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Family / Re: I Cheated-my Marriage Is Falling Apart by ademola2017: 2:48pm On May 04 |
Broken1985: Guy you f**kd up but there is always a way out. Bro, apologize genuniely for days, make her feel heard, acknowledge your mistake and leave her to process and heal at her own pace. Dont force it, dont force her feelings, dont force solution, be quiet and look remorseful most times. Please do not over beg her but make her feel heard!!!!... No go dey cry when begging o!!! She will forgive you!!! Cheating don dey your body already hence it will be difficult to stop...fact!!! Next time, do it codedly and clean up your tracks!!! Whatsapp created disappearing messages for a reason... |
Business / Re: Dollar Rise: EFCC Continues Crackdown On Cryptocurrency Platforms, Others by ademola2017: 6:31pm On Apr 22 |
KingKO22: Please dont waste your time on all these beer palour economists... Most of them say rubbish based on what they delibrated with the newspaper vendor at Ojuelegba... Most of them just follow the crowd... Awon Alakori!!! |
Career / Re: Learn Forex Trading, It Is Also A Skill. by ademola2017: 5:26pm On Apr 14 |
Hashabiah: No i dont...i am just a student. |
Career / Learn Forex Trading, It Is Also A Skill. by ademola2017: 4:01pm On Apr 14 |
Over the years i have always thought that forex trading was a waste of time and money and this is because I traded using the few knowledge i grabbed from people. I run a successful business and in my late 30s but i needed to get busy because I have so much time to play with. I decided to get mentored and realized there is much to learn from forex trading. It is quite interesting and daily practice and private learning are increasing my knowledge about it. So far, i am making $100 per week (quite small) but i know it can only get better. The profit is not really my priority for now but the knowledge and confidence. I swear, it costs nothing to learn. If you have the free time, you can try, it may change your life. 1 Like 1 Share |
Food / Re: See What Someone Bought With An Hour Minimum Wage In The UK £10 by ademola2017: 2:24pm On Dec 03, 2023 |
No doubt naija is a shit hole depending on the way you are seeing it. If you have a good business running here, relocating would be difficult but if you are a salary earner, relocating is a perfect option. The salary earner will only continue his struggle in a better and organized environment. Abroad life no easy oooo. I have tasted both worlds and I can boldly tell you that it is not as easy as the way abroad people are potraying it oooo. Only few will tell you the truth. |
Food / Re: See What Someone Bought With An Hour Minimum Wage In The UK £10 by ademola2017: 3:36am On Dec 03, 2023 |
If you are doing well in Nigeria, i mean you have a good business or having a high paying job and you and living within your means, there is no point relocating. For me, i have a good business and a little real estate here in Nigeria and cant surely want to relocate for now. The future is very uncertain in Nigeria but it is still better than starting all over in another country. I wont lie, it is harder for salary earners and stuggling business owners to survive in this country, so relocating is a better option if the means appears but it is absolutely not sweet over there too. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by ademola2017: 3:33am On Nov 29, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I had a similar case. My wife and I separated after 8years. We were a misfit, she had PCOS too and we had no kids. At some point I doubted I will ever father a child.... Do you even think it is easy to adopt a child?? The process is not from here .... Do yoi know the psychological effect of not having your own flesh and blood?? 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by ademola2017: 10:29am On Nov 28, 2023 |
beekind: How did the doctor know she has PCOS? Did she do a transviginal scan?? If yes, then she is not a virgin o.. |
Family / Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by ademola2017: 10:25am On Nov 28, 2023 |
Adanambra1: I am so glad to read this... awesome advice!! 3 Likes |
Family / Re: I Love Her But At Almost 40 Years Old, I Cannot Ignore Her Fertility Issues. by ademola2017: 8:33am On Nov 28, 2023 |
This is exactly my story but i didnt know she had PCOS or even know the meaning of PCOS when i got married. After we got married, that was when I knew we were in for it. PCOS patients get pregnant but you need to be very knowledgable, patient and work as a team to get pregnant. My bro, in your case, infertilty will shake your marriage badly and may evetually break you guys if either of you cant take it anymore. As some point you may start doubting if you can father a child and psychological effect would be huge when your relationship becomes marriage. My Advice You need to put yourself first above any other person. Your mental state is hugely astake if the baby doesnt come few months, years after you get married. Look above love now to avoid a painful break up later or a frustrated union. Start trying for pregnancy now. Discuss this with her in a diplomatic manner. If pregnancy happens go ahead to marry and if otherwise, just keep trying. Marriage comes with pressure and that pressure will affect you mentally, physically and spiritually if not managed well. I wish you all the best bro and i pray God answers your prayers 10 Likes |
Family / Re: My Partner And I Dont Love Each Other But We Respect Each Other by ademola2017: 6:20pm On Nov 27, 2023 |
bigman001: Thank you for this 🙏🙏🙏 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Partner And I Dont Love Each Other But We Respect Each Other by ademola2017: 7:01am On Nov 27, 2023 |
CoronaVirusPro: We are not legally married 7 Likes |
Family / My Partner And I Dont Love Each Other But We Respect Each Other by ademola2017: 6:56am On Nov 27, 2023 |
In 2017, i expressed my deep concerns on nairaland about my now ex wife double dating game before we got married, her attitude towards me and how the relationship was one sided. I got several advices to let her go but decided to give the marriage another chance but it eventually crashed in March 2022. We did all we could to save the marriage but to no success. We were done patching. No child was involved and absolutely nothing to show for the marriage after 8years of being together. I still feel the pain but it gets better everyday. I credit myself for not cheating on her till our last days together and even months after our separation. After several months of being celibate, I had sex with a young 25year old lady. I met her through a family friend 2 months before she got pregnant Just one intercourse, she became pregnant. At first, i doubted it because I laboured very hard to father a child for 8yrs and with just one sexual intercourse, someone is carry my baby?? with me being very knowledgable about calculating ovulation dates and timely intercourse, it conformed so I had to accept the pregnancy as a sign from God. Deep down, my new partner and I do not love each other but the respect for each other is on point. We have ZERO expectations from each other. We communicate well and have started living together in peace. No arguements, no drama and no issues at all. I changed my mindset by taking her as my younger sister and she does same by taking me as an older brother. It feels strange to be at so much peace with someone that I dont love at all. Our baby is coming and I am scared things may change when the true reality sets in. What do you guys think? 42 Likes 7 Shares
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Family / Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ademola2017: 7:14pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
We4all: When people say this[b] "Don't make your new woman pay for the sins of your ex wife"[/b] i always think they dont know what they are saying. I am hoping for the best. Relationship/marriage is not meant for me... |
Family / Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ademola2017: 8:28am On Nov 26, 2023 |
LilMissFavvy: She left home last year March. I begged her to come back but she refused. Her and her family thought i could not impregnate. I never cheated! Never!!! On one trial with a young girl after months of being celibate, the young girl got pregnant!!! 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ademola2017: 12:09am On Nov 26, 2023 |
After coming here to share my deep concerns in 2017, i gave the marriage another chance but yielded nothing. Things went from bad to worse and we eventually separated. 8years of no kids, no peace and nothing to show for the marriage. Love is really a crime!! |
Food / Re: Disposable Paper Cups With Lids by ademola2017: 2:36pm On Oct 22, 2017 |
exquisite007: Hi exquisite007, Kindly contact LDP Cups on 08023859595. They have a paper cup factory in Lagos for different sizes of cups ranging from Ice Cream to coffee cups. Thanks 1 Like |
Autos / Re: TOYOTA CAMRY 2007 TOKUNBO FOREIGN USED AT IKORODU LAGOS 2.5m by ademola2017: 2:02pm On Sep 04, 2017 |
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Family / My Wife Double Dated Before We Got Married by ademola2017: 3:56pm On Apr 07, 2017 |
Hi Nairalanders, I am in a state of dilemma as my marriage is shaking. Before we got married, my wife treated me like a piece of shit and never gave me any regards or attention. Any little quarrel would be blown out of proportion and wouldn't talk to me for days. I did the calling always and each time I ask her why she doesn't call, she would say I should get used to it. There was a day when a baseless quarrel occurred, she accused me falsely and we didn't talk for more than two months. I stayed single and was already moving on until her friend came begging on her behalf. I wondered why she didn't come herself but all the same I accepted her back. She changed like she was doing me favor but I still persisted because I loved her genuinely. Fast forward, we got married and I was hoping for a good future with her. As usual I was very open to her and discussed every issues with her. At a point, I found out the marriage was one sided. I gave more but got little or nothing from her. I never burden her with house chores or cooking at all. We sat always to talk about her attitude but she would say things are fine while I will be grieving and having sleepless nights. She will wake up in the middle of the night to check my phone to know if i was cheating. I swear I have never cheated on my wife... She knows my password and never hid anything from her. As we went on in the marriage, her behavior became worse and couldn't condone it again. She never saw anything wrong with her attitude and would say her apologizes are expensive. I decided to do a background check on her and found out she double dated all through when we started dating and gave the guy more attention for 2years of our relationship. When things went bad between them, she fell back to me and unknown to me, I accepted her back. She and her ex were still in good communication till the night I confronted her. She would rather confide in her ex than confide in me (Now husband) Now, I feel so hurt, betrayed and used and can’t trust her again. She has been very apologetic and says she is ready to change. So if had not found out about her double ways, I will still be condoning her insolent ways. I am seriously finding it hard in my heart to forgive her. Even if I do, I can never ever forget because I do not trust her again. What will you guys advice? 47 Likes 9 Shares |
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