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Culture › Re: Need Advice From Igbo Woman by Aderoy(m): 4:13pm On Apr 28, 2009

@ Poster,

Your guy may have a good heart in trying to help but at the same time your guy has crossed the line for not letting you know about her. There's a bit of cultural inclination in his actions but it's not so much about culture in all entirety. It could be true he'd helped her out as a result of the lady's circumstance but at the same time those actions were to the detrement of his relationship (my assumption to this point is that he's been sincere). He may however be trying to "cash-in on his time investment" (sic) for babysitting her children (assuming that he's been insincere).

I am not an igbo guy but I would suggest you confide in some an igbo lady (who doesnt know your guy) to interpret the message to you. That's just on the isde anyway. I'd be keen on you offlowing the advice from Ikomi.

Wish you good luck.

Romance › Re: Girlfriend Doesnt Like Me Touching by Aderoy(m): 4:46pm On Apr 24, 2009

@ Poster,
I wonder what your grul is up to. Ask who else she'd like you to touch other than herself.

Come to hink of it. Do you "hit" or "shove" her arms while thinking you are touching huh

? Cuz I don't understand this. I understand some ladies could be so aggressive duirng their monthly "visitor". Ask her if that's case.

Romance › Re: Ladies: Could You Possibly Date Your Driver? by Aderoy(m): 4:19pm On Apr 09, 2009

i-laugh

Studies has shown that women can fok anything that moves once they are in a sexual state called freudal ignite stage - at this time, not only the driver can do, even if it was the cook, he will be adequately foked to his heart desire

@ i-laugh

I have no doubt in my mind after seeing your replies on a few threads (one of which is https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-254031.64.html) that your skull is filled with jelly-like fluid that ought to be fed to fishes. I am not the type that go aout for character assination but I am sick to my stomach to see this "i_laugh" pour out his ignorance on various threads. You have shown on numerous occasion you so closed-minded and most often idiotic with your point of view.

@ PosterI
If you love him well enough, it's possible to polish him up and upgrade his status. Mind you, my assumption is borne out of the fact that he's not up to you status. The guy in question may be far above your educational status and may resort to being a driver so as not to indulge in crime. I know this is very possible with the current unemployment situation in Naija as there are many graduates out there who do not have a white-collar job and would become a driver to earn a living,

Family › Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Aderoy(m): 2:19pm On Apr 09, 2009

omar22:
SHE'S 25 FOR CHRIST SAKE!!!!

Bro!!! the problem is YOU!!! "what you think about is what you attract into your life"!!!

Am not an expert in this field but its not rocket science to know that if you create an atmosphere of a married couple, your wives friends would accept and respect the fact that your married and they would slowly but surely drift away. Take her out, to places do things together, I know its hard to let go of her friends but in due time the role of the bestfriends swap over the day you get married to your wife or husband (if not) She should be treated like a close friend

Have you heard of the 80/20 Process!!!!

Well most men would have 80% of what they are looking for in a woman at home, but they would be so attracted to the 20% thats flashing their boobs at them on the street, Only to loose swap the 80% for 20%

My brother Sex is not an Olympic sport, its for you to enjoy each other and accept each other, but may be your looking "a Real Shownana" that would rock your world, but what next! when you get bored?

You enjoy each other and sex gets better with time, dint make the ultimate mistake DIFFERENT DOESN'T MEAN BETTER, think about it carefully!!!

@omar 22, You nailed it. Terse and straight to the point. I am sure the poster now have a pool of advice at his disposal to make his marriage work - except of course if he's the type that go out to do what has been conceived in the heart irrespective of whatever advice has been thrown his way.

Family › Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Aderoy(m): 2:12pm On Apr 09, 2009

@ Bidmondo

Abeg, u fit dash me the wife

and

@ i_laugh: please send her to me make i fok the living hell out of her darn worn out pu ssy, she go know say khaki na the same as leather - i dey wait o.

The brain is something that shouldn't b allowed to go to waste. You don't have to post thrash for the sake of it.

@ poster

My two kobo: Go back to the altar of your wife and confess thy sins grin

. COMMUNICATE bro, COMMUNICATE with THY WIFE. Why buy International call cards every so often to call that 21 year old Naija babe back home at the expense of spending quality time with thy wifee?

I am not married so my advice is totally theoretical. But from your post and every other response on this thread. I have the following:

1. You have created an image of a perfect wife in your mind (I stand to be corrected though).
2. I find that you are trying hard to paint your wife bad (albeit you have stated all the good qualities in her) in order to crucify her.
3. You have taken the wrong step having someone on the side (in the hope you'd marry her if things don't work out with your wife) - and using that as a yardstick of measure for your wife.
4. You need to reduce your contact with that Naija babe, be open-minded & let her know you are in for friendship and nothing more so that you do not keep her hope alive for something more (I hope you are man enough to do that if your reasoning hasn't been clouded with selfishness).
5. You have taken a good decision to go on a surprise holiday with your wife (something you should do very often thus creating and recreating the spark in your marriage). But be careful to know her itinerary in detail as she may have other important things lined up, if not you may have to scuttle those plans at the last minute thus bringing disapointment in place of success.

There are numerous advice to take a cue from; pay apt attention to the replies from Leilah, tpia, Tgirl4real, biina, Angolobabe, Epiphany, luxoire, Theblessed, BabyGirl_1 and Rehana2 just to mention a few.

It will be a pitty if after the valuable contribution form fellow Nairalanders you fail to take the right steps. Afterall, the final and ultmate decision lies with you.

Politics › Re: Re-branding: N’assembly Seeks Source Of Funding by Aderoy(m): 5:48pm On Mar 20, 2009

Hi Iranoladun,

ROFLMAO simply means Rolling On the Floor, Laugh My Ass Out.

@Poster, and all Nairalanders

Let's start by combating the issues raised by an anonimous messages created to batter the image of Nigeria on this website: [size=38pt]http://www.universityofnigeria.com/[/size]

Let us all join hands in repairing and salvaging what's left of an already baterred image. Provide our leaders think twice.

Politics › Re: Re-branding: N’assembly Seeks Source Of Funding by Aderoy(m): 5:10pm On Mar 19, 2009

Oya now,

Country people, re-brand this one:

[size=18pt]http://www.universityofnigeria.com/[/size]

I wept profusely when a friend drew my attention to this website.

I weep so much for my beloved bride - Nigeria. How did we allow oursleves to get here for God sake.

Still weeping cry

Travel › Re: HOTEL REVIEWS NGR & Gimmicks Abuja Hoteliers Use To Attract Lodgers by Aderoy(m): 1:16pm On Feb 13, 2009

@ Denony

it that a timber of a chewing stick?

Ah na real African chewing stick oo.

Fellow NLs, I second the opinion of a review on Hotels in Nigeria (same can be extended to other services).

Travel › Re: HOTEL REVIEWS NGR & Gimmicks Abuja Hoteliers Use To Attract Lodgers by Aderoy(m): 10:52am On Feb 13, 2009

@ JJYOU

Nigerians do seem to have a problem with customer service. It's like they dont believe in it and dont want to understand what it means.

Some Nigerian stores abroad tend to have this same issue of bad customer service. I hope most of them have improved sha. Nigerians working in non-Nigerian workplaces have to practice it however, because they can get in trouble if they dont.

why should have customer service when they have juju or prayer to attract people. some treat you like they are doing you a favour for opening the store at all.
Quote from: MrCrackles on Yesterday at 12:30:21 PM
Shouldnt toothpaste be a standard as part of a room rate?

Na wa ooo!

chewing sticks should be the standard

ROFLMBAO

Oh my God, chewing stick keh,

Na wa oo, anyway I have used that stick so many times while in Naija that it became a standard (at least for me) so it wouldnt be too bad if we re-invent our own "hospitality standard".

I only hope that the hotels create a dentistry clinic on each floor of their hotel to attend to cases of "bleeding tooth gums complaints".

Travel › Re: I Need To Travel This Year by Aderoy(m): 10:35am On Feb 13, 2009

Hey people,

Why are poeple still giving opinion here and there when the POSTER has foolishly come out in the open to inform all Nairalanders he's literarily fooling everyone around. Please read the Posters message « #102 on: February 10, 2009, 09:23 AM »

@ Poster You should understand something. You have got no right whatsoever to toy with such issues especially threatning suicide. Yea I can understand you have freedom of speech and expression but I just hope and pray fervently that that which you have conceived in your heart and uttered with your mouth don't come around to hunt you.

Like I mentioned in my earlier post I am not that a religious person but I strongly believe in th power of the tongue as I am a living witness to its efficacy. So @poster I can only suggest you do all you can to reverse that which you have said concerning yourself in the first place.

Travel › Re: I Need To Travel This Year by Aderoy(m): 12:19pm On Feb 09, 2009

@ Aysomtin

@ Aderoy,

That was an interesting and inspiring write-up, you should be a motivational speaker.

I believe anyone can suceed if you put your heart to it, no matter the location

Thanks for that. I just thought I'd encourage the guy as I could see myself mirrored in a partly similar situation.

I guess some have the opportunnity on a platter of gold while others have to shake the earth so hard to have such opportunity. In any way, I believe one has to chart his/her course in life irrespective of the situation.

Travel › Re: I Need To Travel This Year by Aderoy(m): 2:52am On Feb 09, 2009

@ Poster before I make any comment please take precious time to digest the following comments from fellow Nairanders below:

Comment by Albato

Dont worry. By the time you spend 6 months abroad, you will want to come back to Nigeria as fast as you can. One thing people fail to realise is that if you cant make it in Nigeria, its even more difficult to make it abroad. Take it from me, been there, done that

Before you travel out, take stock of what you have. If you think you will get a rosy job with a student visa, then you gotta be dreaming. Even with work permit, its not very easy. Abroad may not be like what you see in those 50 cent rap videos or in those Will Smith movies.

Far from it, they do those things in the studios. They rent the bling chains and return them kia kia after the show. Abroad is as hard as naija especially if you are alone and have a "desperate visa" that limits you from working. So take stock of what skills you have and how you will survive because travelling abroad may turn out to be the real suicide you are talking about.

Comment by Newbride

bigmodo i would firstly like to thank God for your life today. That you are alife is a blessing, Most people have posted back harsh replies to this thread which i do not agree with.

Most of us have had the chance to travel back and forth and don't know what some people go through in other parts of the world including the uk. when life is stagnant and nobody to help or turn to, it can be frustrating and one can almost commit suicide ,.

All he needs is encouragment, Bigmodo b4 i came to the uk alot of people ran away with my money with promises of getting me abroad. Today i am now a citizen, am not saying this so you think am bragging am only trying to encourage you, When the time came for me to travel i didnt give anybody money infact UK needed me. i want to encourage you today too never cease your prayers. God is not asleep , he has heard your cry and seen your tears and sooon he will answer you. I wish there was something i could do but my prayers are with you.

Secondly, i would like you to change the poverty city on your profile to land of plenty or land of blessings or something positve, cos your tongue is powerful, Most people are in poverty today cos of their tongue. Begin to prophecy blessings into your life. change your negative thoughts to positive. And i assure you before the end of this year your change will come,

Stay blessed

Pennywise' one shilling

Bigmodo, dont forget what they say about the wall gecko. It simply doesn't become a crocodile because it got to London.

Lastly,

Pepeye's two kobo

The general consensus that life is greener outside Nigeria . . dat na big lie

A loafer in 9ja will still remain a loafer outside nigeria . . bitter irony!

I know its not easy to digest this information. . but it’s the truth. .seeing is believing. .

there is no easy route anywhere

All u need do is pull ur acts together and hunt for a good paying job in Nigeria

Now my one kobo:

I so much agree with Newbride on THE POWER OF THE TONGUE. Bros, you need to learn to make things happen for yourself with one of the numerous power that lies in you - THE TONGUE. Listen bros, I feel your pain but you should learn to be positive and put your energy into making things happen for you, not just about your but every other thing in life. I will share just a bit off my experience with you, I am not a spriritual person of sort, but I could remember vividly that I always confess me studying abroad (while I was still in Secondary school) like a ruminating animal.

This came to fruition in 2005 when i gained admission for a Masters in the UK against all odds without a single naira from my parent (who are helpless anyway). Between my dreams, daily positive confession and the actual fruition, I had taken the following steps:

1. Taken private teaching jobs while doing my first degree in Nigeria.
2. Taken private teaching jobs each time on holiday
3. Invested in shares in 2001/2000 with the whole 40,000 Naira I got from the Fed Govt. Scholarship as one of the top student (no long tory) without my family/friends knowledge (except my bossom friend who was in the know)
4. Taken private teaching jobs each time I'm on holiday in Lagos or Ilorin
5. Taken extra computer course while doing NYSC in Gombe State (to boost my market value)
6. Went on series of overnight browsing in cyber cafes applying for scholarship, admission, composing "STATEMENT OF PURPOSE/INTENT" essays to various universities while others in the cafes were busy doing their "thingy", chatting, searching for maga e.t.c
7. Secured admisison in the US, UK (mostly without fee deposit), Belgium just to name a few
8. Chose the Univ that guarantee fee reduction in form of Partial scholarship to Int'l students (purposely to obtain a student visa)
9. Returned to Lagos in search of job after NYSC
10. Got a 3-month temporary job providing cover for a sick staff as a typist with a company in Victoria Island (imagine me, the best Physics graduate from my University amongst my set as a typist, but my target was consciously creating an opportunity for myself in the face of harsh reality called Nigeria). If not for anything al least I had the opportunity to read Tuesday/Thursday Guardian newspaper for job adverts, LOL.
11. Continuously trawl the length and breadth of Lagos doing Graduate aptitude tests almost every weekend. Have you heard about "gate crashing" test centres. I have done that countless times, i.e. going for aptitude tests I wasn't invited for in the first place. On most occassion, I walk trough V/I aimlessly in the hope that I'll get to meet one of those guys in smart dress with a tire to match, have a chat, got information on location, location, location (where and when most banks will be holding their test). Now I know V/I like the back of my palm, LOL.

12. Oh did I mention I even fell for an employment scam along the way while agressivley searching for a job in Lagos, paid money into some account like other thousands of job-seeking, desperate graduates (as a result of advert in a national newspaper), got to Tafawa Balewa square in Lagos to meet other thousands of graduates in the hope of attending some job seminar/recruitment exercise for a supposedly Blue-chip company which turned out to be a hoax. Sad tales all the way, the lowest point in my frustrated life - It was really a massive blow below the belt. I thought about suicide but it wasn't an option on my list of action. I saw it as a setback, a bitter pill to swallow and a painful learning curve in my life.

13 Got monthly "share statement" from my Stockbroker (purposely to include in my student visa application)
14 Ask friends to deposit cash in my account in order to run it for 3 months (then only a 3 month statement were required for visa application)
15 Sold over 90% of my shares (the remaining 10% left was on the advice of my Stockbroker)
16 Got the visa wihout paying anybody a dime.

Now the most interesting part:

17. My best friend, sold some of his shares to raise money despite him still a student at one of the Nigerian universities.
18. Got 40,000 Naira as support to my air ticket from a family, whose children I took through on JSS and SSS private tuition, I guess the son/daughter must have told the mum upon seeing my admission/partial scholarship letter from one of the universities I had applied to.

Will sumarrise my sojourn to the UK:
Admission deferred on entering the Queens land, worked menial jobs (of course not just 1), saved for 1st tuition fees installment, re-applied for another admission, commenced study while holding part-time jobs, paid fees (over 10,000 UK pounds) in full few months after completion of studies. Now the rest is history.

Bros you need to ask yourself: What are my reasons for hell-bent on intending to travel abroad; survival, "as in man must survive at all cost"? If that's your reason for wanting to travel at all cost then take a cue from Pennywise, Pepeye and the others who have given their advice.

Re-evaluate & make conscious effort to improve your situation and make yourself "employable" or "marketable", Find a way to improve yourself and when an opportunity come knocking, you are not found wanting in terms of your skills, knowledge, marketability or otherwise. If you take a cue from my situation, despite I was in "poverty" in all seriousness of the word (without any shame to admit it) I made conscious, dedicated planning to build a portfolio of skills (for further education) and made myself employable (should a job come knocking).

Bros, if it is frustration, I have been there and I know so many others have been there before you and most have scalled through. Sometimes I wonder what our parents were thinking when they were given births like chickens **_{anger and bile in the stomach}** without thinking about securing the future of their children.

In my view (it may seem bizzare), parents have got no rights whatsoever to have lucked the future of their children in perpetual poverty by giving birth to so many children without proper planning, this issue was always the bone of contention between my mum and I. While growing up I always would sit her down and ask pertinent questions on "WTF was she thinking having 5 kids (overemphasised though with the WTF)" wihtout planning on how to equip her children with quality education. The same goes for most families in Nigeria with the self-destructing belief that having many children is a sign of happiness or a measure of your wealth (sic).

Despite the odds, and whatever situation you find yourself you still have the biggest part to play in making things work for you. You need to stand on your feet, equip yourself, work hard, maintain a positive attitude, confess positive things about yourself and roar like a wounded lion going out there to assiduoudly search & grab the opportunities.

Lastly, bros I have come to realise that whatever you become in life is a reality of one's state of mind. Often than not, whatever you confess manifests.

I promised to donate just one kobo, I have suceeded in throwing in over 18 kobo, I try naa. Seriouslly, bros I know exactly how you feel right now (if this is not a trumped up play-acting).

Sports › Re: Nigeria(0) Vs Cameroon(2) On Wednesday 28th January(AYC Semifinal) by Aderoy(m): 3:16pm On Jan 28, 2009

@ Skyloo

Abeg someone help me!!! i know i'm totally off topic, can someone tell me d real meaning of Rflamao abi na imao, i often see people use it around this site. I'm yet to knw the meaning. Do Pardon my ignorance.Thanks.

i guess it means rolling on the floor laughing my as s off (roflmao)
Just like we will be doing after we win cameroun tommorow

ROFLMAO simpy mean Rolling On the Floor, Laughing My Ass Out

Hey Nairalanders, for those of you who are not in Naija like msyelf, you may watch the AYC 2009 matches free at this link: http://www.lc2international.tv/

Romance › Re: My Dilemma by Aderoy(m): 5:13pm On Jan 02, 2009

I am in a love triangle with a guy and his fiancee. I am the other woman. I didn't know this guy had a fiancee when I started seeing him and I was already involved with him when I found out. Now breaking up with him is so hard. He's not helping matters either. When I stay away, he calls me up and he's even making plans for us to get away together for a few days. I'm so torn. Why do relationship always have to bring so much turmoil? sigh

@ annamaria

My comment is based on the frugal information you have provided in your post and it is possible the guy is not any of my assumptions. I understand your dilema but you should take time to ask yourself some pertinent questions:

1. Why has this guy begun a relationship with me wihtout letting me know he has another lady on the side?
2. Why has he failed to date to let her (the other lady) know he's no more interested in her?
3. Has he explained to you why he seems to prefer you (my assumption) to her?
4. Don't you think he's unpredicatle enough to wake up one morning and go for another lady?
5. Am I happy enough to want to stick with this guy irrespecive of any material consideration or promises?
6. Am I happy enough to want to stick with this guy if his current situation changes for the worse (seein that life is unpredicatble)?
7. Do you have hatred for (or beginningto develop hatred towards) the other lady?
8. Search within and ask yourself- Do I hate her enough to want her to die so I could have him all to myself

If in the affirmative (especially to questions 7 & 8, then you are beginning to slide into a complex, nasty and unhealthy relationship.

I am not insinuating or advising anything as this is your decision. BUt I can only say the following:

1. Ask him if he genuinely loves you. (Of course he will definitely say YES even if he's lying to you)
2. Then ask him why he didn't tell you from the start he has a girlfriend already (He might tell you, Oh I was having a misunderstanding with my girlfriend when I met you and I like you more I do her bla, bla, bla).
3. Ask him to tell you what is the current state of his relationship with the other lady?
4. Tell him you are willing to part ways with him so he could be with the other lady (if that will make both of you be happy in one way or the other) even when you at a crossroad like you are right now.
5. Do not in any way arrangue him or pressurise him to part ways with the other lady for your sake. That would leave you as what I like to call "GRAB IT NOW, GRAB YOUR COPY NOW" lady (Like the Nigerian films are annoyingly advertised).
6. Along the line you might just find out that he's either worth "nothing" or "everything" to you if you ask questions and politely reason with his answers.
7. Finally do not raise your voice at him, play the cool, do your homework properly, get the facts, and make informed decision based on facts (and not what you supposedly want to hear him tell you like most ladies unfortunately resort to).

Well, what else can I say? Emm, em, I guess other Nairalanders would add a word or two to help you out. For me, this is the only 50 kobo I could throw in for now.
Regards,
Roy

Career › Re: After Your Msc Abroad: Stay Or Go? by Aderoy(m): 11:21am On Jan 02, 2009

This is a post that applies to me but I must say I'm a bit different because I came to this country in 1999.I have had my fair share of the whole stress faced with being a foreigner in the UK but I must confess that it's all paid off after having my degree from Leeds and my masters from the same university both in engineering.
While studying for my masters degree which is after a three year hiastus from the academic field from my undergraduate degree, there were 10 other Nigerians in my department all doing the same course and I must confess that only three of themdid not secure a job. In fact, I got my job last December even though I still had 10months to run my course which I ended this September.

It's quite difficult and I must say it's indeed a test of character. But you would eventually get a job if you can prove yourself at the interview. You don't need that experience because a masters degree would propel you towards a greater opportunity (more than an undergraduate degree) and I am confident even as I type this.

I have secured two graduate jobs in the past four years, the latest one offered last December where I had to leave for a different company that offered more training (though less pay). I could advise any of you if you mail me as I know one or two things these guys seem to look for and in fact, I've been the face of my workplace during this whole crises.

Though we are weathering the storm as a result of a downturn in the financial economy, but there would still be a lot of graduates being employed this year and it's all persistence like I said and you just have to trust yourself and put in the effort in the interview, basically, raise your bar as this is definitely not Nigeria. Though I've never worked in Nigeria nor ever applied for a job, but I can guarantee you that the UK provides a lot of opportunities and opens a lot of doors.

Many Thanks (and this is not an advertisement of the UK because several times, I do miss my family and I cry about coming back home but they have convinced me to stay back here).

Hope this helps.

Hi Ikeymann0O,

Bros I hail oo, Nice yarn. I feel you. Bros please contact me as I need to discuss with you. My contact: (075 309 300 27) aderoy01@yahoo.co.UK

In my case I graduated with MSc in Mobile/High Speed Telecommunication Engineering from Oxford Brookes Uni. and actually got job 5 months before I graduated. Although the job I got wasn't of prime choice (ITS Engineering - application of Telecommunication/Signalling in Transportation/Highway/Road Engineering), I had to accept the offer pending the outcome of other interviews with Major Telecoms companies. At the end of the day when those major companies turned me down I had to take the offer with this small company and have been with them since Sept 2007. Infact I emerged as the Employee of the year (2008). I should say I am the first foreign graduate, the first black and the first Nigerian employed by this company. I have been able to bring 2 other Nigerians (1 of them a graduate from my university and another a graduate from Sunderland) into the company within 7 months of joining the company. I was able to put the compnay through on how to get work permit for foreigners and they (my employer) have now registered with the Home Office to bring in foreign workers for future needs. Now we have a total of 5 foreign graduates (3 Nigerians, one Sudanese and a Chinese, who have all gotten the work permit).

Going by my experience in Naija after my NYSC without getting a job (except as a stand-in "Secretary" for a lady on sick leave) for about 3months. Imagine someone with BSc in Physics (as the best graduating student doing a job as "typist" - na experience sha). I guess one of my problem was the fact that I didn't lie on my CV then in the fear that they might do background check. I will advise anyone to do whatever they can to gain experience abroad even if it is just for 3 months before going to Naija.

Politics › Re: Only The Best Is Good Enough For Us by Aderoy(m): 12:51am On Jan 02, 2009

Orikinla:
Aderoy and others,
Thank you for your contributions.

We thank God that Nigeria does not lack the men and women to reform our beloved nation.

As we welcome the New Year 2009, let us look forward to the beginning of a new era that can be made possible by every effort each one makes to turn our mistakes into miracles of change.

Happy New Year!

P.S: Aderoy, permit me to republish your rejoinder on the news blog Nigerians Report, because I want more people to read it in Nigeria and other places. I did not read it alone.

@ Orikinla,

Yes, sure you can go ahead with publishing it on any other forum or blogs for Nigerians.
Regards,
Roy

Business › Re: Setting Up A Business In Nigeria by Aderoy(m): 11:41pm On Jan 01, 2009

Touareg V8:
Morning Aderoy,

I am also writing to you from the South West of England. Please let me have your email address so that I can send you some mouth watering information.

My website address is www.bqmconsulting.com

Hello Mr Ogunnusi (I beleive thats your name - from your company's website). Thansk for your reply. I unfortunately didn't check back since I posted my comment. My e-mail address is aderoy01@yahoo.co.uk

I could see from oyur company address that you are based in Bristol. I am based in Corsham (8 miles away from Bath). I await your reply. Thanks.

Business › Re: Setting Up A Business In Nigeria by Aderoy(m): 11:38pm On Jan 01, 2009

Morning Aderoy,

I am also writing to you from the South West of England. Please let me have your email address so that I can send you some mouth watering information.

My website address is www.bqmconsulting.com

Politics › Re: Only The Best Is Good Enough For Us by Aderoy(m): 1:54pm On Dec 29, 2008

THE WAY TO SELF-RUIN

I wake up every morning with the thoughts and prayers of the potential greatness of my beloved in my heart. The thoughts ran in my heart through the day hoping that the decadence in my beloved will be uprooted with systematic equanimity. How did I allow my beloved to get so enmeshed in the evil of national prostitution laden with evil vice that were uncommon among her founding fathers. These were the thoughts from a caring and yearning heart.

Just 3 days ago I read that Merrill Lynch ranked Nigeria as the World's Safest Economy. Although this did not come as a surprise to me given the sustained improvement in the Nigeria's fiscal management for the past 3-4 years. The statistical calculation in Merrill Lynch's results does not however take into account other factors (or economic variables as others may refer to it) such as social unrest, prevailing poverty level, infrastruture, GDP, etc. (Source 1: http://www.thedeal.com/dealscape/2008/11/nigeria_the_safest_place_to_in.php), (Source 2:. http://www.thisdayonline.com/nview.php?id=128275). I so much proud my self in the self-belief that that singular report coming from one of the world's leading financial management and advisory companies has boosted Nigeria's image positively in no smal terms. It's no small means that Nigeria's horn in financial revolution- Prof. Soludo, along with other world renowned economists and financial analysts was recently appointed to a United Nation's high-level task force reform global financial system.

"Safest Economy" declaration is a huge image laundering for Nigeria, and rightly so given the "brutal revolution" (albeit with a positive mindset and positive results) of the banking sector introduced by the CBN management headed by Prof. Chukwuemeka Soludo. We must not rest on our oars but must extend this "brutal revolution" to all sphere of the economy. Need I reiterate that the political terrain in the country still leaves a lot to be desired although with signs of improvement given the latest democratic proceedings as in the case of the new Edo State Government elect-Comrade Oshiomole. My assertion is based on realistic facts emanating from the EFCC that the management has suspended its Director of National Finance Intelligence Unit (NFIU) over "alleged" complicity in illegal transfers of millions of illegal funds from Nigeria's coffers with his full knowledge (Source 1: http://www.efccnigeria.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=475&Itemid=34), (Source 2: http://allafrica.com/stories/200811200872.html). What on earth is going on? Can't we get our acts together and do the right thing as a nation? I was ruminating so hard on this thoughts when I stumbled on a piece of article "Only The Best Is Good Enough For Us" on nairaland (Source: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-195700.0.html ) then I mumbled under my breath (Oro pesi je)?

That article touched my bone marrow to say the least and I retorted "if only we have ears and the minds of a wilful change as a people". But come to think of it what is stopping my bride to dig deep into her conscience to rejuvinate those cultural and morale values taught in the early days. The morale values of my beloved bride have gone to the dogs and we now celebrate superfluous mediocrity in the name of celebrity and overnight get-rich affluence. I am quick to say here that I am not a cynic but a realist and I am one of those to stand up and offer foreigners explanation of the true situation in Nigeria and of most Nigerians in the face of the fact that most foreigners have been fed with news that all Nigerians are "potential" (in the strongest of terms) scammers. I have had to provide non-professional explanation and advice via e-mails and phone to foreigners (mostly Europeans) after posting an article http://www.saharareporters.com/www/letters/detail/?id=349 and another comment on http://www.africanloft.com/can-the-nigerian-mobile-phone-companies-handle-the-46-million-subscribers/

I recall an ensuing discussion with a young Belgian chap after reading one of my articles on scamming and had supposedly been "hypnotised" into thinking he's got a cute Nigerian lady online he intends to marry within months. The lady by the name Stella Gibson (allegedly a "guy" wink

claims to be a Nigerian-American raised in Ashebury in North Caolina and had come to Nigeria to take care of her ill mum. I have had to ping pong e-mail and telephone conversation with the Belgian by arranging a private investigation on the identity, address and location of Stella Gibson. She (allegedly) provided the Belgian with her home address somewhere on Opebi Road Ikeja and I called for a search party of friends and family members in Lagos to verify the identity of this suspect. It will be a disservice to Jean (the Belgian) to outline results of the investigation here in this context. However the taking from these is that there a large number of Nigerians (especially young Nigerians) who engage in nefarious activities in a get-rich quick scam such that there activites tarnish the image of Nigerians at home and abroad.

The yahoo yahoo business has so much grown in the belly of my beloved country and unfortunately among teenagers - the fruit and future of her womb. I am sick to my stomach to see young boys and girls of tender age who can't even make a complete statement in their indigenous language let alone in English spending time in cyber cafes to send scam e-mails. And Oh "yahoo yahoo don pay oo" that is the sort of response you get from these confused teenagers bred by the societal norms they found themselves. If you take time to discuss with any one of them (at least i have on numerous occasion), the general belief among these young chaps is, to put it in their own words, "the are trying to get back all the money the white man has stolen from Africa" (sic). It baffles my imagination that sycophants in the name of popular musicians are now glorifying such nefarious activities in Nigeria as though its a thing of joy. Else how can one explain songs like "yahoozee" by Olu Maintain and "maga don pay" by Kelly Handsome. (Source 1:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQ1YLL9mvBU ), (Source 2:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7iJzgxoFiM )

Basking in the euphoria of my seeming success with a few of those I have advised on the issue of scam, I took a trip to Paris to meet with a friend (I wouldn't want to use the word 'client' as I do not do it for profit) to whom I have been introduced few months back and was subjected to ridicule at the UK airport on the return leg of my trip. My offense (I should have known better) is I carry a green passport. I must quickly add here that I wasn't referring to the "American Green passport" but an official Nigerian passport. I was subjected to "special guest" treatment to put it positively while other passengers walked past giving a deep thorough gaze towards me as if asking rhetorically "what have you done?" To say the least, I was filled with bile but I took the under control, asking another Immigration Officer pertinent questions as to how enjoyable she finds her job (as if I was "toasting" her in my Nigerian parlance), while her colleagues carry out thorough primary and secondary searches on my hand luggage. I played the cool as though I was in the dark as to the motive of the search.

A few days later I read through some Nigerian and International online newspapers as usual to learn of how a renowned Nigerian Pastor was subjected to outright ridicule at an airport abroad (Source: http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2008/oct/15/national-15-10-2008-003.htm). Going by the revelation I just had to rest my case that if a man of his status could be suspected a fraudster (until proven otherwise) who am I to complain of my harrowing experience in the hands of those O' level holding Immigration Officers.

Is my bride on the way to creating a healthy and wealthy nation or she is head-rolling down the hill to self ruin, I wonder. Nigeria can be and will be great, my heart resounds, but the question that beats my guts out is WHEN? We have all collectively in one way or the other seek untenable alibi as a nation in letting our beloved nation stoop so low into a state of despondency. Someone once retorted, "Starve the people of information and you'll be able to take them captive" I stand to be corrected on my next statement and unapologetically so (at least at the time of writing this article from a hurtful heart); the Nigerian system has systematically withdrew valuable information from its citizens in order to impoverish her 150 million population. Nigerians have been starved of quality education and the void has been replaced with the belief that one can only get rich by cheating the system.

Few years back, I learnt among other things the famous Karl Marx's statement that "religion is the opium of the masses". Having been born and bred in Nigeria before striving hard to top my education with a Masters studies in the UK, I began to carry out societal and cultural comparison between Nigeria and other countries. The religious clout on the psyche of Nigerians is so powerful that we all (annoyingly so) attribute our collective failures to the will of God. While engaging in a discussion with a friend recently, I mentioned that wouldn't it be good for Nigeria to assess the level of poverty vis-a-vis the population and promulgate a law to limit the number of birth per family to, say x-number of children. True to my pessimism in asking the question, I got varied answers, a lot of which has religious intonnation from both christians and muslims alike. I began to question my sanity at that moment - Do I think differently from these chaps and if in the affirmative, WHY? Why can't we look at facts and figures of the population vis-avis the poverty level and take a positive approach (although may seem radical) to stem the skyrocketing population growth, which should benefit every Nigerian in the next 20 - 50 years, for example. We are so enmeshed in our religious clout and fail to take hard-decisions as a nation to better future generations. We (both christians and muslims) are culprits in this crime - Do we continue to quote religious verses in support of "staying glued to old norms, bearing children like guinea pigs without adequate plan for those children?"

I sometimes laugh my head off when Nigerians (in our show of undeserved pride) refer to ourselves as the giant of Africa. I would gladly support the notion that we are potentially a great African nation but not the empty, undeserved and unsubstantiated claim of being the supposedly "Power House of Africa". Are we a happy nation? Yes. Do we have a military power house to be reckoned with in Africa and the world? Yes of course, we do and I pay my respect to the men and women in the Forces who put their lives on the line for the good course of stabilising other nation in Africa. Oh the Nigerian military? No, no, no, that is a monstrous national cult and a law unto itself. I will leave the Nigerian military to another article premise. I must not however fail to give a hint of some nefarious activities of the men in "kaki" uniform. Some senior army officers wilfully deduct from the salaries of junior officers right before the monthly salary payment, or is it the usual "take this money to buy plantain in the market, take it to my house to cook" statement from male senior officers to junior female soldiers in the rank and file of the Force - the Army being a major culprit.

Can someone answer a painstaking question: Is it in the Armed Forces Decree for senior officers to treat junior officers like a piece of trash? Is it in the Forces decree for a male officer to issue command (sic) to a female officer to go and cook in his house or that she should be remanded by a "red neck" (those in Nigerian military circuit will understand this term) in a guardroom for disobeying that order. My heart bleeds for a structured, institutionalised, corrupt and morally bankrupt Nigerian military. The canker of corruption has eaten deep into the fabric of the military to an extent they parade themselves as gods. For those who may be seeking for evidence of my allegation, I must state clearly that I am a son of a retired officer and was partly raised in the barracks. I have friends, some of whom have served and are still serving in the Force - both the military and the Police. Ah The Nigeria Police keh!! "That one na another case". Just a hint here on the extent of canibalism of this monstrous institution called the Nigerian Police: It is on record that NPF is the least paid Force in West Africa let alone comparing with other Forces in the whole of Africa. Again this is not surprising to me given the extent of canibalism in the Force to such an extent retiring Police Officers cannot and will never get their gratuity and pension claims unless they pay "egunje" and guess who they have to make such payments to? Colleagues in various Departments of the Police Force of course (Source 1: Close confidants whose parents have served Nigeria only to be trapped in the cabal called the Police), (Source 2: http://www.thenationonlineng.com/dynamicpage.asp?id=70001 )

"Giant of Africa we are", someone retorted in order to bring out a serial dose of venom in me. Right to his thinking I snapped - Yes we are giant of Africa when it comes to epileptic roads and electricity, non-functional education and health care system and institutionalised corruption, Giant of Africa when it comes to looting public coffers in broad day light and using same proceed to oppress the same people that elected (sorry, selected) politicians into offices. We are giant of Africa when it comes to putting perfection to silencing journalists for raising the power of their pen against the power that be. I think I should allow Sahara Reporters to put flesh on this bone (http://www.saharareporters.com). What a show of shame to be called "The Gaint of Africa".

We are, as a nation, going the way of self-ruin either as result of blatant denial of the complexity of our problem or in submission to the same religious creed we have always retorted to in the phrase "one day, one day e go better by the grace of God". Do not get me wrong, I do not in anyway suggest religion to be taken out of the equation. Far from it, the clime is we have bastardised religious belief in Nigeria to such an unprecedented scale that we now attribute everything that we ought to sort out by careful and purposeful planning to God. We seize every opportunity to add religious undertone to common sense issues we ought to sort out as any sane being. Pastors and Imams in churches and mosques have not helped matters as well. So many have led their followers to debacle of misguided religious ideologies, withdrawing vital information to set them free while feeding them with radical and obsessive religious doctrines that "keep them (the followers) coming for more" while they surfer in penury at the expense of affluent "bigmanism" lifestyle of the Pastors/Imam.

Let's take a critical long-overdue assessment the "Bride (or is it the Giant) of Africa" and let each one of us ask him/herself "Are my actions or inaction putting my beloved Nigeria on the way to self-ruin?" As my mum will always say, he who has ears let him take heed.
Roy
aderoy01@yahoo.co.uk

Business › Re: Need Partners/like-minds by Aderoy(m): 11:46am On Jun 28, 2008

Hello Nairalanders,

I have some great business ideas. I need somebody who can partner with me to make the ideas a reality. You can contact me on tundexmna123@gmail.com for more information

Hi Tundexman,

I had sent a mial toyour e-mail regarding your question, I am interested and currently based in the UK.
Cheers.

Business › Re: Setting Up A Business In Nigeria by Aderoy(m): 7:00pm On Jun 27, 2008

Hi

I am also thinking along the same line. I am currently in the Uk and have been doing what I will call "BLIND Search" for business opportunities back home. What are your interests to start with , we could possibly have a chat. my phone number is 07530930027 should u wish to have a chat. u can also e-mail me , will let you have my email later

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 2:48pm On May 04, 2008

your second pics dey tell us say i wish i get car,To God be the Glory,@my guy wey yankee,i fit swim all the way from river niger to london? I am a good swimmer and i no won waste money for plane ticket and embassy fee.I just won swim from naija to london

@ceejay80s

My Bros make make you no try that kind thing. Swim ke? For river Niger? Na Guinea you go meet yourself.

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 3:02am On May 04, 2008

The thing wey dey those police mind na the last verse of the nigerian national pledge. SO HELP ME GOD. oyinbo say nigeria is another kind of species entirely

LMAO

I imagine say one of them go say: "Chineke, if to say na like this family life be, I no go born lai lai."
The other one then replied: "Bros leave that kind yan, na 1 big love the man dey show with him faimly"

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 2:43am On May 04, 2008

@aderoy

welcome 2 nairaland d home of toro breed naija pikins,

nw that animation was tite.hw jd nw omo u dey miss much oh, gues d new news in town a derica of rice jumped frm N100 2 N170 in just a day gawd n that is what we cal big time price hikin

My bros, Jand dey OO.

1st hard lesson I learnt in Jand: Wen Oyinbo open teeth smile at you when there's no absolute cause for such an expression, just take heed coz that cheap smile is impregnated (e get belle).

2nd lesson: Nigerians are the most hardworking set of people I've ever seen _{(even on top of Oyinbo girlz them)}.

3rd lesson _{(the unspoken truth)}: Technically UK favours women, especially single mothers, to the detriment of the guys.

4th lesson: Our people back in Naija always think Jand na one kain money mecca. Dem no no say for here though u go get the money but Queen no go let you carry the money commot for her country. go pay house rent (normal, abi?), water bill, electricity, gas bill, Council tax, TV licence (u think say u go watch TV for free? for where!!!)

5th lesson: I'm still learning

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 2:18am On May 04, 2008

My bros all, I dey feel you. Wetin we go con do to make our Naija better now?

Re: "okada pic" - I think that would rank among the top 3 wallpaper ever produced anywhere in the world. Waht d'you guys think? We could run it by GLO, MTN, Celtell, Visafone, even Etisalat (hope I didn't miss any 1 out ?)

I no no say that pics full ground until I upload. Make somebodi tell me wetin dey for the mind of those two police men in the background? Abi make we use that pics start another thread for Nairaland so we get some wacky comments , "What could possibly be running throuh the minds of those policemen?"

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 11:29pm On May 03, 2008

i love that last pix. . . .see as them pack themself ontop bike . . . .chai . . .naija we 10 much . . .

My man, if you think that's tha BOMB then see this youtube shot clips. Naija full ground well-well, Infact there are things no oversea country (not even the Queensland or God's own country) can dear achieve half of what Naija boasts of.

Ceck it out: http://youtube.com/watch?v=_oqeox9C2sk&feature=related

PS: Listen carefully to backround comments (both in English and Yoruba)

Phones › Re: Which Of These Pics U Fit Take Do Wallpaper 4 Ur Phone by Aderoy(m): 10:28pm On May 03, 2008

i dey PH, hope sey EFCC no send u sha?
going to sleep now sha. . .

Cracking my ribs and LM"BLACK"AO. Man u too much jare. I no dey work for EFCC my Bros.

I dey miss Naija like crase
But I no get crates to crash the gates
'because I no be Bill Gates
Wey go flung open the gates

One Love.

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