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Omooba77:
https://saharareporters.com/2023/12/16/sometimes-we-think-there-will-be-no-more-nigeria-it-keeps-standing-rccg-overseer-pastor#google_vignette

imagine . Nigeria dey stand cos we citizens no relent . we keep trying to survive no matter what. sometimes i feel God don leave us and allowing us to suffer the consequence of our actions . But one thing is even the church no fight the right cause . Imagine telling nigerians that God would change the country with the likes of buhari , jonathan and now emilokan . chai i think pastors should really stay alway from politics and youths and nigerians at large need wake up

Even gf no dey deny sex not to talk of wife. My brother please quit because ladies are secretive. Sometimes as a man you need to be harsh and crazy . Ladies take advantage of guys who love them genuinely,buy them gift and one who keep on begging and acting as if without her ,he cannot survive. One thing is , before marriage, most girls want just money but when they get the satisfaction, they want sex I mean good sex .
Try challenge her and be a man not come here seeking advice .
You are the man !!!!!

Romanoff:
Your suspicion is based on previous trust broken and I know too well that trust once broken cannot be put together like before.

Before you keep confronting her, have evidence, calls aren't enough, the calls could be innocent and really work related.

Sha check her phone to set your mind at ease.

Una wey dey stay with unfaithful partner, the Lord is your strength o.

If you like no run . Na so my ex dey disturb say she want us back . She don see say I be mumu. Guy better move on and forget that babe please!!! Nothing special about toto abeg..

Messi1:
I broke up with this lady two years ago and forgot about her.. Since then she has never crossed my mind as anything important.

Last two weeks i saw a message popped up my WhatsApp from a new number, i replied and we started chatting. She has sent me "I miss you" and "I still love you" several times.

This girl said she wants us to get back together and her pushing me to get back to her is frustrating me.

How do I avoid this lady without hurting her?

Fedrick100:
So people still dey have sex.Omo the situation am in now, to have hard dick is difficult for me

I dey tell you. I don't even know if my dick still dey work cos problem self pass sex. Na only girl wey sabi Well well dey wake me up.

MaxInDHouse:
Thanks for the highlighted, so you're entitled to your PERSONAL opinion!

As expected lol. Enjoy

MaxInDHouse:
You need to know the difference between commitment and catching fun.
For instance a female celebrity may love using a Love Machine or gigolo to satisfy her sexual desires but do you think she can commit herself to either of the two publicly?
That's what you need to understand!
Marriage is a life time commitment and one has to be wise when choosing a life partner!

Following a doctrine without trying to know the truth yourself is rubbish. Put most of the so called JW to a test ,most of them are not happy. Some don't even know their stand just scared of what their parents or church would say . In doing that you don't put Jehovah or Jesus first. Jesus did relate more with the gentiles not those religious leaders like you claim to know all or perfect. If you perfect and your doctrine is the most acceptable then you don't need Jesus. My point anyway

MaxInDHouse:
A real JW can never find anything worth considering for husband in a none JW, that i surely know, because our first love is Jehovah (our God) followed by Jesus Christ (our Lord) followed by fellow JWs. When talking about love real JWs only love our neighbours for peace but as for consideration towards marriage, it's a no go area!

But you can have sex with them or work in a company that belongs to a non JW lol

Panda7:
what do you mean by witness??

Jw

Panda7:
there is nothing sweeter than a happy home.

Very true in getting that avoid witness.

Help2020:
She converted her husband, that's not jw marriage

Imagine the rubbish . You convert someone to your doctrine ,at the end of the day the person is not a witness. Does not make sense to you? Jw ladies are the scape goat and the foolish ones. When you love someone and put your religion above because am sure it's not God you should expect the man to leave you which I think is wise . Your guy's are out their fornicating with non jw , you are there fooling yourself because of your parents and congregation. Not wise at all!!

kamtamark:
They don't go to the hospital. They don't celebrate Christmas.. They married only members of their church, they dont do blood transfusion..

Those people I don't know how to classify them. Maybe hypocrite..when covid started they condemn the vaccine now most of they have taken the complete dose.
I use to have this argument of heaven with a jw friend. She said what do I want to do in heaven and I was like "everyone wants to go to heaven" then she said there would be a better earth that God would create bla bla bla just of recent she said they are having a communion service and I asked what for? She said remembrance of Jesus then I brought up same argument about heaven then she said some jw want to go to heaven why some don't want to. Then I was like what kind of religion is this . I don't want to call them hypocrite but ,�.
The only thing you can say about them is they are scared to marry an outsider who is not a witness because of their parents or church. That's all they have at best. Their guys who want their ladies virgin ,are out there sleeping with /impregnating non jw while pretending not to be a witness just because sister want sex after marriage. While the ladies want sex only with jw member at least to secure marriage. confused set of people �.when you marry a person you don't love because of your parents or family, you decide your fate instantly and you must live with it for the rest of your Life. You see why they have less divorce rate? They can't quit just excuses .. No religion is perfect but they claim they are so so perfect but believe me they are not .

Kirkman:
Do keep us updated as things unfold. So what do you plan to do now with regards to her?

I don move on

Chamakh93:
abeg , kindly update us , how did it go when you finally met at work

She is on leave and I will also start mine soon so we are yet to see each other face to face . Lol

Pappyxar:
So sorry for your experience, i had such experience with a witness to, we were into each other, do crazy stuff, stay together etc. but one day she told me that did i know we cant get married based on the fact that i'm not a witness, i even said if its to convert i won't mind, but Thank God i didn't make such mistake then, those people are bad than what people see and what they do in their closet is unspeakable..
when i see a witness, it's always a FWB stuff nothing serious can happen.

Luckily all witness i meet made the first move, and i'm sure she made the first move with you aswell.
live you life and focus on important things, if you like you can keep her as a FWB..

Thank you sir

vicfajeze:
u are lieying bros,witneses dont do like dat.pls and pls shut ur lid if u dont know what to say or concurt a story.why do u peopls belief in destroying another man's religious belief?may allah 4give u

I wish I was lying

cayorday89:
First try to differentiate a personality from its religion, just one person and you have generalize all witnesses behaving that way, it's the most annoying thing to do and I personally hate it when I tell you I don't do most of the things others do and next you tell me I be afa or pastor like I am not to have a mindset of my own.
And know that people can tell you "I love you" as long as you are meeting their needs for what you are needed for, the word LOVE is not for kiss, sex and marriage alone.
For your work, Oga just return and keep your communication official the way it ought to be, it's not like you betrayed her or caused harm of at all you are hurt she did hurt you and you allowed it. IRE OOOO

Sorry about how I expressed myelf. I didn't mean it that way. Her excuses have always been based on being a witness and what the consequences of her actions would be. I have always loved those who attend jw especially how they preach to people and I do give them audience but over the years I failed to understand their doctrine not until a year + while dating my EX. Now I realize my mistakes and learnt my lessons. I also want you all know I did not cause anything . I am not perfect myself and I was just trying to understand her side of the story and we share good moments together. But no matter how high one look at his or her religion, I believe it's normal to decide what is good from what is bad .
Cheers.

edoairways:
adetula148 she is your wife

Strange quote

sterlingD:
Meditate on this she said "did I not tell you that I can't marry someone who is not a witness

Like making up excuses for her action .

Help2020:
I don't need to be one before making that comment.. Bringing her religion in is totally unnecessary.

I did not bring her religion just trying to Plain and not hide the fact that I know she was a witness that's all. I didn't have to do that but I just wanted to hear people's opinion and now I learnt more about the religion that's all

Lordofalmajiri:
Lol , omo na the same mentality all of them get o, does she live around fct?

No be say I dull or something but I just wanted something different. Someone who is a bit religious and have good understanding of the bible. We were good at that but she never told me not until when I was already madly in love with her. Many think I am dragging JW here but that's not true. This is my first time dating a witness and when I got to ask people about them and checked online I realized i knew nothing about her.

Empiree:
Told you. I have been there before. My love for her faded after she had 2nd kid by someone. Now we are just friends. It is very hard man. I cried for 2 years

We had opportunity to talk today and she said she really loved me but the barrier is something she just don't know what to do. Family will hate her bla bla and pleaded for me not block her number . Then asked if I have ever been in a tight position where her actions will make her family and friends hate her.

Empiree:
Bro, I have been in your situation twice. It hurts as hell. It is not about Nigerian girls or religious sect. It is human nature. It is not her fault either. It is nature.

There is nothing you can do unless and until she naturally pulls back from the other end if it doesn't work out for her. Trust what I just said. You can't force it. As for deleting her contact, it is first step indeed but for as long as you see one another everyday especially considering the fact that you work together, your love for her will forever linger in your chest. Na you go add her number again sharp sharp, wallahi talahi

Another way to get over her is if she has first and or second child with the guy. Your love for her will die natural death.


As for people that said you should be Alpha male, it is easier said than done. You can't be Alpha male if you are not naturally built that way. Truly, some men can easily do away with women in a blink. This is because they are naturally built that way. Don't quit your job because of this especially if you have none to fall back on. But at the same time if you have alternative, quit and move elsewhere because you may never get her off your chest. I feel sorry for you bro. I have been there done that.

It is a very long healing process. Don't mind ghost comments here acting like they get over women easily. Na lie. If you get to know them personally, they are professional simp. My only advice for you is you just gonna have to try all your possible best to see her as a coworker and nothing more.

Good luck, bro.

Thanks and you said it all. I blocked her number already and I have unblocked several times because I will still have to face her everyday . You imagine how hard this would be .

diridiri:
Jehovah's Witness people are not supposed to be "equally yoked with unbelievers" so they avoid unnecessary mingling with non witnesses.
The marriage thing is really common. Maybe she loved you and she was pressured by her parents to find another Witness.

You are right here . The love is there and also the fear. She is scared on how to confront her parents and how they would hate her for her decisions.

Justice4Toto:
Become a Jehova witness . It's as simple as that

Just like that ?

jimmychang:
...I was once a witness no girl is different...

Why did you change ?

Help2020:
You got hurt by a girl and you now had to bring in religion. What role exactly did the religion played in this? And you said this is your first time with her and you concluded with why are Jehovah's witness like this.. How many have you dated dude? Well,you have not told us your ulterior motives.

Are you a witness?

Hartugrin27:
I feel your pain..
I know it wasn't easy to move on buh trust me, he will get over it..
First step: u have done that
Second step: look for a frnd(lady) to always gist with and make it lively..don't be too bored cos u might still b thinking of her..
3rdly: act like u don't know her at your place of working..just grit her with a smile n go to ya department..
Lastly, I know she has already know your weaking point cos she'll always try to make u jealous at your working place, like playing with other guys, calling, smiling or do some rubbish to c u sad or jealous buh bruh, act like an actor..never c that like a barrier..just kip smiling weneva she does that...buh pls, the best way to get over it at your work is always to get your busy duin something..maybe gisting with frnds, chatting, playing games, reading novels, hangout with frnds who has sense n gud instinct...

Thank you so much . I will do just that.

Judybash93:
Firstly, don't quit your job ma niggi. Let that money flow in.
Secondly, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to become a better version of yourself. Don't let her feel like she has power over you. Work out, eat right, sleep well, delete everything that reminds you of anything that has to do with her. Hang out with your friends, do the things you love, life is too short to worry about a hole. If she tries to make a comeback, tell her to go f herself in the butthole. It's not worth it. Do this and save yourself from stress!!

Thank you so much for the advice . I will do as you say . Funny enough I don't have lot of friends and I also failed to give other ladies good attention. But I already let go but with time I will forget her .

Nyascobar1414:
How do you lust(not love) over a female like this?

Oga love yourself first, set standards for yourself mbok...

She defecate,Urinate, even menstruate and the blood stinks...
Yet, konji has covered your eyes not to see beyond lust.

Your problem is beyond your own Imagination.

How sir?

Mhykel217:
SIMP!!!

Untop jehova witness for that matter....wetin do cele

Na me be that oo ����

Nonexisting:
You are a simp and a fool too, bad combo. I have no further comment.

Exactly who I am .