I started a relationship about 2yrs ago with this lady who resides the same street with me. Infact we have being friends before the intimacy. I really love her but i doubt her love for me. The reason is because she is one that cannot sit down for 5mins. she is always here or there. She likes social gathering and like partying. She is also my first love in my entire life. i am 28yrs of age and never being in a relationship until april last year.i am in my final yr and infact only 1 semester remaining for me to leave the university. She is just a secondary dropout but i kept encouraging her that she could go to school and i have told her that i would get a G.C.E for her next yr and even pay for her lessons. I do give her weekly allowances close to 3,000 naira buy her clothes and do alot for her. Honestly speaking she is the only one that has seen me naked and no one else but still she flirt.I have caught her close to 4 times with a guy in his car and she knows it. Everytime she apologises and say sorry.she says she love me but i think she is just after my little money. i really wanna marry her but i am in a dilemma. i am not used to girls and i am the shy type and she knows it. she knows i cannot talk 2 a girl becos i am shy. I am tired and fed up. I told her that i am pissed off. Just this Friday i was with her eating and drinking in a public pub and she received a call from her numerous boyfriend and immediately she said she was leaving to see someone. i confronted her and she said its just a friend. I later found out that it is one of her boyfriend who comes with a car. I was mad and could not sleep that night. I was infact weeping and said i would never see her again. Even as i send this poser i am still in tears and cannot continue anymore. We still saw dis morning and there was no greetings becos i was off to somewhere.I am fed up with life. ITs like women are the same. I really need a constructive advise from this house.I would love that becos its a critical issue on ground.

Stop crying and feeling sorry for your miserable self buddy. There are far better women out there.
Spending N12,000 a month on a girl who is not even your wife? that's silly dont you think.

Sorry guy, she's only there for ur money, she has noticed that u love her silly, so she believes she can always do things & get away with it easily.

She is making use of ur weakness. u need u brace urself up man.

Girls like that keep people like u to bounce back on when their richie-rich dumps them. Be wise

Its hard really hard to let her go, judging from your situation. tell you what a stich in time saves a hundred.

in your best interest, get giong before it gets too bad for you to get over, You will find better love elssewhere.

And hey, all women are not same. lol

hey man,

do not weep, wipe your tears, you started fucking a girl at 28? what were you doing all these years?
i really wish you had this experience much younger you sure wont be crying, and you would have known what to do, simply walk down the third street , you will see another girl, or better still, try clubbing ( it worked for me)you will  knock yourself on the head for crying because a woman left you.

most guys and girls experience this in their lifetime, I CALL IT "RITE OF PASSAGE" IN RELATIONSHIP.

take care.

wow, ndo oo, there are better girls abeg

y cant some guys  be real men?
spending over a girl
duh

my brother its as simple as abc gals are attracted to bad guys maybe ure too good for her liking,u will definitely be there but she will seek adventure somewhere else u know sometin diff frm wat u throwing at her.But be patient she might change.

my guy there is a saying that goes like this he who brings in an ant infested firewood has just invited the lizard for a feast, the point i am trying to make is that this girl obviously knows that u are mad about her and as such she is taking advantage of that what u have to do is wise up. there are so many very decent girls out there that are looking for guys any at all so all u have to do is to cool down freshen up as there is no such thing as a wowo guy and then go out u have to socialise and meet people, forget that babe the damage has already been done relax and u will meet up other very cool girls who will appreciate u. goodluck

Sorry for u! 12k a month for a chick that u know is cheating on u. What else do u want to hear from us? that u should go ahead and by chance some day she will change. Do what u want to do and dont ask foolish questions.

I would have said shame on you until i remembered that you said that this is ur first date

U said u saw her this morning abi?, Let that be the last time you see her as someone you've ever had anything with.
This is our JET AGE, so just step out and start moving.

Dont be decieved, LIFE IS GOOD. Pretty, lovely, decent honies abound. Trust me

I think it is a major flaw of girls [girls, i am sorry, just personal experience] to Bleep up when they have a guy who is head over heels in love with them.

That is when they start flirting with guys who can not possibly be a part of there future. As for me, the word sorry does not really exist in my
dicitionary especially when it comes to girls/women, i am always ready to pack my load out of a relationship when
the relationship makes no absolute sense!!!! Afterall, there are so many girls out there [both good and bad anyway]

i don't believe peo like u still exist secondly whether the story is true.
(the same legs that come should be the same legs to go.) what i mean is how u manage to get into her is the same way u will mange and go out of that beast. the same way u manage to approach her is the same way u will mange and get another lover who will love u more than that ingrate.
don't hesitate to leave my brother she is fulling her self secondary school drop out playing over your intelligence indeed, forget the issue of love there is no love there, love is what suppose to transper between two parties in a situation where it is one party is no longer love
please avoid had i know, is the last word which has no solution!!!!!!!!

bros wake up u get to much bar to throw around 4 that small girl and she done see u finish u know wetin u done see wen she never see that girl is just cheapen u beat her to her game make love to her s much as u can and pls dnt drop a kobo always give one excuse

na wa, this kinda love na chei

please just take the advice of most people here and leave her. its obvious she's an unrepentant flirt who doesn't deserve you. better act now before its late.

First of all, go and test yourself and make sure you are safe of any STD to be sleeping with

a girl the sleeps around. I know you are heart broken, is just something you have to go through because

hurts to love the wrong person. Who said you must marry your first love especially when you deserve better.

Second of all, she s not in your class at all. Try to make some guy friends and go out with them frequently,

they will teach you the game on how to approach a woman. You don't have to be handsome for a

woman to say yes to you. Just know how to play your game right. If you have decided to let her go,

let it be final and don't deceive yourself. You will be fine. Time will heal your broken heart and you

shall leave to love again. Take care.

You can only know the good ones after you have tasted the bad ones,bro! That is why I see this as a good experience for you. Should you be 28 and should this be your first love, then it means that you`ve started well. Very soon you would be moving on to the next stage of your life after graduation, and very soon you would be giving a seriuos thought to the need to settle down. It is better to start with the gold-digger you are calling your girl-friend now so that you wouldn`t need advice when you meet your future wife. But another thing to expect is that by the time you meet a good girl, your current girl-friend would try to convince you that you have been misreading the situation, that the only thing she has been having with all other guys you have been talking about is platonic relationship- don`t fall for it! Furthermore, don`t start any relationship that you expect to graduate into marriage the way you started this one; don`t let it be money-based. It`s better to give an impression of poverty to someone you`ve just met even if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. That has many advantages one of which is that you are not likely to end up with the type of girl you have at the moment. On a last note, remember that the best time to meet a responsible person is through the school channels. Being an introvert, you may want to give a serious thought to this sooner than later. Good luck!

Thanks Teriba, i would like to know your email address or rather your phone number so that we can talk. i really appreciate your contribution and others also. Teriba, pls give me ur contact. The issue at hand is almost making me crazy becos its my first love in my entire life.

Teriba, nice one

Muyi, the golden rule is "The girl for you wont care if you av money or not, she'll just do it and you'll feel rite".

She'll even give you money!

one love

Hey muyiwa,

I did not even finish reading your ordeals before I got hangry. Anyway, that is just by the way.

Please for crying loud clear, this babe is nothing but a bounce of flirt that does not deserve a cool and an ambitiuos guy like you. My candid advice is that you should leave her or even run away from her and delete her from your memory completely before you run into unrepairable trouble.

Freind, don't get lost in love, use your brain and move on up with your life because I can tell you categorically and without an unequivocal language that this babe in question will continue messing around if you eventually end-up marrying. Please borrow a lid from a married woman sleeping with her brother-in-law.
all you need to do is to concentrate on your studies and see how you can graduate with better grade that will earn white colar job.

Please and please be warned. All the best.

fab.

@ Poster

I suggest you leave her with immediate effect and move on.

@ dewaledeyi, thanks for your comment.

@muyiwa, you can use the following e-mail address to contact me: elstead27@btinternet.com

Cheers!

awww brotherly love and support

anyways i hope u have dumped that stupid girl by now and have moved on to better things.

i think the poster has personality problems.people like that tend to spend money unnecessarily thinking it will compensate for their shortcomings in bed or some thing like that.By the way how is the s3x thing with you two? need that for complete diagnosis of your situation.I believe you tried and failed due to your extreme shyness na?

muuyiwaa:

ITs like women are the same. I really need a constructive advise from this house.I would love that becos its a critical issue on ground.

Pally, how did you come to this conclusion, cos the last time I checked you have only dated one secondary school drop out in you entire 28 years on planet earth. Its obvious that you are very inexperienced when it comes to relationships.

muuyiwaa:

Even as i send this poser i am still in tears and cannot continue anymore. We still saw dis morning and there was no greetings becos i was off to somewhere.I am fed up with life.

LWKMD now that's my favourite; he has become suicidal. what exactly have you seen that you want to kill yourself?

Honestly this my problem with virgins: they are never matured when it comes to relationships and then they end up hurting themselves.
pally please get a life

Girls are terrible,
These r why we guyz these days have 2 look well b4 leapin~
sincerely speaking i hate gurls who dont think abt the future
except materialistic things,no single plans in their lives,
they just live their lives day by day, no plans for tomorrow
compare demselves with some other unfortunate beings~
and lastly are not independent (just tink guyz are expected to cater for all their needs)

Awwww you poor thing pls kick that gals ass out of your life she doesnt know your worth.face your studies.thank God it happened now.one day you will meet someone who'll be true to you.am glad you said with your mouth you are tired.

Shun her, she's just using you. There are girls out there looking for a guy like you.