Pls i'm desperately in need of advice frm matured pple in d house. There's this guy i want 2 get married 2. He's my ideal man(God fearing, caring, responsible and intelligent) but the problem is that everyone i know hates his home town, they said they are wicked, pretenders, stingy, too traditional cautious etc and he jst lost his well paid job but later got a lower paying one. I know things are nt easy wit him now, as he has 4 younger siblings he's takin care of, but wants us 2 get married ending of d yr. I'm really disturbd abt wat pple (including my relatives) are sayin abt his town and his financial state as i'm yet 2 get a job after youth service. Pls advice me like i'm ur sister.

Hmmm...

You're marrying him not his hometown.

Is he the first born son of his parents? My main concern here is that he already has a lot of responsibilities, and a not-so-great job from what you've written here. My instinct would be for you to run far and not look back, as this one na real suffer head o!

But then again, love conqueres all. If you're absolutely sure that deep down, he's the one for you, and he's got the potential to succeed, then by all means follow your heart.

Now, if you were my sister, I'll advice you to wait a bit - till you get a job. There's no need rushing to get hitched unless of course you're pregnant or desperate or both...

Are you marrying the man or his village?
What's stopping you from getting a job?
If you are convinced the man is a good man, go ahead and look for a job then marry him.

If you' re afraid of his hometown then figure out what you want to do.

Either ignore the fact or find someone else.

But if you're convinced you want to be with him, then concentrate on finding a job and remove your mind from the negative info.

@ ify,i wonder my sista..
Op,why not careless abt gossip,and hold unto ur luv?

The story of my life. Though mine is a bit different,(SS added to it, minus responsibiltiy).

@topic, why is it such a hard thing for ladies to make up their mind about what they want(i.e. a million dollar question).
Op, please tell me who will live with regret if you make a bad choice? Most ladies I ve come across always have one thing in common.... that is what will pple say.
S/he who wears the show knows where it pains most... nuff said.