Hell house, I am preparing for my traditional marriage, and I want to know who takes responsibility for the reception, is it me or the family of my wife to be?? Please I want serious minded people to answer the question, not the children in NL

From where I come from the bride's family takes responsibility for the reception and in my opinion that's the way it should be any where else because they (the bride & her family) are receiving visitors who should be warmly received and well catered for.

I mean think about it, when you get news that a relative or friend would like to visit or is coming to visit at a set date you usually would go out of your way to welcome them and make their stay a pleasant one, either by stocking up your kitchen with food or your refridgerator with drinks, renewing your Dstv subscription etc.

I don't see why it should be any different with a traditional marriage, after all you are going to be milked dry so they may as well host & treat you well while they rip you off. No offence meant though

Reading through my first post I realize there might be a chance of me being misunderstood so please note that, you are essentially responsible for providing what the elders/in-laws to be, ask of you before they give their daughter out in marriage.

You and your folks are visitors, visiting with an intent and for a purpose. The bride and her family on the other hand have a responsibility to see that these visitors are received warmly and treated well. That's what I mean by the bride's family being responsible for the reception.

Going by the topic of your thread, I would say a man is largely responsible for making a traditional marriage happen.

martin123: Hell house, I am preparing for my traditional marriage, and I want to know who takes responsibility for the reception, is it me or the family of my wife to be?? Please I want serious minded people to answer the question, not the children in NL

In almost all societies in the world, including African groups, the bride's family is responsible for wedding preparations and party expenses. The groom is merely responsible for the bride price and the gifts requested by the bride's parents. So, the bride's family will pay for the Reception.

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule.
1) Some couples already share responsibilities and if the man is more financially able, the groom will often give his fiancee the money she will give her parents to help with the party expenses; Conversely, some brides will help their fiance pay for some expenses, although, it is a general belief, that a bride should never help the man pay for the bridal price or gifts. (she can help him pay for other things, like lending him money to give his family for car rental or other extraneous expenses not directly involving the actual bride price and gifts.)
2) There was a thread on here where some of the princesses of NL swore up and down they would never lift a finger or donate a penny to assist in paying for their wedding - some said it's their culture - that the man pay for every expense of the wedding. It's not that way in mine, so I cannot verify it.

Bottomline, I would check with your people what your tradition and culture dictate. Since it is for the 'traditional' wedding, I'm sure you want to stick to the real cultural traditions of her culture and yours. From my personal observation, you, being the man really have nothing to worry about. Women, especially the bride's mother (along with your mom and fiancee) will love to do A to Z of the wedding preparation. All you have to do is send some bread to your mom every couple of weeks before the big day. lol.

Congratulations!

brides family is responsible for the traditional

Where i am from, the man provides the money, while the bride's family uses it to do the party/reception. Sometimes, the bride's family is nice and takes up more responsibilities but its not compulsory.

Oga carry your family go meet your inlaws make una discuss am now, abi na for nairaland you wan do the wedding. i tire for some people

Op,all the comments,are correct.ur brides family..
u only need to give them money,4 the cookin and all other thins happy married life.

From what I know, it's the bride's family - but our culture has been bastardized..

Traditional marriage is boring anyway, I don't have time for all that funky celebration.

shymmex: From what I know, it's the bride's family - but our culture has been bastardized..

Traditional marriage is boring anyway, I don't have time for all that funky celebration.

So says a British Nigerian. Na trditional wedding dey sweet pass.

afam4eva:
So says a British Nigerian. Na trditional wedding dey sweet pass.

Gbam...i can't imagine a wedding without the traditional aspect, it will be so boring!!!!!

martin123: Hell house, I am preparing for my traditional marriage, and I want to know who takes responsibility for the reception, is it me or the family of my wife to be?? Please I want serious minded people to answer the question, not the children in NL

Stupid Question from a very intelligent person.

The husband to be is financially responsible for traditional wedding. That is why the family of the wife to be give u long list which u must provide earlier b4 the wedding date to enable them prepare 4 their visitors.

Till today i despise my in laws for refusing to bring the money for food and drink during my trad. Marriage. Where I come from the man gives the girl's parents money for the preps necessarry, but they refused to do it. If you really love the person you are marrying better do things their way, else she will resent your family for it if they were the ones that influenced that decision.

martin123: Hell house, I am preparing for my traditional marriage, and I want to know who takes responsibility for the reception, is it me or the family of my wife to be?? Please I want serious minded people to answer the question, not the children in NL

Niiiga pay up! stop shying away from dropping the dough.

Where i come from, the groom pays to the last cent! shey na you wan marry??

Congrats! aka gum..

ronkebp:

Gbam...i can't imagine a wedding without the traditional aspect, it will be so boring!!!!!

Lol, did you just use the word; "One of the things that annoy him on Nairaland"...

@OP, idk because I'm not married...Ask your in-laws to be.

Oooooooo

afam4eva:
So says a British Nigerian. Na trditional wedding dey sweet pass.

All their time wasting antics isn't really my thing.

the in law to be ....but u, as a human being will buy food stuff and ingredent and send to them for the preparation....because i remember my uncle buying cow meat,bags of rice,other things then

From where I come from,the bride's family is responsible for the traditional wedding but if ur wife to be family is not that wealthy,I think it will be better to support them financially and u can only do that through their daughter.

guy you are about to pay ransom to the bride family

Ogbeni Op, which version do u want out of over 250 ethnic groups n 9ja. Se u no knw say diff cultures get dem diff styles. Hence d replies u r getting. Now dat pple don give u diff views. Oya chose all of dem.
& 2 ur topic, y u dy ask us ds kind questn wen d answer s right dr n ur skull!

@ OP, i think bringing such issue to social forum worsens the whole issue. I suggest you ask your wife to be what is obtainable in their custom. If after that, i guess you will know what to do.

Man all u gotta do is ask ur wife to be, dumbass!

U don't nid to abuse the guy, he asked a simple question.

My take is:
First, say discuss it with your wife.
Secondly, I think the bride's parent should be responsible for some of the reception items (food, drinks, venue, chairs and musicals) and the groom's family should provide all d items on d long list including things like: cake, renting cars, video coverage and some money sha to assist the bride's family.

sakaba: Man all u gotta do is ask ur wife to be, dumbass!

Stupid cuck sucker... What's wrong with the BACK button on your browser? Dumbass!

In my side of the country that is in Yorubaland, the wife's family is responsible for the traditional wedding expenses, WHile the groom brings the gift

[quote author=Billy[quote][/quote]onaire] Stupid Question from a very intelligent person.

Sholavick(quote)
@ Billynaire you don't have to abuse him,he has just asked a simple question. Well to be candid its always good to assist your wife's to be family financially for the preparation even if you were not asked,you should try and discuss with ur woman and know where they would be needing your help. During mine my hubby rendered some assistance despite all they were required to bring. Its proves to the parent that you are responsible which earns you a lot of respect from them, even if it was their duty to provide all.

991: Oga carry your family go meet your inlaws make una discuss am now, abi na for nairaland you wan do the wedding. i tire for some people

Take it easy now.

Bros u r the one to give money to your wife to prepare for the drinks, food and gbogbue, don't shy away from it and let your family come with their food too in the booths of the cars in case there is shortage frm ur inlaw

just discuss wit ur inlaw.

27naira:

Niiiga pay up! stop shying away from dropping the dough.

Where i come from, the groom pays to the last cent! shey na you wan marry??

Congrats! aka gum..

hahahhaahhhaha some of dis nairaland pikin go finish person wit laughter. U no suppose abuse d guy naw.