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arthurwillia:
Probably don’t stop, give it a break
If she loves you likewise it will be a blissful friendship later on trust me
I’m talking from experience

Yeah, I'll give it a break. I already low-key bid her farewell yesterday night, but she didn't know. I have to stop talking to her, at least for now. It seems like I'm mentally tormenting myself talking with her. I just hope the feelings go away someday.


And, I don't really know about her loving me. Her attitude doesn't seem like that of a mere friend to me, but she would say, she doesn't want me to think she has romantic feelings for me.

I just hope nothing happens to the friendship, and if anything does... So be it!

Please, can I get a wider view? Lalasticlala

Oh...I even forgot the lady is on nairaland...
She'll probably get to see this someday

Paulianfa:
Big boi, that girl dey used u keep company. Guy dey flow with her maybe one day in go set pass for u.
I know say u wan knack sha but just play along with her and don't let know ur feelings.

LOL... It should be more like, we're using each other to get over boredom. I don't care if she's using me to keep company because I'm using her to get distracted from stuff too.

And, no be just say I wan knack. Far from it. My interest in her was way more beyond seeing her pants.

arthurwillia:
Hmm

Well the way you are typing, you don’t seem like someone who can stand by his words never to date the lady again..

The thing is the feelings can never leave if it was genuine in the first place, so just hold on to that friendship, trust me you’ll need it but just make sure you don’t go back to her, once it crosses your mind, remember that shii she told you that hurt you and retrace...get busy with other things also

At your first paragraph is something I am afraid of too. More reason I want to disconnect from her. I don't trust myself that much when it comes to her...

Well, I was genuinely interested in her. The feelings wouldn't fade away? Hmmmm... I'll stop talking to her then, I just hope I never get to regret that...

czarr:
You have a small chance of escaping the friend zone, it's small but it's still a chance worth taking. Make friends with other better looking bannies, reduce the time and attention you give her, but still be friendly.

Make sure she sees that a girl or girls better looking than her are taking your attention away from her. Competition anxiety will kick in and if you can leverage her possible jealousy where you can bargain "indirectly" an exchange of attention for sex...

But I doubt you have it in you...

LOL.... Thank you.
But, it is someone I never want to play games with right from day one. It's okay if she doesn't want me. I just want to totally crush the feelings I have left for her now, and keep the friendship.

killmods:
She's not interested in u the same way why not switch off that mumu feelings..

Understand the above
Reduce time spent with her
Spend time with urself
Meet other bannies and place them above her
Don't cut ties with her over nothing. It's childish.
Treat her like she treats u.
Avoid fantasizing.. it wouldn't help u here

Man the fůck up and start living

Thank you...

Pukkalolo:
Can I know why you are really find of her

I'm probably fond of her because I kinda enjoy talking to her, I guess. Don't really have a solid explanation.

Pukkalolo:
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You like her because you've invested your Time, money and energy on her. That's just it.

When you spend lots of time, energy and money on something, you naturally tend to like that thing.

The solution:
Direct your time, money and energy to something more worthwhile...

Although, the problem is that you fell in love with the wrong girl (that's a girl that doesn't like you as much as you like her). Well, you can fix this problem by reading this nairaland post:

https://www.nairaland.com/6866264/look-what-lady-told-me

Thank you.
But, I don't spend money on her though.

And, not that I don't do anything worthwhile. You know, sometimes you just want to talk to someone na, someone you're fond of.

flokii:
Some feelings don't just die..
@OP The guy that advised you not to cut her off is right.. you might find her useful someday. Make new friends and consider having a girlfriend, you'll be fine.

Thank you

Ocholu:
Hello... What do you mean by public university sir

Government owned.

Lalasticlala
Rocktation
Farano
Mynd44
Seun

Please, can I have a wider view for diverse opinions?

MONEY247:
When it comes to boy and girl stuff, there is no friends stuff...

Just be official...If you get too close to the opposite sex, you must catch feelings....

Be straightforward and precise....

Hmmmm... You meant there's no way out right?

IgweBUIKE1:
Pls bro vote wisely come 2023...cos with this your unstable emotion you can't make a wise choice

Yes, I'm an emotional person (Not much like before again sef) and at one point in time, I wanted to get rid of all emotions.

But, you see, I found out that my strong emotions can be used to my advantage. As a freelance writer ( Please, if anyone has writing gigs for me, I'm available), I invest my emotions into writing, and the outcome is always superb. I also find a way to mirror peoples' emotions with my emotional power and command influence.

Emotions isn't a bad thing after all, I would say.

MrBrownJay1:
how much does this girl got to disrespect you, before you take a hint to move on with your life?!

That was the first time she said something I didn't like. I'm not looking forward to anything with her again. But, I don't want to just lose her as a friend because of the feelings �... She's a good person, and has helped me a lot, especially, academically.

Kr1ss216:
Oga simp better forget that girl because as you dey so na back up dummy you be to her.

I never said I wanted her for anything again.

My greatest undoing was not guiding my heart in the first place. I actually hate the fact I liked her too much.

Don't worry, I'll try to be as brief as possible.

Of a truth, the story is too much, but let me cut out the details.

Here it is.


I'm an undergraduate student in a popular public University. I finished my 300L before this ASUU strike, and should have been in 400L now.

In 2017, a critical year of my life, while seeking for admission, I coincidentally met a girl whom I later fell in love with. Before I met her, a girl betrayed my trust and I decided not to love again. But I broke the rule for her. As far as I know, this girl is intelligent, nice, humble, kind and absolutely amazing. She is all I wanted in a woman. I liked her, very much.

At the time I met her, I wasn't having any girlfriend. I stopped being friends with my girl months earlier.

We got talking and I told her my thoughts. She made it clear that there can't be anything more than friendship between us.

I didn't immediately cut ties with her because I needed her at that time. She was the only person I knew in the city I was coming to school. Her family resides there. Also, she got admitted in 2017 while I was given admission in 2018. Basically, she's a year ahead of me in the same course, and school. I get educational information from her, and she even keep past questions and stuff like that for me. She was an emotional support and all that.

Actually, I saw her as an UNOFFICIAL GIRLFRIEND even though she never agreed to dating. She was there and available. I somehow trust her, and freely talk to her.

So, the thing now is this.

Few weeks ago, she said something I do not like, she disrespected me and the feelings I had for her reduced drastically. I actually resented her that period. I almost called of the friendship but she apologized.

But, lately, I started talking to her and I'm developing NONSENSE feelings again. To be honest, the girl has good vibes. I enjoy talking to her, but don't know if it's same for her.

So, my problem now is this.

I don't what to develop any feeling for her again. After all, she doesn't give a damn about whatever I feel towards her. And that makes it not worth it.

I recently talked to someone that I want to cut ties with the girl, but he said I shouldn't that we might need each other in any other way in the future. I also do not also want to lose the girl but it seems as I flow with her, the feelings will develop.

She also wants to have me around, but her reason I don't know.

Having other girlfriends to distract me from her seem not to work.

This is my dilemma: How do I remain friends with this girl without feeling a thing for her?

PS: Don't mind any error.

Hello Nairalanders,

In my area, Ilorin, Kwara State where I stay, we do have at least 12hrs power supply everyday. But these days, we haven't had light up to 30mins for the past two days.

This has been happening for two weeks now. It has affected me badly. How's power supply in your area? What is this government doing about it?

This is frustrating to say the least.

Hello Sir,
Hope you are good?

Ninety6:
lmao!, bobo d guy mean are you in the red or are u broke?

Oh.... I'm kinda broke now sha

incogni2o:
Yes I know

Do male menstruate?

incogni2o:
Are you currently menstruating?

I'm a male

For few days now, I feel so disconnected from the world. Like, I don't somehow feel the sense of belonging.

I'm someone who is a little bit extroverted but I now want to be alone most of the times. What's actually wrong with me?

I seem not to get the logic. How do one spend N58 billion plus to print hardly N3 billion? Financial experts in the house, educate us please.
Please explain in simple terms.

This world seems so complex...

So, I came across a thread which a man was discussing the looks of Angels with numerous pictures that look terrifying like the one below. Do Angels really look like this?

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