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Crime / Photos: Bride Set To Wed On Saturday Died In Accident With Her Mum by Adekay94(m): 12:32pm On Dec 04, 2017
The devil and demonic agents can derail a person's life, destiny. Don't just say God forbid, seek God.
It was heartbreaking for Wagoha’s family to hear the sudden death of their mother (Julie Adaeze) and her daughter (Elizabeth Wagoha) who is set to knot the tie with her husband to be on the 9th December, 2017. They went to buy things for the wedding and died in accident...
Elizabeth schooled abroad, studied medicine and surgery while her mother was a staff in the Rivers State university formally known as Rivers state university of science and technology until her death.
According to reports, Elizabeth and her mother died on their way to the market to buy souvenirs and other goods for the weeding.

They board the Anambra state transport bus and were both seated in the front of the vehicle alongside the driver. On their way going, their vehicle hit a tanker packed by the roadside as the driver was trying to over take another bus.
The driver was the only person who survived the accident, all other passengers were confirmed dead.

See all pictures here..
https://africanentertainment.info/so-sadbride-set-to-wed-on-saturday-died-in-accident-with-her-mumsee-pictures/

Literature / Re: If I Die Tomorrow (a Romantic Story Written By African Creator) by Adekay94(m): 7:16pm On Dec 03, 2017
8 SIGNS YOUR LOVER IS WITH YOU ONLY BECAUSE OF SEX AND MONEY

Source:https://africanentertainment.info/8-signs-your-lover-is-with-you-only-because-of-sex-and-money/

Relationships can be complicated with people you love for numerous reasons.

From not being sure about their feelings for you to them loving and wanting you for financial and pleasure purposes only, one can never be too sure of why the person you love is in a relationship with you.
A lot of people date strictly for what they can obtain from their partners of which sex and money ranks on top of the list.

Some people date for the social favours they can obtain from their partners while others do it strictly for their egos.

However the most common reasons why people who go into relationships for the purpose of using their partners do so are for sex and money.
Here are Eight ways you can know if partner is there to drill a hole in your pocket andalso for the pleasure.

They Always Have A Pity Story Money Can Solve
They will always bring up stories about how they are short on cash because they had to borrow their cousin money for school fees.

They will then tell you that they need money from you for sundry expenses such as light bills, replacement of a faulty appliance and other expenditures they can wrap their heads around.

They could turn this into a pattern where they will bring up serious and heartbreaking stories that will give you no option than to give in to their demands.


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Literature / Re: My Sweet Enemy by Adekay94(m): 9:10pm On Dec 02, 2017
Nice story really love this...

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TV/Movies / Re: What's The Worst Series You've Seen So Far? by Adekay94(m): 11:17am On Nov 28, 2017
Source: https://africanentertainment.info/music-jeje-by-blesskid/

Bless kid is back again!!!!

Blessed is an up coming artist(musician) who has been into music since 2015, He is from Anambara state but grew up at Abuja(madalla)…..
.He is a a full student of Federal University of Technology MINNA at Gidan Kwano campus,he is presently in 200 level,he graduated from wisdom international school suleja road and has an SSCE but now in the Uni.
He also have an experience i n computer and derives loves art work(drawing)but loves singing……..
He has a certificate for participation in the 3rd Taliban MINNA Inter-School Arts Competition/Exhibition 2014…..
He was sponsored by his loving mum who always make sure he comes out best in all he does ,though he is from an average family,not too rich not too poor ,But in 2015 he started his music carrier and put so many seriousness an mind in it and hope that one day he will make Nigerins proud thereby blowing up the minds of Nigerians with the thoughts of his mindset(rapline)
He loves legendary beats ……He is on line hot hot now with his first song titled BACK AGAIN……BLESSKID lives at newsite madalla along suleja road with great hope that he will be of good help to people close n far from him with his talent.
He Just released a hit song titled
JEJE

Download here https://africanentertainment.info/music-jeje-by-blesskid/
Music/Radio / Jeje By Blesskid by Adekay94(m): 11:13am On Nov 28, 2017
Source: https://africanentertainment.info/music-jeje-by-blesskid/

Bless kid is back again!!!!

Blessed is an up coming artist(musician) who has been into music since 2015, He is from Anambara state but grew up at Abuja(madalla)…..
.He is a a full student of Federal University of Technology MINNA at Gidan Kwano campus,he is presently in 200 level,he graduated from wisdom international school suleja road and has an SSCE but now in the Uni.
He also have an experience i n computer and derives loves art work(drawing)but loves singing……..
He has a certificate for participation in the 3rd Taliban MINNA Inter-School Arts Competition/Exhibition 2014…..
He was sponsored by his loving mum who always make sure he comes out best in all he does ,though he is from an average family,not too rich not too poor ,But in 2015 he started his music carrier and put so many seriousness an mind in it and hope that one day he will make Nigerins proud thereby blowing up the minds of Nigerians with the thoughts of his mindset(rapline)
He loves legendary beats ……He is on line hot hot now with his first song titled BACK AGAIN……BLESSKID lives at newsite madalla along suleja road with great hope that he will be of good help to people close n far from him with his talent.
He Just released a hit song titled
JEJE

Download here https://africanentertainment.info/music-jeje-by-blesskid/

Literature / Re: Love Is Not Enough By Olumide Emmaneul by Adekay94(m): 3:41pm On Nov 27, 2017
�Fallen Chapter 1-5 now available!!!

Click the link below to read /get(pdf) now!!

https://africanentertainment.info/fallen-chapter-1/

Literature / Re: "Janelle Asked To The Bedroom" By Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie by Adekay94(m): 3:38pm On Nov 27, 2017
https://africanentertainment.info/fallen-chapter-1/

�Fallen Chapter 1-5 now available!!!

Click the link below to read /get(pdf) now!!

https://africanentertainment.info/fallen-chapter-1/

Celebrities / Re: Wizkid Apologizes For Missing Banky W's White Wedding by Adekay94(m): 2:05pm On Nov 27, 2017
*10 Lessons that Social Media Taught me-Olamide

Social Media has made the entire world a much more interconnected place and particularly, severely easing global/remote connections. And being on social media since 2008 has taught me a lot of lessons!

1. On the internet you can be anything you want. A lot of people have different personalities online and offline. The cyber walls have created a facade of security for people to be whoever they want. It Is terrifying how superficial social media has become. People will only post their best moments, filtered images to portray the ideal person they want to be. But who doesn’t want to be seen in their best light? To hide our flaws and magnify our strengths? To show the exciting and best times of our lives? Social media has inadvertently become a platform where we paint ourselves in the most superficial art form,illustrating the distance between reality and our cultivated digital persona.

2. Social media has made us unsocial.I look around and everyone literally everyone around me is looking down at their phones. Even if I force myself and try to keep my phone away, I find myself looking back at it again. We have become bad listeners and no longer treasure conversations.There is nothing more irritating than being halfway through a story when you realize your friend is scrolling through her Facebook NewsFeed or Twitter feed.It is making us less aware of our immediate surroundings, including those who are immediately around us.I actually believe that although Social Media seems to....
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Celebrities / Re: Olamide Shows Off His Power Bike (photo) by Adekay94(m): 2:02pm On Nov 27, 2017
*10 Lessons that Social Media Taught me* -Olamide

Social Media has made the entire world a much more interconnected place and particularly, severely easing global/remote connections. And being on social media since 2008 has taught me a lot of lessons!

1. On the internet you can be anything you want. A lot of people have different personalities online and offline. The cyber walls have created a facade of security for people to be whoever they want. It Is terrifying how superficial social media has become. People will only post their best moments, filtered images to portray the ideal person they want to be. But who doesn’t want to be seen in their best light? To hide our flaws and magnify our strengths? To show the exciting and best times of our lives? Social media has inadvertently become a platform where we paint ourselves in the most superficial art form,illustrating the distance between reality and our cultivated digital persona.

2. Social media has made us unsocial.I look around and everyone literally everyone around me is looking down at their phones. Even if I force myself and try to keep my phone away, I find myself looking back at it again. We have become bad listeners and no longer treasure conversations.There is nothing more irritating than being halfway through a story when you realize your friend is scrolling through her Facebook NewsFeed or Twitter feed.It is making us less aware of our immediate surroundings, including those who are immediately around us.I actually believe that although Social Media seems to....
Read all via the link below

https://africanentertainment.info/10-lessons-that-social-media-taught-me/

Nairaland / General / 10 Lessons That Social Media Taught Me by Adekay94(m): 2:00pm On Nov 27, 2017
*10 Lessons that Social Media Taught me*

Social Media has made the entire world a much more interconnected place and particularly, severely easing global/remote connections. And being on social media since 2008 has taught me a lot of lessons!

1. On the internet you can be anything you want. A lot of people have different personalities online and offline. The cyber walls have created a facade of security for people to be whoever they want. It Is terrifying how superficial social media has become. People will only post their best moments, filtered images to portray the ideal person they want to be. But who doesn’t want to be seen in their best light? To hide our flaws and magnify our strengths? To show the exciting and best times of our lives? Social media has inadvertently become a platform where we paint ourselves in the most superficial art form,illustrating the distance between reality and our cultivated digital persona.

2. Social media has made us unsocial.I look around and everyone literally everyone around me is looking down at their phones. Even if I force myself and try to keep my phone away, I find myself looking back at it again. We have become bad listeners and no longer treasure conversations.There is nothing more irritating than being halfway through a story when you realize your friend is scrolling through her Facebook NewsFeed or Twitter feed.It is making us less aware of our immediate surroundings, including those who are immediately around us.I actually believe that although Social Media seems to....
Read all via the link below

https://africanentertainment.info/10-lessons-that-social-media-taught-me/

Literature / Re: Meant To Be by Adekay94(m): 1:55pm On Nov 27, 2017
*10 Lessons that Social Media Taught me*

Social Media has made the entire world a much more interconnected place and particularly, severely easing global/remote connections. And being on social media since 2008 has taught me a lot of lessons!

1. On the internet you can be anything you want. A lot of people have different personalities online and offline. The cyber walls have created a facade of security for people to be whoever they want. It Is terrifying how superficial social media has become. People will only post their best moments, filtered images to portray the ideal person they want to be. But who doesn’t want to be seen in their best light? To hide our flaws and magnify our strengths? To show the exciting and best times of our lives? Social media has inadvertently become a platform where we paint ourselves in the most superficial art form,illustrating the distance between reality and our cultivated digital persona.

2. Social media has made us unsocial.I look around and everyone literally everyone around me is looking down at their phones. Even if I force myself and try to keep my phone away, I find myself looking back at it again. We have become bad listeners and no longer treasure conversations.There is nothing more irritating than being halfway through a story when you realize your friend is scrolling through her Facebook NewsFeed or Twitter feed.It is making us less aware of our immediate surroundings, including those who are immediately around us.I actually believe that although Social Media seems to....
Read all via the link below

https://africanentertainment.info/10-lessons-that-social-media-taught-me/

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Literature / Re: Underlying Love (A Romance Novelette By Kayode Odusanya) by Adekay94(m): 1:55pm On Nov 27, 2017
*10 Lessons that Social Media Taught me*

Social Media has made the entire world a much more interconnected place and particularly, severely easing global/remote connections. And being on social media since 2008 has taught me a lot of lessons!

1. On the internet you can be anything you want. A lot of people have different personalities online and offline. The cyber walls have created a facade of security for people to be whoever they want. It Is terrifying how superficial social media has become. People will only post their best moments, filtered images to portray the ideal person they want to be. But who doesn’t want to be seen in their best light? To hide our flaws and magnify our strengths? To show the exciting and best times of our lives? Social media has inadvertently become a platform where we paint ourselves in the most superficial art form,illustrating the distance between reality and our cultivated digital persona.

2. Social media has made us unsocial.I look around and everyone literally everyone around me is looking down at their phones. Even if I force myself and try to keep my phone away, I find myself looking back at it again. We have become bad listeners and no longer treasure conversations.There is nothing more irritating than being halfway through a story when you realize your friend is scrolling through her Facebook NewsFeed or Twitter feed.It is making us less aware of our immediate surroundings, including those who are immediately around us.I actually believe that although Social Media seems to....
Read all via the link below

https://africanentertainment.info/10-lessons-that-social-media-taught-me/

Literature / Re: My Collection Of VERY Short Stories.....WRITTEN by JADOSKI by Adekay94(m): 9:23pm On Nov 25, 2017
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�What Zimbabwean Women Think about Zimbabwean Men.

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�[Article]Pregnancy Woes

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�Why Batman is Better than Superman

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�Should I go?

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�The Portal to Satan’s Lair

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�The Predicament of a Man in Pregnancy labor

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�Princess Zuva

https://africanentertainment.info/princess-zuva/

� Fighting Depression as an African

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�Visit http://africanentertainment.info for more updates...

Literature / Re: Nora Robert, Dan Brown, John Grisham, Novels by Adekay94(m): 9:21pm On Nov 25, 2017
⚠ *LATEST ARTICLES ON AFRICAN ENTERTAINMENT* ⚠
_________________
�What Zimbabwean Women Think about Zimbabwean Men.

https://africanentertainment.info/what-zimbabwean-women-think-about-zimbabwean-men/


�[Article]Pregnancy Woes

https://africanentertainment.info/articlepregnancy-woes/

�Why Batman is Better than Superman

https://africanentertainment.info/articlewhy-batman-is-better-than-superman/

�Should I go?

https://africanentertainment.info/articleshould-i-go/

�The Portal to Satan’s Lair

https://africanentertainment.info/the-portal-to-satans-lair/

�The Predicament of a Man in Pregnancy labor

https://africanentertainment.info/the-predicament-of-a-man-in-pregnancy-labor/

�Princess Zuva

https://africanentertainment.info/princess-zuva/

� Fighting Depression as an African

https://africanentertainment.info/fighting-depression-as-an-african/

�Visit http://africanentertainment.info for more updates...
Literature / Pregnancy Woes by Adekay94(m): 6:03pm On Nov 25, 2017
Source: https://africanentertainment.info/articlepregnancy-woes/

[ARTICLE]PREGNANCY WOES
NOVEMBER 25, 2017 AFRICANE LEAVE A COMMENT EDIT
Here is the thing, if you see a pregnant woman be nice to her, smile, and show some kindness because she is going through a hell unknown to most. The experience is comparable to the sweet nectarine taste of grape fruit and the unexpected harsh after taste. The beauty of bringing a new life into the world and the discomforts accompanied with it.



1. Hormonal Mood Swings

Hormonal fluctuations for pregnant women is like a seesaw. One minute we are laughing, the next we feel like crying for no apparent reason. Sometimes I look at the man and get all mushy inside within the same breath I want to strangle him. I am telling you pregnancy is crazy. Last night his face was mad annoying and just looking at him made me angry. I searched for reasons to pick a fight with him.

Me: I know what you are thinking of

Him: Excuse me?

Me: Why is your nose scrunched up like that? Are you implying that I smell bad? Huh?!

Him: what? No babe, I-

Me: I am done with this marriage. It’s over!

Poor man, cowers further into the couch while I storm out. See for men, they don’t physically carry a fetus but they definitely carry everything that connotes with pregnancy. I get the nuance ” We” are pregnant. I feel terrible for using him as my outlet to vent but this hormonal imbalance gets the best of me. While on rare occasions all I want is to pamper, spoil and cater to him. It’s a wild emotional rollercoaster, a steep, slippery slope of turmoil and unpredictable changes.

2. Backache

This must the worst pregnancy discomfort after nausea and morning sickness. I can’t speak of the latter because the universe spared me. Now that I am in my third trimester, I have gained almost 10kilos and my centre of gravity in turn is leaning forward. A simple task of turning and changing sides during sleep is a nightmare. If I want to change sleeping position, I have to sit up first and face the side I want, before slowly easing on to the bed. My back can not allow me to make sudden movements not to mention my pelvic bone which is softening in preparation for delivery. I can’t throw my feet on the floor from the bed. The pain sears around by waist to the pelvic area. I can’t sit for long hours because yeah, my back neither can I stand for long as well. Getting up from the couch is mission impossible. The most wonderful thing is I can’t reach my feet anymore so here comes the man. He washes my feet, fetches things for me and the heavenly back massages. Although he has to endure one heavy thigh thrown on his back all night. Apparently its the most comfortable and painless position to sleep in. Walking on its own takes its toll on my back, so excuse me if you see me limping and waddling like a duck. It’s my back and pelvic bone giving me hell....

Can I continue?

https://africanentertainment.info/articlepregnancy-woes/
Celebrities / Re: Hushpuppi Calls Dino Melaye His Favorite Senator As They Slam Their Haters by Adekay94(m): 10:26am On Nov 25, 2017
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Fighting Depression as an African

A tiny boat bobbing up and down in a raging vast ocean. The licking waves slaps the belly of the boat and it capsizes The ocean is relentless, a wave engulfs the little boat tearing it into half. It begins to slowly sink into the dark under world. Drawn to the bottom by an over powering force. Unable to rise to the surface, sinking, sinking and sinking. Swallowed into the cold wet darkness. Despondent, dejected and hopeless.
Depression. A condition of mental disturbance characterized by such feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy. These feelings to a greater degree are a drive force to suicide, lack of energy and interest in life. Difficulty in maintaining concentration and human interaction. I would know. I was once that little bobbing boat. Wallowing in dark thoughts, sinking in a black hole of self pity, heart ache and sadness. The most difficult time of my life when I had a miscarriage. The ordeal was horrific The Portal to Satan’s Lair I am quite familiar with the road to hell. I lost my baby under harsh conditions of a third world country health care system. The aftermath almost killed me.
I sunk into depression for almost a year and nobody knew. I hid it so well from friends and family. As Africans, depression is considered as being weak. I remember after the whole ordeal someone asked me if I was okay. I told them physically I had recovered but emotionally devastated. They said what was important was my physical health and I will get over the rest. Wow. I never received post miscarriage counselling. Apparently my mental well being was not important. I mean they put me in the baby weighing room soon after my miscarriage. So I watched as they brought every new born for weighing albeit, I had lost mine within the same day. I cried every day for almost a year. I had no-one to talk to, after all nobody knew what I was going through. I wrote several suicide notes and toyed around with a few creative ways of offing myself. Life was not worth living, I was haunted by memories of my baby cradled in my arms. Everything was bleak, all black and white. In public I pretended to be all happy and smiles. Alone at home I would literally spend the whole day crying.
African women are expected to be strong. We don’t crumble under such millennial white people conditions as depression. Look we are taught to endure abusive cheating husbands, to be the pillars of our homes even as going as far as mutilating our genitals to please men. Our culture is so patriarchally driven that women teach their daughters to further perpetuate this crippling system of society . Crying over a miscarriage is petty and weak. Hence I had to wince several times at the insensitiveness of my people. Someone went on to ask, ” Hey that baby you lost, was it a boy or girl?”, another, ” Are you going to name your baby after your miscarried child?” A healing wound that is constantly peeled and bleeds anew. Hello guys, I am trying to get through this, can you not remind me of the worst time of my life? That would be great.
I stopped interacting with people, family and friends. I was withdrawn and could not stand crowds or public places. Although I pretended to be fine, If anyone bothered to pay attention there were tell tale signs of depression. Someone told me not to cry in the presence of my husband because I would pull him down in my misery and drive him away. He never knew. I started smoking. 5 cigarettes a day turned to an entire box a day. Somehow I could deal better. There is a time it got so bad that I emptied the drug cabinet and sat on my bed sobbing hysterically. I cried at how my life had come to an end. I was going to die. Those days there was an Econet free Twitter promo. I had no credit to call anyone so I reached out on Twitter. I tweeted ” Somebody help me. Please call me on this number immediately” I don’t know her but she called me,I was a mess, crying on the phone, I told her I was depressed and about to kill myself. I was 4 months pregnant and I had taken a good amount of chlophernamine tablets. She consoled me, told me it was okay and sent me credit to call for help. She kept checking on me. A stranger from Twitter saved my life. She said she will be praying for me. I just know her Twitter handle @lolo_sav. Thats her in the below image. The angel that saved my life.
@Lolo_sav
This piece is not a pity party attraction story. It is how we as Africans should take mental well being seriously. To be able to check on people especially those who have gone through traumatic incidents. Telling someone to pray about it and moving on with business as usual is unhelpful. I am a christian but there are down trodden moments where prayer doesn’t even suffice as a solution. Rather pray with them, encourage them, be patient and yes black people its okay for someone to break down. Do not judge them but be there for them. My entire pregnancy with Malik was terrifying because I was afraid of losing him. I had to stop smoking, went for counselling for the sake of my baby. I realised I had to live, my baby had to live and although I battled with depression I knew I had to live! Africans perceive suicide as stupid and selfish. In our Shona culture, if a person commits suicide they beat up the corpse with sticks as punishment. Some don’t even hold funerals because they don’t deserve it. Such a stoic and insensitive culture drives more suicide statistics because people suffer in silence. A people that tortures a soul by beating up its corpse. Depression is real by the time a person commits suicide, they would have been long dead.
Malik saved me. The day I held him in my arms is the day the face of God shone in my life. Its the day I resurfaced and reached the shores. The birth of Malik was the day break after a long dark night. Let us pay attention to our loved ones, they maybe going through hell and fighting demons unknown to us. They may give subtle hints or reach out in a pseudo manner. Let us be alert. Depression is not a sign of weakness or shameful. It is a real condition.
Zimbabwe suicide hotlines
Source:https://africanentertainment.info/fighting-depression-as-an-african/

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Fighting Depression as an African

A tiny boat bobbing up and down in a raging vast ocean. The licking waves slaps the belly of the boat and it capsizes The ocean is relentless, a wave engulfs the little boat tearing it into half. It begins to slowly sink into the dark under world. Drawn to the bottom by an over powering force. Unable to rise to the surface, sinking, sinking and sinking. Swallowed into the cold wet darkness. Despondent, dejected and hopeless.
Depression. A condition of mental disturbance characterized by such feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy. These feelings to a greater degree are a drive force to suicide, lack of energy and interest in life. Difficulty in maintaining concentration and human interaction. I would know. I was once that little bobbing boat. Wallowing in dark thoughts, sinking in a black hole of self pity, heart ache and sadness. The most difficult time of my life when I had a miscarriage. The ordeal was horrific The Portal to Satan’s Lair I am quite familiar with the road to hell. I lost my baby under harsh conditions of a third world country health care system. The aftermath almost killed me.
I sunk into depression for almost a year and nobody knew. I hid it so well from friends and family. As Africans, depression is considered as being weak. I remember after the whole ordeal someone asked me if I was okay. I told them physically I had recovered but emotionally devastated. They said what was important was my physical health and I will get over the rest. Wow. I never received post miscarriage counselling. Apparently my mental well being was not important. I mean they put me in the baby weighing room soon after my miscarriage. So I watched as they brought every new born for weighing albeit, I had lost mine within the same day. I cried every day for almost a year. I had no-one to talk to, after all nobody knew what I was going through. I wrote several suicide notes and toyed around with a few creative ways of offing myself. Life was not worth living, I was haunted by memories of my baby cradled in my arms. Everything was bleak, all black and white. In public I pretended to be all happy and smiles. Alone at home I would literally spend the whole day crying.
African women are expected to be strong. We don’t crumble under such millennial white people conditions as depression. Look we are taught to endure abusive cheating husbands, to be the pillars of our homes even as going as far as mutilating our genitals to please men. Our culture is so patriarchally driven that women teach their daughters to further perpetuate this crippling system of society . Crying over a miscarriage is petty and weak. Hence I had to wince several times at the insensitiveness of my people. Someone went on to ask, ” Hey that baby you lost, was it a boy or girl?”, another, ” Are you going to name your baby after your miscarried child?” A healing wound that is constantly peeled and bleeds anew. Hello guys, I am trying to get through this, can you not remind me of the worst time of my life? That would be great.
I stopped interacting with people, family and friends. I was withdrawn and could not stand crowds or public places. Although I pretended to be fine, If anyone bothered to pay attention there were tell tale signs of depression. Someone told me not to cry in the presence of my husband because I would pull him down in my misery and drive him away. He never knew. I started smoking. 5 cigarettes a day turned to an entire box a day. Somehow I could deal better. There is a time it got so bad that I emptied the drug cabinet and sat on my bed sobbing hysterically. I cried at how my life had come to an end. I was going to die. Those days there was an Econet free Twitter promo. I had no credit to call anyone so I reached out on Twitter. I tweeted ” Somebody help me. Please call me on this number immediately” I don’t know her but she called me,I was a mess, crying on the phone, I told her I was depressed and about to kill myself. I was 4 months pregnant and I had taken a good amount of chlophernamine tablets. She consoled me, told me it was okay and sent me credit to call for help. She kept checking on me. A stranger from Twitter saved my life. She said she will be praying for me. I just know her Twitter handle @lolo_sav. Thats her in the below image. The angel that saved my life.
@Lolo_sav
This piece is not a pity party attraction story. It is how we as Africans should take mental well being seriously. To be able to check on people especially those who have gone through traumatic incidents. Telling someone to pray about it and moving on with business as usual is unhelpful. I am a christian but there are down trodden moments where prayer doesn’t even suffice as a solution. Rather pray with them, encourage them, be patient and yes black people its okay for someone to break down. Do not judge them but be there for them. My entire pregnancy with Malik was terrifying because I was afraid of losing him. I had to stop smoking, went for counselling for the sake of my baby. I realised I had to live, my baby had to live and although I battled with depression I knew I had to live! Africans perceive suicide as stupid and selfish. In our Shona culture, if a person commits suicide they beat up the corpse with sticks as punishment. Some don’t even hold funerals because they don’t deserve it. Such a stoic and insensitive culture drives more suicide statistics because people suffer in silence. A people that tortures a soul by beating up its corpse. Depression is real by the time a person commits suicide, they would have been long dead.
Malik saved me. The day I held him in my arms is the day the face of God shone in my life. Its the day I resurfaced and reached the shores. The birth of Malik was the day break after a long dark night. Let us pay attention to our loved ones, they maybe going through hell and fighting demons unknown to us. They may give subtle hints or reach out in a pseudo manner. Let us be alert. Depression is not a sign of weakness or shameful. It is a real condition.
Zimbabwe suicide hotlines
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Fighting Depression as an African

A tiny boat bobbing up and down in a raging vast ocean. The licking waves slaps the belly of the boat and it capsizes The ocean is relentless, a wave engulfs the little boat tearing it into half. It begins to slowly sink into the dark under world. Drawn to the bottom by an over powering force. Unable to rise to the surface, sinking, sinking and sinking. Swallowed into the cold wet darkness. Despondent, dejected and hopeless.
Depression. A condition of mental disturbance characterized by such feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy. These feelings to a greater degree are a drive force to suicide, lack of energy and interest in life. Difficulty in maintaining concentration and human interaction. I would know. I was once that little bobbing boat. Wallowing in dark thoughts, sinking in a black hole of self pity, heart ache and sadness. The most difficult time of my life when I had a miscarriage. The ordeal was horrific The Portal to Satan’s Lair I am quite familiar with the road to hell. I lost my baby under harsh conditions of a third world country health care system. The aftermath almost killed me.
I sunk into depression for almost a year and nobody knew. I hid it so well from friends and family. As Africans, depression is considered as being weak. I remember after the whole ordeal someone asked me if I was okay. I told them physically I had recovered but emotionally devastated. They said what was important was my physical health and I will get over the rest. Wow. I never received post miscarriage counselling. Apparently my mental well being was not important. I mean they put me in the baby weighing room soon after my miscarriage. So I watched as they brought every new born for weighing albeit, I had lost mine within the same day. I cried every day for almost a year. I had no-one to talk to, after all nobody knew what I was going through. I wrote several suicide notes and toyed around with a few creative ways of offing myself. Life was not worth living, I was haunted by memories of my baby cradled in my arms. Everything was bleak, all black and white. In public I pretended to be all happy and smiles. Alone at home I would literally spend the whole day crying.
African women are expected to be strong. We don’t crumble under such millennial white people conditions as depression. Look we are taught to endure abusive cheating husbands, to be the pillars of our homes even as going as far as mutilating our genitals to please men. Our culture is so patriarchally driven that women teach their daughters to further perpetuate this crippling system of society . Crying over a miscarriage is petty and weak. Hence I had to wince several times at the insensitiveness of my people. Someone went on to ask, ” Hey that baby you lost, was it a boy or girl?”, another, ” Are you going to name your baby after your miscarried child?” A healing wound that is constantly peeled and bleeds anew. Hello guys, I am trying to get through this, can you not remind me of the worst time of my life? That would be great.
I stopped interacting with people, family and friends. I was withdrawn and could not stand crowds or public places. Although I pretended to be fine, If anyone bothered to pay attention there were tell tale signs of depression. Someone told me not to cry in the presence of my husband because I would pull him down in my misery and drive him away. He never knew. I started smoking. 5 cigarettes a day turned to an entire box a day. Somehow I could deal better. There is a time it got so bad that I emptied the drug cabinet and sat on my bed sobbing hysterically. I cried at how my life had come to an end. I was going to die. Those days there was an Econet free Twitter promo. I had no credit to call anyone so I reached out on Twitter. I tweeted ” Somebody help me. Please call me on this number immediately” I don’t know her but she called me,I was a mess, crying on the phone, I told her I was depressed and about to kill myself. I was 4 months pregnant and I had taken a good amount of chlophernamine tablets. She consoled me, told me it was okay and sent me credit to call for help. She kept checking on me. A stranger from Twitter saved my life. She said she will be praying for me. I just know her Twitter handle @lolo_sav. Thats her in the below image. The angel that saved my life.
@Lolo_sav
This piece is not a pity party attraction story. It is how we as Africans should take mental well being seriously. To be able to check on people especially those who have gone through traumatic incidents. Telling someone to pray about it and moving on with business as usual is unhelpful. I am a christian but there are down trodden moments where prayer doesn’t even suffice as a solution. Rather pray with them, encourage them, be patient and yes black people its okay for someone to break down. Do not judge them but be there for them. My entire pregnancy with Malik was terrifying because I was afraid of losing him. I had to stop smoking, went for counselling for the sake of my baby. I realised I had to live, my baby had to live and although I battled with depression I knew I had to live! Africans perceive suicide as stupid and selfish. In our Shona culture, if a person commits suicide they beat up the corpse with sticks as punishment. Some don’t even hold funerals because they don’t deserve it. Such a stoic and insensitive culture drives more suicide statistics because people suffer in silence. A people that tortures a soul by beating up its corpse. Depression is real by the time a person commits suicide, they would have been long dead.
Malik saved me. The day I held him in my arms is the day the face of God shone in my life. Its the day I resurfaced and reached the shores. The birth of Malik was the day break after a long dark night. Let us pay attention to our loved ones, they maybe going through hell and fighting demons unknown to us. They may give subtle hints or reach out in a pseudo manner. Let us be alert. Depression is not a sign of weakness or shameful. It is a real condition.
Zimbabwe suicide hotlines
Source:https://africanentertainment.info/fighting-depression-as-an-african/

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