to oblige him because he has planted the seed of fear in your head that any refusal of sex will mean he will start "being seduced" by anything that shows 3cm of flesh? Any man should have better self control than that! and this you need to trash out in your counselling sessions.

Mom lays down no even be problem. Mom lays down far from LO (and puts him in his bed) wahala!

jazzyjazz:
This is my life

Naomi14:
Please mama why not church(Pastor)?

Abegi park church pastor for corner!

Some of them will start quoting proverbs 33 woman for you and asking you to pray more, be submissive to your husband, bind the spirit of Jazeebel from your husband.

Many of them will never address the psychological reasons behind one's actions, it is always the devil's or your enemy's doing!.

Naomi14:
Please mama why not church(Pastor)?

Because some of our Pastors will not say it Black and White as it suppose to be said. And the very annoying thing is some of them will use you as an example on pulpit someday. If she want to go to church she can.

AlphaHandMaiden:


Bbegi park church pastor for corner!

Some of them will start quoting proverbs 33 woman for you and asking you to pray more, be submissive to your husband, bind the spirit of Jazeebel from your husband.

Many of them will never address the psychological reasons behind one's actions, it is always the devil's or your enemy's doing!.

Thank you!!!

Lmao

Akorkor:


Because some of our Pastors will not say it Black and White as it suppose to be said. And the very annoying thing is some of them will use you as an example on pulpit someday. If she want to go to church she can.

AlphaHandMaiden:


Abegi park church pastor for corner!

Some of them will start quoting proverbs 33 woman for you and asking you to pray more, be submissive to your husband, bind the spirit of Jazeebel from your husband.

Many of them will never address the psychological reasons behind one's actions, it is always the devil's or your enemy's doing!.

Sis, I hail u, u too much. They are not trained for that, their counselling most times make d man d victim. Some are even worse than most husbands abeg ooo. I can't patronize them

portable4real:
@enque,,, don't let me start advertising for them... the diaper is so bae dat I don't use to see it in Ilorin here.. hv been sending my sister dat lives in Lagos. she go buy n send to me..
I don't need to form jare... atimes if I wan to change for my lo and see dat is still intact,, me I live it from morning like 10 till night and when I removed it u will think we use it few hours ago..

we r dat we are ogi voltron.. imagine d wee....na only ogi,tombrown n cerelac we dey take for now.. try it

morning till night.............Jesuuu!
Aunty pls de try change am na, the diaper no go finish for market

Akorkor:


Because some of our Pastors will not say it Black and White as it suppose to be said. And the very annoying thing is some of them will use you as an example on pulpit someday. If she want to go to church she can.

I wee teh ya pastor

well said ma'am!

AlphaHandMaiden:


because it is emotional blackmail.... so no matter what mood you are in, well, ill, stressed, dying.... if he asks for sex you will then feel pressured to oblige him because he has planted the seed of fear in your head that any refusal of sex will mean he will start "being seduced" by anything that shows 3cm of flesh? Any man should have better self control than that! and this you need to trash out in your counselling sessions.

hunniesuzie:
Mom lays down no even be problem. Mom lays down far from LO (and puts him in his bed) wahala!

Hahaha true talk
The new one now is baby sits to play no problem, baby sits to play and watch TV no problem, mum stands up to pee or drink water while baby is watching His fave cartoon on TV and playing With his fave toys, biiiiiiiiiiig problem

Osanobua me so they say those things. Na wa o!

AlphaHandMaiden:


Abegi park church pastor for corner!

Some of them will start quoting proverbs 33 woman for you and asking you to pray more, be submissive to your husband, bind the spirit of Jazeebel from your husband.

Many of them will never address the psychological reasons behind one's actions, it is always the devil's or your enemy's doing!.

olubankemi:
Abeg, mamas in AJAH down to Majek, please I need good schools around. Pls don't read n pass if u can help.

We wanted to go round and ask but I need experience people here. I need good and quality school.

Thanks.

There are so many schools in these areas u mentioned, personally I don't like the idea of children traveling long distance especially in nursery /primary. In Ajah there is debiruss and school master. In majek there is texcel and Winfield.