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The picture showing the back of the car has the V6 sign on it. How come your advert says it's a V4 engine? Was the engine changed?

Is this still available?

V6 or V4? Price? Location?

acadollar:
2005 Lexus RX 330
Best buy
$5500

Is this the total landing cost? If not, what is the total package?

fadario:
Mods you better release explorers before we scatter here. If you like ban me. Na ur headache.

Seun look into this please. We cant afford to have explorers banned even for a minute.

Nice to meet you too Krystalluv.

Krystalluv:
Ouch!
A day b4 mine... Sept 4th.
Not bad, nice to meet u

sinebaba:
IPad Air

baba, you no get iPhone 5s or correct htc? Make I benefit from one of those your legendary deals na...

25k for the nexus 5, deal?

MrImole:
Do ladies still abuse guys for asking them out?

Hello guys, how are you all doing?

You don't have anything to loose. If you're shy and can't start a conversation, at least say "hi, can I have your number/bbm pin? I'd like to call/text you later", you can take it from there.
All the best.

September 3rd?

7BA5935E

No! Just say No! You don't have to give any reasons, you don't need to explain yourself. Just say No!
No matter How much you give, you need to have it at the back of your mind that demand will always be greater than supply. So being able to say No! is a skill you'd have to learn.
Don't Please others and displease yourself and your wife and children.

astrodome:
Help!! Friends, family, former school mates and others are killing me with financial demands. Everyday I receive facebook (fb) messages, phone calls, email messages and messages from other communication avenues from family members, friends close and distant, school mates I have not seen in 20 years but with whom I reconnected on fb, and even random fb friends (meaning I do not know them personally but somehow we managed to be friends on fb). They all have the same story: please send me money, anything.

Each month I send nearly 3k to Nigeria and they keep asking for more.

Do they think I pluck money from trees in America?
Do they think every Nigerian in America is doing drugs or credit card fraud to make money?
Are they thinking that since Akin or Emeka made it in America (in many cases by selling drugs and doing credit card fraud), I should also make it and therefore be able to satisfy their unending demands?

How do I explain to them that I have bills (auto, mortgage, water-sewer, electricity, gas, phone, credit card) to pay. And then I have to run my family (of 4) and fuel 2 cars, and on top of that, I have to save also for the rainy day - for when kids get to college.

I am able to resist the random fb friends because I do not have any personal connection with them, but how do I scare the ones I know off without sounding rude and unhelping? I know that when you stop giving, you become an enemy.
Help! Before a fellow nairalander runs amock on the streets of America because of pressure from Nigeria

Just for disclosure: I am well-heeled in the US mid-upper middle class, earning a 6-figure pay, holds a PhD, and involved in R4D activities. But I live in a US city (name withheld) where mortgage payment alone takes 25% of my monthly income. So you can imagine that after paying all bills, I do not have tons of money left over to give out on frequent basis.

Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks

Who determines what cultured people should or shouldn't do?
I'd say take it if you want to, but if not, let other people do as they please.

Antoinne:
No, you didn't really pay for it. At some point, Aero never used to serve food on airplanes and people still flew. This food is complimentary and not paid for.

Why not 'munch' it in the plane? Are you not 'settled in' in the plane? Or you feel people are watching you?

Cultured people don't take food out of airplane. Don't get influenced by the habit of taking food away from a party. It simply doesn't speak well of you. If anything, it suggests that you are too hungry and can't afford a meal whenever you want one.

As much as you don't want to lie, you don't want to tell your boss you're going for an interview either; that might be an invitation for a sack, and rightfully so. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Tell them you have a family emergency to attend to....and trust me, your family considers yout getting a better paying job an emergency!

fleps:
I read with passion the last thread on the various excuses given in order to attend job interviews in another coy and I wondered what kind of excuse a Christian could give to honour interview invites.

Please I need opinions and experiences from Christians (or Muslims) who consider and see lying as sin and cannot for any reason (even a Shell interview) compromise their faith.

Last year I have had to turn down two invites because I had no means of honouring it. I applied for one and I was poached for the other. Though I did not reschedule the later because I didn't want it. But in scenarios like these, what should a faithful Christian do?

Those who serve others today will lead others tomorrow. I actually admire his attitude and effort. Intelligent and supportve.

papaejima1:
Errand boy For life!
That's how a driver runs to get Oga's briefcase.

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Closed thread.

Lesgupnigeria:
Dear reader,Let me know how this thread have been helpful to you in knowing more and have inspired you in starting your own agribusiness in Nigeria and how I can help you in achieving your goal in starting your own agribusiness.
thank you.

Can I have your email? Please PM to me. Thanks.

SaintChukz:
@ Op...i think in one full swoop you have succeeded in contrasting your own opinion in the initial post. In the opening line you opined that -no knowledge is wasted appears to you as axiomatic and as arguably sacrosanct, and in your last line statement you then went on to say that it would be stellar to have a "smattering" of many things. Now, with emphasis on the word "smattering", i'm trying hard to figure out how you would have done that if no single amount of time was put into it to gather the little knowledge you termed "smattering". Mind you the knowledge of a thing doesn't have to be acquired in full for you to term it actual knowledge. You also opined that having a particular knowledge of a thing that has no modicum or bearing on what the future tends to hold for you is sheer waste of time because you may never get to use it. I would say you were wrong there in that assertion because, how would you actually get to know what lies ahead of you when you haven't even gotten there? Or do you have a foreseer gift of telling what the future will bring? In my own candid opinion, i would rather opine that no knowledge is actually wasted until it is left unused. It has to be so because you never can tell when that little "survival skill" you garnered at one time or the other would become very handy to you at a critical point in your life, so i would rather not dismiss any knowledge no matter how irrelevant it may seem at a particular time on the premise that it is never going to be useful to me, when i know we all live in a constantly dynamic world. Finally, i think it is best to make myself feel "important" at any particular stage in life rather than feel "impotent" at a near unforeseeable stage in the future.

Well said.

carefreewannabe:
but when the future arrives and they find themselves in the NOW, the state they have always been in and can only be in, they will want something else, more and more and more.

When it comes to "bigger picture " issues like this one, I'd say its difficult to reach a consensus. So I agree to disagree.

I suspect we're saying the same things in alot of areas here, but we've reached different conclusions.
I respect your opinions though.

Unto the next....

carefreewannabe:
Yeah kind of but it is even more about accepting what is NOW.

Take Nelson Mandela, for instance, a great personality, a big achiever. I have unfortunately never had the chance to meet him but I believe that he would NOT have come so far in life if he wasn't able to accept what IS in each present moment. Imagine all these years he had spent in prison. I don't think he would survive and come out stronger without the acceptance of circumstances, whatever they may be and trust that he is fulfilling his purpose in each and every moment, free or in jail.

On the contrary. I think it's that deep thirst for more that kept people like Mandella through the tough times. He couldn't give up on life and his dreams, so he stuck in there, hoping for a change.
When you become satisfied with a circumstance less than what you envision, you are bound to become complacent. And once you begin to conform to those circumstances, the dream is as good as dead.

Remember the story of the black American, Rosa Parks that refused to shift her position in the bus, that formed one of the major movements against discrimination. The circumstances said they belonged to the back or off the bus. She could have chosen to adapt to that, and accept the circumstances, but she wasn't satisfied, there was a possibility of more, so she wanted more.

When we start accepting circumstances, when there's a chance of something better, we start on a path of retrogression... what you're satisfied with today will eventually become more and more scarce in circulation, you don't have to wait till someone finally moves your cookie, you've got to go for more, even when what you have is more than enough.

In summary, everything is perfect the way it is today, but with some more effort, it'll be even more perfect tomorrow. That has always been the drive behind all progress in technology, science, society and even religion.

carefreewannabe:
You aim very high, which is good, if this is what you want but you can be satisfied just the way you are NOW without having achieved all this. Feeling satisfied NOW doesn'T mean that you cannot set goals for yourself and work towards them. It just means that you are satisfied NOW instead of believing that you can only be satisfied in the future.

I always hear people say that if they achieve this or that then they will be satisfied.

If I get this new car, I will be happier.
If I get a better job, I will be satisfied.
If I make more money, I will be satisfied.
If I become famous, I will be satisfied.
If I become more beautiful, I will be satisfied.

Then the day comes and they feel satisfied but the satisfaction doesn't last. They become restless again. They set themselves a new goal and think that when they achieve it, in the future, they will be satisfied. The day comes, they feel satisfied but it doesn't last. And the circle continues.

If you can only be satisfied when you reach all your goals, then you will spend a lot of time being unsatisfied because you have a long way to go. You should not only enjoy the end results, it would be better to enjoy the way there too so that you don't waste your time feeling unsatisfied for a long time.

Each second that passes won't return.

I see what you're saying.
I also agree that satisfaction cannot be attained in a goal being fulfilled. Everything in life like they say is in the chasing and not in the getting. The satisfaction I seek is in setting out on that path, to wake up everyday and know I'm on the path. Not in the destination, but in the journey.

carefreewannabe:
I haven't got any PM but I never reply to any because I think it would be wrong to do it as I am in a relationship.

Thanks for the "compliment" though.

Nice to meet you.

Nice to meet you too.

@Topic: Looking at it from OP's intended meaning as clarified, I'd say I'm not satisfied. Grateful, but not satisfied.

I want to love more, give more, spend more quality time with the people I care about.
I want to make more money so I can do that; have time to relax and take care of the people I care about.

I'm tired of seeing friends and family unemployed, I'd like to create employment for many and be one of the solutions to unemployment in Nigeria, I'm not satisfied with just being one of the lucky employed ones.

I want to be able to fight the cause of the downtrodden in society, and not just by being a politically correct voice on social media, but being able to create a real impact. I want to be able to afford to give out scholarships to our best minds, teenagers right out of school.

I want to be the reason why someone's dreams came to pass.
I want to be a role model, not just to my kids, but one who can inspire a generation; like Martin Luther King, like Awolowo, like great Zik, to be a shining light, a source of hope, a champion of dreams, other people's dreams.

And finally I want to have a woman by my side that understands why I want to have/be the things I want to, and supports me.
A wife whose dreams are as big as mine and aligns with it.


So to answer your question @OP, I'm grateful, but not satisfied, not yet, not by a long shot.

carefreewannabe:
Maybe.



This is what you believe and it's beautiful.

My purpose in the present moment is to eat my breakfast.

carefreewannabe It's posts like this that make me want to meet you. I've noticed some of your comments on some other threads, and... I'm impressed.
Sent you a PM, do well to reply.

BrownKnight: Did you conduct a research or you're just assuming?

Like SAMBARRY just pointed out, its my opinion, but it's based on observation.

I'd like to hear yours too. We learn everyday.

This is my first post here, so I am not familiar with the "sectional etiquettes", so excuse any shortcomings.

I was reading a post on FP and some poster mentioned how she loves to be a single parent. As much as I admire strong willed women, I think the ultimate looser in such arrangements is the kid.

I've come with some thoughts on that, I'd like the house to add, remove, agree, disagree and discuss.

here we go:

As much as I admire single parents that are able to go it alone after death or divorce, it's not something you should set out for.

1. Parental Dependence
Single mothers tend to commit their lifes to their kids and give them all they have. And once the kids are grown, they tend to put so much pressure on the kids to pay them attention; whether consciously or unconsciously.
It's almost like payback time, they gave their all to this child, they expect them to reciprocate. This is just too much responsibility on that child.

2. Sense of guilt
No matter what the child does, they always remind them of how they spent the better part of their youth training the child, staying away from men, not getting married because they wanted to have time for their kid rather than share the attention with a man.
This sounds good, but they fail to understand that they made their own decision, the child didn't ask for it!
Dont expect some payback for parental deeds done out of free will. You brought that child to the world, you made the decision to nurture them how you deemed fit. They don't owe you for that.

3. Retirement plan
Most single parents erroneously see their kids as their retirement plans. Even though this is not peculiar to single parents alone, It's more pronounced.
See, parents are meant to leave an inheritance for their children's children! You should have your retirement planned enough to cater for 3 generations. Yours, your child's and your grand children's.... minimum.

4. They hold their kids back.
Single parents are either too eager to send their female children into "forced " marriages whether outrightly or systematically and restrain their male children from getting married on time. They usually are afraid that another woman will take their son away from them. Even though this is not just peculiar to single parents, its more profound with them.
Your husband or wife should be that companion you seek in old age, not your child. It's too much responsibility for the child. The only reason why any child should be subjected to this is if death took away one of their parents, and not just a selfish choice one of the parents made. And even death doesn't excuse the parent from taking a hold on things...but it can be forgiven, only in death.

missbronze: Na una sabi.

As for me, the only thing i desire in this life is to have a CHILD. A child to give all my love, to train, and to raise.

And, is only a child that will make me do anything desprate. because, a child is all i desire in this life.

Husband or no Husband, i dont give a damn.

And, am so glad that one can have a child without a husband.

As nice as this sounds, the proclamation of female independence and ability to self sustain, it's a very selfish way to go.
Apologies to the quoted, but you'd only be setting up that child for disaster.

As much as I admire single parents that are able to go it alone after death or divorce, it's not something you should set out for.

I've observed the following

1. Parental Dependence
Single mothers tend to commit their lifes to their kids and give them all they need. But as good as this sounds, once the kids are grown, they tend to put so much pressure on the kids to pay them attention; whether consciously or unconsciously.
It's almost like payback time, they gave their all to this child, they expect them to reciprocate. This is just too much responsibility on that child.

2. Sense of guilt
No matter what the child does, they always remind them of how they spent the better part of their youth training the child, staying away from men, not getting married because they wanted to have time for their kid rather than share the attention with a man.
As good as this sounds, they fail to understand that they made their own decision, the child didn't ask for it!
Dont exoect some payback for parental deeds done out of free will. You brought that child to the world, you made the decision to nurture them how you deemed fit. They don't owe you for that.

3. Retirement plan
Most single parents erroneously see their kids as their retirement plans. Even though this is not peculiar to single parents alone, It's more pronounced.
See, parents are meant to leave an inheritance for their children's children! You should have your retirement planned enough to cater for 3 generations. Yours, your child's and your grand children's.... minimum.

4. They hold their kids back.
Single parents are either too eager to send their female children into "forced " marriages whether outrightly or systematically and restrain their male children from getting married on time. They usually are afraid that another woman will take their son away from them. Even though this is not just peculiar to single parents, its more profound with them.
Your husband or wife should be that companion you seek in old age, not your child. It's too much responsibility for the child. The only reason why any child should be subjected to this is if death took away one of their parents, and not just a selfish choice one of the parents made. And even death doesn't excuse the parent from taking a hold on things...but it can be forgiven, only in death.

4. You bring up an imbalanced child.......... I think this explains itself. It take male and female to raise a child.

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Happy birthday to all of us born today. Many more good years ahead.

RIP

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Horror.

eaglechild: Who do you think signed the memo, it was the permanent secretary on behalf of the dishonourable minister.

Besides GEJ knows nothing about the details of residency training, it the minister's advice that will guide him.

I beg to differ. Give him a little credit, he does have a PhD in sciences you know.