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Chicagoesontop:
Make i no come dey hear Igbo amaka here ooo

Igbo amaka

Cute family

omale88:
I responded to a lot of mentions sorry I miss quoted your gender

That's ok

sassysure:
There are different types and levels of depression.
U haven't yet experienced acute depression and I wouldn't wish that to anybody. Depression triggers illness that's so stubborn to heal, do you know that?
What ordinarily drugs will take care of, ur body will be resisting medication. Some can last for yrs.
And there u are!
U have family who loves and stood by you.
Majority, their families were their nightmares.
Don't ever judge.

I'm grateful I didn't get to experience the type of depression you talk about n I ve never heard of it.
My family love me,they know the problems but didn't know how deep the problems affected me (cos i wouldnt show it nor share it with them)so I wouldn't say they stood by me.but because of them,I wouldn't dare harm myself.
I'm not judging,I was only sharing my own experience.

omale88:
You know.you are a great man

Thank you but I'm a woman

See as shame jus dey catch me

sarrki:
Hmmm

Pdp really mismanaged our resources

abeg, is she using it to write names of those that will enter heaven??

Codyt:
Bro all I can say here is. Everyone has a "threshold" to which they can withstand pain. We cannot respond to our depressions the same way. Some are just emotionally weak. Weak is weak bro

Well I think you are right.I'm not condemning or judging people who commit suicide, I'm only saying that you can still pull thru if you are strong, and some who aren't strong enough can still get help n be saved.

BTW, I am a woman

omale88:
If you haven't attempted taking your life before then don't say a thing on this thread, you think what leads to suicide is a joke?you think to decide to take your own life is child's play?if you have never thought of suicide then you haven't reach the peak of your problems in life yet,now you think those who commit suicide are being foolish because you think like an infant,you have no ideal what real depression is, you have no idea of what it means to be marooned at the middle of the Pacific to swim your way to life while sailors cheer you up passing by in their ship,you have no idea to be in a situation where no one believes you or wants to understand you,you have no idea of what it means to seek money for a surgery and people who can afford to give you that tell you all they could offer is a prayer,as I have said you have no idea about this ailment called depression you are on your own in depression no angel or demon can pull you out of that because they don't feel,God gave only a man the power to do so,but when a man fails,you would be dragged into a sees pool of darkness then perish,but when you survive you become in evitable because you have conquered death in a battle to live and die with a purpose.only those powerful people can relate to what I have written, so I urge all you kids blaming people for comiting suicide to shut it!.the only reason why you blame people for comiting suicide is because you think their choice or options are as clear as yours. You have no idea.

I know what depression is.I was depressed for straight 8months.I cannot tell my story.I was dying inside but no one was seeing it.when it felt my mind was leaving my body I would tap my arm n say "this too shall pass and addicted, you ll be fine eventually"... All thru d period,d only thing that kept me from thinking of suicide is that I have a family who love me more than life itself.I lost one of my sisters to leukaemia n I saw the impact it had on my parents.I would never want to put them thru such again.

This is really getting out of hand and it is very upsetting and this trend mostly occurs among the youths nowadays.I wonder why it is so but I think every higher institution should put in place an active guidance and counseling unit so that depressed students can visit the place or be taken there by friends who notice.I'm not sure someone would just wake up one day n decide to commit suicide, they must have shown signs which if taken seriously from the outset,might not have led to this.
RIP girl.

What's this world turning into bikonu??

Congrats ooooo

Ayam not understanding. Where's the sexy?

Na wah oooooo

She wants to be NEDded. OK oooo

sirdouglas:
Now before you judge me, I beg you to hear my side of the story.
I said my side of the story cos if she is here, she may not agree with everything I have to say.
This is a lengthy one but I will try to make it as short as possible.
I it is important to note that I am not writing this to be judged or ridiculed. I want matured and reasonable people to help out.

I met this girl in 2017. Can't really remember the month but it should be getting to 2years now. We started dating. As at the time I met her I wasn't struggling, I have my own business and apartment so I wouldn't say she met me when I had nothing. I was a big boy then if I can use that word.
She was just 19 or so then. I am this kind of guy that really really take relationship serious and always looking out to see if things can work out. I don't spend on her, I don't do much for her then. I wanted to see the kind of person she is. She doesn't care or even ask of anything. She might ask for something once in a while but I will pretend I didn't hearw her and to my amazement, she will never talk about it again.
With time I started noticing something about her that I don't like. First is she is really not smart and educated. I noticed that she doesn't have her own say. She listens to gossip and always bore me with what this person said or that person. I really hate that shit.
She is a mama's girl too. Sometimes I wonder if she gives her mom details of our sex life.
She won't sweep the house or do anything for me even while the relationship progressed. I started taking care of her and helping out with her needs. I constantly keep wondering if I can settle down with her but I am always stuck with that question.

I ended the relationship when it was clear to me that I can't live with her. I am an ambitious young man and I am not there yet. I want a woman who will be more than a sex mate. I want someone who can confidently handle my business and manage my home when I am not there. She is to naive to my liking. I am tired trying to build her into the kind of woman I want.

There is only one main reason why I wasn't really hard on her. She was one girl who accepted me from her heart and I know it and I respected that too. I suck when it comes to women and I respect women a lot. You know what they say about guys that respect women. They are mostly single �
She came back few months later. She wasn't ready to let go. Being that I am a loner. My defence wasn't strong enough. We started dating. I got hold of myself and ask her to go again because I couldn't see a future with her and I can't bring myself to be wasting her time.

She wanted to stay, I told her in plain words that I don't want to marry her and that's why I am setting her free.

She left and came back the third time. We had sex and all that but this time I was determined to let her go. I went to a lab for a test with to make sure I didn't infect her with anything because I treated staph before I met her and I was afraid it may still be there or something. To my utmost surprise, she was the one who infected me with gonorrhea. I treated mine and hers and ask her to go.

I noticed that she haven't seen her period and asked her and she confirmed it. She left and came back few weeks later that she is pregnant. She insisted that she wanted to have an abortion but I wasn't interested. I told her to keep the child. Besides, she has been the one telling me that my sperm us not working. I laughed over it. I became afraid that she will try something stupid so I took her to a pharmacist friend of mine to discourage her.

Her mother got to know and ask her to call me. I went with a friend and told her mother everything. I started suspecting that the child might not be mine because I treated her of an infection she possibly contacted from another person. In fact, I was shocked when she confessed about the infection. She said it is the toilet they use at home but I never believed her.

I told her mother that I am not sure about the paternity but however, I will take care of her. I told her family that I don't want to marry her and I have told her that severely.

We had a long discussion that day and I left. I started taking care if her the more. I made sure that I made my stand clear on the matter. I don't want to be a murderer so I got to do what is necessary. She started complaining about abuse from her siblings and war started. They beat her almost all the time and I wanted to take it personal. Shit do happen at times but that is not enough reason to kill their sister.

When all this is happening, I was processing my papers. In fact, I started processing my papers before she got pregnant and she is full aware of that. I took another group of friends to their home to help beg the brothers to stop beating her so they don't kill her and the child.

My visa took time so she was almost due for delivery before I left. I sent money to her account and bought some things I felt she would need even the unnecessary ones and left.

My problem now is that she contacted me few days ago to tell me that the scan said she is having twins now not a boy. I can't explain in details because I don't know but the bottom line is that she is now having a twins. I feel for her like I always do.

I don't want to marry out of pity. I don't want to live a promiscuous life. I don't want to marry this girl honestly and having a twins for me just complicated the matter the more.

She said the doctor said she will be delivering this month. I am thinking of sending my uncle and younger brother to her family house to do the iku aka or whatever that is called so I can lay claims to my kids.

Her family is so messed up that I will never want to do anything with them on a normal day. They are from onitsha in anambra and I swore never to marry from that state. That's one of the reason I kept chasing her away. When I say messed up, I am really not that good with English to find the right word to define how disorganized it is.

I am feeling like a monster already. I need all the help that I can get. I never expected this to happen. I never wanted to complicate her life but here I am in the middle of all this.

Should I marry her out of pity and save her the embarrassment or give her money and make sure she comfortable and go ahead with my life. Honestly I don't know what to do.

@op,I have two things to say to you(I suspect you are Igbo)
1. Onye di mma enyi di mma onunu.

2. She was 19 when you met her n probably 21 now. It would be normal for her to behave childish n inexperienced n definitely not street wise.if she were more matured,then it would have been OK to expect much from her.but from your mentions I read you tell someone that you are not a young boy so I have certain expectations from you...like why you did not stamp your feet and say NO when she came back 3 good timeslike using protection when having sex with someone you later found out you never want to marry
My conclusion: ina eme ife n'uwa a,na eche kwa ma obulukwo GI?

Tajbol4splend:
In Nigeria, when politicians are seeking power, they speak and act like they are for the people, Buhari once called Fuel Subsidy removal a fraud during Jonathan tenure but what has he done with the oil price. What I'm saying is that in Nigeria, most politicians make the best decision when they are not in the position to make the decision.

Too much sense will not kee u.

QueenSekxy:
See evil comments.
If you hate your people like this, how do you expect others to treat them?

I really don't understand how someone can watch that heart breaking plea for help n still say mean things.anyone can be deceived.its not like she knew what she was getting herself into.I really feel sorry for her.

comshots:
If na naija the lawmaker go ask the warden say"Do you know who i am?He go come call buhari.
The next reply wey the traffic warden go tell jubril for phone na, so! so! sorry sir! will release him your excellency

That is,if it doesn't cost the traffic warden his job. Oppression is d order of the day in naija.

Why do they always mix English n their native language while writing? You ll be happy that you are following the conversation,next you ll see "matwshahabnani"....local woman gives up!!

Na wah o.This man no wan talk finish and better shit dey worry me!

Nice one.

Chineke umunwayi!!!

The dog looks so happy

Ciscogod:
I still dont understand this report,

They said the criminals are out there to make money from the suppose rich man,

But the criminals shot the rich man and kidnap his friend,

are they not out there to make money again?

Exactly. The story doesn't add up,at all.

The most painful part for me is that he's a youth. For a long time we ve been clamoring for youth leadership in Nigerian politics.given an opportunity, he has battered n assaulted someone even before being sworn in.he is power drunk.SMH

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I can totally relate.mine is an hausa bike man and he has become like family.all my nuclear n extended family n my friends talk fondly to and about him.

His name is sufiyanu but we fondly call him su-su.lol.I bless the day I found him.

etrange:
Lol... guys are quick to take sides. Someone said you tell your boss his wife is suspecting him. Dude, he's your boss and not a friend. Respect his dignity (or lack of it). That you know your boss is a miscreant does not give you the guts to discuss that subject with him for any reason except he gives you the nod. You called the wife sensitive and inquisitive cause she's suspecting her husband for good reasons but the truth is that he's the one misbehaving here and not the wife.I understand you can't out him cause he's the one paying your salary and again, you don't want to break a home. But then again that's the same reason why you shouldn't tell him cause you might still end up breaking the home afterall. Do as you're already doing. Stay away from their family affairs, simple.

I totally support this.

Wishing them a happy married life