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My fiancee and I are from the East and engaged her last month. All medical and background checks have been done and are fairly ok. Now here's where the issue lies:

Her dad is late, and in their village, there's a rite that must be done for the late dad before any TM. I told her I would like both TM and white wedding to be done in the village since we are both from the same state and it'll be easy for me so I know I'm done with any wedding. she disagreed citing that she wanted her friends, colleagues, and family to be present as they cant travel due to the economy. I considered so it wont look like I'm selfish and I wanted my people to be present more. I agreed to do the white wedding in our current base to balance up everything.

Few weeks later, her elder sister suggested we do the late dad's rite only in the village , then come to lagos and do the TM citing that's the way she did hers as they don't want people who weren't there for them to reap where they didn't sow. I disagreed and told them I gave my sisters hand in marriage last year and both TM and white were done in the village to make everything easy. Also told her most TM I attend are done in the village. They reluctantly agreed and stuck to the initial plan but said we should do it on a low key of which I agreed.

Note that all the while I was visiting her family in Lagos, it was only her mom's people that were present. I asked after her dad's siblings and they said they were in the village. I told her its necessary to be in good rapport with her dads people as they are the major deciders.

I requested for her dad's brothers contact so he will help me on some things since he will be standing as her dad. I called him and we started making plans. Few days later, my babe called me that my uncle told her 'I wont be around on the late dads rite, that ill send my younger brother'...i was shocked and angry and told her I never said that. my instincts told me its false as they wanted the TM to be in Lagos. The next day, her mom and sister called and were telling me they don't like the way I'm calling the uncle and asking him things.

It was a heated argument and I told them I've called off the wedding plans, we exchanged words and I hung up. The uncle called me next day and I told him what my babe said and he said he never said such. I told him my family said I should pause wedding plans for now so I don't enter a family where there's no unity. I told him to call my babe's mom and ask her what she wants since shes not cool with me calling him.

He pleaded but I stood my ground. I love her but it seems all is not well and I cant risk it. I need your advice.

Stevenbright:
The dad's traditional rite is on who?

When her elder sister got married, was their dad still alive, if no, why was the said traditional rite not done then?

its on the groom. no, he wasn't alive

Ibkay32:
So you had an argument with your in-law-to-be, and now you’re here seeking advice after you’ve already made up your mind? Honestly, even if I were the brother of the lady, I wouldn’t support her marrying you anymore. Your actions have likely raised serious doubts about your temperament and ability to handle family relationships. You should reflect deeply on how to rebuild that trust because conflicts like this can have lasting consequences. It's not just about marrying the person, but also about becoming part of a family. Think carefully about how you can approach the situation maturely to make amends.

yes, I have apologized but why are they lying about their dads brother all because they want everything in Lagos. its a subtle red flag that theyre the controlling type

My fiancee and I are from the East and engaged her last month. All medical and background checks have been done and are fairly ok. Now here's where the issue lies:

Her dad is late, and in their village, there's a rite that must be done for the late dad before any TM. I told her I would like both TM and white wedding to be done in the village since we are both from the same state and it'll be easy for me so I know I'm done with any wedding. she disagreed citing that she wanted her friends, colleagues, and family to be present as they cant travel due to the economy. I considered so it wont look like I'm selfish and I wanted my people to be present more. I agreed to do the white wedding in our current base to balance up everything.

Few weeks later, her elder sister suggested we do the late dad's rite only in the village , then come to lagos and do the TM citing that's the way she did hers as they don't want people who weren't there for them to reap where they didn't sow. I disagreed and told them I gave my sisters hand in marriage last year and both TM and white were done in the village to make everything easy. Also told her most TM I attend are done in the village. They reluctantly agreed and stuck to the initial plan but said we should do it on a low key of which I agreed.

Note that all the while I was visiting her family in Lagos, it was only her mom's people that were present. I asked after her dad's siblings and they said they were in the village. I told her its necessary to be in good rapport with her dads people as they are the major deciders.

I requested for her dad's brothers contact so he will help me on some things since he will be standing as her dad. I called him and we started making plans. Few days later, my babe called me that my uncle told her 'I wont be around on the late dads rite, that ill send my younger brother'...i was shocked and angry and told her I never said that. my instincts told me its false as they wanted the TM to be in Lagos. The next day, her mom and sister called and were telling me they don't like the way I'm calling the uncle and asking him things.

It was a heated argument and I told them I've called off the wedding plans, we exchanged words and I hung up. The uncle called me next day and I told him what my babe said and he said he never said such. I told him my family said I should pause wedding plans for now so I don't enter a family where there's no unity. I told him to call my babe's mom and ask her what she wants since shes not cool with me calling him.

He pleaded but I stood my ground. I love her but it seems all is not well and I cant risk it. I need your advice.

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Longpriq:
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Longpriq:
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Longpriq:
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Longpriq:
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dominique:
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dominique:
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Been over a month. Can't make or receive calls or send SMS. I've visited glo office and they said it's periodic check that it'll be resolved in 2 weeks.

More than a month now... please any solution.

Sapeleboy911:
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erniok:
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Might be a long thread
My younger brother sees me as a competition or foe.

I know it might sound weird but it's reality most families face. Thank God for my late dad who made sure we all read professional courses so we can be independent and comfortable.

After his undergraduate studies, my brother stayed with me for 2 years and I endured the worst I can get from a brother. Tho I feel it's not just him. I have a feeling my sister and uncle might be involved in the conspiracy. The deal might be to eliminate me as the first son so he can take over. Sounds surprising ? But I've had many pointers to this.

My uncle once told me after my dad's death that I'll be facing war soon. This was after I told him in confidence my issues with my siblings how they don't listen to my advice and always feel they know too much. At the end, what I warned about will still happen. They did this to my dad before he passed away.

Even little house chores that I'll send him, he will do it reluctantly. Sometimes, he will be playing music indirectly at me mockingly or making calls saying I think I know it all. I have called him privately to know if I did anything wrong and he said I did nothing that he doesn't have any issues with me.

I've even posted on our family group for anyone to voice out their grievance and till date, no one has come up to say anything. But their actions speak otherwise.

The only persons who understands my problems are my mom and our last born.

My younger sister had a wedding and since I was staying kinda close with my brother, I expected him to come over so we'd plan the wedding together but for over one year he relocated to my location, he hasn't visited me for once.

I will ask and hed say he's occupied with work .

There are many I can't say here but it's been of great concern .

I feel my family is divided.

Need your advice.

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TinkTwice:
I've not directly experienced this in my family.

In your family issue,i think it's majorly parental upbringing...
Their might be external forces or selfish desires.. But trust me, it goes along way with how you guys were being brought up.

A quick advice: stay away from home for now,and be in the lives of those that respects you. It's best you build your own empire..

OK bye..

Thank you

Might be a long thread
My younger brother sees me as a competition or foe.

I know it might sound weird but it's reality most families face. Thank God for my late dad who made sure we all read professional courses so we can be independent and comfortable.

After his undergraduate studies, my brother stayed with me for 2 years and I endured the worst I can get from a brother. Tho I feel it's not just him. I have a feeling my sister and uncle might be involved in the conspiracy. The deal might be to eliminate me as the first son so he can take over. Sounds surprising ? But I've had many pointers to this.

My uncle once told me after my dad's death that I'll be facing war soon. This was after I told him in confidence my issues with my siblings how they don't listen to my advice and always feel they know too much. At the end, what I warned about will still happen. They did this to my dad before he passed away.

Even little house chores that I'll send him, he will do it reluctantly. Sometimes, he will be playing music indirectly at me mockingly or making calls saying I think I know it all. I have called him privately to know if I did anything wrong and he said I did nothing that he doesn't have any issues with me.

I've even posted on our family group for anyone to voice out their grievance and till date, no one has come up to say anything. But their actions speak otherwise.

The only persons who understands my problems are my mom and our last born.

My younger sister had a wedding and since I was staying kinda close with my brother, I expected him to come over so we'd plan the wedding together but for over one year he relocated to my location, he hasn't visited me for once.

I will ask and hed say he's occupied with work .

There are many I can't say here but it's been of great concern .

I feel my family is divided.

Need your advice.

Copied.

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