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Access1125:
Hello everyone. I am very regular here but opened this account for this singular purpose. I never believed I will go this route; However, I am open and hoping to meet the person here.

I am fully and gainfully employed Engineer and educated to master's degree level, 5ft9in, weighing 85kg, 38 years and from Anambra State. I have no child and recently divorced from my partner of 6 years as result of genuine irreconcilable differences. I am actually a fun person to be with, but currently looking for that person that will re-ignite that bit of me once more.

I am hoping to meet an educated, smart, intelligent and a gainfully employed lady that will sweep me off my feet once more. I am not the richest, but I can provide for my family to the best of my ability

Please if you are the person, I pledge my love and loyalty, do get across so we can turn my HOUSE into a HOME together as its becoming too lonely/big for me

With Love from me

Thank you all. Just to bring update on my aforementioned topic. I met a wonderful 32 years old lady, a working class and we did our wedding around March 2021. We have a daughter and our son &hopefully the last will be born soon.

Thanks to all that commented on this topic and a big hugs to the women that established contact with me. I need not to mention the names.

I met my wife on Nairaland via this topic

Cheerz

Biglittlelois:
I'm talking of intimacy, since you both are mutually cordial with each other, to the extent of her interest in your love life, or is she a lesbian and was found out? Since all other options for reasons is obviously exhausted.

Nope, not a lesbian. We can't be intimate again as that will amount to wasting each other time. It's been 6months we spoke to each other last

Access1125:
Hello everyone. I am very regular here but opened this account for this singular purpose. I never believed I will go this route; However, I am open and hoping to meet the person here.

I am fully and gainfully employed Engineer and educated to master's degree level, 5ft9in, weighing 85kg, 38 years and from Anambra State. I have no child and recently divorced from my partner of 6 years as result of genuine irreconcilable differences. I am actually a fun person to be with, but currently looking for that person that will re-ignite that bit of me once more.

I am hoping to meet an educated, smart, intelligent and a gainfully employed lady that will sweep me off my feet once more. I am not the richest, but I can provide for my family to the best of my ability

Please if you are the person, I pledge my love and loyalty, do get across so we can turn my HOUSE into a HOME together as its becoming too lonely/big for me

With Love from me

Please I would prefer someone in Nigeria, not abroad. Preferably Port Harcourt or Lagos.

Lots of love

okpalaAnambra:
I guess she's AS just like you and you've possibly tried given birth but the child's genotype keeps being SS leading to aborting the babe.. Kindly just tell us the reason so we learn if I'm not correct, afterall you're using another moniker you're not known with.. I hope my request be granted

Guy, change your profession

YoungDaNaval:
You're new to nairaland you won't understand. That hoe was a pain in the ass with her previous moniker

I am not new. I have been here since inception

YoungDaNaval:
Pain kill you there!

I believe you are speaking from the position of ignorance, if you know the kind of pain sicklers go through during crisis, you will not make the a fore-mentioned statement. Please apologize to this young lady as she is a warrior, her life is a constant battle. Thanks

YoungDaNaval:
You won't understand. Maybe you're new to nairaland

Please @YoungDaNaval, Kindly tender an unreserved apology to @Chii59, what you said about her, even though true is despicable at best. We are all humans with emotions, I think she is very offended with your statement

Kindly apologize, its the hallmark of great personality and I expect not less from you. Thanks

lefulefu:
maybe u guys u should just get back together and make up if its just an ordinary seperation and not an official divorce

If it were that simple, we would have long done it. We are better apart for our sanity

Chii59:
My opinion. You're wearing the shoe, you know where it pinches.

Awesome, so do not see 6 months as too short a time to start a new relationship. I loved her and wish things were different for us; unfortunately, we had to part for better.

Chii59:
Uncle I think your problem might be konji.
You just got divorced, except you didn't love your wife, you need time to heal. 6 months is too recent.

My dear it is not konji as I can get it easily if that is what i want.
6 months is too short a time? - I have learnt never to judge one if you are not in ones shoe

Chii59:
Honestly. E weak me

This life is very short, make peace with all men to enjoy life

Biglittlelois:
How recent was the dissolution?

6 Months ago

Biglittlelois:
It also shows coming back together, though not permently, but otherwise, especially when married to someone else, very very risky.

The reason for dissolution will not allow us to come back together - permanent or temporal, as all the known options were exhausted.

YoungDaNaval:
Bia op, I'll advice you as a brother. Stick to your criterion and specifications. Don't allow anybody put you under pressure to settle for less....and the last and not the least, STAY AWAY FROM NAIRALAND LADIES!! They aint worth it else you'll regret it. I'm speaking from experience. A word is enough for the wise

Thanks for your concerns

SweetCunt97:
Mind you, a good lady may not have anything doing but doesn't mean she won't stand the test of time when d opportunity arises to better herself. Anyways Goodluck.

I agree with you; however, it can give a man peace knowing that your wife can comfortably take care of the home front if the unforeseen happen, God forbid ooo

lefulefu:
not saying u guys should be bitter enemies but that she is having an influence on ur love life is somehow.Anyway live ur life

No influence at all; things are said to make the hurt easier Brother. I communicated last with her in March after the dissolution.

SweetCunt97:
See, simply be praying for a woman who has sense, who sees the marriage as a partnership. Surely she'll support you when u in need. If u marry a business lady or an housewife, still same if she has that stingy attitude.

Not that I will die soon, at least I am not praying for that yet; I have seen families go into extreme poverty upon the demise of the breadwinner, so this partly informed my decision for seeking an independent woman. Thanks

lefulefu:
things that we hear on nl
ex wife trying to do hookup for ex husband

It shows that we had an amicable dissolution. An ex-wife has wedded the ex-husband with another lady. It shows moving on without bitterness

SweetCunt97:
Quite surprising for an anambra man. I used to feel they all archaic in their reasoning

Stereotyping is never good.

SweetCunt97:
6 years and no kids? Hope the tools are working properly though

The OP probably don't want kids, hence his insistence of a working class lady who wouldn't have the time fir such.

What stops a working class lady from resigning immediately she's married to you?

I want kids (perhaps 2 will do for me), In fact I adore them, I am not infertile. Just to add, I am AS

LegendAnselm:
bro i av seen a wife for u







dont doubt me





















am not an ordinary person

















she will build ur home

















she will bring peace to ur family




















she will not fail













..who is she?

















fortunately he is a nairalander













wetin be her name?!
















her name is


























CHI59








SHE IS UR WIFE





doubt me and blame ursef

Lol. I would kinda agree with you to a certain extent, but I suspect she is a young girl for my age. Thanks anyways

Blackmann001:
Plz explain that things being beyond control. And let's realize am not wrong...woman hardly are able to handle success and still b humble to hubby.....

Ur life,ur decisions!

I would prefer to make it a private discussion, only on interest.

My ex was a very successful lady and yet very submissive

Thanks

Chii59:
That means you've not yet announced your status.
Kids below 28. Guy, stop underrating people.
Even that 28, you think its a hallmark of maturity?
E be things o.
I don see men around your age range, more than 10 years my senior that were so immature and indecisive I had to pack myself out of the situationship.

I do not want a trophy wife as I consider anyone below 28 as such relative to my age, 38 and will be 39 before this year end. I consider 10 years as a huge generational gap

I dislike gossips, especially in offices and churches, hence the reason I do not want to announce my availability

Chii59:
Still there was a toasting and an offline meeting.

I met my ex-wife in her office f2f. People still see me as married and I am still maintaining that status.
I can toast ooo, but again I tend to see kids below 28 outside of my circle of influence

OlawaleBammie:
Sebi u won't listen abi?? Playback continue with Ur ITK

Na body go tell u laslas, the guy is just telling u the playing truth, to u now u can be perfect with woman abi?? Ok na



Instead of u to pray to God to direct Ur wife to u, u re here doing mister alpha guy.




Wetin even konsain me sed

Thanks a lot. Never say never

Chii59:
What irreconcilable differences will make you get divorced and your ex wife is trying to matchmake you with someone else?
Abi is one of you queer?
Whatever it is, a divorcee is a no no for me.
I hope you get your heart desire.
Still, it would be best if you can go about it the traditional way-toasting and wooing in person.
Well what do I know? Good luck.

Happiness is all we desire in life, Circumstances could differ. Thanks a lot once more

Chii59:
Uncle you came to the wrong place.

Thanks a lot. Never say never

Chii59:
Personally if I must date a divorcee, I must hear from his ex wife. To avoid stories that touch.
Good thing he has no children but it still sounds fishy.
Why did he get divorced ?
Why can't he approach ladies within his locality?
Very very important.

I will be happy to allow the person speak to my ex-wife; she actually offered to find one for me and I declined. It was genuinely on irreconcilable differences that bothered not on infidelity, infertility nor violence

Bikochi:
See how they have confused op. He's just switching sides. Oga maintain ur stand. There's nothing wrong with marrying a working class lady and she contributing to the home. Guys these days don't want a liability.

The only issue here is you are a divorcee and that would scare any lady.

Why can't you talk to ladies physically? Abi you met your ex online too?
I'm sure there are ladies around you. Church, work place, malls, etc. instead of subjecting yourself to nairaland ridicule and exposing yourself to gold digging elements.

I wish you the best of luck

Thanks a lot Brother. Exploring all the options as time will allow

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bcomputer101:
You are very wrong with your view.
I'm married to a working class lady. And I bless God that this is one of my best decision. She has been so supportive in every ways. Within 3years of marriage, we have achieved more than our imagination.
Dear brother, please don't every marry a lady that's not working. Unless you are financially buoyant to set her up with a sound business.

Marry your class

To paraphrase my original intent, I need a woman who is a working class primarily and not a working class who is a woman. I am not after her money, let her do her own thing and I will do mine as the head of home

I appreciate your advice. Thanks a lot.